Tuesday, February 19, 2019

The Trump Administration's Global Campaign To Decriminalize 'Homosexuality'; A Gay Top Is Seeing A Gay Bottom Coach; Uncertainty by Ryan Field

The Trump Administration's Global Campaign To Decriminalize 'Homosexuality'

This came as a huge surprise to everyone. In what's being referred to in some places as a subtle way to shame Iran for their human rights violations, the Trump administration is now leading a global initiative to decriminalize homosexuality around the world.

I often post about what's happening on the global front with LGBT people and I know how important anything like this could be. There are LGBT people truly suffering in other parts of the world, and I hope this is a serious initiative.

U.S. Ambassador to Germany Richard Grenell, the highest-profile openly gay person in the Trump administration, is leading the effort, which kicks off Tuesday evening in Berlin. The U.S. embassy is flying in LGBT activists from across Europe for a strategy dinner to plan to push for decriminalization in places that still outlaw homosexuality — mostly concentrated in the Middle East, Africa and the Caribbean.

Here's a link. It's mind blowing to find out that around 70 countries still criminalize LGBT 'conduct.'


A Gay Top Is Seeing A Gay Bottom Coach

Here's something about a gay top guy who went to a coach to learn how to be a gay bottom. I know a lot of people will joke about this, but for many it's a serious issue. No one will ever like anal sex if they're doing it wrong, and I'm 100% serious about that. I even get into this in novels sometimes. 

Smith learned the importance of relaxing his two inner anal sphincters and beginning sex in a position that allows the bottom to control the speed of penetration. He also briefly mentioned how some men use poppers to help relax their bodies’ smooth, involuntary muscles.

Here's the link to this one. There are a few more important details everyone should know. The only thing that concerns me is that if this catches on with other gay tops, there won't be any real tops left for bottoms. 


Amazon Reader Reviews: "Duty or Love? That is the hard choice that Gus's surviving dad, Henry, is trying to decide. This story revolves around a beautiful family that's hit some hard times. You hope beyond hope alongside with Gus that Henry will choose love, no matter what." 




Uncertainty by [Field, Ryan]


When Gus Baldwin realizes that his gay dad is serious about marrying a much older man for safety and security instead of love, he concocts a plot that he hopes will change his dad's mind. Even though his other dad has been dead for over a year, Gus wants his surviving dad to find love and happiness someday with a new husband. 

However, their financial situation is about as bad as it gets and they're on the brink of losing their grand old Victorian home, and everything about their perfect lives is threatened. So Gus winds up putting his own marriage on hold with the guy he's been in love with since high school. It's so bad he's even thinking of quitting college to help support his dad and his younger brother just so his dad won't have to marry the older man. 

After Gus convinces his dad to take a road trip in their vintage 1950s station wagon to their getaway cabin in the mountains, along with his younger brother, his future husband, and their nineteen year old dog named Special, their lives change in ways none of them ever anticipated. And even though the future is still uncertain in some respects, they discover a few things about themselves on this trip they never could have predicted.


Monday, February 18, 2019

Hillsong Church Thinks 'Homosexuality Is a 'Lifestyle'; The Word 'Homosexual' As a Pejorative; Kendle's Fire by Ryan Field

Hillsong Church Thinks 'Homosexuality' Is a 'Lifestyle'

The Chris Pratt story made headlines all last week...until the Jussie Smollett story broke and overshadowed Pratt. 2019 has been interesting, so far.

In any event, the point of this article is how they view 'homosexuality' as a 'lifestyle' over at Hillsong.

Hillsong Pastor, Brian Houston, actually wrote a blog post about 'a gay lifestyle' in 2015.

“Hillsong Church welcomes ALL people but does not affirm all lifestyles. Put clearly, we do not affirm a gay lifestyle and because of this we do not knowingly have actively gay people in positions of leadership, either paid or unpaid.”

You can read the rest, here. I think one thing to remember nowadays is that whenever you hear someone use the word 'homosexuality' in a sentence, unless it's something highly clinical, you can be almost certain you're dealing with someone who's homophobic.

Now, in all fairness to Chris Pratt, I would be remiss if I didn't mention there is a twist to his story you probably won't read about in most places. Pratt actually attends a church in LA called Zoe Church. However, Zoe church is a branch of Hillsong.

Zoe Church has not officially come out against the LGBTQ community, though its pastor produced a film that equated homosexuality with “sexual brokenness.”

You can read this one, here. 


The Word 'Homosexual' As a Pejorative

Speaking of the word homosexual. Here's an article that's focused on the word 'homosexual' that I found in the NYT.

But that five-syllable word has never been more loaded, more deliberately used and, to the ears of many gays and lesbians, more pejorative.

You can read it all at this link. It's an excellent piece that goes into a lot more detail about this word and how it has been used for ages in many different ways.  

I've never liked the word 'homosexual,' even before people started calling attention to it, especially when they say, 'practicing homosexual.' 




Amazon Reader Review:

"This is GREAT story!! It's wonderful in its exploration of sexuality and masculinity. The story is well done and beautifully done. The story flows beautifully and the characters are wonderfully written."

Kendle's Fire by [Field, Ryan] 



Even though Kendle is an openly gay ex-Marine, he's been questioning his masculinity all of his life. He's always been what people expect a man to be, in spite of the fact that he's never been completely comfortable living up to these expectations.

He also has a few secrets. The kind of secrets a man can only talk about with the most intimate people in his life. One of those people is his best friend and part time lover, Dale. And their relationship is not without a few unusual quirks and ironies either, especially when it comes to the way Kendle explains his relationship with Dale to his own parents. 

After a string of bad career decisions and awkward mistakes, it's not until Kendle meets a young guy named Walter that his life begins to come together. It's a journey filled with as much joy as heartbreak, with a few bittersweet twists in between. As Kendle opens himself up to new possibilities, he finds himself in the midst of life altering changes that leave him devastated. And there's a point where he's not sure he can get through any of it.





Sunday, February 17, 2019

The Alleged Jussie Smollett Attack and Hate Crimes; The Glorious Penis Gallery Launches; Rami Malek Played Gay Face As Gay Teen; 'Kendle's Fire' by Ryan Field

The Alleged Jussie Smollett Attack and Hate Crimes

This story about Jussie Smollett just keeps evolving from one shocking new detail to another. I think we've all seen hate crimes, and our first instinct is to believe the victim. I think that's just a normal reaction for all LGBT people because we know what it's like to live with that fear. I've posted about many of these hate crimes here on this web site over the years. Every time I've posted about a hate crime it was always serious, and always devastating. But it now looks as if the world is changing, unfortunately.

Jussie Smollett allegedly promised to pay his two pals $4,000 to stage his racist and homophobic assault — which the trio even rehearsed beforehand, according to a new report.

Here's a link. Attorneys for Smollett are denying that Smollett staged the attack. 

I don't speculate until I know all the facts. As of right now, we'll just have to wait and see.

The Glorious Penis Gallery Launches

This is an article that's about penis art, and about the challenges men face nowadays with respect to their own penises. It goes a lot deeper than it sounds on the surface, and I think it's going to be an ongoing discussion in the future. I see a lot of straight men on Twitter that are already redefining their roles as husbands and dads, and it's nice to see. That's why I focused on masculinity in my novel, Kendle's  Fire (see below). 

If dicks are your jam, you’ll be delighted by this news. Later this month, on Tuesday 26 February, there will be an exhibition that aims to raise awareness of the relationship men have with their bodies.



Rami Malek Played Gay Face As Gay Teen

Apparently, Rami Malek who played gay in Bohemian Rhapsody has a history of playing gay face. I didn't know that. 

Here's a quote that talks about how daring and brave it was for Malek to play gay face, because the implication is that it's always a challenge to play gay when you're not gay. At least that's what we've been told time and again by other straight actors who have played gay face to advance their careers and garner awards. It's considered the ultimate acting, for a straight guy to pretend to be gay, especially if there's a deep kissing scene with two guys.  

 “It was a challenge for Rami playing this character,” Lotterstein adds. “He was given this big responsibility of being a teen character coming out of the closet on network TV. It really elevated the show to some of our best work.”


I've never seen that show. Here's the link. There's a video...and it's one of the most heteronormative videos I've seen in a very long time. 

And, if you're interested, here's an excellent article about straight actors playing gay face. It's very thoughtful, and on target. 

There is no easy, prescriptive solution here. But what is abundantly clear is that queer voices need to be heard – and not only when they’re spoken through the mouths of straight people.


Amazon Reader Review:

"This is GREAT story!! It's wonderful in its exploration of sexuality and masculinity. The story is well done and beautifully done. The story flows beautifully and the characters are wonderfully written."

Kendle's Fire by [Field, Ryan] 



Even though Kendle is an openly gay ex-Marine, he's been questioning his masculinity all of his life. He's always been what people expect a man to be, in spite of the fact that he's never been completely comfortable living up to these expectations.

He also has a few secrets. The kind of secrets a man can only talk about with the most intimate people in his life. One of those people is his best friend and part time lover, Dale. And their relationship is not without a few unusual quirks and ironies either, especially when it comes to the way Kendle explains his relationship with Dale to his own parents. 

After a string of bad career decisions and awkward mistakes, it's not until Kendle meets a young guy named Walter that his life begins to come together. It's a journey filled with as much joy as heartbreak, with a few bittersweet twists in between. As Kendle opens himself up to new possibilities, he finds himself in the midst of life altering changes that leave him devastated. And there's a point where he's not sure he can get through any of it.









Saturday, February 16, 2019

RIP Lee Radziwill Pop Culture Icon; Gay Students and Unnecessary Rectal Exams; Drag Queen Story Hour; An Officer and His Gentleman by Ryan Field

RIP Lee Radziwill Pop Culture Icon

When I posted about the documentary, That Summer, and Lee Radziwill, last week I had no idea I'd be writing this post today.


Caroline Lee Radziwill, a renowned public relations executive, classic American style icon, former princess of sorts, and the younger sister of Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis, died in New York City on Friday, WWD reports. Radziwill was 85-years-old.

The article goes on to mention the many facets of Lee Radziwill's life, including touring with the Rolling Stones, along with Truman Capote. She was a woman of many highly creative talents who always seemed to have the ability to move forward. And in spite of the fact that her sister was one of the most famous people in the world, Radziwill managed to carve out her own individual identity that was totally separate from her sister's. 

Here's the link.

Here's another link. If you do a search you'll obviously find so much more.

And this link will lead you to a long piece about Radziwill and her sister, Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis

RIP

Gay Students Received Unnecessary Rectal Exams

This is awful. A doctor at the University of Southern California was allegedly giving unnecessary detailed rectal exams to young gay men. And that's not the only allegation.

One plaintiff claims Kelly asked him if he ever used sex toys. Another says Kelly refused to give him a robe to wear during a physical exam, saying it was “just us” and that he was “going to see it anyway.”

Here's the entire story.  The doctor has responded to the allegations. 

Drag Queen Story Hour

The concept of drag queens reading to kids seems to be taking off everywhere. Frankly, it's not something I ever thought I would see happen, and I've known a few serious drag queens in my time. But the kids seem to love it.  

At one 'Drag Queen Story Hour' in San Francisco, around 500 people showed up to listen to Bella Aldama read stories to kids. Of course the anti-gay protesters showed up, too. 

‘There is nothing wrong with reading a children’s book that display diversity and different gender identities,’ Aldama told East County Today at the event


You can check it out, here. There's a photo of how packed the room is. I think it's wonderful. 









Reviews for An Officer and His Gentleman: 

"We all can use a little romance in out lives. The high heel kink was a little too much."

As usual Ryan creates some really great characters; Brody and Chance are great romantic lovers; and the sex is terrific!



An Officer And His Gentleman by [Field, Ryan]

Chance Martin, who dreams of becoming a chef on the Food Network, works at a grocery store for a quirky old man who gives him free room and board as long as he walks around naked when the store is closed. But Chance is only interested in cooking, until an attractive stranger walks into the market one morning.
Brody Johnston, bad boy naval officer on extended leave from his post in Europe, can’t take his eyes off innocent Chance’s round buttocks and smooth legs, and is determined to get to know him better. So when the old man goes to bed, Chance sneaks out to meet Brody and discovers his talents in the bedroom rival his talents in the kitchen. Though they are complete opposites, Chance is ready to submit to all of Brody’s sexual kinks and desires, but it never occurs to him they might actually fall in love with each other.
As Chance fights to live his dream as a chef, and Brody wrestles with the opportunities and limitations imposed by the military, will they be able to find happiness in each other’s arms?

Friday, February 15, 2019

New Details On Jussie Smollett Case; Golden Girls Theme Cruise; More On West Hollywood's Ed Buck; Sleepless In San Francisco by Ryan Field

New Details On Jussie Smollett Case

I almost hate to post about this because it changes so often...sometimes by the hour.

However, there have been a few new pieces of information released about the alleged hate crime attack on Jussie Smollett, and so far they are up to date.

Two Nigerian brothers have been arrested in connection to the attack on Jussie Smollett, Chicago police confirmed Friday.

Here's the link. They give a good, full rundown on the entire case. Just be cautious with this story, in general. The piece I'm linking to now is accurate, but I've seen more than a few that weren't. 


Golden Girls Theme Cruise

I have never been a huge fan of cruises. I love to travel, but on my own terms. And just the thought of being trapped on a big boat all that time makes me wonder. I can live without hearing cruise singers. I'm not a huge fan of eating tons of food either. I eat to live, I don't live to eat. And I don't like being told what to do when I'm traveling. However, this Golden Girls cruise even looks good to me. 

The cruise will embark on February 24, 2020 and will make stops at Key West and Cozumel, Mexico before returning to port on Feb 29. A cabin will cost approximately $1000 per person.

Here's more. It really is amazing to see the Golden Girls fandom just continue to grow all these years later.  I wonder if Betty White will be there.

More On West Hollywood's Ed Buck

I've posted about this guy before. He's an 'activist' and a large donor to the Democratic party. He lives in West Hollywood, and the reason he's been making news is because two gay men died in his home at different times over the course of 18 months. 

I'm not posting any excerpts because there's already too much speculation. You can read more about it, here. 





Reader Reviews: 

"I read a lot of Ryan's books, but really loved this one. The main character reminded me of someone... read it and see."

"The extras made the story: the Labrador retriever, the ten year old son, the best friend, and even the new house needing renovation."


Sleepless in San Francisco by [Field, Ryan ]



It is hard to believe that it’s been 25 years since the classic romance Sleepless in Seattle warmed the hearts of theatergoers. Best-selling M/M author Ryan Fields, gives us his unique reinterpretation of this classic theme with Sleepless in San Francisco.

When young Noah Richardson sends an email to the producers of the home renovation show Dream Away, he has no idea that the host of the show, Jonathan Haynes, will be intrigued and touched by his sad story. Noah, his recently-widowed father, and their black lab, Tucker, have relocated to San Francisco to start a fresh new life and heal their wounds. And their new house is in dire need of renovation.

Jonathan Haynes is desperate to find an interesting house to film for the show. So he gets on a plane and flies to San Francisco the day after he reads Noah's email. But Jonathan soon finds out that Noah's father, Ed doesn't know about Noah's email and he has to convince him to do the show. The fact that Ed and Jonathan wind up on the living room floor having passionate sex during their first meeting doesn't help.

Ed finally agrees to do the show. By the time construction begins, Ed and Jonathan can't get enough of each other. They start having secret encounters to satisfy their desires, never realizing they are building a solid relationship at the same time.

Then a series of events takes control of their lives and changes them all forever. Ed's not sure what to do. He's in love with Jonathan, and he can't get enough of Jonathan's body. But he feels guilty about starting a new relationship with anyone. So he wrestles with the conflict and begs for a sign to help him decide what to do, which leads to a surprise ending that none of them could have predicted.





Thursday, February 14, 2019

Dallas Firefighter Fired For Hiding Camera In Station Bathroom; Kansas Says Equal Marriage Is 'Parody Marriage'; An Officer and His Gentleman by Ryan Field

Dallas Firefighter Fired For Hiding Camera In Station Bathroom

I always wonder what these people are thinking when they do things like this...or if they are even thinking at all. It's such a creepy thing to do. It makes me want to look around first before I use any public rest room.

A Dallas firefighter, Craig Lawrence, was recently let go for installing a hidden camera in the public restroom of the fire station. According to this article, this particular station is located in a gay neighborhood. But aside from all that, everyone can use that bathroom, including the families of firefighters.

When the station’s fire chief later discovered the camera and confronted Lawrence about it, Lawrence “allegedly ‘exhibited nervous behavior’ and apologized to several fellow firefighters.” 

Here's a link. The President of the Dallas Firefighters Association left a very strong statement. 


Kansas Says Equal Marriage Is 'Parody Marriage'

For anyone who thinks hate still doesn't exist, this should open your eyes. Kansas lawmakers are now backing two bills. One bill would stop Kansas from recognizing same sex marriage, and wait until you see what the other bill says.

Moreover, another bill aims to establish heterosexual marriage as an ‘elevated marriage’ option for those couples who seek a ‘higher standard of commitment.’

You can check this one out, here. It gets even more vicious, but the LGBTQ group, Equality Kansas, made a statement.  I always feel bad for LGBTQ people who live in places like this. We all have to deal with discrimination and hate at times, but the people in Kansas can't have is easy. 







Reviews for An Officer and His Gentleman: 

"We all can use a little romance in out lives. The high heel kink was a little too much."

As usual Ryan creates some really great characters; Brody and Chance are great romantic lovers; and the sex is terrific!



An Officer And His Gentleman by [Field, Ryan]

Chance Martin, who dreams of becoming a chef on the Food Network, works at a grocery store for a quirky old man who gives him free room and board as long as he walks around naked when the store is closed. But Chance is only interested in cooking, until an attractive stranger walks into the market one morning.
Brody Johnston, bad boy naval officer on extended leave from his post in Europe, can’t take his eyes off innocent Chance’s round buttocks and smooth legs, and is determined to get to know him better. So when the old man goes to bed, Chance sneaks out to meet Brody and discovers his talents in the bedroom rival his talents in the kitchen. Though they are complete opposites, Chance is ready to submit to all of Brody’s sexual kinks and desires, but it never occurs to him they might actually fall in love with each other.
As Chance fights to live his dream as a chef, and Brody wrestles with the opportunities and limitations imposed by the military, will they be able to find happiness in each other’s arms?

Wednesday, February 13, 2019

UK Gay History Month: Paul Jabara 'Trapped In a Stairway'; How Younger People In the UK View Gay Sex; Sleepless In San Francisco by Ryan Field

UK Gay History Month: Paul Jabara Trapped In a Stairway

February is Gay History Month in the UK, and even though I'm always focused on LGBTQ history here in a global sense, I wanted to mention this, specifically. I will post stories related to UK Gay History as I see them.

In any event, here's a name that's part of gay history, in a global sense, that you don't hear about often: Paul Jabara. We've all heard his music and we've all loved it, but most of us don't know his name. This is from Wiki...

Paul Jabara, also known as Paul Frederick Jabara, (January 31, 1948 – September 29, 1992) was an American actor, singer, and songwriter of Lebanese ancestry, born in BrooklynNew York City. He wrote Donna Summer's "Last Dance" from Thank God It's Friday (1978) and Barbra Streisand's song "The Main Event/Fight" from The Main Event (1979). He cowrote The Weather Girls hit "It's Raining Men" with Paul Shaffer. Jabara's cousin and close friend Jad Azkoul is also a Lebanese-American musician specialising in classical guitar.

Jabara also died very young, in 1992, due to complications related to AIDS. In 2014 his grave was featured at the Green-Wood Cemetery in Brooklyn, during the first gay-themed tour.

His work is part of gay culture, gay history, and it obviously crossed into the mainstream on a global level. There's one song in particular I've always loved, Trapped In a Stairway. And I love this video, too.  And, if you do a search for Paul Jabara on You Tube you'll find a good deal more.

RIP

How Younger People In the UK View Gay Sex

I always thought this would happen, especially as LGBT people assimilate into the mainstream. But it's also nice to post about it actually happening.

68% of people living in the UK see nothing at all wrong with gay sex. 80% of younger people in the UK also see nothing wrong with gay sex.

It's all related to a survey that was done recently that was pubbed by the Government Equalities Office.

It's not totally wonderful, but it's still an interesting survey with a much more positive message. You can check this out, here. 

I also think it's worth mentioning that back in 2008 I couldn't even find LGBT related stories. Now there are so many I don't know which ones to choose half the time. Things are changing.






Reader Reviews: 

"I read a lot of Ryan's books, but really loved this one. The main character reminded me of someone... read it and see."

"The extras made the story: the Labrador retriever, the ten year old son, the best friend, and even the new house needing renovation."


Sleepless in San Francisco by [Field, Ryan ]


It is hard to believe that it’s been 25 years since the classic romance Sleepless in Seattle warmed the hearts of theatergoers. Best-selling M/M author Ryan Fields, gives us his unique reinterpretation of this classic theme with Sleepless in San Francisco.

When young Noah Richardson sends an email to the producers of the home renovation show Dream Away, he has no idea that the host of the show, Jonathan Haynes, will be intrigued and touched by his sad story. Noah, his recently-widowed father, and their black lab, Tucker, have relocated to San Francisco to start a fresh new life and heal their wounds. And their new house is in dire need of renovation.

Jonathan Haynes is desperate to find an interesting house to film for the show. So he gets on a plane and flies to San Francisco the day after he reads Noah's email. But Jonathan soon finds out that Noah's father, Ed doesn't know about Noah's email and he has to convince him to do the show. The fact that Ed and Jonathan wind up on the living room floor having passionate sex during their first meeting doesn't help.

Ed finally agrees to do the show. By the time construction begins, Ed and Jonathan can't get enough of each other. They start having secret encounters to satisfy their desires, never realizing they are building a solid relationship at the same time.

Then a series of events takes control of their lives and changes them all forever. Ed's not sure what to do. He's in love with Jonathan, and he can't get enough of Jonathan's body. But he feels guilty about starting a new relationship with anyone. So he wrestles with the conflict and begs for a sign to help him decide what to do, which leads to a surprise ending that none of them could have predicted.