Tuesday, May 31, 2016

Gay Walt Whitman No One Mentions; Nearly Naked Ben Ryan; Bad Gay Tops In Bed

Gay Walt Whitman

Yesterday I saw Walt Whitman trending on Twitter so I checked it out and discovered it would have been his birthday. I rarely follow things like that closely...I can't even remember my own birthday half the time...but I thought it was interesting that so many years later no one on Twitter mentioned Whitman's ties to the gay community. I'm not even sure why that is. Are they afraid to say it? Or they just don't know?

In any event, here's a good article I found about Whitman and his longtime partner, Peter Doyle.

In fact, though, it can be argued that Whitman wouldn’t have risen to his lofty stature if Doyle hadn’t become his muse. Doyle inspired some of his partner’s best-known works and also caused the tone of Whitman’s poetry to become more optimistic.

You can read more here, and there's a photo of Whitman with Doyle. I think we really need to talk about these things a lot more, and talk about Nick Jonas a lot less.

Here's another excerpt:

In the correspondence, the men often spoke of their love for each other. In one letter, Whitman told Doyle, “I think of you very often. My love for you is indestructible,” and in another he wrote, “I don’t know what I should do if I hadn’t you to think of & look forward to.”

Nearly Naked Ben Ryan

Ben Ryan is an AIDS activist and he goes about it in a slightly different way. 
“For the last 15 years,” Ben said, “I’ve written about the HIV epidemic as a reporter.” He currently covers science as editor-at-large for POZ Magazine, and getting his facts straight is incredibly important to him — especially when every detail of each new HIV or PrEP study is parsed and debated online. “The way I make sure my back is covered is I fact check like crazy,” he said. “Even one word can change the meaning of something. If I do get something wrong, I’m really upset. I’m a perfectionist.”

You can check the rest out here, where they go into detail about his fundraising and Broadway Bares. I haven't read any of his articles about HIV or PrEP, but I am going to make a point of doing that now.

Bad Gay Tops In Bed

Here's an article that discusses eleven possible reasons why a gay top man in bed might not be that great at what he's doing. It is kind of speculative, though. I think every man has a different approach.

4. The top asks when and where he may cum.
If a top’s penis is ready to climax, allow the penis to climax.  The greatest part of sex is natural chemistry. If a top and bottom are enjoying a sexual experience without commands or instructions, then the grand finale should be as natural as long as the bottom is not poked in the eye by the top’s semen.

They're all interesting...and I could probably add a few more. I often get into these things in my books with characters. But once again, a lot of this is a matter of preference and chemistry.

You can check it out here


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Monday, May 30, 2016

Nick Jonas On Gay Sex Scenes; Straight Dude Goes Gay; Amber Heard On Johnny Depp

Nick Jonas On Gay Sex Scenes

Here's another story about Nick Jonas, and now it's about his take on gay sex scenes. I guess because everyone has to talk about that...the gay sex part. I'm so tired of it.

As far as we know, Jonas is straight, but he plays gay...and according to this article many have said he panders to the gay community.

“On Kingdom I have a sex scene with a guy. Is it always this thing have I, has Nick? No. But it’s my lips, it’s my hands, it’s my body, even if I’m playing a character. So technically I have done that, so I wouldn’t say I haven’t, because that would be lying.”

There's more here.  

I have no comment. And I think that's thanks to Colton Haynes coming out so brilliantly. He gave us all hope for something better and probably doesn't even know it.

Straight Dude Goes Gay

This one really doesn't make much sense to me, because I knew...like millions of other gay men knew...I was gay at a very young age. That has nothing to do with accepting the fact that I was gay. That took years. But I knew because the attraction was always there. 

And this kind of makes me wonder...

A straight man named “Mike” says he walked in on his gay roommate “Alex” making out with another dude and felt a funny sensation.

“I thought I was going to throw up,” he confesses in a recently-deleted Reddit thread. “I felt bad for being as disgusted as I was, since there’s no good reason for me to have a reaction like that.”

From there he goes on to become gay.

You can read the rest here. Most of the comments seem to agree with me. However, it is a nice straight guy fantasy story. You know, the same old "gay for you" trope that's getting a little tired, too.

Amber Heard On Johnny Depp

I have to admit that I don't think anything has shocked me as much as when I saw so many people...many who are women...supporting Johnny Depp in spite of the allegations of domestic abuse by Amber Heard. They literally ran to Depp's defense on Twitter even before Amber Heard got her story out there.

And now she's speaking up.

Bisexual actress Amber Heard is denying that she has made up allegations of domestic violence against estranged husband Johnny Depp in order to get a big divorce pay day.

Heard, who met Depp when they filmed The Rum Diaries together, was granted a restraining order last week.

Heard has a bruised eye in a photo accompanying the restraining order and claims Depp smashed his phone into her face during an attack that took place on 21 May, according to TMZ.

You can read more here. The way people ran to Depp's defense reminded me of what happened with Bill Cosby and Woody Allen when news about them first broke. I just think it's an odd thing to do without hearing all the facts, especially when it comes to something as serious as domestic abuse.



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Sunday, May 29, 2016

Confessions From Men With HIV; Underground Gay Night Clubs; John Hamm's Big Penis

Confessions From Men With HIV

Here is a series of memes where men who are living with HIV talk candidly.

And the future is bright! Having HIV doesn’t mean what it once did — detecting the virus early and starting the right course of meds means a full, happy and healthy life is very much within reach. In many ways, knowing you’re positive and taking the proper course of action is safer than not knowing your status at all.

At one time I would have been totally put off by the expression in this article, "and the future is bright..." Because while yes, the future is bright, there are still a lot of issues that are never addressed in gay presses honestly. I know people living with HIV and they do, indeed, have perfectly normal lives for the most part. However, you have to get blood work every three months, you have to live with possible side effects of HIV meds (and there are side effects), and then you have to make sure you take the drugs daily. There are money concerns (the drugs aren't cheap...thousands of dollars), health insurance issues, and it just continues. 

However, I'm not put off anymore when I read things like this. I realize now there are a lot of people writing at gay presses who just don't know any better. And, most of all, HIV is not a death sentence anymore. It's a manageable disease and I believe in a positive approach.

You can read what these men say here. I think the one that hits me the hardest talks about the stigma that's still attached to HIV. That stigma needs to go away.

You'll want to read the comments with this one. I'm not sure how true they are, but one comment makes allegations about the validity of the quotes. I honestly don't know. 

Underground Gay Night Clubs

I have to admit that I love underground gay clubs of any kind. There's something about the gay connection and being a gay man that's hard to describe. And I think I assimilate about as good as anyone else out there these days. But sometimes you need to be with other gay men just like you. 

This one is about a circuit party in Germany.

Revolver is one of Berlin's biggest monthly circuit parties, showcasing an impressive lineup of DJs, go-go boys and performers from the international gay underground scene. Since its launch just a few years ago, Revolver has quickly become one of the most popular underground parties in all of Germany, and has expanded to other cities as well, including Cologne and Mannheim.

You can check out the photos here. I think it's safe to say that this one is mostly about the "G" in LGBT.

John Hamm's Big Penis

Here's an Esquire article about comedian Catie Lazarus and an interview with John Hamm.

To be fair, guest Jon Hamm started it. After he made an awkward dick joke, Lazarus expertly tried to steer the ship back to how Hamm feels about being valued for his good looks. When Hamm answered, "There is so no way to answer this without coming across like a giant dick," Lazarus, without missing a beat, said, "Yeah, that too," in reference to the constant chatter about Hamm's giant wang. His reaction is priceless:

You can watch the video here. Aside from the fact that I think John Hamm is about the best looking man on the planet, I don't think you should miss this.


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Saturday, May 28, 2016

Guy Masturbating With Eggplant; Big Time Scruff Fails; Penis Size and the Ancient Greeks

Guy Masturbating With Eggplant

This article sort of speaks for itself. And I really don't want to go into detail. I also don't like eggplant very much.

It all began very innocently in the story of how a man was caught masturbating with an eggplant up his butt.
There was a bunch of travelers on a long road trip in Thailand, with everyone either deeply asleep or engrossed in a book or their phones.

You can read all about it, here, and there's a video. It's hard to believe anyone would do this in public.

Big Time Scruff Fails

Here are examples of what you don't want to do on Scruff...Scruff is a hook up app.

Of course, once you’ve located a potential candidate, you want to make sure you say the right thing so as not to scare them off. One bad joke or off-color comment can totally kill the deal.

I think it's interesting because remaining cautious in what you write anywhere online doesn't only apply to hook up apps. I find myself constantly watching everything I write in DMs to people just so they don't get the wrong impression. It's tricky nowadays, and you can't take anything for granted. There are a lot of people who take everything so literally. And so many people were born without a sense of humor.

Here's the rest.

Penis Size and the Ancient Greeks

If you've ever wondered why Greek statues tend to have small penises, this might explain it.

 “Greeks associated small and non-erect penises with moderation, which was one of the key virtues that formed their view of ideal masculinity,” explains classics professor Andrew Lear, who has taught at Harvard, Columbia and NYU and runs tours focused on gay history. “There is the contrast between the small, non-erect penises of ideal men (heroes, gods, nude athletes etc) and the over-size, erect penises of Satyrs (mythic half-goat-men, who are drunkards and wildly lustful) and various non-ideal men. Decrepit, elderly men, for instance, often have large penises.”

There's more here. There are comments. Now I know why I've always preferred the Satyrs.


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Friday, May 27, 2016

Nick Denton, Peter Thiel, Gawker, and Hulk Hogan; Gay Guys and Straight Guy Arm Pits; Girls In Gay Bars

Nick Denton, Peter Thiel, Gawker, and Hulk Hogan

There was a new twist to the Hulk Hogan/Gawker lawsuit that I posted about last month. Peter Thiel, billionaire and paypal co-founder, has been funding Hogan's lawyers behind the scenes...and for alleged reasons that date back.  I'm not getting into the legalities, allegations, or the opinions here. But I am linking.

Denton wants this to happen:

I’m going to suggest an alternative approach. The best regulation for speech, in a free society, is more speech. We each claim to respect independent journalism, and liberty. We each have criticisms of the other’s methods and objectives. Now you have revealed yourself, let us have an open and public debate. The court cases will proceed as long as you fund them. And I am sure the war of headlines will continue. But, even if we put down weapons just for a brief truce, let us have a more constructive exchange.

This one really gets into a lot of issues, including free speech and outing. You can read more about it all here.

Once again, with free speech there are always consequences...and opinions.

Someone in the comments said this...

Freedom of the press does not give the press license to cross boundaries involving private behavior. The same principle is at stake when women complain about the posting of nude selfies that were stolen from their cell phones.

I've posted my thoughts a few times on Gawker stories over the years. 

Gay Guys and Straight Guy Arm Pits

I doubt it's a secret to anyone that gay men love arm pits, and this only makes things a little more intense.

Someone posted this on reddit...

“I want to bury my face in a straight guy’s armpit,” the man confesses. “I want to worship a part of his body that he’s been trained to think of as dirty or undesirable. I want to inhale his scent and make him feel pleasure in a way he’s never thought about before.”

And then straight men responded to it in various ways.

You can check that out here.

I actually believe this is part of gay culture...a small part, but it's still there.

Girls In Gay Bars

Here's more about the topic of girls going to gay bars...and how they behave there.

This week’s entry from Johnny Sibilly (which, OK, is also technically not a meme but if you can’t tell, we’re going to be very loose with that definition) falls in the “funny because it’s true” camp.

Look, we love that queer spaces are inclusive spaces, and we would never, ever tell someone they can’t or shouldn’t enjoy a night out at a fabulous gay venue. But that doesn’t mean we aren’t going to raise our eyebrows any less when we bump into this kind of behavior head-on in the wild.

You can check that out here, where there is a video that parodies how some of these women act in a gay bar. And I use parody loosely because I have seen this before in gay bars.

The comments get even more honest...and a little bit mean.

Then again, not all women do behave this way in gay bars...I have seen that before, too.


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Thursday, May 26, 2016

Simon Cowell and Gay Acts; Gay Sex Causes Earthquakes; Why Men Send Dick Pics

Simon Cowell and Gay Acts

The main reason why I stopped watching American Idol here in the US long before the final season was because I kept getting annoyed at the constant "gay" jokes that went on between Simon Cowell and Ryan Seacrest...always initiated by Cowell. It's not that I don't have a sense of humor, but I just got tired of Cowell making those snide gay remarks...remarks he would never have made about any other minority. Maybe I was being too sensitive, however, this article I'm linking to now makes me wonder.

It's an interview with Britain's Got Talent's, Danny Beard about his thoughts on Simon Cowell and gay performers/acts.

Simon buzzed Yanis Marshall, the gay dancer in heels, in the final two years ago. He’s buzzed other drag and cabaret performers before. Do you think he has a problem with gay acts?
I don’t think he has a problem, I just don’t think he gets it. It’s not his world. When I first came out and did Rocky Horror, a lot of the comments were about my voice. As it was a musical, he could get it. It fit somewhere in his mind. Because I didn’t do a musical, he just didn’t understand it. After the night was over, he came up to me as said, “I’m really sorry, I just really wanted you to do a musical”. Because it wasn’t a musical, he just didn’t get it. I don’t think he’s got a problem. With his power, and position, I don’t think he could have a problem like that in public.
Here's the rest of the interview. But I actually think Beard nails it with the comment above. Most straight people just don't get it. But if you don't get it, you do, indeed, have a problem. Actually, it's called homophobia.

Gay Sex Causes Earthquakes

Here's one you have to read a few times to figure out.

A Muslim cleric has defended the rising attacks on LGBTI people as it ’causes earthquakes’.
Mallam Abass Mahmud, a prominent religious figure in Ghana, made the claim after reports of gay people being assaulted or even killed in the capital Accra and surrounding areas.
In an interview with News Ghana, he said: ‘Allah gets annoyed when males engage in sexual encounter and such disgusting encounter causes earthquake.
‘Should we allow such a shame to continue in our communities against our holy teachings?

You can check that out here

Why Men Send Dick Pics

This is enlightening, especially if you've ever done dating apps...or even Twitter for that matter. In short, it's why men send dick pics.

‘In the gay world, a dick pic is the equivalent of small talk, especially on any sort of sex app,’ Tanner, a 32-year-old in marketing, said. ‘There’s usually a hello, a few back-and-forths before showing your dick is the expected next step. At this point, dick pics aren’t exciting anymore. I don’t even try to take good ones myself because it just doesn’t matter — they’re more of a sign you’re breathing than any real barometer of whether a dude will have sex with you.
For Ryan, a 27-year-old cook, dick pics are the ‘ultimate sign of confidence’.

You read this one here. I honestly don't know how accurate this is.


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Hot Men Distract Hillary Clinton; Give Captain America A Boyfriend; Rapper The Game's Big Penis

Hot Men Distract Hillary Clinton

This is amusing...in that cheesy old time wink and slap your knee sort of way. Actually, the title alone is both distracting and ironic enough to make anyone smile.

At a campaign rally in Buena Park, California earlier today, Hillary Clinton got a little, ahem, hot and bothered when two young gentlemen unexpectedly took off their shirts for her. One of them had a giant “H” scribbled across his chest.

You can read the whole thing here.

I have no comment, but you really should read the comments with this one. They're even more amusing...but in that new time snarky internet way.

Give Captain America A Boyfriend

When I saw this trending on Twitter the other day I tweeted something...something I can't even remember now. But I think the point is how Twitter is always the first in social media to hit on something like this.

A new campaign to make Captain America gay in Marvel’s billion dollar super hero film franchise has picked up steam since the hashtag #GiveCaptainAmericaABoyfriend caught like wildfire across the Twitterverse.

You can read the rest here.

Rapper The Game's Big Penis

Here's something that dates back a little, but I think it's interesting how social media has promoted this sort of thing. It's everywhere. Yesterday I stopped somewhere during a short road trip and I saw a girl and her boyfriend riding around a parking lot aimlessly while she took selfies with her big head and purple hair sticking out of a sun roof.

This is basically the same thing...getting attention through social media.

West Coast rapper the Game has a dating show whose first season wrapped earlier this month, a new album out, and a whole lotta dick. Yesterday, he showed it behind the skimpiest of shorts on his Instagram...

You can read more about this here. I only posted it as another example of how social media has impacted all of us with things like this. 



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Tuesday, May 24, 2016

A Penis Grows Longer With Practice; Game of Thrones' Penises; Woman, Gay Club, and Sexism

A Penis Grows Longer With Practice

I'm not sure what to make out of this one, but it's interesting anyway.

In a study published by journal Evolution and conducted by scientists at the University of Exeter, it was found that the male burying beetle will lengthen the size of its penis through above-average mating over the course of a few generations. The female burying beetle, on the other hand, grows claws in its reproductive organs. 

You can check that out here. They do mention there's no proof this works with humans.

Game of Thrones' Penises

Here's an article that talks about Game of Thrones and penises, which is really a novelty in anything mainstream when you think about it.

If you wanted more penises on Game of Thrones, Sunday night's episode gave you a penis alright, with a jarring close-up of a Braavosi actor examining his afflicted genitals — warts and all. Across the internet, the move was celebrated as an end to the show's usual dick-shy ways: "Game of Thrones finally showed a penis," wrote The Telegraph. The series "finally showed its first penis," wrote Marie Claire. "It's about damn time," said Stephen Colbert.

The entire piece is here, in full

Woman, Gay Club, and Sexism

A young woman named Hannah Riley was denied entry to two gay bars, and now she's claiming it was sexism. But you really do have to read all of this one to get the point.

Here's one part of the story:

“We were about halfway to the front,” Riley, a lesbian, tells Buzzfeed in an interview, “and one of the security staff–a woman–said to me, ‘Er, ladies, have you got membership cards?’ And we said, ‘No.’ And she replied, ‘Well, you girls can’t come in then.’

Here's another part of the story:

So Riley and her friends went to another gay club called Heaven. When they got there, she says they faced a similar dilemma. As they approached the female security guard, Riley recalls, “she asked if we had membership cards and we said, ‘No we don’t,’ and she said, ‘Right, you can’t come in.’”

And this...

She continues: “I think the LGBT scene is just for gay men. It’s sad that women are put off going to gay bars. Why put yourself through queuing up if there’s a strong chance you’re not going to get in?”

 You can read the rest here. The comments are a brutal. But I have to say that I live in a town...New Hope, PA...where there have always been gay clubs and gay culture and I have never once seen a woman discriminated against. In fact, I've seen a lot of women frequent the gay bars here...both gay and straight women. It's just normal. I've never seen sexism here. That's my personal, first hand experience. 



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Monday, May 23, 2016

A Fan Tried To Bait Colton Haynes Out of the Closet; Conservative States and Gay Films; Madonna's Prince Tribute and Twitter Shade

A Fan Tried To Bait Colton Haynes Out of the Closet

This is disturbing to me because even though I advocate everyone coming out, I don't believe anyone should ever be forced to come out...or baited. I think it's up to the individual and no one should push them or bait them into coming out.

Evidently, someone tried to bait Stephen Amell (one of Haynes' co-stars) into getting Colton Haynes to come out. Here's what Amell says...

“A fan three or four months ago at a Comic-Con convention basically tried to bait me into outing him.
“I got in touch with [Colton] and was like, ‘Hey, man, this happened [and] I didn’t know what to say. I simply deflected and we moved on.’
“He emailed me back and said, ‘You know, I really appreciate that and I’ve recently made some decisions over the past few months and I’m excited about what’s in the future.’”

You can read more here.

Again, I'm not fond of anyone forcing anyone to come out. It's just too personal. And I'm glad it seems as though Haynes came out in his own way, and in his own time. And I would so love to have someone's "fan" pull something like that on me. It would be the last time they did it.

Conservative States and Gay Films

This is kind of interesting.

According to a recent PornHub survey, in states like Mississippi and North Carolina — both of which recently enacted antigay legislature — rates of porn consumption are curiously high, especially same-sex content. Of the top five gay porn-consuming states in the country, three are in the South, an area not particularly known for its sweeping LGBTQ inclusiveness.

You can check that out here

No comment.

Madonna's Prince Tribute and Twitter Shade

I don't know anything about this one. I didn't even see it on Twitter.

The shade was real on Twitter last night as Madonna attempted to pay tribute to Prince during the Billboard Music Awards.

Evidently they didn't like it.

You can read more about that here, with screen shots of a few tweets.

I didn't see it so I don't know.



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Sunday, May 22, 2016

"Longhorns" Gay Movie Male Full Frontal Nudity; If Harvey Milk Were Around Today; Mr. Gay Great Britain On HIV

"Longhorns" Gay Movie Male Full Frontal Nudity

I recently watched a gay film titled, Longhorns, on Netflix, and there was some male full frontal nudity. And not the kind of stupid male full frontal you see in mainstream films with Ben Affleck. This was the real thing...no jokes, no teasing. 

Here's the IMDb page, which I think is as thorough as it gets

 Back in 1982, a Texas University student who was curious about the male sex fantasies he had been having, decides he needs to hook up with an out gay student on campus.

I'm not reviewing the movie in this post, but here's a good review I found in Variety. And I did like it and I would recommend it. It's really a gay film about gay men...and the challenges they faced back in 1982, and still face now.

And, last but not least, here is a web site with photos of the full frontal nudity in Longhorns I'm talking about. This film has a good storyline and there is full frontal nudity, so it can be done.  I would imagine this last link is NSFW, so you've been warned. But the movie itself is much more than you would imagine it to be. There's even a character who is a woman who loves gay men.

If Harvey Milk Were Around Today

If Harvey Milk would have lived, he would have been 86 years old today. And this article talks about the things that have happened to the gay community since his death.

It’s been an incredible year for LGBTQ rights, both in the US and around the world. Of course, there’s still lots of progress remaining to be made — particularly in the area of trans freedoms — but even just halfway through 2016, there’s a ton to feel great about.

You can check that out here. They list 10 things that would have probably amazed him.

Mr. Gay Great Britain On HIV

Here's a story about how Mr. Gay Great Britain, Sadiq Ali, not taking pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) and then testing positive. According to this report, he claims he didn't take PrEP because he was afraid of the stigma that went along with it, which ultimately caused him to be HIV positive. 

So, Sadiq waited a few more months, had second thoughts, and decided to enroll in the PrEP study after all. Unfortunately, fate had dealt him a crushing blow.

Between the time Sadiq heard about the study and before he actually began taking PrEP, he was infected with HIV. It occurred literally days before he started taking the pill. His first HIV test during the study, in January of 2014, revealed the infection.

You can read more here. There are a lot of gray areas with this one that I can't get into in such a short post. But the comments are definitely worth reading. I wouldn't advise taking each one to heart, but definitely worth reading for the sake of discussion.


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Saturday, May 21, 2016

Photo Shop Makes You Gorgeous; Colton Haynes Lashes Out With the Truth; You Tube Star Bryan Hawn's Booty

Photo Shop Makes You Gorgeous

I follow a few celebrities around on social media and some use photo shop all the time, and some usually don't. One of the reasons why I love John Barrowman so much is because he doesn't use it like many celebrities I see. His photos are real; his videos are real; he's a class act all the way around.

And I really don't think there's anything wrong with a little photo shop sometimes, to cover blemishes and clean a photo up a little. We all want our photos to look as good as possible. In fact, some people should do it sometimes. It's just that when some of these people get into totally changing their bodies it gets a little ridiculous. Who do they think they are fooling?

In any event, here's an article about how everyone can photo shop themselves into the perfect human specimen. I think it brings new meaning to hook up apps...because you never know what you're getting based on photos anymore.

Photoshop can do wonders, and its body altering techniques are known to be widely used in the fashion industry.

This time, BuzzFeed has sent its Try Guys to get a digital makeover, where they each choose a celebrity with the style and body type that they aspire to be and then the computers will do the rest of the magic.

You can check this out here, with examples of how some guys will photo shop themselves into completely different humans. The one guy even photo shopped the package between his legs.

Colton Haynes Lashes Out With the Truth

This is refreshing...for a change. Colton Haynes is starting to speak up about some of the things he's had to deal with in the vicious Hollywood environment very few people talk about openly.

‘For those of you who are new to Hollywood or any business …be careful who you work with,’ he warns.

‘Watch out for liars, brainswashers and manipulators. Those who promise you the world then f*ck you over leaving you blindsided.’

The Arrow star adds: ‘If and when this happens to you, I promise you you will make it out alive. Take it from me, I knew it was happening the entire time and I’m doing so much better in life without that fake influence who projected negativity on me because they were too afraid to own up to their own insecurities.

I see a lot of it on social media...what he's talking about. They are fakes, liars, and all around douches blowing smoke up everyone's ass. I've even seen them switch politics, when  they know it's going to serve them well. They don't care about the issues. They care about the photo op. And frankly, I can tell you from experience book publishing isn't all that different.

You can read the rest here

You Tube Star Bryan Hawn's Booty

I have to admit that I love You Tube Stars and what they represent. They are the new breed of celebrity and they make it all on their own. Think Steve Grand. There's no slick Hollywood type manager wheeling and dealing in the background to get them trumped up PR that makes no sense at all half the time. These You Tube people are working it and they are resonating with the public...while the old time brand of celebrity seems to be vanishing.

Here's a story about Bryan Hawn...a You Tube star:

Bryan Hawn has made a name for himself by having a killer butt.

His YouTube videos – there are more than 250 in all – have parodied hits by Beyonce, Adele, Jennifer Lopez, Miranda Lambert and other artists.

Many have gone viral and all have one thing in common: his amazing booty.

There's more here with a photo of Hawn.

I hope it continues. 



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Friday, May 20, 2016

His Penis Is Too Big; Tips For Guys With Big Penises; Lawsuit Could End San Francisco Gay Pride

His Penis Is Too Big

Here's one of those advice column letters written by a young woman who claims her boyfriend's penis is too big. But it's kind of sad, because she's only 18 years old and she depends on this boyfriend to support her because her own father thinks he's finished. I hate parents who do that. If I had a kid it wouldn't all stop because the kid turned 18. I don't think you can put a time limit on being a parent, especially nowadays.

The boyfriend treats her well, but he's also 39 years old.

He has a very big penis and he is very rough at times. When he took my virginity, I was not able to walk properly for about three days. I had to stay in bed. My mother knew what was going on. I had to tell her the truth, but my father did not know. When my father asked why I was not up and around, my mother told him that I was in pain because I was seeing what girls always see every month.

You can check out the rest here, with the advice reply. 

And there are comments.

I hope when the father gets older she puts him in a nursing home. Karma can be interesting that way.

Tips For Guys With Big Penises

Most people wouldn't think there's a need to know these things. But sometimes you have to learn how to accommodate a large penis. I knew a gay couple who had to focus on this for a while.

Bigger is definitely better, but if you have a painful experience in bed, blame the position and not your man! Yes, trying the right sex positions that give you a perfect angle for penetration is the key for an enjoyable time. So tonight, ditch the conventional missionary and woman-on-top positions and try these amazing sex positions for men with big penis.

You can check this out here. It's NSFW, though. It is a health site, but the content is adult related.

The "Criss Cross" position sounds interesting.

Lawsuit Could End San Francisco Pride

Here's a story about a lawsuit that could put an end to San Francisco Gay Pride as we know it.

There’s a cold, hard truth to San Francisco Pride that at some point during the weekend’s festivities, a senseless act of violence can cast a shadow over the revelry. Now two victims who were injured during a 2013 shooting at the festival have joined a suit to put an end to the upcoming June 2016 gathering.

There's a lot more here, with mention of why Pink Saturday has been canceled for 2016.

Might this be yet another part of gay culture destined to vanish into the heteronormative like so many others? And as we continue to assimilate into the mainstream, are we going to stand by and watch it happen?  Gaining civil rights shouldn't mean we have to completely disregard our own culture, and yet that's always how it seems to happen. Think Modern Family...or the insulting watered-down gay books they seem to love on the DearAuthor book review site that have nothing at all to do with gay culture as most real life gay men know it.



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Thursday, May 19, 2016

Gay Guy Has Sex With 400; The Gay Adult Theater; Prince Harry's Nipple Tweak

Gay Guy Has Sex With 400

A guy named Dylan Jones no one has ever heard of wrote an op-ed piece...because that's what you do now...about all the sex partners he's had, and how he's proud of it, and why he hates slut-shaming. Yes, slut-shaming, again.

Jones estimates his number of paramours falls “somewhere around the four hundred mark. An average of two every week for four years. And that’s not even counting weekends.”

I’m not remotely insecure about it,” he writes. “I have absolutely no shame.”

He goes on to mention how one guy slut-shamed him ...by using a really bad stereotype to define this guy, which I think negates his point because that is a form of looks-shaming. And he claims that he only gets the slut-shaming thing from gay men.

Frankly, I couldn't care less who, or how many, he screws around with. 

You can read the rest here. I'm also not fond of kissing and telling. There's this thing called discretion and good taste. You don't have to tell the world how many men you've been with.

You'll want to check out the comments with this one. 

The Gay Adult Theater

This is something I've never done...gone to a gay adult theater. That's before my time. However, I think it's interesting from a cultural POV. And, this is another part of gay culture I hate to see disappear during a time when almost all of gay culture is vanishing.

This time a gay adult theater in San Fransisco called, The Tea Room Theatre, is closing down. For those who don't know what a "tea room" is in gay culture, you can read more about that here. I know a lot of you don't know what that means because I once mentioned "tea dance" in a forum and most people didn't even know what that was. And "tea dance" and "tea room" are not the same thing. Here's more about tea dance. (I get into a lot of these things in my next book, yet to be titled.)

Blame goes to the usual suspects: the internet, hookup apps, and a more open culture that no longer forces queer people to hide. These days, porn is practically something you can find out in the open — especially in San Francisco.

There was a time when porn theaters like these were one of the primary ways that men hooked up. You’d spend a few bucks to slip into a grubby theater, or loiter in a hallway, or watch a live dancer. If theaters weren’t your thing, you could also poke your head into certain bathrooms; or hide in the bushes down by the ocean. Half a century ago, for a lot of men, there simply weren’t any good clean wholesome ways to meet each other — and for some people, that was just fine.

You can read the rest here. I think it's a huge part of gay culture, and once again, it has nothing at all to do with any other aspect of LBTQ. This was predominantly about gay men, only gay men, and gay culture. 

The comments are interesting because one gay guy who is 30 left a comment that it is so off base about what these theaters were all about, it's as funny as it is sad. He thinks guys went there to watch movies. He wants to see "events" held at gay adult theaters now. He thinks that's what gay adult theaters need: events. 

Bless his little gay soul. Someone should tell him.

Prince Harry's Nipple Tweak 

I think everyone can agree that Prince Harry does a lot for good causes, and he inspires a lot of people all over the world. And, he's great with people.  

While attending a volleyball event at Britain’s Invictus Games, the Paralympic-style games that Harry himself founded in 2014 in which wounded, injured or sick armed services personnel and their associated veterans take part in sports, the young Prince of Wales could just couldn’t resit tweaking the nipple of participant.

You can check that out here,  with a video of the incident. Someone in the comments claims this is pretty normal for straight guys to do.



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Wednesday, May 18, 2016

"Sex Roulette" and HIV Bugchasing Parties; Women Who Love Gay Porn Studio CockyBoys; Gay Anthem Booty Boy

"Sex Roulette" and HIV Bugchasing Parties

I've heard about these HIV...Bugchasing...parties for a while now and I never saw anything that was mainstream enough to post about. In other words, from what I've always gathered these parties are not widespread and you can only find out about them through some kind of underground network of men who are into this sort of thing. But I even hesitate to say that because I really don't know much about them. I've only heard a few things, and I want that to be clear.

In any event, aside from the poor quality of writing in this particular article, here's more about bugchasing parties.

 If a sea of new articles from the likes of Dazed Digital, The Sun, The Daily Mail, and The Mirror are to be believed (and we strongly suspect they aren’t), you’ve just attended your first (or maybe your fifth) “sex roulette” party, a troubling and probably totally pretend new trend that’s a new spin on the idea of “bug chasing” or “gift giving.” Even some gay press reported the story as reputable news.

Even wiki knows about bugchasing:

 Bugchasing is the practice of pursuing sexual activity with HIV-positive individuals in order to contract HIV. Individuals engaged in this activity are referred to as bugchasers. It is a form of self-harm. Bugchasers seek sexual partners who are HIV-positive for the purpose of having unprotected sex and becoming HIV-positive; giftgivers are HIV-positive individuals who comply with the bugchaser's efforts to become infected with HIV.

Evidently, it's all about the thrill of not knowing whether or not they will be infected with HIV. They also call them "Blue" parties because that's the color of the Truvada pill. 

There's a lot more here to learn, but you get the basic point. I don't think it's something anyone can actually figure out. But again, I hesitate to comment because I don't know enough about the topic in the first place. And it's just too sensitive and complicated for one short post like this.

And there is a huge twist to all this. I would be highly remiss if I didn't mention it. Many people believe this is all legend and that it's not true.

 According to snopes...

There is no credible evidence that such an event has ever occurred, much less is "on the rise." The claim of HIV-infecting sex parties sweeping the globe is based on vague statements purportedly made by a single physician in Spain, and none of the published articles carried firsthand reports. The closest was a statement made at one time by a stripper in Serbia who simply claimed such events were happening (not that she had ever attended or witnessed one).

I honestly don't know whether it's true or not. I didn't hear about it from a physician in Spain. I heard about it from a guy in Palm Springs who claims he went to one of these parties himself. 

Women Who Love Gay Porn Studio CockyBoys

It's no surprise to me that some women love gay porn, gay romance, and all kinds of gay erotica. I write gay romance and m/m romance and a good deal of my readers are women. I even edited an anthology titled, "The Women Who Love to Love Gay Romance."  So I found this particular article interesting from writer's POV, too.

Cosmo recently took a deep dive (mildly NSFW) into the very particular community of female fans who are obsessed with the twinky stars of gay porn studio CockyBoys.

“If it wasn’t for our women fans, I don’t think we would have the level of exposure that we’ve had,” former porn performer George Alvin (a.k.a. Max Ryder) tells the mag. So, what makes these nubile young dudes so appealing to 20- and 30-something ladies?

You can check this out here. If you don't know about this, you might want to find out more. I thought is was thorough.

Of course someone in the comments brought up the age old argument I've seen many times before from other gay men. I don't think it's a very strong argument. I've always found that women want the gay content from a gay POV...at least that's what they tell me themselves.

I feel like knowing this diminishes the appeal; gay porn should be enjoyed by gay men without thinking about the women who watch it.

Gay Anthem Booty Boy

Here's another interesting piece about female rapper, Malka Red, creating what is being called another gay anthem...Booty Boy. And she didn't even know she was doing it.

The video, which has been steadily racking up views since it was released earlier this month, centers around the almighty boy booty, and while it takes Malka some time (and ample booty) to get her friend to come around on the topic, gay men certainly don’t need any nudging.

You can read more of this here and watch the video.

Frankly, though, I find very little in this video relating to gay culture and I don't see what the big thing is. You see, if gay men were to tell you the truth you might learn something new about gay culture instead of what you see in videos like this...or what you read about in articles that are not geared toward gay culture.

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