Thursday, April 8, 2021

Moving to Palm Springs, Tony and I Moved...Again!! Ryan Field Books

Moving to Palm Springs, Tony and I Moved...Again!!



Early last November I posted here on the website that Tony and I had moved. We'd sold our wonderful home of 18 years in New Hope and it turned out to be a nightmare. I get into a long explanation there, at this link

With that said, I wanted to do a more positive follow-up post to show where things are now, 5 months later. Don't get me wrong. I still wish we hadn't sold our home. I still miss it every day, and I probably always will. I sometimes wake up and think about strange people living in my home. It's such a shame because Tony and I were friendly with the former owners of the house until the day they died. They were the people who built the house in 1971, and they lived there until they were in their 90s. We loved them dearly...Mary Liz and Eddie. Sadly, we have no connection to the new people who live there now, and we never will. Under the circumstances, it just wasn't possible. But we've had a "Happy For Now" (HFN) ending, as they say in the romance genre, and we are both very grateful for that. No complaints. In real life, you don't always get that. 

When we knew we wouldn't be able to back out of the deal with our home in New Hope, and we were certain we would be forced to sell our home, we scrambled for a place to live. We were lucky enough to find a townhouse in Lambertville, NJ, which is literally one mile from New Hope, and about 3 miles from our former home. And it was nice. It was not bad at all. But we knew it wasn't right for us. So after dealing with a realtor, we didn't like, I called up my old friend who is a realtor and she listed the townhome for sale. I broke my own rule about working with friends this time, and it truly was a pleasure to work with her. I knew she had my back this time. We did that right after Christmas and within weeks we had a buyer.  

And that's really all there is to that story. We only lived here for 5 months and there's not much more to tell. It wasn't a bad five months, but we both knew it just wasn't the right place to land, especially after selling such a wonderful place in New Hope. 

So we are moving again and we are heading out to Palm Springs, California full time. There's a POD on its way out already and we take off for a cross country road trip early tomorrow morning. And it's not going to be that strange. We know the road trip well, and we know the drill. If it's Sunday, it must be Albuquerque. A lot of people from New Hope move to that area. We once owned a small condo in Palm Springs for a few years and we used to go out there all the time. And we love everything about Palm Springs and the desert. Desert living is fantastic and it's very LGBTQ friendly. 

So that's it for now. If you follow me on social media I'll be posting new photos and videos all the time, but from Palm Springs now instead of New Hope. And I did write that memoir I spoke about in the post I linked to above. It's 127K words and I'm going to shop it around to agents. I also have a new romance novel ready to be published. So work will be the main focus once we get settled in PS. 



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Uncertainty by [Field, Ryan]

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Wed: The Myanmar Crisis and LGBTQ People, Ryan Field Books

 Wed: The Myanmar Crisis and LGBTQ People

I feel so strongly about supporting all LGBTQ people across the globe that I try to keep up to date with what's happening everywhere. It's not always easy to do because our mainstream media in the US is usually so slanted and so untrustworthy I don't see half of what's happening. Thankfully, we have the Internet to offset the crooked media. 

In short, there's been some serious unrest in Myanmar and here's how it's affecting LGBTQ people. 

 

Information is scarce about how many LGBTIQ people have been arrested across Myanmar since the coup started and how many are detained. Based on information from LGBTIQ advocates in Myanmar, one member of the community participating in the CDM was shot and killed on March 3 in Mawlamyine city.


Here's more. 


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Uncertainty by [Field, Ryan]

What readers said about "Altered Parts"
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Wednesday, April 7, 2021

Tues: The Best Streaming Penises, Ryan Field Books

 Tues: The Best Streaming Penises

I stumbled across this article about male full-frontal nudity and I couldn't pass up the chance to link. You don't see many of them around.

It's a list of streaming TV shows and movies. 

This 1997 flick about a dishwasher turned porn star features an impressive 13-inch prosthetic latched onto Mark Wahlberg’s own goods. Of course, being that it is not Wahlberg’s actual penis, including it on this list is debatable. But it looks pretty real. Yell at me in the comments if you want.

Here's more. I also believe these articles are actually a good idea for people who find male full-frontal nudity offensive. Now they know what not to watch. It's all very clear. And that's really a public service. 


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Uncertainty by [Field, Ryan]

What readers said about "Altered Parts"
"Best Gay Novel In Years. This story will stay with you and you will feel you know every character and the beauty of their home in the mountains of North Carolina."

Altered Parts


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Ellen Stunned Straight People With All Gay Cartoon Characters, Ryan Field Books

Mon... Ellen Stunned Straight People With All Gay Cartoon Characters

This is all news to me. I can't elaborate on any of it either.

“First, there’s Peppermint Patty,” Ellen said. “Let’s look at the evidence here. She wears Birkenstocks. Her name is Patty. Her best friend calls her Sir, which is short for Sir-iously gay.”

Here's the rest. Of course, this is tongue in cheek. No one ever mentions Mary Poppins as being gay. And there's a good chance she was a lesbian. The author of  Mary Poppins, PL Travers, was a lesbian.

 Don't Be Afraid of Virginia's Woolf


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"A wonderful story that I loved. The characters were well developed, and strong. Gus: A sweet young man. Doing something for all the wrong reasons. Craig: his boyfriend, he'll go along with anything Gus say. Henry: Gus father a no nonsense man, who's husband died last year. I enjoyed this story."

Uncertainty by [Field, Ryan]

What readers said about "Altered Parts"
"Best Gay Novel In Years. This story will stay with you and you will feel you know every character and the beauty of their home in the mountains of North Carolina."

Altered Parts


Altered Parts by [Field, Ryan]

Tuesday, April 6, 2021

Sun. State Parks and Public Restrooms 24 Place Where Gay Men Cruised, Ryan Field Books

State Parks and Public Restrooms 24 Places Where Gay Men Cruised

I don't have a problem talking about this. Unlike straight people (and some gay people) I don't see any point in white-washing the past when Gay men cruised each other. In many cases, they still do. There's a reason for this and I defy anyone to judge me or any other gay man. And we shouldn't be apologizing for it either. For one thing, we didn't get a normal puberty and we didn't get prom dates like straights. We had to figure out how to meet one another on the down-low. 

I could go on and on about this, but I'll just link to this article that talks about what it was like for gay men to meet and hook up before there were actually hook-up apps. 

City parks were once the cruising grounds for gay men. In New York in the 1970s, public parks where places where you could not only find a hot guy but bang him in the bushes too. 

Here's more. There are a few in there I didn't know about...like barbershops. I never cruised a barbershop. 


 Don't Be Afraid of Virginia's Woolf


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 Once Upon a Castle by Ryan Field





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"A wonderful story that I loved. The characters were well developed, and strong. Gus: A sweet young man. Doing something for all the wrong reasons. Craig: his boyfriend, he'll go along with anything Gus say. Henry: Gus father a no nonsense man, who's husband died last year. I enjoyed this story."

Uncertainty by [Field, Ryan]

 "Best Gay Novel In Years. This story will stay with you and you will feel you know every character and the beauty of their home in the mountains of North Carolina."

Monday, April 5, 2021

Sat. Virginia Bans Gay and Trans Panic Defense, Ryan Field Books

Sat. Virginia Bans Gay and Trans Panic Defense

For those of you who never heard of gay and trans panic defense, it means that if someone with straight privilege is charged with a crime against a gay or trans person, they can claim temporary insanity because of same-sex sexual advances. In other words, if you're a gay guy and you make a pass at a straight guy he can literally beat you to death because he can say he was so traumatized by what you did. In the past, anything gay-related has always been considered offensive. It's a defense that has been used over and over in the past. 

And this just happened in Virginia...

Virginia is now the 12th state to ban the defense, which can allow people charged with the killing of LGBTQ people to receive a lesser sentence by "placing the blame for homicide on a victim's actual or perceived sexual orientation or gender identity," according to the Williams Institute, UCLA Law's LGBTQ think tank.

Here's more. We're still getting there, slowly but surely. 


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"A wonderful story that I loved. The characters were well developed, and strong. Gus: A sweet young man. Doing something for all the wrong reasons. Craig: his boyfriend, he'll go along with anything Gus say. Henry: Gus father a no nonsense man, who's husband died last year. I enjoyed this story."

Uncertainty by [Field, Ryan]

 "Best Gay Novel In Years. This story will stay with you and you will feel you know every character and the beauty of their home in the mountains of North Carolina."

Fri. Keep the Penis In the Picture HBO and Male Full Frontal Nudity, Can Gay Bottoms Self-Lubricate? Ryan Field Books

 Fri. Keep the Penis In the Picture HBO and Male Full Frontal Nudity

Here's another story about male full frontal nudity in films. This one is focused on HBO's history with regard to showing penis in films. 

From "Real Sex" to "Game of Thrones," a look back at the junk-filled journey to that controversial "Euphoria" locker room scene.

Here's more. They mention something interesting that I never noticed before. There is yet another double standard, and it's true. Male nudity is often used for comedic effects. Female nudity is rarely ever used as a joke...at least in straight mainstream movies. This one is worth reading. 

Can Gay Bottoms Self-Lubricate? 

I think gay bottoms can self-lubricate. I've seen it happen and I've written about it in books with sex scenes. 

A quick Google search reveals this is something of an unconfirmed phenomena. Many online sources like Reddit, Go Ask AliceData Lounge, and Girls Ask Guys all contain genuine queries from men and women saying that they or their partners’ can anally self-lubricate. 

Here's the rest. I'm telling you that it can, and does, happen. Some gay men can self-lubricate. 


 Don't Be Afraid of Virginia's Woolf


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 Once Upon a Castle by Ryan Field





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"A wonderful story that I loved. The characters were well developed, and strong. Gus: A sweet young man. Doing something for all the wrong reasons. Craig: his boyfriend, he'll go along with anything Gus say. Henry: Gus father a no nonsense man, who's husband died last year. I enjoyed this story."

Uncertainty by [Field, Ryan]

 "Best Gay Novel In Years. This story will stay with you and you will feel you know every character and the beauty of their home in the mountains of North Carolina."