Monday, July 31, 2017

HBO Responds To "NoConfederate" Twitter Hashtag; Gianni Versace's Longtime Partner Is Unhappy with American Crime Story's Versace; A Gay Boy's Crush In Animation

HBO Responds To "NoConfederate" Twitter Hashtag

I know there's more than one opinion about things like this, but I'm sharing it because I see it happen all the time to gays and others in the LGBTQ+ community. Someone coming from a place of huge white privilege in Hollywood (or big publishing) decides to make a movie or TV show (or book) about a minority, and they never even think to take into consideration that the minority should get the last word...always...on any content that is related to that minority.

I have posted about this time and again here, with projects like the Stonewall film and pretty much anything done by James Franco. I think the worst part about what they do is the fact that they are making money with this brand of exploitation. They see nothing wrong with it, and even if they do, they aren't going to admit that aloud.  It is interesting to note, however, that the Stonewall film was a huge flop. 

And now it's happening again to African Americans with an HBO series about some kind of twisted fanfic regarding slavery. But this time people are speaking up about it, and they're not letting them get away with it as easily anymore.

There was a hashtag on Twitter on Sunday that read, "#NoConfederate," which was basically a call to boycott HBO and this fanfic slavery series. This is how HBO responded to the outcry...

 "Everyone understands there is a high degree of getting this right. … If you can get it right, there is real opportunity to advance the racial discussion in America," Bloys said. "If you can draw a line between what we're seeing in the country today with voter suppression, mass incarceration, lack of access to public education and healthcare and draw the line to our past and shared history, that's an important line to draw and a conversation worth having. [The producers] acknowledge this has a high degree of difficulty. It's a risk worth taking." 

And this is what April Reign had to say. She's the woman who started the dialogue, #OscarsSoWhite.

"What confidence should we have in two gentlemen who can't talk about race on their own show and have had seven seasons to introduce significant characters of color?" Reign told The Hollywood Reporter. 

I don't watch Game of Thrones so I don't know what it's like, but I do know what's like to have people coming from places of privilege rewriting my culture and my history as a gay man. And I think people are finally getting sick and tired of these old standards that say it's okay to do this.

You can check the rest out here. And if you're on Twitter you can follow the hashtag #NoConfederate to show your support.

Gianni Versace's Longtime Partner Is Unhappy with American Crime Story's Versace

Here's yet another story of the way Hollywood takes it upon themselves to embellish someone's life without even consulting anyone who was there at the time. In this case it's Versace's long time partner, Antonio D’Amico, who actually found Versace's body.

D'Amico has been silent all these years, and if you read more you'll understand why. This traumatic event changed his life forever. But now he's speaking up, too.

“There has been so much written and said about the murder,” the 58-year-old tells The Observer, “and thousands of suppositions, but not a trace of reality.”

He claims he was never consulted about the series, which will be called American Crime Story: The Assassination of Gianni Versace, and says the images he’s seen are highly inaccurate.

“The picture of Ricky Martin holding the body in his arms is ridiculous,” he says, comparing it to Michelangelo’s Pietà, in which Jesus’ body lies in his mother’s arm after being crucified.

You can read the rest here. There's a lot more. And they mention that this is part of Ryan Murphy's American Crime Story. Murphy is the same guy who did Feud, the mini-series about Joan Crawford and Bette Davis. And now Olivia de Havilland is suing Fox because of the way she was portrayed in Feud. Are we starting to notice a pattern here? Seriously.

A Gay Boy's Crush In Animation

This is nice to see for a change. It's adorable and I'd like to see more of it.

In A Heartbeat was created by Beth David and Esteban Bravo, two animation students at the Ringling College of Art and Design in Florida. It tells the story of a closeted boy who “runs the risk of being outed by his own heart after it pops out of his chest to chase down the boy of his dreams.”

You can check that out here.   

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

 Not All Gay Books Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Sunday, July 30, 2017

They're Asking Peter Thiel To Speak Now; The Pervy Gay Landlord Who Had Sex In Tenant's Bed; The Homophobia Will Young Faces

They're Asking Peter Thiel To Speak Now

Even though this article is snarky and one-sided, I don't want to focus on that tone. I'm genuinely curious about what Peter Thiel has to say about President Trump's transgender ban in the military. And I'm not getting snarky, and I'm not going to exaggerate facts. As I know it to be true at this moment, the President tweeted that he wants to enforce a ban on transgender people in the military. That's a fact.

And people are curious about what Peter Thiel thinks of this. He's a high profile gay billionaire who openly supported Mr. Trump.

Peter, it’s time not just to worry but to stand up. We’d love to hear publicly from you about these attacks on our equality–and yours.

You can read more here. The rest of the article discusses facts that could be questioned, but the one thing I know to be true, and which I'm going to focus on, is that the President wants to enforce a ban on transgenders in the military once again. And the problem with that is it's not possible to trust Mr. Trump any longer. Even if there was a glimmer of hope that he might leave the equal rights we've fought so hard for all these years alone, it vanished the day he tweeted about the transgender military ban.

Sometimes things are just that plain and simple, especially if you've been fighting for something all of your life. Even though I identify as a gay man, I do consider myself part of the entire LGBTQ+ umbrella. 

He can't be trusted. And I'm not the only one who feels that way. My inboxes on social media have been lighting up with PMs and DMs from other gay people who were silently waiting to see how the President would handle the LGBTQ+ community, and now we know for certain.

The Pervy Gay Landlord Who Had Sex In Tenant's Bed

I posted about this one a while long ago I'm not even going to link to it. In short, a gay landlord was caught having sex in his tenant's bed, thanks to security cameras. (I love them. I have them all over my house now.) And the tenant pressed charges.

Here's a follow up...

Pierce and DiGiulio said they moved out of the apartment soon after they caught their landlord using it for hook-ups, but not without sending the tape to police.

Colorado Springs Police Department then charged Quijada-Lara with criminal trespassing and misdemeanor obscenity.

Quijada-Lara made a plea deal with police and is due for sentencing on the felony count on 22 September.

There are a lot more details here in case you didn't catch the original story. I find it interesting because I'm a landlord and I would NEVER, ever even enter my tenant's apartment without 24 hours notice, and permission to do so from the tenant. And that's in my lease.

The Homophobia Will Young Faces

We all face this at one point or another. The reason I have comment moderation here is because of the homophobic comments I sometimes get even here on this web site. I've been thinking about getting rid of comment moderation again, but after reading this I'm not so sure.  

British singer Will Young opened up about shocking past experiences of homophobia, including knife threats.

The 38-year-old songwriter also said he’s confronted homophobic people head-on.

He told i News: ‘I’ve had to run away from knife threats, hide in shops. I’ve also taken people on.’

You can check out the rest here.  I never had to deal with anything that dramatic, but I don't doubt that he did.

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

 Not All Gay Books Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Saturday, July 29, 2017

How Lesbian Porn Helped This Gay-Leaning Queer Guy; Trump Kisses Lesbian Police Officer; Italian Gay Activist Vincenzo Ruggiero Murdered

How Lesbian Porn Helped This Gay-Leaning Queer Guy

A man who identifies as queer who was the victim of a sexual assault found an unusual way to deal with side effects that left him traumatized.

“Though I’m a gay-leaning queer man, the first step toward reclaiming my sense of sexuality came when one of my friends, a queer woman familiar with my situation, casually introduced me to some bomb-ass lesbian-produced queer porn after brunch one Sunday.”

The site she recommended featured feminist, inclusive porn, not the hardcore girl-on-girl stuff most people think of when they think about lesbian porn, and it completely changed Kelly’s perspectives not just about sex, but also about lesbian erotica.

I can't comment because I honestly don't know what gay-leaning queer man means. And I'm not going to try. But I think it's also a good example of how some gay men identify as queer and others don't. To clarify: queer does not include all gay men or women, only those who identify that way.

You can check out the rest here.  You'll want to read the comments, too.

Trump Kisses Lesbian Police Officer

It's no secret I'm totally against the transgender ban in the military that Trump wants to enforce. But I think the main focus with this story is that a brave woman received an award for doing something heroic. And I don't think that should be confused with exaggerated speculation about a kiss.

Crystal Griner, the lesbian Capitol Police officer who helped stop June’s mass shooting at a congressional baseball practice, was awarded a Medal of Valor by President Trump.

The Medal of Valor, the highest honor that public safety officers can get, was given to Griner and four other officers on Thursday 27 July.

You can check that out here, where they get into a kiss Trump gave Griner. There are all kinds of speculations with this one, but I choose to focus on the brave woman and the award she received. She deserved it, and the praise that goes along with it.

With that said, it's impossible to trust what Trump's going to do next after the transgender ban tweets. And that's just me basing my decision on the information that Trump gave me.

Italian Gay Activist Vincenzo Ruggiero Murdered

This is an unusual crime of jealousy, and there's also footage of the murderer shoving Ruggiero's body into a car.

35-year-old navy officer Ciro Guarente confessed to murdering 25-year-old gay activist Vincenzo Ruggiero today (29 July).

Ruggiero went missing 7 July in the area of Giugliano in Italy, with friends and family desperate to find him.

You can read the rest here. Guarente's partner is a transgender woman, and she was also Ruggiero's housemate. She did a facebook video you can see at this link.

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

 Not All Gay Books Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Friday, July 28, 2017

Documentary On Tokyo's All Male Gay For Pay Brothel; WTF? Gay Men Are Great Babysitters? G-Rated Gay Romance, "Said With Care" By Ryan Field; My Profile Pic

Documentary On Tokyo's All Male Gay For Pay Brothel

There's a new documentary out titled, Boys For Sale, that's focused on a gay for pay brothel in Tokyo. What's interesting for lack of a better word is the male prostitutes don't all identify as gay.

“I’m detached,” says one of the men, asked how he can have sex with other men when he identifies as straight. “My mind goes blank.”

Many of these sex workers were homeless or orphaned following natural disasters or personal ill fortune.

Others simply needed money and weren’t dating at the time. 

Here's the rest. You're not going to hear many happily ever after stories with this one. It gets into HIV in Japan and trans people, too.

And for those of you who want to judge gay for pay sex, there are plenty of hetero prostitutes as well.

WTF? Gay Men Are Great Babysitters?

Here's one about some poor, misguided researcher who truly believes that because gay men don't procreate they make the best babysitters. It's actually the first time I've ever heard this.

“If we consider an ancestral environment, for example,” Jimenez pontificates, “when having kids was very risky, especially multiple kids, having an extra pair of hands definitely would have come in handy.”

He points to the island of Samoa in Polynesia as an example. The culture there recognizes a third gender called fa’afafine. The fa’afafine are assigned a male gender at birth, they are attracted to men, but they exhibit both female and male traits. Jimenez noticed that they tended to take on “uncle-like” roles in families.

Aside from the fact that most of the gay men I know will go out of their way to avoid kids, a lot of gay men are marrying and starting their own families now. Maybe this is a parody piece. I'm not sure. But if it's not a parody piece someone should tell this poor guy.

Here's the rest.  

G-Rated Gay Romance, "Said With Care," By Ryan Field

Most of the books I've released this year with Ryan Field Press have not been erotic gay romance novels. They're G-rated new adult gay romance novels. (New adult means they cover the ages of college years to someone's 30s, not that it's adult's a genre like YA.) And there's not really a set reason for that, other than the fact that I wanted to do something a little different, and these particular books didn't need sex scenes in them. That's hard to explain, but I wanted to clarify this in case anyone was wondering.

With that said, here's a new release for late summer titled, Said With Care. I won't give out any spoilers, but there is a HEA ending and I get into a lot more detail with some of the minor characters. One character even has a transgender best friend he meets for lunch all the time.

When Corbin Hadley returns to his family home for the holidays with the young woman he's planning to marry, he still identifies as straight. The fact that he was seeing a guy at school named Bruce was only a temporary phase. Corbin has no intention of spending the rest of his life as a gay man.

Although Corbin embraces his decisions willingly, he soon discovers his perfect heteronormative family has been keeping a few secrets from him, especially his mom and dad. And when the young woman Corbin is planning to marry accidentally discovers he's been keeping Bruce a secret from her, Corbin is forced to deal with a few realities he never thought he would have to address.

When he finally learns the truth about his family, will the secrets everyone's been keeping from him change his life for the better? Or will he risk losing the love of his life because he doesn't want to face the truth?

Below are links. It will be available in print very soon, and it's also being distributed on iTunes and most places were digital books are sold, including Kobo. I'll post a few excerpts, soon.

And... here's the newest profile photo on the sidebar. It's really me, and it's the most recent, taken about a week ago. People are always asking about that and I have to admit that I do fall short in the photo department. But I think that's because I don't like being photographed, and also because I don't think it should matter one way or the other what an author looks like. It's about the books and the words, not the author's photo. I'm not an actor and what I look like shouldn't be important. In any event, that very unprofessional photo really is me, and I will work on this in the future to get a better one. But I do like the gay bear shirt I'm wearing. I got that in Palm Springs at the gay bear store :-)

Another Questionable Article About the Transgender Ban In the Military

Another Questionable Article About the Transgender Ban In the Military

I'm going to try to keep this short, because I normally don't write posts in the middle of the day. But this topic is fresh and I've seen this article and several others like it circulating all over social media and I wanted to address it in my own post. That's why I have my own web site to state my opinion and say what I believe to be true. I don't waste my time arguing and ranting about these things on social media.

The article is titled, Transgender Ban Isn't Fair, Neither Is War. 

If you know better, the first line is all you need to know about how this article is slanted in one direction.

The ban on transgender service that President Trump reaffirmed was there for eight years under Obama. It was there in his first term and his second term. And the media said nothing.

While this isn't untrue, the logic is convoluted because there's been a transgender ban for years, not just under President Obama. It was President Obama who broke that proverbial glass ceiling. It's true that no one said anything, because the media was not making this top priority. The media, liberal or conservative, still focuses on heteronormative news, not LGBTQ+ news. And for the record, no one talked about trans people. Trans people hid in dark corners on the fringes up until recently just like gays did. That's a fact and I'd like someone to try to dispute that for me.

In any event, the article goes on to slam Obama with more wet water, and then it says this:

45% of transgender persons in the 18 to 44 age range are suicidal. This is a serious risk for personnel who are around weapons or operating machinery or aircraft. If this were the only issue, it would be enough to justify the medical ban. 

First, what about the rest of the trans people who aren't suicidal? Should they be banned, too? And there's a lot of mental illness out there with people who identify as heteronormative. Mental illness is not exclusive to trans people. So I would imagine that it only stands to reason that anyone entering the military should be evaluated by professionals first, and if they are rejected it's because of a physical or mental illness, not because they are transgender.

Plus, I hate to state the obvious here, but evidently some people need the obvious: who wouldn't be suicidal if they're banned from society? Those of you who disagree with me, think about that for a moment. Imagine living YOUR life in a state of constant shame. All you want to do is serve your country and you're not even allowed to do THAT now.

After this, the article then continues to dispute the Rand report with regard to how much money is spent on trans people in the military, but not very well. In fact, here's another excellent piece that supports the Rand report...a report that was commissioned by the Pentagon itself that states the medical cost is NOT as bad as Trump is saying. And I checked this in more than one place, and all agree.

The bottom line is that this article is trying to make this about identity politics, and that's not totally what it's about. It is to a certain extent, but this isn't something new. Obama didn't invent transgender people. Transgender people have been around since the beginning of time only no one ever spoke about them openly. Like gay men and lesbians, they've been hiding in shame all this time. A brand of shame that's been perpetuated by a heteronormative society who had no tolerance for them. J. Edgar Hoover could have been transgender for all we know. There are enough rumors and allegations still circulating about him.

It's really interesting to see how the article goes on to talk about dysfunction. Do they know that there have been gays in the military since the beginning of time? You just didn't know about them. Do they even bother to think that there have been transgender people in the military as well? They just didn't talk about it openly, because they couldn't talk about it openly. It's almost laughable to think that there are people who believe that being transgender in the military is something new.

Then there's this gem:

Once upon a time we understood that we were part of something greater. And that we could not achieve greatness without each other. Identity politics has shredded that sense of aspirational community. It has replaced it with the conviction that we are oppressed by each other.

Yeah, well once upon a time gays hid in the closet in shame or killed themselves, transgenders got the shit kicked out of them, and lesbians were called "old maids." Thank God that much has changed in the last decade or so. And thank God we're sick and tired of listening to this same old spin on wet water. Identity politics...if there is such a thing...hasn't shredded anything. And for the record we have, indeed, been oppressed by each other, especially the LGBTQ+ community. I'm not transgender, but I do know what it's like to get legally married in the state of Vermont, by a Vermont Supreme Court Justice Beth Robinson, and then drive home from Vermont to the home where we've paid taxes for years only to not be recognized as legally married at the time. If that's not oppression, tell me what oppression is. I'd like to know.

They can spin and twist Trump's ban on trans people in the military any way they want, but it's just not holding up anymore. It might have worked ten or twenty years ago. But things are different now. Who doesn't have an LGBTQ+ relative, neighbor, boss, or uncle? Who doesn't have someone close to them who is part of the LGBTQ+ community? I'd like to meet you just so I can point out that you only think you don't know anyone LGBTQ+. Because I would bet anything that you know them, you just don't know about them...YET.

Thursday, July 27, 2017

Maxwell Q. Klinger From MASH and the Transgender Military Ban; Joint Chiefs On Trump's Military Ban; Trans Healthcare Cost Compared To US Viagra Budget

Maxwell Q. Klinger From MASH and the Transgender Military Ban

Ever since Donald Trump tweeted about the transgender military ban I've seen a lot of people joking around about the old TV show character from MASH, Maxwell Q. Klinger. Even though MASH is before my time, I've seen old reruns and that character always bothered the point where it's often difficult to watch the reruns. I know it was meant to be funny, and it was funny for its time. My own mom did her college thesis on the TV show MASH. But the whole point behind that character is that Klinger purposely dressed up in women's clothing so he could get a discharge from the military, which is actually a good example of what we've been fighting for all these years.

The character's original defining characteristic was his continuous attempts to gain a Section 8 psychiatric discharge from the Army, by habitually wearing women's clothing and engaging in other "crazy" stunts. His first appearance was in the fourth episode, "Chief Surgeon Who?"; in that episode's original script, Klinger was an effeminate gay man, but the writers later agreed that it would be more interesting to have Klinger be heterosexual, but wear dresses in an attempt to gain a Section discharge.

You can read more about Klinger here. I'm not knocking MASH or the character. I'm glad there was a Klinger character so that I can reference it now. It was appropriate for its time and the subject matter was accurate. But those aren't times I'd like to relive, or even joke about now. And I don't blame our straight allies for joking about it. They'll never know what it's like to be banned or kept from something because an entire society considered them mentally ill. You have to live through that to understand the full magnitude of it. And that's exactly the way gays and trans people were treated in those days.

Joint Chiefs On Trump's Military Ban

Here's something that's at least slightly reassuring. It's something...for now.

There will be ‘no modifications’ to the US military’s transgender policy, the chairman of the joint chiefs said.

Marine General Joe Dunford had said, in a message to the top military officers, the armed forces will continue to ‘treat all of our personnel with respect’.

Yesterday President Donald Trump announced a ban on transgender people serving ‘in any capacity’.

The Pentagon or senior military officers were not aware of the announcement.

You can check this out here. Frankly, after this, I wouldn't trust anything from President Trump for the next three or so years he's in office. I've seen people compare this to DADT. Yes, DADT was awful. However, this was worse because this ban means Don't Tell, Ever. And what's even worse is that Trump did this after Trans people were allowed into the military. He just took that away from them in 140 characters on Twitter.

Trans Healthcare Cost Compared to US Viagra Budget

I have heard the comments about the cost of healthcare for trans people in weak attempts to make President Trump's horrible decision look viable, and so far I have seen facts and figures that dispute each one. And here's another.

Allure, which cites two different studies, one from the New England Journal of Medicine, and another commissioned by the Department of Defense, shows trans health care would cost the military between $2.4 and $8.4 million a year.

This would be 0.0014% of the military’s overall budget.

That is a tenth of the $84 million a year it spends on erectile dysfunction medication, half of which goes directly on Viagra.

There's more here.

 Kendle's Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

 Not All Gay Books Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Wednesday, July 26, 2017

Trump's Ban On Transgenders In the Military, Costs, and How It Sets Us Back; Trump's Military Ban and the Mexican Wall; Charlie Sheen Accused of Passing HIV To Gay Lover

Trump's Ban On Transgenders In the Military, Costs, and How It Sets Us Back

When I was a kid I remember hearing a story told by someone who managed to dodge the draft. And this was years after he dodged the draft. He was still bragging about how he'd done it. From what I recall, he dressed up in drag and he claimed he was a transgender person, because at that time transgender people were not allowed in the military.

In fact, according to this article it wasn't until 2015 when transgenders were allowed in the military.

The Pentagon announced Monday that it will allow transgender members of the military to serve openly starting next year, marking an end to a long-standing policy that barred them from the armed forces.

That article dates back to 2015, and you can read more here.

With that said, Donald Trump is about to set us all back years with his tweets about banning transgender people from the military, again. Just the sheer arrogance of giving someone something and then taking it back is sickening. And the irony alone is astounding. Men were pretending to be trans years ago to avoid the military...cowards...and now we have brave real trans people who want to serve their country.

President Trump messaged Wednesday that he has decided to bar transgender individuals from serving “in any capacity” in the U.S. armed forces, a policy that could affect thousands of Americans now in uniform and others hoping to serve.

In a decision he disclosed on Twitter, Trump said the military would not “allow or accept” transgender service members, reversing a policy begun by the Obama administration last year. 

You can read the rest of that one here. 

There are also a few misconceptions going around that some people evidently believe to be true. I've researched them all and so far everything I can find means that Trump has banned ALL transgender people from the military. And in doing this we've all plunged back more than two decades. This is worse than Don't Ask Don't Tell. And the arrogance I've seen from people who don't understand the first thing about being a trans person is even more sickening.

Here's one misconception about how much it costs to have trans people in the military. I'm sure you've all heard the argument by now that it costs too much to have trans people in the military, but this article challenges that opinion.

However, an analysis by the Rand Corporation last year found that the costs of allowing transgender people to serve in the military would have a "minimal impact" on the budget, amounting to $2.4 million to $8.4 million each year, or 0.04 percent to 0.13 percent of the military health care budget. That's little more than a rounding error when compared to the total U.S. military budget of roughly $700 billion.

Trump's Trans Military Ban and the Mexican Wall

I know I've always said I'm not political on this blog, however, I am political about LGBTQ+ issues. Frankly, I don't care whether or not anyone agrees with me. My fight has always been concentrated on LGBTQ+ issues, and that's not going to change any time soon. I posted about legalized marriage for years, and now I'm going to post about this ban.

I knew there had to be something political behind all this. There usually is. Don't Ask Don't Tell was politically motivated as well.

A Politico report suggests House Republicans planned to pass a spending bill that included the cash necessary to build his proposed and much-ballyhooed wall, but an internal disagreement over trans troops put the future of that bill on shaky ground.

According to insiders, members of the House GOP were afraid they wouldn’t get enough votes because, as Politico reports, “defense hawks wanted a ban on Pentagon-funded sex reassignment operations — something GOP leaders wouldn’t give them.” 

Here's the rest. 

Charlie Sheen Accused of Passing HIV To Gay Lover

Keep in mind this is all alleged at this point, and it's coming from a questionable source.

RadarOnline reports that the 51-year-old actor could be facing some serious jail time after being accused of passing HIV to a male partner during sex.

According to the celebrity gossip rag, the man, whose identity is being withheld, was able to trace his infection back to a tryst he had with Sheen. Now, he’s purportedly suing. 

You can check the rest out here. There are a lot of opinions with this topic and you can read some of them in the comments. The main reason I posted about this article was to show you those opinions. Most are valid and worth reading.

Kendle's Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

 Not All Gay Books Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Tuesday, July 25, 2017

Anne R. Allen's "Controversial" Post About How Writing Fiction Evolves; Beloved Gay Israeli Pop Star Dies; People Are Pissed At the Thought of Prince George Being Gay

Anne R. Allen's "Controversial" Post About How Writing Fiction Evolves

In the early Internet days, during a time when there were tons of literary agent blogs from which to pick and choose, I read an interesting post by a literary agent about how fiction evolves. In short, she said that a great many of the classic novels we know and love from the past would most likely never be published today because no one would bother to read them. At the time I didn't quite get that, but I do now. And it's a topic that always creates controversy from those who have not been published yet.

It's really not a "controversial" post, but I put that in quotes because so many people seem to want to argue this point.

To put this in a different perspective, writing fiction is a lot like comedy. The jokes that were funny 100 years ago...or even 50 years ago...just aren't as funny today. Communication and language evolve over time. Everything changes.

In any event, here's an excerpt from Anne R. Allen's Post...

Reading the classics of world literature is a great way to educate yourself and learn how the power of words can expand the mind and increase our knowledge of the human condition. We can learn a huge amount from them. All writers need to read the masters.

But it’s not a good idea to imitate them when we write our own books–or assume that reading War and Peace will teach us everything there is to know about writing fiction.

You can read the entire post in full, here. One of the things I'm always conscious of when writing fiction for current markets is the way I add technology. I'm writing about new adults for the most part and if I wasn't up on current tech advances my characters wouldn't be very relevant. Of course if you're writing about senior citizens you might think that's a different story...but not always. My own mom was 80 years old and she was reading e-books on her iPhone just a few years ago.

Beloved Gay Israeli Pop Star Dies

This is sad news about Amir Fryszer Guttman. I'm not overly familiar with his work, but I remember reading about him a few times while searching for various blog posts.

On Sunday, Guttman was vacationing on the beach in Atlit with his family when his 9-year-old niece began struggling in the water. Guttman dove in to help her. He grabbed the girl and lifted her in the air, letting himself bear the brunt of the waves.

When they were eventually pulled to shore by a group of surfers, the child was fine but Guttman had stopped breathing. He was rushed to a nearby hospital, where he was later pronounced dead due to organ failure. He was 41-years-old. 

There's more here. RIP.

People Are Pissed At the Thought of Prince George Being Gay

This kind of thing always bothers me, and I see it come from ALL directions. I've had reactions to blog posts I've written here about the possibility that Richard Burton may or may not have been gay. The instant you even suggest that someone who isn't supposed to be gay just might be gay certain people go berserk. As if it's a crime to be gay, or there's so much shame in being gay. And I find that mindset insulting and stupid. Because there's NOTHING wrong with being gay.

In the photo, Prince George, who turned four last week, is dressed in a chic red checkered shirt and navy shorts with a slight bend in his knees and his hands on his face. It is perhaps one of the cutest things we’ve ever seen.

But leave it to some internet trolls to ruin it. Shortly after the picture went viral, people began speculating about the child’s sexuality, even cracking jokes about it: 

Here's the rest.

Kendle's Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

 Not All Gay Books Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Monday, July 24, 2017

Straight Man Sexually Assaulted By Older Gay Man; Sam Stanley and a Man 34 Years His Senior; How Newspapers Reported Partial Decriminalization of Gay Sex In 1967

Straight Man Sexually Assaulted By Older Gay Man

This isn't something we like to hear about, but it happens sometimes.

Five years ago, Byers, who identifies as straight, stopped by a friend’s house for a visit. The friend was an older gay man who he viewed as a father figure. Up until then, 20-year-old Byers and the 60-year-old man enjoyed a plutonic friendship, and he would often turn to him for advice and guidance.

During this particular visit, however, things felt different. As soon as he arrived, the man gave Byers a glass of Bacardi 151 and sat down beside him. They got to chatting. But soon, he started inching his way closer to Byers. 

You can read all about what happened here. Some of the comments are peculiar, though.

Sam Stanley and a Man 34 Years His Senior

I'm always surprised at how so many people find these stories unusual. All of my adult life I have seen older gay men with younger gay men and their relationships have lasted for the long term. In fact, one couple we know where the age difference was about 20 years got legally married the same time we did. And, unfortunately, the younger one just passed away this Christmas after a cancer diagnosis. But they had over 30 wonderful years together and no one even paid attention to the age difference.

Queerty had a chance to chat with the May/December love birds, who currently run a luxury B&B in Sicily called Casa Piccolo Paradiso, about their relationship, the challenges of being in an intergenerational relationship, people’s response to their surprise engagement announcement, and their future wedding plans.

Here's the full interview.

How Newspapers Reported Partial Decriminalization of Gay Sex In 1967

I think this is timely, given the state our media is in these days.

In the 9 July 1967 weekend edition after the law was first voted on in the House of Commons the News of the World wrote:

‘This week we take our stand against one of the most pernicious measures ever put before Parliament, the Sexual Offences Bill to legalize homosexual acts between consenting male adults in private.’

Here's the rest.

Kendle's Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

 Not All Gay Books Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Sunday, July 23, 2017

Sexy Gay Nintendo Bears; DILFs of Disneyland; How Lesbians Helped Fight AIDS

Sexy Gay Nintendo Bears

If you're into bears...

Yes, the searingly unfunny repartee writes itself when it comes to the work of Argentinean artist Leonardo Gutierrez. He’s obsessed with Nintendo’s Super Smash Bros and compulsively turns out pieces that turn Mario, Luigi, Pikachu and Kirby into brawny, big-bellied bears. 

Here's the rest. The photos are not too bad.

DILFs of Disneyland

I'm actually a fan of anything Instagram. And I follow all kinds of things. I'll have to check this one out myself.

Need proof? After nine months of darkness — that’s a decade in dog years! — the DILFs of Disneyland Instagram account is back in action.

Promising the “hottest dads at Disneyland & California Adventure,” the account will make you say “aww” nearly as many times as it makes you say “aww damn.”

There's more here. 

How Lesbians Helped Fight AIDS

On a much more serious note, this is something that never seems to get as much attention as it should. Now there's a new book out titled, The Pox Lover, that goes into detail about what it was like to be an activist in the early days of AIDS.

“In my own circle in New York City, lesbians were very involved in AIDS activism and ACT UP,” d’Adesky says. “That was also true wherever I traveled.” Just don’t try to relegate their involvement to the friendly lesbian nurse stationed in the intensive care unit. “We were not simply caretakers. That’s a complete erasure of our contributions. We were equal with the gay men who were moderating the conversation.” 

You can check this one out here. I think it looks like a fascinating book. I don't remember much myself about that time because I was too young, but I'd like to know more about what it was like back then.

Kendle's Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

 Not All Gay Books Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Saturday, July 22, 2017

Queen Elizabeth's Favorite Gay Anthem; Can You Guess the Sexual Orientation Of A Stranger? School Tried To Ban Kid's Queer Art

Queen Elizabeth's Favorite Gay Anthem

I don't think I'll ever forget the first time I was in a crowded gay nightclub and the ABBA song, Dancing Queen, started to play. I had to hold on to the bar. The entire room went berserk. Everyone ran to the dance floor and threw their arms in the air. Shirts came off; lights began to flicker. I'd never seen anything like it before. And it's still that way, to this day, each time I'm in a gay nightclub and Dancing Queen starts playing.

Evidently, Queen Elizabeth knows what I'm talking about.

It’s being widely reported that at a dinner party recently, “Dancing Queen” came on after the speeches had been made.

Queen Elizabeth then loudly sated: “I always try to dance when this song comes on, because I am the Queen, and I like to dance.”

Here's the rest.  

Can You Guess the Sexual Orientation Of A Stranger?

Frankly, I don't really care about the sexual orientation of a stranger.

But it seems some people do, so there's this:

That was the challenge presented to a roomful of strangers in a video that’s quickly gone viral, in which participants were asked to wager where each of their peers falls on the sexuality spectrum.

Produced by Watchcut Video, the short film finds all five participants scrambling to assign labels to one another based on their appearance and the answers they offer to a series of rapidfire questions.

You can check this out here. I still don't get why it's so important to know the sexual orientation of a stranger.

School Tried to Ban Kid's Queer Art

It always amazes me when I think about all the wrong things I learned in high school about publishing and writing...all wrong. It wasn't until I was college that I started to understand how the art of publishing and creative writing actually works. In fact, the amateur level of knowledge I still see in high schools these days when it comes to anything in the arts makes me cringe. So if there's anyone out there who is in high school and you're experiencing anything like this, please know that it does get better once you get out of high school.

“After starting my concentration, the school vice principal came to me after my art teacher informed the administration about my ‘potentially sensitive’ concentration subject,” Jasper told Pride. “He said that although he had ‘no problem’ with the LGBTQ theme, there is a ‘time and a place’ for ‘these things’ and that it did not belong in public schools.”

You can check this one out here. In spite of what the vice principal said, the kid went on to be selected in a prestigious college art exhibit. You can also see a few examples of his work. It's really very good and way too sophisticated for that high school vice principal. And I don't think this is just about queer art either. I think many talented kids across the board experience this kind of frustration in schools all over the US.

Kendle's Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

 Not All Gay Books Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Friday, July 21, 2017

Should You Shave Your Man Bush? John Barrowman In a TARDIS Dress; Is Coming Out At Work Good or Bad For Your Career?

Should You Shave Your Man Bush?

I think this one all depends on the individual. I either run or hike six mornings a week all year long, plus I work out with weights, and I prefer to manscape my entire body. However, not everyone does.

Do you shave or wax your private areas? How much do you know about your ‘bush’?

In this new YouTube video, the guys from AsapSCIENCE will answer some of the most intimate questions you have about your body hair — specifically, your pubes.

Going back in time, we the human race used to carry thick body hair all over, and only lost them after the last ice age some 70,000 to 120,000 years ago. 

John Barrowman In A TARDIS Dress

It's all about the message with this one, not the dress.

John Barrowman has used a Q&A session at the San Diego Comic Con to defend BBC producers casting a female Doctor Who.

True to his flamboyant nature, he spun onto the stage screaming, ‘I am the transgender Tardis’

You can check that out here. I don't follow Doctor Who, but I love Barrowman, and I like what he had to say. There's a photo, too.

Is Coming Out At Work Good Or Bad For Your Career?

I don't know the answer to this one. However, I do think it's interesting that this web site pubbed two articles about being openly gay at work, with two different messages.

The first piece titled, "Being Authentic Has Transformed My Career. It can do the same for you," sounds great at a glance. But then right below that I saw a second piece that's titled, "1 In 3 LGBTs Harassed or Bullied At Work."

The first one says this: 

Being part of Deloitte’s LGBTI network has been one of the most rewarding aspects of my career so far.

It has enabled me to be involved in something that I care deeply about, grow my network and develop my professional skills.

The second one says this:

One in three LGBT people are harassed or bullied at work.

And only half are out at work, says a new study by the Trades Union Conference (TUC) released today.

With over 5,000 respondents the TUC says this makes the report one of the most comprehensive studies of what it’s like to be LGBT at work in the UK.

I should also mention the first article that makes everything sound so rosy is sponsored. The second one is a real study.

You can check them both out at the links above. I think it all depends on where you work and what you do. The first article screams of elitism, and the second one sounds like reality.

 Kendle's Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

 Not All Gay Books Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Thursday, July 20, 2017

Woman Impersonated A Man To Have Sex; Overweight Bankrupt Gambler Transforms His Body;More On Ben Affleck's Comments About Playing A Gay Character

Woman Impersonated A Man To Have Sex

The original story to all this dates back to 2015, but I don't remember it at all. Evidently, a woman named Gayle Newland pretended to be a man and tricked her female friend into having sex with her...and, Newland will serve six and a half years in prison for it.

Newland created a fake online profile for a man she named Kye Fortune, a male persona she created when she was 13 years old. She hid behind the Kye Fortune identity while she communicated with girls in online chat rooms and eventually created profiles for Fortune on MySpace and Facebook.

The victim, whose name has been withheld for legal reasons, testified that she struck up an online relationship with Fortune on Facebook unaware that she was being catfished. 

Here's the rest. It gets even more peculiar.

Overweight Bankrupt Gambler Transforms His Body

I love stories like this. It shows strength of character and tenacity.

Fisher was “broke, big, and isolated,” he tells the New York Post. “People dream of what I had accomplished, and I lost control.”

That’s when one of his gambler friends made an outrageously cinematic proposition: He was bet $500,000 that he couldn’t lose all the excess weight and cut his body fat to 10% in six months. (Um, who the hell are these people?) 

More here. There are photos and the results are truly amazing.

More On Ben Affleck's Comments About Playing A Gay Character

I'm not going to comment on this one again. Everyone else seems to be doing such a good job at it. And from what I know to be true, Ben Affleck may or may not have even made these comments. So far, this is all hearsay. 

 Westworld actress Evan Rachel Wood is mightily unimpressed by Ben Affleck’s recently revealed claim that kissing a man was his “greatest acting challenge.”

Wood, who’s been openly bisexual since 2011, suggested the Gone Girl star should “try getting raped in a scene,” tweeting, “Grow up, Ben.”

Kevin Smith, who directed Affleck in Chasing Amy, recently claimed the actor said: “A man kissing another man is the greatest acting challenge an actor can ever face.”

You can read more here. She's not backing down on this one, and she's been facing her own backlash over it.

Kendle's Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

 Not All Gay Books Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Wednesday, July 19, 2017

Theresa May Has "Evolved" On Gay Marriage; Gay For Pay Solo Porn Ruined His Life; Kevin Smith Apologizes to Ben Affleck

Theresa May Has "Evolved" On Gay Marriage

This is always a tough one for me. When Hillary Clinton said she "evolved" on gay marriage I cringed a little. And now Theresa May is basically saying the same thing, and I'm cringing again. It's not that I don't understand people changing and evolving. It happens to me, too. However, I want an apology along with these, "I've evolved," statements. I think it's only fair to apologize to the large group of people to whom you've been doing the unthinkable injustice all these years by NOT supporting gay marriage.

In any event, I won't be holding my breath for any apologies any time soon. We all know it doesn't work that way.

UK Prime Minister Theresa May has defied her allies in the DUP by saying she supports marriage equality in Northern Ireland.

Conservative leader May had to do a deal with the Democratic Unionist Party after failing to win an outright majority in June’s UK election. But the DUP opposes abortion and LGBTI equality and has blocked attempts to allow same-sex marriage in Northern Ireland.

Here's the rest. I'm also not too thrilled with the way they lump abortion in with gay marriage. Gay marriage is a celebration and a beginning, not a termination.

Gay For Pay Solo Porn Ruined His Life

This is kind of sad because Michael Hoffman obviously didn't know what he was doing...and he still doesn't know what he's doing. Instead of owning his past, he's knocking it and putting himself down for doing what millions of other guys do on a daily basis nowadays. The only difference between him and these other guys is that he did it in public.

But it turns out that while he claimed he made over $10,000 with those videos, his future has not turned out quite as positive as he’d hoped.

‘My decision four years ago to start making videos has really fucked me up,’ he said on Twitter.

‘I lose girl after girl, can’t land a relationship, can’t land a job.

There's more here. I don't think his life is ruined or that he should feel shame. I just think he needs to look in a different direction and move forward in that direction.

Kevin Smith Apologizes to Ben Affleck

Here's a follow up to the story I linked to yesterday about a few comments Ben Affleck allegedly made when he was younger and just starting out. Evidently, Kevin Smith, the guy who claims Affleck made these comments, has received a good deal of backlash since the story broke.

Director Kevin Smith is doing damage control.

The Dogma director posted a video to Facebook trying to explain comments he made over the weekend. He also apologized to actors Ben Affleck and Evan Rachel Wood for the misunderstanding he inadvertently caused.

‘I feel fucking so stupid,’ Smith said in the video. ‘This is the problem with having a big fat mouth like mine, but honestly, I didn’t think I was doing anything bad.’

You can read the rest here. I was sarcastic in my post, but I don't think anyone holds anything against Ben Affleck for things he said in the 90s...or rather, if he said them. I know I don't. In that respect I think we've all evolved since included.

And I give Smith all the credit in the world for apologizing. We never got that from ANY politician.

Kendle's Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

 Not All Gay Books Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Tuesday, July 18, 2017

Ben Affleck Felt Like A Serious Actor After Kissing A Dude, And I Felt the Same Way After Kissing A Straight Guy; Steamy Gay "Riverdale" Scene; Classic Gay Movie "Shelter" On Here TV

Ben Affleck Felt Like A Serious Actor After Kissing A Dude, And I Felt the Same Way After Kissing A Straight Guy 

I've never seen this movie...Chasing Amy. But it does make sense to me that heterosexual Ben Affleck would feel like a "serious actor" after kissing a guy for the first time. I felt like a "serious gay" after I kissed my first straight dude who actually looked a lot like Ben Affleck. It's plausible.

According to Smith, Affleck said, ‘A man kissing another man is the greatest acting challenge an actor can ever face.’ Upon completion of the kissing scene, Smith recounted that Affleck stated, ‘Now, I’m a serious actor.’

Once again, I have to agree with good old Ben. Kissing a straight guy was one of the greatest challenges I ever faced, too. It took some talent. And, when it was over, I said to myself, "I am a serious gay."

Here's the rest. You have to love the way Hollywood still treats gay men. But you also have to remember this was the 1990s and there wasn't much gay content anywhere. As they say in the article, lesbians were just happy to see themselves in ANY movie at all. Obviously, we still have a long way to go.

Steamy Gay Riverdale Scene

Tony and I have an agreement. I won't make him watch anything on TV that he hates, and he won't make me watch those boring science channel, "How It's Made." It works out just fine, especially because we only watch about 2 hours of TV a day, and I don't care how hammers are made.

With that said, I've never seen Riverdale. And that's only because Tony can't even stand watching the first 15 minutes. But this does look interesting, to me.

There is no excerpt with this one. It's just a link to the video.

Classic Gay Movie "Shelter" On Here TV

I've actually never seen Shelter, the movie, either. I've heard about it. I've read about it. I've read discussion groups where it was the main topic. But somehow I've managed to miss it. Well, this might change soon...

Shelter is one of those movies you can watch dozens of times and never get tired of. It stars Trevor Wright (The Social Network) and Brad Rowe (National Treasure: Book of Secrets) as Zach and Shaun, two friends who reunite after childhood and find comfort in surfing and eachother. As their bond blossoms, their friendship grows into a summer romance that changes their lives forever. 

Here's the rest.  The things I've heard about Shelter have only been excellent. In fact, many consider it a gay classic. I've even seen people argue about how much they love Shelter. So this is exciting, and I'll be posting more about it in the future.

Kendle's Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

 Not All Gay Books Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Monday, July 17, 2017

Out Magazine's Questionable Political Opinion Piece; Male Prostitution In Manchester; Men Get Better With Age; Is There An Age Limit To Enjoy Grindr?

Out Magazine's Questionable Political Opinion Piece

I've been a registered Democrat all my life. And I probably always will be. But I've learned in life that you can't always define people by their political party affiliation, especially not in small town politics. Here in New Hope, PA, a small, upscale, diverse, art colony with a large LGBT+ population, we have a Republican mayor who has always supported everything related to LGBT+ issues and equality. This mayor doesn't have an ounce of discrimination in his entire body. I also have many gay friends whom I love and respect who are Republicans. They are liberal on social issues and conservative on fiscal issues. Most of whom are terrified to even admit that in public.

With that said, I wanted to share a different opinion with my readers today. Unfortunately, I don't think it does anything at all to promote peace, love, equality, or positive change. Everything about it is negative and divisive.

Similarly, if a real-life friend—someone who knows my plight, my accomplishments, and my oppressions—decides to trumpet in my face the alleged glories of the Republican party, I simply have to show them the hand and the door. Friendship over.

Here's the rest.  I feel very sorry for this person. I truly do. And the people who commented on this article seem to agree with me.

Male Prostitution In Manchester

I don't like to judge things like this, and I do understand that everyone has unique circumstances. Jobs are not easy to get these days, and young people are struggling to survive. However, I don't like to dance around certain topics either by using careful PC words and phrases that sound better. By definition the word prostitution means selling your body for money. With that said, I'm also for legalized prostitution.

Over the past decade or so, the city of Manchester has seen a huge uptick in the number of men, both gay and straight, selling their bodies for money, the Manchester Evening News reports.

“We are seeing young men who, ten years ago, would never have come into contact with the sex trade as even an option,” Fergal McCullough, who works for The Men’s Room, a non-profit that offers support to male sex workers via engagement, outreach, and advocacy support, says. 

You can read the rest here. It's a very interesting article in many ways.

Men Get Better With Age

I've always thought men get better with age. I follow this one guy on social media who I won't name, but he's an open-minded straight guy with some reality TV fame who has a nice fan base. And it's nice to watch him age, and to watch him get even better with age.

In any event, this article talks about men aging, finding lovers, and hook up apps.

We asked you, our readers, what your thoughts were on the matter. Let’s check out what some of you had to say about it:

“I just hit 45,” one reader said. “I got rid of Grindr years ago because it was too full of men under 30, bitchy queens and really awful treatment of men with HIV.”  

Here's the rest. I've never been to Grindr so I can't comment. But I do appreciate the guys I know who are getting a lot better with age.

Is There An Age Limit To Enjoy Grindr?

I could have posted about that Teen Vogue anal sex article again, but frankly I'm sick to death of IT, Teen Vogue the magazine, and everything related to THAT article. In fact, I'm getting sick of all magazines lately. In the quest for clickbait, it seems to be getting more absurd as each day passes.

In any event, this Grindr article is a lot more interesting than Teen Vogue.

“Different apps have different audiences depending on location,” another guy writes. “Grindr is for the 25 and below crowd. Scruff is mostly for everyone. Growlr has a higher percentage of older gay guys.”

“If you’re only willing to talk to guys who are under 25 then you won’t fit in anywhere,” a third person says. “That seems to be the case for 90% of the old guys on Grindr.”  

There's more here. I could be wrong, but it doesn't sound as though everyone's having a blast on Grindr.

Kendle's Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

 Not All Gay Books Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field