A few weeks ago I posted about a gay man who found out from friends on social media that the guy he was in love with and hoping to marry had intentionally infected him with the HIV virus. You can read more about that here. This gem of a guy had allegedly been spreading HIV to others as well and brags about it on social media.
His name is Miguel Guerra, and he also goes by Ashton Chavez. In California where this happened it's considered a misdemeanor and a judge, in what sounds like a lame attempt to curb this guy's habits, recently ordered him to stop using online hook up sites, especially Grindr. It's also been alleged there are more victims to come forward. I guess the judge never heard of sockpuppets...or isn't familiar with the extent of deceit online everywhere these days.
San Diego Superior Court Judge Dan Link approved Deputy City Attorney Taylor Garrott's request that the judge orders Guerra to not use Internet dating sites as a condition of remaining free on bond after a request to increase bail from US$2,500 to US$50,000 was rejected.
You can read the rest of this article here. The comments are interesting, and slightly divided. My only comment is that if it can be proven Guerra intentionally infected other men with HIV, lock him up and throw away the key. You get charged with a misdemeanor for pissing on the sidewalk, not spreading a serious, life-changing illness.
I'm starting to think we need a new term for this sort of thing...like rape culture. Because in many respects HIV culture is a lot like it. The victim is blamed for having raw anal sex with someone who didn't use a condom, even if he's in a long term relationship with someone he thinks he can trust.
More Grindr Crimes
I also posted about this next article a few weeks ago, where two UK men lured and blackmailed unsuspecting men on Grindr. In fact, I've posted quite a bit about Grindr this year so far. You can find more with a simple search at the top of the blog.
In any event, the two creeps wound up getting four years in prison.
The victim had saved the money and drew it out from the bank to give to the men after they stayed all night in his home to ensure he paid up.
But when the other said he had no money, the two men told him he should crash his car into a store to get the cash - the victim was forced to go to the police.
You can read more here. The story is more involved, in the most frightening ways.
I wish I could be more encouraging about this, but I think that if you're going to screw around on Grindr you should hope for the best and always be ready for the worst.
Anderson Cooper on Joan Rivers
Anderson Cooper recently commented that he wasn't fond of Joan Rivers as a kid because she used his mom, Gloria Vanderbilt, as the focus of some of her most vicious jokes. You can't blame him. It was his mom.
But as he grew older he changed a few of his opinions:
'As an adult when I got to know her I came to actually like her and appreciate her,' Cooper said.
We're all thinking it. I know I am. What does Gloria Vanderbilt think about all this now? Elizabeth Taylor wasn't too thrilled with Joan Rivers' fat jokes, and Taylor spoke about that candidly after she lost a great deal of weight. Here's one article that dates back to 1983:
But Taylor seemed intent on finally getting back at the acid-tongued comedienne. While her escort-of-the-moment, Mexican lawyer Victor Gonzalez Luna Jr., and 1,100 well-manicured guests looked on, Taylor rose from her dais seat, planted ringless (for once) hands on her ample hips and continued, "Because I was going to say Joan Rivers, if you're here, eat your hear-r-r-r-t out." Touched
You can read more about Cooper here.
Rivers often crossed the line, but many people laughed even more whenever she did that because it was always so true. Never a lie. The one thing I don't think anyone has mentioned so far since her death is that she was a brilliant woman. I'm not talking about comedy. I'm talking about her intellect, her knowledge. And I think the hardest part for her must have been these changing times where everyone's become so PC...or maybe it was easy for her? You make a joke or comment about a big fat ass anywhere nowadays and you're branded a hater for life. Or, you're destined to post images of fluffy kittens for the next four years.
RIP, Joan. Even though you pissed a lot of us off at times, you made most of us laugh.
Smashwords Ryan Field
Some may know, others may not know, but I have a full list of titles on Smashwords, from my indie published books priced at .99, to my e-books with publishers. The link below will take you to the Cage James page, which is a recent release. Once there, there are links where you can check out the full list.
Cage James by Ryan Field