Wednesday, July 23, 2014

Republican & Gay Marriage; Hollywood Fails Gays; Nelsan Ellis Slams Luke Grimes

Republican & Gay Marriage

David Jolly is a freshman in the US House of Representatives from Florida and he's publicly supporting gay marriage. He's also a Republican, which for some reason this article seems to find fascinating.

'I believe it is fully appropriate for a state to recognize both traditional marriage as well as same-sex marriage,' Jolly, 41, said this week as he spoke about a recent judicial ruling that made same-sex marriage legal in Florida's Monroe County.

 ' ... As a matter of Constitutional principle, I believe in a form of limited government that protects personal liberty,' Jolly said. 'To me, that means that the sanctity of one’s marriage should be defined by their faith and by their church, not by their state.'

You can read more here, where there's an interesting note about Jolly's personal life.

I'm not really surprised at the tone of this article. It seems to suggest that all Republicans are anti-gay and anti-gay marriage and I think that's because it's not from a US publication. The fact is that there are gay Republicans and Republicans who do support gay marriage, and it's more common than most would imagine. In recent years many Americans from both parties have felt the need to go silent with regard to politics because they fear backlash from the loudest voices/bullies from both extremes. I think that's going to come to an end in the future.

Hollywood Fails Gays

Speaking of loud left wing liberal politics, the irony of this next link is interesting because it claims that ultra pro-gay Hollywood has failed in the way it portrays gays in films. The survey was done by GLAAD. They covered the seven largest studios in 2013. There were 102 releases, and only 17 LGBTI characters. According to this survey, not one gay character was a lead. As a side note, I often look at Tony while I'm scrolling through on demand and wonder why there is only one gay film, hidden in the indie section, that I had to find out about on social media. And it's usually not a very good film.

‘The lack of substantial LGBT characters in mainstream film, in addition to the outdated humor and stereotypes suggests large Hollywood studios may be doing more harm than good when it comes to worldwide understanding of the LGBT community,’ said GLAAD's CEO and President Sarah Kate Ellis.

 ‘These studios have the eyes and ears of millions of audience members, and should reflect the true fabric of our society rather than feed into the hatred and prejudice against LGBT people too often seen around the globe.’

I've been saying basically the same thing since I started blogging. This is one reason why I sometimes parody heteronormative films in books, with gay characters. Time and again, it's fail, fail, fail for Hollywood. And if they do get it right, they fail in other ways...like Matt Damon joking around about how weird it was to kiss a guy (and to get paid quite well to do that). Not all do this. Actors like Trevor Donovan play gay roles, do it well, and with respect. They make it look simple. But unfortunately, Donovan and the others aren't in the majority.

The same thing could be said about books and the publishing industry, which is one of the main reasons why I have always been pro m/m romance. In the m/m romance genre things aren't always perfect, but most of the time the authors (and the readers) get it right. I also think this is why the genre continues to grow. But I don't want to get off topic. This is about films.

You can read more here. The bigger question for me is why do we, as gays (and those who support us), continue to take this? If they aren't exploiting us for monetary gain, they are examining us as if we're lab rats. If they aren't treating us as if we're pet poodles, they are patronizing us and portraying us as heteronormative clones. And we...I include myself in this because I'm just as guilty...take it each time.

Nelsan Ellis Slams Luke Grimes

Finally, someone is speaking up and not letting "them" get away with it. I'm talking about Nelsan Ellis from True Blood. He plays Lafayette, the gay character on the show that was supposed to have a gay storyline with Luke Grimes this season. I posted about Luke Grimes allegedly quitting when he found out about the impending gay storyline. And now Ellis is speaking about Grimes and the situation for the first time in public.

'I just think that, you're an actor, you're an actor on a show that's True Blood, we're all sitting there going, "You quit your job because ... really?"

I'm just... I'm over him,' Ellis tells Vulture. While a spokesman for Grimes said the departure was over the actors' feature film schedule, HBO has maintained it was over the creative direction of the character. Says Ellis: 'You quit your job because you don't want to play a gay part? ...

You have to be open. But more importantly, you make a statement when you do something like that.

You can read more of what he has to say with this link.

Stay tuned for Grimes' reply, which I'm sure will come very soon.


Small Town Romance Writer

 
by Ryan Field


 


Tuesday, July 22, 2014

Gay Sex Roles: Tops and Bottoms; Be A Better Gay Top; Davey Wavey on Good Tops

Gay Sex Roles: Tops and Bottoms

This is one of those posts I'm keeping more clinical because I think it's important to the discussion of m/m romance and almost all gay fiction. Even if this doesn't come up in any particular book, it is dormant between the lines no matter how hard someone tries to dispute it (or ignore it). We often read a great deal about gender politics with regard to gay relationships that discuss the fundamentals, with respect to heteronormative couples, and most of that is a huge waste of human time. I think another fundamental aspect of any relationship...gay or straight...are sex roles. And there's absolutely nothing dirty or obscene about this.

This article dates back a few years, but I think it's one of the best I've read about gay sex roles in a long time.

Most psychology research that deal with gay men dichotomize the sex roles as Top and Bottom (if they differentiate among gay men at all) - preference for insertive anal intercourse and preference for receptive anal intercourse respectively. This paper summarizes a study that tested a more elaborate categorization, and finds that sex role preference is correlated with differences in physical preferences for a sexual partner among gay men, suggesting that the hypothesized categorization is meaningful. The data suggests that sex roles should be thought of as a continuous spectrum that map onto a continuous spectrum of physical preferences.
 
The new categorization tested includes 6 categories:
1) Only Bottom
2) Versatile, but prefer Bottom
3) Versatile, equal
4) Versatile, but prefer Top
5) Only Top
6) Never had anal sex / Don't Know
 
In other words, diversification. I also think there could be a few more added to this list, but for now it's simple and accurate. Of course I probably wouldn't get into this in fiction unless the main character were a psychologist or something related, but these "things" are always in the background of any book whenever there is a situation that involves two people involved in a relationship that is even remotely sexual.
 
You can read the rest here. I think it's worthwhile reading. It disputes a lot of myths, for one thing.
 
Many gay men feel that there are more Bottoms than Tops, and the point of the study wasn't to prove this one way or another. The milieu of gay.com may have skewed the proportions. But the point of the study was to see whether preference for certain physical traits were different among individuals among the different categories rather than finding out the actual distribution (which is a much tougher question because it's hard to remove the bias of where you solicit your respondents).
 
To put this into an even more interesting (and simple) perspective, think about the most recent episode of True Blood. The flamboyant gay character who is always gender bending with clothes and image wound up in a situation with one of the more masculine vampires. In the next scene we find the more effeminate character topping and the more masculine character on the bottom. I've known many couples in real life like this, too. A lot of what we think we know on the surface only promotes the old stereotypes.  
 
Be A Better Gay Top
 
Since I'm posting on this topic, and I have posted about how to be a better gay bottom, I thought I would be remiss if I didn't post something about being a better top. This is really important, especially if the top is responsible for a bottom's first time.
 
Anal sex can hurt. I sometimes think that the best Tops are guys who also Bottom because empathy always makes a better lover. The biggest problem most Tops have is that they don’t pay attention to their partner. They start the joust at full gallop. If you are going to Top remember that if you injure your partner before you even get started nobody is going to have a good time.
 
You can read more here. The article gets into a lot of other issues I think are important. It states that it's not just the bottom's responsibility to bring the condom. It's everyone's responsibility and if you're a good top you'll pay attention to this. It's true. Then again, I also know from personal experience that if you're a smart bottom you'll bring that condom anyway because the odds are the top guy won't have one. When I was single I never met one who did carry one. He'll tell you he'll pull out. He'll tell you he's safe. He'll tell you anything to get you to do what he wants. Just bring the condom and don't trust anyone you don't know well. This might not be the most clinical advice, or the most politically correct advice. But it's like defensive driving...it's the most logical advice if you want to remain disease free. And I'm not just talking about HIV. There's a long list of sexually transmitted diseases that require medical attention you don't want to get.
 
Davey Wavey on Good Tops
 
Davey Wavey, youtube star, has weighed in on this issue in a less clinical sense. But the first thing he gets into is something I've seen even in clinical articles: the best tops have also been bottoms and they know how things work, so to speak, from personal experience. I'm not sure that's always true, even though it does make sense. There are plenty of good tops out there would never even consider bottoming. But it's a fun video if you take it on surface value.
 
If you can't see the video here, here's the youtube link. If you haven't seen any Davey Wavey videos you'll find more links on other related topics on that page to which I linked.
 

 
 
 
 Small Town Romance Writer

 
by Ryan Field


 


Monday, July 21, 2014

Two and a Half Men Fake Gay; Amazon E-book Service; Visible Penis Lines; Simon Cowell Responds to Gay Rumor

Two and a Half Men Fake Gay

For the 12th season of the long running sitcom, Two and a Half Men, they've come up with an unusual plot that involves faking gay, faking gay marriage, and faking an adoption. I'm really not joking about this, and I'm not even sure if it's considered offensive at this point. The network is claiming this storyline will help show the progress gay people have made in these areas. Some, however, have mixed feelings.

Speaking to reporters at the Television Critics Association’s summer press tour, CBS Entertainment chairman Nina Tassler said Walden realizes that it would be very difficult to adopt a child as a single, straight man.

‘So once and for all he decides, “I’m going to propose to Alan [Jon Cryer] and we’re going to get married and adopt a child as a gay couple.”,’ Tassler said.

Describing it as a ‘great ride’, she said she views the storyline as a ‘very positive statement’ about the waves of gay rights across the US.

She said she does not expect a backlash from the LGBTI community.

Sounds as if there could be a little gay baiting happening here.  But I could be wrong about that.

It's really just the repetition of an age old trope...faking marriage to avoid legalities. Sitcoms are notorious for this...doing illegal things for the sake of a laugh. They always have been. The most common has always been the illegal immigrant marrying for citizenship. This gay angle just adds a new twist that might turn out to be interesting if it's handled with care and they do mention how difficult it still is for LGBTI people to adopt (or marry) in some places. In other words, if they don't Hollywood it up and make it look as if all gays in the US have equality they might be able to pull it off. If they don't handle it well I think there will be backlash.

GLAAD has already made this statement:

We hope the show will acknowledge not only the progress made in acceptance of gay and lesbian couples, but also the fact that - in many areas of the country - same-sex couples are often under greater scrutiny or still barred from adoption options that straight couples have.’

You see what I mean. Listen closely, Hollywood. We're not all equal just yet. In fact, NOM and people like Theresa Santai-Gaffney in Pennsylvania are still trying to challenge gay marriage.

There's more here.

Amazon E-Book Service

I received an e-mail about this last week but didn't have time to post about it so I figured I'd do it now in case anyone's interested. Amazon recently announced a new e-book subscription service where readers can get unlimited books for $10 a month. It's being compared to Netflix and readers can choose from over a half million e-books. Some are blockbuster hits.

The biggest problem seems to be that the big 5 publishers are no shows.

So far, however, none of the five biggest publishers appear to be making their books available through the service.
HarperCollins, Hachette and Simon & Schuster, for example, are not participating, representatives from the three companies confirmed.
 
Penguin Random House and Macmillan declined to comment, but a search on Amazon suggests that they are not making their books available.

Sunday, July 20, 2014

HIV Drops; What's VPL? Johnny Hazzard in Indie Film; Theresa Santai-Gaffney Gay Hate

HIV Drops

In the past decade, according to this source, the number of people diagnosed with HIV has dropped by one third in the US.

The survey was published today, 19 July, by the Journal of the American Medical Association.

The investigation is part of the publication's HIV research report, made public ahead of the start of the International AIDS Conference (held in Melbourne, Australia).

You can read more here. But don't get too excited yet. It also says this:

The analysis did show a troubling trend of an increase in HIV diagnosis among gay and bisexual men.

But it's interesting to note they offer no clear reasons for the decline, which is and always has been an issue with anything HIV related. I remember when someone I knew was fighting AIDS and the doctors had to go by the limited case studies available to support that patient through IRIS. They weren't sure whether to take the aggressive or conservative approach.

What's VPL ?

Here's another one those horrible trendy things that will leave you LOL, OMG, and NSFW. It's VPL...visible penis line. I had no idea this existed until I read about it on a comment thread last week. I used to think this was just called bulge, but there's a difference.

From Urban Dictionary:

visible penis line, usually through tight jeans or a swimsuit, most commonly a Speedo.
It's interesting how many fifties actors have VPL's in their publicity pics.
Johnny Hazzard in Indie Film
I've posted on this topic several times...porn stars trying to break into mainstream movies, or in this case indie films that aren't considered adult entertainment. It rarely ever works. That's not my opinion. It's just an observation that could be backed up with examples. This time it's Johnny Hazzard starring in the indie film, Tiger Orange, and using the name, Frankie Valenti. I've posted about him before. (It's confusing, though. I think that previous post I did is talking about the same movie, but I'm honestly not certain. Maybe they changed the name.)
While porn stars have generally been maligned for their lack of real acting chops, Hazzard has enjoyed solid reviews for his performance about two estranged gay brothers who struggle to reconnect after the recent death of their father.

'There's no one else in my field who has done anything like this,' Hazzard tells Gay Star News. 'This was my chance to break through and show 'em what I got.'

That's not a totally accurate statement. Other's have tried to make the transition. Porn star James Deen has already done this with The Canyons. A dismal film written by 80's wonder, Bret Easton Ellis. It does, however, have male full frontal nudity.

You can read more here. I have nothing against adult entertainers or the industry. I don't even like to use the word porn because no one's been able to define it yet. I'm just not sure a transition like this can be made. Once you do adult entertainment it's hard to break into anything considered mainstream, even an indie. They like to pigeonhole you, so to speak.  

Theresa Santai-Gaffney Gay Hate

Even though PA County Clerk, the now infamous Anita Bryant of Pennsylvania, Theresa Santai-Gaffney, has failed in each attempt to halt same sex marriage in Pennsylvania, her quest continues and this time she's asked for an "en blanc" hearing. This means that instead of just three judges in the third circuit court considering her appeal she wants all fourteen.

So far, each previous attempt has failed:

Earlier this month, U.S. Supreme Court Justice Samuel Alito rejected Santai-Gaffney’s motion to stop same-sex marriages in the state while she tries to get standing in a legal case to stop them permanently.
On July 3, a three judge panel of the 3rd Circuit Court rejected Santai-Gaffney bid to gain standing in the case, affirming the District Court’s ruling that “if the highest elected official in the commonwealth chooses to abide by our decision, it defies credulity that we would permit a single citizen to stand in for him to perfect an appeal.”

This is interesting, too.

Santai-Gaffney is represented by the group Alliance Defending Freedom, which has been involved in pressing a number of lawsuits nationwide opposing marriage equality, and whose attorneys frequently testify in court challenges and state legislatures against LGBT rights.

Why is this interesting? Santai-Gaffney's attorney, Randy Wenger, is doing this pro bono, supposedly. Santai-Gaffney and Wenger can both be indirectly to NOM, the National Organization for Marriage. I've posted about how NOM works here several times.

You can read more here. If you do a simple search with the name, Theresa Santai-Gaffney, you'll find more than a few online forums that discuss her other questionable dealings, some of which include alleged nepotism that involve a poorly reviewed attorney son-in-law, Hank Clarke, and online sockpuppetry that rivals some of the best shitstorms we've all seen on Goodreads.

Small Town Romance Writer

by Ryan Field




Saturday, July 19, 2014

Mario Gotze's Wood; Gay Pride History; Andrew Rannells' Hedwig; Simon Cowell Gay?

Mario Gotze's Wood

This might not be the most enlightening story on the Internet today, but it's Saturday, it's summer, and I don't teach classes on the social and political uses of technology; I try to keep things at least a little interesting. And when I spotted this story about soccer star, Mario Gotze, showing photos of his "boner" online I thought it would be different to share. I think this is safe for work, too. But don't quote me.

Before he became famous for scoring the game winning goal for Germany at the World Cup, soccer star, Mario Götze was apparently for popping a boner on a boat with a lady friend!

You can read more here.

And here's a link to the actual "boner" photo.

The comments at the first link are the kind you might imagine...these people aren't interested in social and political uses of technology either. And, there's another link to more photos in the comment section. I didn't check that one out, though. You never know where a link like that might lead you. Beware.

Gay Pride History

I know I've posted a great deal about gay pride this month...and over the years. But I think this article about the history behind gay pride gathers a lot of good information and pulls it all together in a simple way. It also talks about the film version of the 90's stage play, Burning Blue, which I reviewed and posted about here. I had mixed feelings about the film, but I did like the subject matter and the historical angle. In spite of the flaws, it's worth viewing.

Burning Blue
DMW Greer’s acclaimed ’90s play finally gets the big-screen treatment, with a limited theatrical release (and Video On-Demand option) available this June. Of course when the work debuted on the London stage in 1995, the world—and particularly the American military, as the subject at hand—was in a very different place. The discriminatory “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” policy was alive and doing unfortunately well then, forcing dedicated members of the U.S. armed forces out of service because of their sexual orientation. The film follows the same timeline and plot as the original work, examining a close-knit squadron of Navy pilots who fall under investigation after a series of accidents.


There's more here. It's far from the most comprehensive piece about gay pride. But if you know nothing about gay pride at least take the time to read this.

Andrew Rannells' Hedwig

Rannells is taking over for Neil Patrick Harris in Hedwig and the Angry Inch and the first image of him portraying a trans punk rocker has been released. He will take over on August 20th and many are saying that filling in for Harris will be a proverbial tough act to follow.

Following the Tony Award wins, producers have decided to keep the show running through October. To do so, the had to choose a new star since Harris would be ending his run in August and did not plan to extend it.

It's not something I'd typically run to see, but I feel that way about most B'way shows. In the same respect it does look interesting. I have no doubt Rannells will be perfect for this part. Just look at the photo with the link below and you'll see what I mean.

There's more here.

Simon Cowell Gay?

The reason why I dropped this part of the post to the bottom is because it just sounds too ridiculous to be true. And if by any chance it is true, it's too sad to even think about. There's a trial going on with Tulisa Contostavlos, who judged on The X Factor UK from 2011 to 2012, that has something to do with drugs and other seedy garbage of the rich and disgusting chickenfuckers of the world. In short, there have been some serious accusations made about Simon Cowell's sexuality.

Ugh.

Simon Cowell is gay, according to a recording played of a phone conversation in court today (17 July).

The American Idol and X Factor judge has allegedly slept with several men. In the public eye, the 54-year-old music mogul has had several girlfriends and  recently became a father for the first time.

There's more here. But I find it all hard to believe. One of the main reasons why I stopped watching American Idol here in the US was because of Cowell's constant jokes about gays with Ryan Seacrest. I gagged one night and that was the end of AI and Simon Cowell for me.

Actually, this one time, I'm hoping that Cowell isn't gay. We can live without him.


Small Town Romance Writer

 
by Ryan Field

Friday, July 18, 2014

Anderson Cooper: Andy Cohen Tops; Aussie Micro Penis; Biggest Visible Penis Line (VPL)

Anderson Cooper: Andy Cohen Tops

In a recent interview Anderson Cooper revealed, in a way, that Andy Cohen is a top, not a bottom.

Anderson: I know a lot of secrets about Andy, but I guess the one that would surprise people the most is that he’s a top.

Andy: Why, you think people think I’m a bottom?

Kelly: I don’t.

Anderson: Believe me, there’s nothing wrong with that, but I’m just saying, I think that would surprise people — I don’t know this from personal experience, but from conversations you and I have had.

I don't know if that's also a revelation from Cooper that he's a bottom, but a person could read between the lines.

Why is this significant and why should we care? Well, it's not and we shouldn't. I just thought it was interesting to see this discussed on TV in such a casual manner. I don't think I've seen it before.

You can read more here and watch a video.

Kelly's expression is priceless, and she also mentions there might be people at home who don't know what that means.

She's right.

As always, the comment thread is very amusing. Most don't believe it. They think Cohen is lying like most bottoms tend to do. I tend to agree.

And just like every "top" on Grindr, Lies.   All lies.  

Ha!

Aussie Micro Penis

There's a guy from Australia with a "micro" penis who wants to mortgage his home to get a bigger one. First, I didn't know there was such a thing as a "micro" penis and what I'm imagining is interesting. Second, I didn't know they could make them bigger.

“My penis is basically infant-sized,” "Mike" told ninemsn. “Pre-surgery, I was two to three centimeters (1 inch) flaccid and I’m now four centimeters (1.5 inches). My erection is probably around seven centimeters (2.75 inches).”

“It has prevented me from doing or experiencing a lot of things. I haven’t experienced proper relationships. I found it difficult to talk to girls. I didn’t lose my virginity until I was 24 when I had a girlfriend for three months." 

Because of this he suffers from depressive disorders, and he would gladly trade a few IQ points to gain a few more inches.

You can read about that here. There's a photo of him and he has a great body.

Frankly, I'm not sure why he just didn't go to kickstarter for a bigger dick. He might even get a new house while he's at it.

Biggest Visible Penis Line (VPL)

For a guy with the exact opposite problem, the penis issue continues. This time it's about a guy with such a big one it actually moves when he walks. He's wearing skinny jeans so he's obviously not trying to hide it. I shared a video of this on social media earlier this week but for those who haven't seen it I thought it was worth posting about.

21-year-old Jamie's massive bulge was the breaking news during BBC's report on immigration!

Check out the Vine clip:

You can watch the video of the big one here. I'll bet you can't just watch it once.

I learned something new, too, in the comment thread. It's very educational.

That is not a bulge. It's a VPL - Visable Penis Line.

 A bulge is when there is a visible portion of tension in clothing at the crotch, caused by the dick and balls.

A VPL is only the outline of the penis through clothing, typically down the leg or across the hip, indicating length, shape, and/or size of the penis; this may include an outline of the head of this penis, but not always.

There you are.

Small Town Romance Writer

 
by Ryan Field

 
 


FREE GAY Excerpt; Courage: Michael Sam; RIP Elaine Stritch; Gay Pride Commentary; "Supernatural" Queer Baiting

Courage: Michael Sam

Michael Sam received the Arthur Ashe award recently, and when he made his speech emotions grew so intense people actually cried. I think his comments reflect more than just one emotion, and I also think so many can identify with his struggles in life. The magnitude of it all hits hard at times.

 “To anyone out there, especially young people feeling like they don’t fit in, or that they'd never be accepted, remember this: Great things can happen when you have the courage to be yourself,” Sam said Wednesday night.

You can read the rest here.

I still find it almost overwhelming to think that so much has changed so fast. And yet at the same time it's taken years of hard work to reach a point where men like openly gay Michael Sam can stand up and make a speech like this.

I hope no one ever takes this for granted.

RIP Elaine Stritch

Admittedly, I know very little about Elaine Stritch. But I do know she's a huge icon within the LGBTI community and many are now mourning her passing. I did once watch a documentary about her, and her personal struggles in life, and I did gain a new respect for all she went through in one lifetime. I find it ironic she dated Rock Hudson.

Stritch had many LGBT admirers and always returned the love, and she had gay connections too numerous to list — to name just a few, she’s one of the greatest interpreters of the work of Noël Coward, who built the musical Sail Away around her character, and Stephen Sondheim, who gave her the song that became her signature, "The Ladies Who Lunch," in Company. In addition to her stage work, she had a significant TV and movie career. On TV, she famously played Alec Baldwin's domineering mother in 30 Rock, and her films included A Farewell to Arms, starring Rock Hudson, whom she even dated.

You can rad more here.

Gay Pride Commentary

Here's a commentary that seems to be focused on where the "gay" in "gay pride" went. I hadn't even noticed this has been happening. On a subconscious level I don't even say gay pride anymore. I just say pride and don't even realize I'm doing it.

Notice what word is absent in all of them. We have said goodbye to "gay."

LGBT people decided that they "wanted to show American they were 'regular' people," to echo a story in the The New York Times —"the kind that live next door."

It's a very interesting commentary, and also very long. However, I think it represents many sentiments that echo the thoughts and worries a lot of gay men have right now. Just today alone a young writer from a Philadelphia publication posted something on social media about how he's tired of people saying we don't need to use the word "gay" anymore when talking about an entertainer or public figure. And I tend to agree with him on that. By not using the word "gay" we're still promoting the shame we've all been working so hard to get rid of. And there's no shame at all in being gay. None.

The difference is subtle but far from trivial. Calling a neighborhood "diverse," saying that we're "the neighbors next door," and uttering the phrase "Pride Parade" — all of these are rhetorical moves that detach the neighborhood, neighbor, and parade from any particular community. We are no longer primed to think about sexual orientation at all.

I think this way of thinking and speaking is dangerous.

I actually agree with most of this article. And while I don't take offense when I hear people say they can't wait until we're living in a society where no one needs a label anymore, I also know those people don't fully understand because they've never experienced that brand of discrimination. It sound's good on the surface, but underneath it's just another way to promote shame. I cringe a little inside because that's not only taking away a good part of my own identity as a gay men it's also suggesting there is something wrong with being called gay.

You can read it in full here.

"Supernatural" Queer Baiting

I've been seeing a lot of this lately...or at least what seems to be queer baiting. First, queer baiting is when the media (in this case a TV show) suggests there's going to be a gay relationship at one point and never actually shows a gay relationship. They do this, supposedly, to attract gay viewers. I've seen it so far on True Blood and Big Brother 16. And now they're saying the TV show "Supernatural" is doing it, too.

Here's one tweet from a fan:

how do you feel about the fact that your show is the first result on google when you google queerbaiting?

I checked that, too. On my computer it came up as the second result, right beneath the urban dictionary definition I linked to above.

I don't watch the show so I can't comment. But I have seen this before and I will say that it backfires eventually.  There's more here. James Franco does a lot of queer baiting. I used to like him. Not so much anymore.

FREE GAY Excerpt:

No, this is not queer baiting when I use this as the title of a blog post. I'm writing gay fiction and I'm delivering it. I'm not just fucking around and pretending I'm producing gay material to get attention.

This is an excerpt, in raw unedited form, from my newest book, Small Town Romance Writer. Please keep in mind the novel is 113,000 words long and it covers a twenty year span so some technical things had to be written as they were in the 1990's. You really did need to key in a pass code to retrieve voice mail from a cell phone back then.


Travis planned to move into Scottie’s apartment in Providence that January until they made the big move to Iowa that coming summer. Scottie’s landlord agreed to allow Travis to move in, even though he hated renting to more than two people at a time. But when the old guy saw how much they loved each other he said it reminded him of when he’d met his husband many years earlier and he agreed to make an exception. But more than that, he refused to take more money each month and he offered the use of a small office in the garage so Travis would have a place to work. Mike didn’t mind Travis moving in for six months. He thought it would be cool to have Travis around for a while. He claimed no one he’d ever met sucked dick better. Mike was a sweet guy and Travis took it as a compliment. He had a feeling Mike’s IQ was in the double digits.

            Because Travis had been living in Scottie’s apartment on weekends for so long, the move wasn’t much of a shock to him. He only brought his clothes and the things he needed for work. The only real shock Travis experienced when he first moved into Scottie’s apartment happened on a Wednesday night. He would never forget it as long as he lived. He was sitting between Mike and Scottie on the sofa watching a late night talk show on TV. Mike had returned an hour earlier from a basketball game and he’d been horny, so Travis blew Mike and Scottie in the living room during the eleven o’clock news and they all sat back to relax for a while before they went to bed.

            By that time, they’d removed the nightstand that separated the twin beds and they’d pushed the twin beds together to create one huge bed they all shared. Travis often went to sleep with Mike on top of him, but he always woke up in Scottie’s arms. It was the oddest thing. It was as if they were magnetically connected and didn’t even know it. At some point in the middle of the night when they were all sleeping Mike would turn over on his side to sleep alone, and Travis and Scottie would wind up in each other’s arms.

            That night on the sofa Travis was naked and he was leaning back against Scottie’s chest and Scottie had his arms around him. Mike was still wearing his basketball shirt and shoes, but he’d thrown his basketball shorts on the coffee table and his jock strap was hanging on the left side of the TV. When a TV commercial came on Travis started to daydream about leaving the small apartment in Providence and moving to Iowa again. Even though he didn’t have an emotional investment in Mike, he would miss him and he would miss the time they spent in that small apartment all the same. It always smelled like a combination of men and sex. But while Travis was staring at Mike’s jock strap on the corner of the TV, and Scottie was rubbing Travis’s chest muscles, the commercial ended, the talk show resumed, and the host of the show said, “Please welcome up and coming gay romance author, Ethan Holmes.”

            Travis sat up and hunted for the remote control beneath Mike’s basketballs shorts on the coffee table.

            “What’s wrong?” Scottie asked. He spread his legs and adjusted his balls. He was naked from the waist down, too. He’d been dozing off and he’d missed the introduction.

            “I think that’s Ethan,” Travis said. “On TV.” He’d been speaking regularly to Ethan and Lance on the phone, but he’d been putting off a visit and he hadn’t been concentrating on them as much because of Scottie. And he knew Ethan was on some kind of a book promotion tour. Ethan couldn’t wait to boast about the way everyone was treating him.

            Then Ethan walked onto the stage, hugged the talk show host, and sat down in a chair opposite the desk and smiled at the audience. They applauded for him as if he’d won the Nobel Peace Prize and they didn’t even know who he was, which Travis found mildly amusing.  

            “Did he tell you he was going to be on TV?” Scottie asked. “That’s odd.”

            “No,” Travis said, and then he remembered he hadn’t checked his voice mail in a few days. Scottie had talked him into getting a cell phone after he’d rented out his apartment and turned off his land line in Provincetown and Travis was just getting used to the cell phone. He hated the fact that you had to remember so many numbers in order to listen to messages, and he missed his old answering machine where all he’d had to do was push a button to get his messages. All these technical things that were supposed to make his life easier kept making it more complicated.

            While they watched the interview and listened to Ethan talk about his new gay romance with that hideous book title the publisher wanted to use, Travis went to get his phone and he called Ethan out in Los Angeles. He knew the talk show had been taped earlier that evening and he figured Ethan would be home waiting to see it on TV when it aired on the west coast.

            When Ethan picked up, he said, “Where the hell have you been? Why didn’t you return any of my messages? You’re really starting to piss me off.”

            “I keep forgetting the number to dial to get my messages,” Travis said. “I’m watching you on TV right now. Why didn’t you tell me you were going to be on TV? You could have e-mailed me, or you could have called Scottie.”

            “I left you ten messages about it, and I wanted to talk to you, not Scottie,” Ethan said. “And since when did you start checking e-mails?”
            “I check my e-mails daily,” Travis said. “It’s the first thing I do before I start working every morning.”

            “Oh, that’s rich,” Ethan said. “Weren’t you the one who swore you’d never have e-mail and that you’d always work on that rusty old typewriter?”

            Travis sent Scottie a smiled on the sofa. “Things change. I’m in love.”

            “How do I look on TV?” Ethan said. “I’ve never been so fucking nervous in my life. I’ll bet I sound awful.”

            From what Travis could see, Ethan was charming the host and the live audience. Everything that came out of his mouth incited a reaction that seemed positive with the audience. And in his black suit and white shirt, he’d never looked better. “You’re wonderful,” Travis said. “They love you. But how the hell did you get on TV?” The last author Travis had seen on TV was Jackie Collins. Most writers don’t get TV gigs, especially those who wrote gay fiction of any kind. He remembered reading that Truman Capote used to be on a lot of talk shows, but that was mostly because he was so flamboyant and out of this realm.

            “Lance knows somebody who pulled a few strings,” Ethan said. “A scheduled guest cancelled at the last minute and they called me. I only had a few hours to prepare. I was lucky Jacques on Rodeo Drive could fit me in between his regular customers. I told him I would literally die if he refused to take me. Could you even imagine going on TV without having a professional stylist?”

            Travis rolled his eyes. “God forbid.”

            Ethan ignored his sarcasm. “How is the audience reacting to what I’m saying about the book?”
            “I’m not sure,” Travis said. “They just cut to another commercial. But everyone was applauding. They sounded happy.” His mixed emotions came rushing back, and he felt a pinch of jealousy once again. He knew when an author got an opportunity like this books would start selling fast, especially a trashy gay romance with thinly veiled Hollywood actors as characters in a western. In the same respect, he was thrilled for Ethan and he did wish him well.

            “I have to go,” Ethan said. “That’s it. I only had that one small segment on the show. We’re having a few people over to watch the show when it airs out here in a few hours. I’ll call you later tonight when it’s over.”

            Though Travis knew it would be the middle of the night in Providence by the time he called, he nodded and said, “I’ll take my phone to bed with me.”

            When he closed the phone and set it on the small dinette table, he returned to the living room and found Scottie and Mike with their legs open, stroking their erections. He shook his head and climbed over the coffee table. Travis sat on Mike’s lap first and said, “I’m starting to feel like a plastic blow-up doll, like I’m only good for one thing around here.”