Monday, October 12, 2015

New Release: The Rainbow Detective Agency; The Wedding; Bus Driver Slams Kids with Gay Dads; "Divine" Had a Chainsaw; Do Gay Men Worry Too Much About Aging?

Bus Driver Slams Kids with Gay Dads

This is why Tony and I choose to live in New Hope, PA, because it is, and has been for years, a gay enclave on the East Coast. It's like Provincetown, or WeHo, with a huge concentration of LGBT people and very progressive mainstream people.

Not everyone makes the same choices, and I give those people credit for being brave enough to endure small town mainstream USA. Unfortunately, they have to deal with some serious discrimination. Some school bus driver wielding a bible thought it was her duty to let the child of two gays dads know how she feels about that.

From the dad's POV...

Just this week our 15-year-old son’s bus driver was listening to her “Christian” radio station while driving the school bus, giving him religious propaganda — in the form of a comic book — with Jesus as Superman and the rest of us poor citizens of Gotham living a dark dreary life until we accept the Man of Steel as our Lord and savior.  Why has she taken it upon herself to volunteer this information? He already subscribes to all the teenage angst: attempting to fit in, questioning his parents’ beliefs and doubting his self confidence. As my son listened to the religious Sermon on the Mount…or rather the Sermon on the Bus, he discussed with the driver that he had two fathers. She imparted her wisdom unto him; she doesn’t have a problem with homosexuals, but “they are not blessed, and they will go to hell.”

And there you have it. 

You can read the rest here. It's a painful story, but filled with insight, about what it's like to be living in the heart of the mainstream if you're considered a "gay" family. And, this happened in New Jersey, not somewhere in the deep south. It can happen anywhere.  

"Divine" Had a Chainsaw

I remember the first time I learned about "Divine." I was in high school and didn't know much about the gay community or culture. At the time, I had no idea how important Divine was to gay culture or the impact she would continue to have so many years later.

Here's John Waters on Divine...

I think he changed drag queens forever. RuPaul’s show wouldn’t be there. RuPaul started a long time ago, I’ve got to give him some credit, and RuPaul also has a great look out of drag, something that Divine struggled with. Except towards the end, when he wore men’s suits and looked like a very handsome, distinguished man…His legacy was that he made all drag queens cool. They were square then, they wanted to be Miss America and be their mothers. Divine frightened drag queens because he would show up with a chainsaw and [makeup artist] Van Smith would put fake scars on his face, wearing mini skirts when you’re 300 pounds. He broke every rule. And now every drag queen, every one that’s successful today is cutting edge.”

You can check this out here. 

Do Gay Men Worry Too Much About Aging?

Hell yes. I do. I haven't had a carb since last May. I eat salad at least two nights a week. I haven't had pizza, donuts, or ice cream in over a year. I run four miles every morning, plus work out. I will, indeed, have cosmetic surgery when the time comes. (I've already had one thing done.) And I'm not too fond of celebrating birthdays anymore. 

Evidently, I'm not the only gay man who feels this way. Here's a quote by John Grant...

This aging thing is quite strange. I don’t want to generalize too much, but gay men worry about aging a lot more than other men, from what I can tell.

Youth is prized above all things — the beauty of youth — and I know a lot of gay men who are very, very obsessed with keeping young.

I don’t understand it in most of their cases. I think older men are super sexy. The ‘beauty of youth’ thing, I totally get that. But by God! I would not want to be where I was in my 20s. I was clueless!”

I had a friend who used to say, "You're young for a short time and old for a very long time." And he was a gay man, too. When he died, he had them make him ten years younger on his tombstone. I swear that's the absolute truth. I never knew his real age until he died. And I once went to a birthday party for a gay friend that his straight sister threw for him. It was a surprise party. But the surprise was on him. He told everyone he was 55, when the huge happy birthday banner hanging at the party read, "Happy 65th Birthday." It was NOT a happy moment for him, but very amusing for the rest of us.

You can read the rest here. 

Side note: I do, however, have a little Dove Chocolate every now and then. It compensates for everything else :)

Rainbow Detective Agency: The Wedding

Here's a link to my new release in the Rainbow Detective Agency. It's a full length novel. I think it runs 62,000 words. The link will lead you to Smashwords. I'll post more links to web sites as I get them. It takes a while. 

Sunday, October 11, 2015

Danny Pintauro's BDSM Sex and HIV; Majority Of Gay Men Didn't Use Condoms?; One Million Moms And Campbells Soup

Danny Pintauro's BDSM Sex and HIV

Openly gay, Danny Pintauro, has been vocal lately about his addiction to meth and being HIV positive. This is interesting because he claims he contracted HIV through oral sex, not anal.

Pintauro, who revealed he believes he contracted HIV through oral sex 12 years ago, explained he was first introduced to meth during a BDSM sex session with a stranger.

“So here I am wanting to explore bondage, wanting to explore rougher things, wanting to explore, sort of, being dominated,” he recalled. “And the person that I find, who I think is just gorgeous and, oh my god, it’s, like, perfect. … This guy wants to hang out with me? How can I turn him down?”

Actually, for any young gay men reading this who are curious about exploring their sexuality, you can turn people down if it's not safe sex. You can say no. I've done that many times. Speaking from a different POV, I know it is possible, though frustrating at times, to turn someone down...even if he is gorgeous and like OMG perfect. You have that power.

You can read the rest here.

Majority Of Gay Men Didn't Use Condoms

This is kind of conflicting because I think many of us just assume that everyone...not just gay using a condom IF they are having sex with people they can't be sure about. There are many STDs out there, and to risk getting any one of them makes me wonder. But still, I have to wonder where this article is going because it's talking about married gay men and gay men in long term relationships, too...and I'm not sure why.

The study found that 72 percent of respondents said they didn’t use condoms the last time they had anal sex. Of that 72 percent, 32 percent said they didn’t use a condom the last time they topped, compared the 37 percent who said they didn’t use a condom the last time they bottomed.

50 percent of the men engaging in unprotected anal sex said they did so with either a long-term boyfriend or their husband or civil partner. 20 percent said they did so with a person they were either dating or with whom they had sex on a regular basis.

You can read the rest here. I don't know how accurate this really is. And there are obviously a few variables. If you are married or with a long term boyfriend and you're monogamous you don't need condoms. We're just like straight married couples in that respect.

And as someone in the comments pointed out, how many are doing PrEP?

One Million Moms and Campbell's Soup

One Million Moms, the anti-gay conservative group that's always been against same sex marriage, has been going after Campbell's Soup for featuring a family with two gay dads.

Here's part of it...

 “It starts off with the first man feeding soup to the little boy and in a ‘Star Wars’ Darth Vader voice says, ‘Luke, I am your father.’ Then the other man enters the scene and says, ‘No, Luke, I am your father.’ How confusing for this little boy and for all children viewing this commercial.”

You can read the rest here. 

There's no comment needed here.

Friday, October 9, 2015

More Glendale E-Pub; Viral Gay Kiss Leads to Marriage; How Hillary Clinton "Evolved" on Gay Marriage

More Glendale E-Pub

After I posted about starting up Glendale E-pub Services, I received more than a few e-mails with questions about just what the service offers.

Here's one response I sent to someone who e-mailed me, an author I've been corresponding with for quite a while. His e-publisher is shuttering in a few months he's looking into what it might take to indie publish his books when he gets the rights back. This was something that happened to me, and it's happening to a lot of other authors right now.

Please take into consideration that nothing about this is written in stone. The whole concept behind this service is to work with each individual author, at affordable fees, so they can publish their own work and retain their own rights. 

Glendale e-pub is more like a service where authors can publish than an actual publishing house. In other words, authors retain their own rights and control their own royalty payments, in full. Glendale works in partnership with the author to help the author get the book published either on Amazon or as many venues as they can.
There are flat fees that are affordable and each author gets what works best for them. Everyone is different and some people prefer to only publish on Amazon. Others prefer to distribute widely. The most important thing is that the author gets complete control of his/her own work and Glendale manages that for them in the initial stages.
The reason we started Glendale is because I've seen so many "services" that promise the world, charge far too much, and basically rip authors off. I've done a lot of indie publishing myself in the past four years and I've learned everything through trial and error. Glendale is an alternative for new authors, authors who have lost their publishers for whatever reason, or authors with back list books who want them published again. Every author is an individual.
Most of all, Glendale welcomes all authors of all genres. It's not like querying and there is no bias. It's more of a first come first serve basis. We don't like to rush things and we don't judge anyone's content. We believe the readers can do that. It's not our job to do that :) 
If you have questions you can submit them through the web site here, or e-mail me with "Glendale E-publishing Services" in the subject line, here...
Viral Gay Kiss Leads to Marriage
A few years ago a gay kiss with a marine went viral,  and these two guys recently got married. I remember thinking, at the time, what a novelty it was to see something like this go viral.

Marine Sergeant Brandon Morgan tied the knot with Dalan Wells last week — a milestone they couldn’t have imagined just a few years ago.
 In 2012, just four months after the repeal of Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell went into effect, Morgan and Wells became a viral sensation and symbol of a new era when a photo of the two embracing made the rounds.

You can check this out here, with photos. When you see the photo that went viral I'm sure most of you will remember it. I think it surfaced on Facebook for weeks because people couldn't get enough of it. It's nice to see a RL happy ending for a change. 

How Hillary Clinton "Evolved" On Gay Marriage

I remember this one, too. There was an article out a few years ago about how Chelsea Clinton helped Hillary Clinton "evolve" on gay marriage. I can't find it, but I do remember reading it somewhere. At the time, I rolled my eyes. 

You see, this really bothers me. The world "evolve." So you're telling me that you had to come to the conclusion that I deserved the same equal rights you have had all your life? It was that hard for you to do? And you're not even hesitating when you say this?

The former (and possibly future) first child sat down with Ellen, and wouldn’t you know it, Hillary’s much-discussed stance on gay rights came up. Chelsea told Ellen that she “absolutely” pushed her mom to support gay marriage.

She had to PUSH her? 

“When I got married in 2010 to my best friend it just crystallized so fundamentally to me that everyone should be allowed to marry their best friend,” Clinton said. “And so I joined the equal marriage fight in New York and we got equal marriage in New York in 2011.”

Sometimes I think it's better not to say anything at all. This is one of those times.

As usual, I read the comments with this link after I wrote the post. I'm always curious about whether or not I'm the only one who feels a certain way. Most seem to feel the same way I do on this one. 

To be fair, Hillary and Chelsea Clinton are not the only people coming from places of privilege who have made statements about "evolving." Others have done it, too, and I think someone should tell them. 
No matter how you look at this, it's a form of passive aggressive homophobia. 

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Talking About Men's Underwear; Lance Bass Inappropriately Touched By A Man; Madonna and Tea with the Pope

Talking About Men's Underwear

Sometimes I'm amazed at people who don't get irony, sarcasm, or just basic humor on social media. I see it happen to other people all the time, especially on Facebook and Twitter. Sometimes it happens to me as well. I really don't get THAT. Even if the joke's not funny and the proverbial mic is dropped, you should still know it's a joke. You aren't required to laugh. You are only required to move on to something else, without comment. There's no need for a flamewar :)

But I digress, here's something that isn't supposed to be taken seriously. It's about underwear. Men's underwear. And the guy who did it is adorable.

The youtube link is here for more information.  

Lance Bass Inappropriately Touched By A Man 

Allegedly, he was touched in the wrong place by the wrong person when he was a teenager.

“When I was 16, 17,” Bass said on his Sirius XM radio show Dirty Pop, “someone we worked with definitely was touching me inappropriately.”

He continued, “I even knew at 16 and 17 that, you know, this isn’t right. No man should be, like, touching a teenager like this.”

No comment. I get into enough trouble calling bullshit as it is. I'm sitting this one out, so to speak.

You can read the rest here.

He claims he was not molested...just touched by a man.

Madonna and Tea with the Pope

I don't think Madonna is talking about going to Sunday afternoon tea dance with the Pope.

I think she really means she wants to have tea with him and talk quietly. It sounds sincere. I'm not joking around about this either. Over the years I've seen and heard a lot of things Madonna took heat for that weren't always right.

I have a long relationship with the Pope, with the Vatican, with the Catholic Church, with my excommunication. Anyway, you know, I was raised a Catholic, and no matter what spiritual path I might go down, I always feel some kind of inexplicable connection with Catholicism. It kind of shows up in all of my work, as you may have noticed…

I’ll state the obvious and say that he seems like he’s a much more open-minded individual, who seems to be moving outside of the dogma of the Catholic Church that has been set in stone since the days of Constantine. So I think it’s good.

There's more here.

This time I actually agree with Madonna. I, too, was raised a Catholic and there's something about that you can't dismiss, even when you become estranged from the Church for the most obvious reasons...divorce, being gay and married. A lot of the comments don't get this, but I think you have to have been raised Catholic to really understand.

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Thursday, October 8, 2015

Trevor Donovan Beach Photoshoot and The Man Who Wasn't; Justin Bieber Nude Shots; Thanks To Readers Abroad; Dad and Son Princess Costumes;

Trevor Donovan Beach Photoshoot and The Man Who Wasn't

This is all connected to the previous post I did about author Thomas Caplan's book, The Man Who Wasn't, going to film.  I believe the book will be a series, too. Caplan is a seasoned author with endorsements from the likes of President Clinton. Trevor Donovan is well known everywhere, and in the m/m romance community.

Trevor Donovan shows off his ripped physique while going shirtless at the beach in Malibu for this super sexy new photo shoot, provided exclusively to!

The 36-year-old actor stripped down for his role as Ty Hunter in the upcoming television series The Man Who Wasn’t, based on the book of the same name by Thomas Caplan.

The story follows “movie star Ty Hunter, an A-list idol whose past as a covert operative leads to his recruitment by the President of the United States to stop the trafficking of illicit nuclear weapons, re-igniting a clandestine career where Hunter’s fame becomes his cover,” according to Deadline.

Here's a link to more, where you can check out the beach photos. You'll like them.

The most recent project Donovan did was Love Finds You In Amish romance that was also a book adapted to film. It's very HEA and I think m/m romance readers would like it. Although Donovan is straight, he's very well known for playing the character, Teddy Montgomery, in Beverly Hills 90210.

Donovan also wrote and performed the theme song for that film. It's really very good.

Justin Bieber Full Frontal Nude Shots

It seems poor Justin Bieber had a few full frontal nude shots taken. He was "caught."  Here's a link to view the photos that haven't been censored yet. Warning, NSFW. I'm not sure how long they'll last.

Here's a link where you can view the SFW photos...

We could write some clever text up here about the Biebs, his tattoos or how jealous we are that while we’re feeling the first blusters of fall weather he’s on a beach in Bora Bora, but let’s be honest. You came here for the photos. 

The comments are amusing, especially the ones that get a little snarky.

And here's a link with the NSFW pics on Twitter.

Thanks To Readers Abroad

This is just a big thank you to readers from outside the US, everywhere. I haven't posted anything like this in a while and I'm long overdue.

I really do appreciate it.

I appreciate your comments and e-mails, too.

Thanks for connecting on social media like Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook.

I've learned a lot from you guys...more than you'll know.

So, thank you. I never take you for granted.


Dad and Son Princess Costumes

A three year old and his dad are going to be Princesses for Halloween and it's one of the best stories I've read all month.

Caiden’s dad, Paul, recently posted this picture of his son dressed as Elsa from the movie Frozen to Facebook, along with the following caption:

“Anyone that knows us, knows we generally let Caiden make his own choices, to an extent. Well, he has decided on a Halloween costume. He wants to be Elsa. He also wants me to be Anna. Game on.”

You can read the rest here, with photos. For a change, the comments are mostly positive.

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Wednesday, October 7, 2015

Alleged Gay Penn State University Gay Beating; Gay Republican Running For Congress Again; Gay Dude Kicked Out of Disneyland

Alleged Gay Penn State University Gay Beating

For those who don't recall, Penn State is probably most recently remembered as the university connected to a big child sex abuse scandal. Here's a wiki page where you can read more about that.

Now this allegedly happened:

A 19 year old visiting Pennsylvania State University over the weekend says he told a guy outside a fraternity house that he is gay and then got beaten up.

John Mateer, who attends Queen College, posted photos on Twitter of what appears to be a bruised and bloody face and a bloody hand.

The tweet accompanying the photos read: ‘Don’t let a frat guy know that you’re gay.’
The tweet was shared more than 13,000 times.

Mateer had also tweeted: ‘Got the living sh-t kicked out of me. The brother admitted that he hated gays. Proceeded to kick the sh-t out of me.’

You can check that out in depth here. 

I emphasize the word alleged because I'm curious to see what comes out of this. 

Gay Republican Running For Congress Again

No matter how many times I post about gay Republicans I always find it amazing that so many don't understand that...or that they expect all gay people to vote, think, and react the same way. I've heard the argument from other people that this mind set in itself is a form of passive aggressive homophobia and it promotes the stereotype that all gay men are liberal Democrats. I honestly don't know that much about it, but I do think it's something to watch. 

Paul Babeu, the sheriff in Arizona’s Pinal County, is running for a seat in the US House of Representatives again – this time as an openly gay man.
Babeu was outed by an ex-boyfriend during his first bid for a congressional seat in 2012 and eventually dropped out.

‘It’s time to bring that fight directly to Washington,’ Babeu said this week in announcing his bid to represent Arizona’s 1st District. ‘People don’t want to send the same politicians to Washington to get the same failed policies. … They want to send politicians they can trust with change.’

As a gay independent voter who can sway either far left or right at times, I don't think this is a matter of politics as much as it is tolerance. I think it's a matter of not discriminating against someone who is different or shares a different POV.  The rest is here.  

Gay Dude Kicked Out Of Disney

A gay guy in short shorts was asked to leave Disneyland unless he put on his pants. There's a photo of him with the link below. He seems so proud of himself, standing there in his Mickey Mouse hat.

Because he's a real rebel.

The unofficial event is when thousands of LGBTI patrons visit the park with their families and identify themselves by either wearing red or a football jersey.

Gil├ęt didn’t have a red T-shirt, so he put on a red and white jersey that covered up by shorts.
‘I was certainly wearing more than Ariel,’ he said on his website.

‘Within a few minutes of being inside the park, a member of staff chased us down, before asking “do you have anything on under that top?”

‘So I told her yes, and showed her the shorts I had on underneath. To which she replied, “OK… Because it gives the impression that you have nothing on underneath. Do you have a change of outfit, because if not, security may remove you from the park.”

She added that: ‘It’s just that it’s a family park’.

As I said, there's a photo of him, here.

I can't speculate on this one because I have this feeling we're not getting all the facts. However, if I were to only go by that photo of him wearing that ridiculous outfit, we couldn't be friends.

There's a time and place for everything.

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Tuesday, October 6, 2015

Roman Catholic Synod and Gay Priest; Comments on "Gay For Pay;" ISIS Kills More Gay Men

Roman Catholic Synod and Gay Priest

A Roman Catholic synod is a group or council of the Church that is created to help provide a solution for some kind of law or doctrine. They examine/discuss issues of significant importance. That's really a very generalized definition, but I'm trying to make something very complicated short and simple.

In this particular case, Pope Francis put together a synod of about 300 Church leaders and lay people to examine how gays are treated, how unmarried straight couples who live together are treated, and, about receiving communion after divorce.

On the eve the synod was to convene a Roman Catholic priest announced he was in a gay relationship and he was dismissed shortly after that. Church officials as slamming this priest's motives and claiming he put even more pressure on Pope Francis than he already has.

But the synod is only designed to help examine and offer suggestions.

It will be up to the Pope to decide what - if anything - changes, and how the Church applies its teaching to its sometimes errant flock.

The outcome should be interesting and I wouldn't begin to speculate on what it might be at this point in time. I think Pope Francis is an interesting man and I don't mean that in a negative way.  You can read more here. 

Comments On "Gay For Pay"

Since yesterday's post on gay for pay, I noticed there were a lot of comments on the article I linked to so I decided to just focus on the comments for a change.

One person said this:

None of these guys are straight and if people want to claim they are… they think wrong. Just more closet cases and some of which are homophobic.
I’m going by the assumption that even a quarter of these are true… knowing the source. Whisper more like whiny bitches who can’t accept themselves (again assuming if any of these statements are true).

These were probably made by some gay guy with some self hating fantasy.

Another said this...

What a sad life having to rent out your body for a living.
Glamorizing it as “gay-for-pay” doesn’t change the fact that this is prostitution and that guy is a hooker.

And I thought this was interesting...

I’ve been paid for sex by a 60 yo man when i was 19 yo. It was fun. I enjoy remembering these magical moments.

Everyone seems to have a unique opinion on the topic and I think it's a good example of how diverse the gay community really is.

You can check them all out here.

ISIS Kills More Gay Men

This kind of thing just guts me. While everyone's so worried about Kim Davis and her ridiculous plan to remain in the spotlight for longer than 15 minutes, this nightmare has been happening.

Islamic State (ISIS) militants executed four more gay men in Iraq over the weekend.

Two young men were thrown off the roof a building in Mosul under the pretext they were a gay couple.

‘On Sunday afternoon, Daesh called on the people of Mosul to gather in the square of Bab al-Toub in order to witness the execution of the two allegedly men,’ an eyewitness told ARA News.
‘The victims were taken to the top of a building and were brutally thrown off the roof.’

There's more about that here.   What I'd like to know is why aren't we hearing more about this everywhere?!?

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