Friday, February 12, 2016

Chad White and Huge Bulge; Chandler Massey and Days of Our Lives; Fear and Gay Athletes

Chad White and Huge Bulge

A writer friend of mine sent me this earlier today and I thought I'd share. In honor of all those who don't want to deal with Valentine's Day this weekend, and I know there are plenty, here's something that's a lot more fun than chocolate or flowers. These holidays really put a lot of pressure on people that I always thought was undeserved. In any event, this is about former baseball player, Chad White, that might make you feel a lot better.

One-time baseball player Chad White was the talk of the town at Milan Fashion Week. Or rather, his bulge was. 
White, now a model, looked rather proud of what was protruding from his swimsuit as he strutted down the runway the other day.

You can check out the photo here. It's worth the click just to see the great big smile on his face.

Chandler Massey and Days of Our Lives

A lot of people are wondering if Chandler Massey will return to Days of Our Lives as gay character, Will Horton.

Will’s coming out story was one of the most powerful the show has had in recent years and won Massey three consecutive Emmys – the most recent in 2014.
‘For the record — I can neither confirm nor deny that my former client and good friend … Chandler Massey will be returning to his role of Will Horton on Days of our Lives later this year,’ Ballard wrote on Facebook.
He added: ‘I guess you will all have to keep watching!!’

So there you are. Clickbait at its best. But you can read more here where there's some info about the character. I think a lot of Massey's comments are genuine and from the heart.

Fear and Gay Athletes

This is a timely article about gay athletes, and it mentions why so many are terrified of coming out in public. It's also a long article about a conference on diversity and inclusion in London that talks about sponsorship and how things are changing...or will be changing. 

Stoney, former captain of the England women’s soccer team, came out at the age of 32. Asked why she hadn’t talked about her sexuality beforehand, she had a blunt answer.
‘Fear. Absolute fear. That’s what keeps gay athletes in the closet. I didn’t know where society was at and, for some reason, I’ve always a person who cares what other people think. But I got to 32, I was happy in my relationship, we were trying to have children, and I got to a stage where I thought, “Do you know what, it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks – it’s about my happiness” – and having the ability to speak to so many people.”

Here's the rest. As I said, it's long and mentions a lot of names, but the overall theme of the conference sounds positive.

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Thursday, February 11, 2016

Gay Teacher Fired: Stolen Sex Tape; Coming Out In College Football; GLAAD Admits Blog Award Error

Gay Teacher Fired: Stolen Sex Tape

I have worked online for a long time. I write erotic romance with strong sex scenes sometimes. I interact with people in the adult entertainment industry on social media. In other words, I see a lot of sexually oriented things on a daily basis. However, I keep this blog rated G. And I can promise you that you will not find a single nude sex tape of me anywhere. You can go through the photos on my phone and I don't have to worry. I'm not trying to be holier than thou. I only want to keep it professional.

With that said, here's a story about a school teacher who was allegedly hacked and someone posted a sex video of him online where students could see it. Well, I guess everyone could see it.

“Pretty much immediately after that phone call I went to the bathroom and threw up,” Bray told the Washington Blade. “I was just in shock that oh my God, this is something that will impact my career, impact my life and what am I going to do?”

To make things even worse, whoever hacked him posted anti-gay comments. And, he got fired and this will most likely follow him around for the rest of his life.  

You can read the rest here. I think the main point with this one is that you can't be too careful, ever, when posting private information anywhere. There are other points to be made, but that's the main point. Whatever goes online, remains online. Forever.

There are a lot of comments.

A few of the comments surprised me. One in particular said something about if this school teacher had worked for a public school the outcome might have been different. And I just don't know what universe that guy lives in, because last I heard, when it comes to all schools, teachers making sex tapes is usually frowned upon. 

Coming Out In College Football

We hear so much about coming out in pro sports lately, but not too much about college sports. And clearly, there are closeted gay men there, too.

Here's a story about a gay college football player who had a brother on the same team...

“My coming out experience taught me that the fear I grew up with about being gay doesn’t need to exist anymore. Yes, there is still discrimination against the LGBT community. Yes, I have lost some friends and family members. But, I believe times are changing, things are getting better. It is our responsibility to not let fear stop us.

“Because of all that I have been through, ridding myself of my own fear, I have become stronger. I have learned to accept myself and build confidence in who I truly am. I came out to my family to love and support. The vast majority of my friends accept me. I am blessed to have them in my life.”

You can check out the rest here.

I think this guy is wonderful.

GLAAD Admits Blog Award Error

I don't follow things like this too closely because it's not my focus. However, it's interesting from a blogger's POV.

Here's the statement, verbatim:

It’s become abundantly clear that we were wrong to remove the Outstanding Blog category, and we apologize. Although we cannot make changes to this year’s slate of categories and nominees, the Outstanding Blog category will be reinstated in 2017 with improved selection criteria that ensures grassroots LGBT voices are given the recognition they’re due. And like in years past, there will be no submission fee required in the category.

The contributions of LGBT bloggers and independent media have been critical to the advancement of this movement and, indeed, GLAAD’s mission. Eliminating the Outstanding Blog category was an affront to the tireless efforts of those whose work has been essential to putting a spotlight on the issues LGBT people face, and which too often goes overlooked. Removing the category was wrong, and we are committed to doing better.”

When I worked on staff for I remember a lot of bloggers who loved these award things. I know a lot of them have shuttered their blogs by now, but there are still quite a few LGBT bloggers out there and I don't think it was wise to ignore them.

You can read this here.

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Wednesday, February 10, 2016

Tom of Finland and Gay Culture; Carly Fiorina On Gay Marriage; Ian McKellen Chokes Up

Gay Culture and Tom of Finland

If you haven't heard about Tom of Finland, you should look him up. This is a huge part of gay culture and it even crossed into pop culture. This erotic male art is so distinctive and so compelling it inspired several generations in many ways. In fact, I recall the first time I ever saw one of the images. I still can't get that mental picture out of my head. That's the kind of impact it has. I also believe, in many ways, it defines gay men and gay culture to a certain extent. And we need to be proud of this and we should own it.

Laaksonen feels pressured to get married to a woman and can only indulge in secret affairs with other men but finds refuge and liberation in his artistic expression which eventually develops a worldwide following and helps set the cultural tone for gay men in the age of gay liberation.
‘This is the story of a man ahead of his time, bravely standing up against a world virulently against his right to be who he was – a homosexual man with homosexual fantasies,’ Karukoski said in a statement to Deadline Hollywood.
‘The story shows how literally one person can create change in the world, even with something as simple as an artist’s tools.’
The screenplay has been written by Aleksi Bardy who is producing the film along with Miia Haavisto and Annika Sucksdorff of Helsinki Film.

And now there's a film being made. You can check that out here. And here's a link to wiki about Tom of Finland. I once had a contest and one of my readers won a collection of Tom of Finland books. You can read about that here.

Carly Fiorina On Gay Marriage

It really doesn't matter much now because Carly Fiorina just dropped out of the Presidential race, however, I saw an article about Fiorina  "opposing" gay marriage I thought was interesting. I hope the information is accurate and they didn't put another gay press spin on it.

Fiorina has been consistently against same-sex marriage, according to a summary of her positions on the website On The Issues.
She voted for California’s Proposition 8 in 2008 which banned same-sex marriage in the state before it was overturned by the courts. Fiorina also supported a federal amendment to prevent same-sex marriage.
‘I do believe that marriage is between a man and a woman, but also have been consistent and clear that I support civil unions for gay and lesbian couples,’ she once said.

I haven't followed Fiorina very closely in this election so I can't comment. You can read more here.  And here's another article about Fiorina and gay marriage.

Ian McKellen Chokes Up

This time he's choking up while reading a coming out letter that's from Amistad Maupin's Tales of the City

Here's part of the letter.

The letter, from Armistead Maupin’s novel Tales of the City, is written by protagonist Michael Toliver, a gay man who discovers his parents have joined an anti-gay campaign.
‘I’m sorry, Mama. Not for what I am, but for how you must feel at this moment,’ it reads.
‘I know what that feeling is, for I felt it for most of my life. Revulsion, shame, disbelief — rejection through fear of something I knew, even as a child, was as basic to my nature as the color of my eyes.’

I have to admit that I don't know much about Tales of the City but I've always wanted to know more. I also find that the older I get the more interested I am in gay culture and what it was like "back then." We've come a long way, and just like Black History, Gay History has a place now, too.

You can read the full letter here. 

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Steve Grand On Objectification; Shawn Balentine Hollywood Gay Stuntman; Downton's Gay Mr. Barrow Let Down

Steve Grand On Objectification

I wasn't sure how to title this part of the post. But since objectification seems to be the gist, that's where I went. And I do think it's become a worthy topic because I see more people than ever before objectifying men.

Openly gay performing artist, Steve Grand, made this video in what looks like his attempt to clear things up.

You can check the video link here.

There's not much more to say. Grand pretty much summed it up fairly well.

Shawn Balentine Hollywood Gay Stuntman

A stuntman in Hollywood, Shawn Balentine, just came out as gay and I guess this is a novelty of sorts. I'm not being glib about that. I would NEVER do that with anyone coming out. It's just that we wonder about actors, but never seem to think about all of the people who make up the entertainment industry.


There are so many layers that make a man, and even though I wear my heart on my sleeve, I rarely allow even my closest friends or family to see all of me. I’ve always just wanted to be Shawn the happy-go-lucky guy who never showed the vulnerability underneath. And I’ve always wanted my nieceRachel and nephews to be so damn proud to call me Uncle Shawn along with my sisters and Pops and Mom.

That's just part of what he said. It's a long statement you can find here.  

Downton's Gay Mr. Barrow Let Down

I hate to rant about this because I like Downton Abbey, however, I think a good deal of the appeal Downton Abbey has had with gay men comes from the gay storyline of the character, John Barrow. I'm not sure I would have started watching if Barrow hadn't had a gay storyline. I'm not saying that to take away from any other storylines in the show. I'm saying that because we...gays...have such limited content like this on TV we seem to gravitate toward whatever bone they decide to throw us. 

And so far, that proverbial bone has been limited even on Downton Abbey.  

Meanwhile, he blackmails the handsome young Duke of Crowborough, who he’d hooked up with at Downton one summer, to be hired as the Duke’s valet. But the aristocrat steals back incriminating letters Thomas was holding and destroys them, and Grantham hires weeping Anna’s future husband Bates anyway because there’s just something about Barrow.

The gay content has been limited and Barrow comes off looking as if he never has sex with anyone, ever. I wait every week for something to happen, and nothing happens, not even a hint. And maybe Barrow doesn't have any sexual encounters. However, I find that hard to believe. There's no way anyone is going to try to convince me that a single man as good looking as Barrow who is attracted to other men isn't getting something, somewhere, on the side. I don't care if it's in Lady Mary's closet or under a bridge a few miles from Downton. And, unfortunately, that's just another way they twist and turn our culture around. It's also the best way of gaybaiting to get gay viewers. If I had been writing that show I wouldn't have included any highly explicit gay sex scenes. I might not even have included two men kissing. However, I would have let viewers know with subtle clues that Barrow finds discreet encounters just like millions of other gay men have been finding them since the dawn of time.

I'll grant you Downton takes place long before the word gay even became used in reference to men who are attracted to the same sex. I'll grant you there's not much history because no one spoke about this topic openly until the latter part of the 20th century. But there's no way you're going to get me to believe Mr. Barrow didn't get a little on the side from time to time. It just doesn't make sense. And the fact that they never even suggest this in the Downton storyline bothers me, because contrary to what the hetero world might want to believe, men were having sex with men long before Downton Abbey's time period. And I would bet they were having a lot of it. 

In any event, you can read the rest here. I'm curious to see what happens to Barrow as the final season winds down to a conclusion. I would assume it's not going to be HEA. And that's a shame, too, because a lot of gay men in the 20th fell in love with other gay men and they spent their lives together. Good lives. The hetero world just didn't hear about them. And I think it's time someone told them. 

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Tuesday, February 9, 2016

Philly Gay Basher Sentenced; Tom Hardy Gets Naked Again; Gay Son Embarrasses Mom At Church

Philly Gay Basher Sentenced

I've been following this case since September, 2014. I haven't posted anything until now because I was waiting for a sentencing.

A Philadelphia Common Pleas judge has sentenced Kathryn Knott, 25, to 5-10 months in jail for her involvement in an attack on a gay couple in September, 2014.

In December of last year, Knott was found guilty of simple assault, conspiracy and reckless endangerment.

She was found not guilty of more serious aggravated assault charges and not guilty of charges against the other victim, explaining her seemingly light sentence.

You can read the rest here. There's also a history of the case.

This reminds me of a time when I was in Philadelphia with five or six friends. We'd just come from a political fundraiser and we were headed to dinner at a restaurant about ten blocks away. I wanted to take a cab. The others wanted to walk. It was a nice spring night. We got about two blocks away when a group of young thugs started bullying and calling gay slurs out to one of the more effeminate members of our group. They were targeting him, in particular. I was walking behind everyone, next to a friend who was in his 70's at the time. I looked at my friend and said, "Taxi?" He nodded yes, I hailed a cab, and the rest of our friends took their chances walking. It was money well spent.

Tom Hardy Gets Naked Again

Here's a link to a piece about Tom Hardy stripping down again. I've always thought of him as one of those rare actors that really gets into a role and he doesn't care what it takes to get it right.

Hardy goes all the way in for his roles, and stripped all the way down while shooting a scene for his upcoming period miniseries Taboo in London. The scene called for him to do a little skinny dipping, and some enterprising paparazzi caught Mad Max going the full Hardy. It’s certainly not the first time Tom has bared all for his art and we hope it’s not the last. You can see the latest pics here. You’re welcome.

You can read more here. And here's a direct link to the photos.  

Now THAT is a good looking man.

Gay Son Embarrasses Mom At Church

This is another one of those seeking advice pieces. Evidently, a mom is going into panic mode because her gay son embarrasses her at church.

“We are part of a church group,” Mom continues, “and I fear that if people in that group find out they will make fun of me for having a gay child.”

Poorly constructed syntax aside, there are already some major red flags here. But it gets worse.

“He won’t listen to reason, and he will not stop being gay. I feel as if he is doing this just to get back at me for forgetting his birthday for the past three years; I have a busy work schedule.”

I'm wondering what a gay guy is doing at a church like that in the first place. I also always wonder how true these Dr. Phil-ish advice columns are. I once worked as an editor for a small astrology magazine back in the 90s. And whenever the so-called psychics didn't meet deadlines, the managing editor would tell me to just pull horoscopes that had already been published from ten years earlier. And the faithful who follow astrology never knew the difference. Oh, it happens...and I didn't work there for long. 

You can read the rest here. 

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Monday, February 8, 2016

Liberals Who Support Donald Trump; Gay Bathhouse Experiences; Ending a Toxic Friendship; Strong Gay Story Line in Loving Daylight

Liberals Who Support Donald Trump

This is from a gay press. If it hadn't been I probably wouldn't have posted about it. I have to admit that I don't totally get this, so I can't really comment on it. This is not the first time I've heard about gay liberals supporting Donald Trump. And they all voted for Obama in the previous elections. I know a few, personally, and they've told me this face to face. 

As I turn 29 this year, this will be the third presidential election I vote in, and yet another in countless elections for senate, representative, and local positions. What makes this race stand out is that it will be the first time I vote for a republican.

For the longest time I steered clear of the GOP because they have become the party of the Bible and of legislating morals. The party could not stop talking about private matters they should leave alone (religion, abortion, sexuality, marriage, adoption, so on and so forth). It was rare to find a GOP member who wasn’t explicitly bought by and pandering to the evangelical vote. Even the ones who weren’t always talking about it would simply default to “I support the party” when asked. Nobody was talking about the economy, the constant chaos in the Middle East, or anything else that mattered. As a gay atheist, I grew tired of hearing from the party that opposed my existence. Every election I voted in, I voted straight democrat (with an independent exception here and there).

You can read it all here.  

The comments, surprisingly, seem varied with this one. I'm not the most political person, and I often joke about politics, however, I find the climate change in politics, in general, interesting. 

Gay Bathhouse Experiences

I've never been to a bathhouse, so I would imagine I'm just like a lot of people reading this blog post.

There are as many ways to consider the gay bathhouse as there are potential experiences to have within one.

In some places, they’re social hubs — a place to meet new friends, relax, and play safe.

The U.S. is a bit more sexually repressed, though — here you’re likely to find that dark, hypersexualized anonymous scenario.

Love ’em or hate ’em, here’s what guys on Whisper are saying about their experiences — anything you’d add?

This is followed by a series of memes, with bathhouse experience quotes, you can check out here.

Because I've never been to one I can't add anything...other than they're interesting. From what I gather, bathhouses were a huge part of gay culture before the AIDS crisis. Oh, and I don't think I've ever actually seen one called a "bathhouse." Most of the time they are referred to as gyms or something else of that nature.

Ending a Toxic Friendship

This is another humor piece by Sam Kalidi.

Each week online comedian, voice actor and chest hair model Sam Kalidi creates a comedic post for Queerty readers. This week he turns to late screen legend Bette Davis for some advice on cutting the cord on a toxic friendship. You can find him on TwitterFacebook,Instagram and at your local glory hole.

You can check out the video here.  I thought it was funny. But you have been warned. If you follow Kalidi on social media and you check your Twitter while you're waiting in line at CVS, you might wind up laughing out loud and people will stare at you.

Strong Gay Storyline in Loving Daylight

This book is not classified in the gay section because that's how these things work online. It was originally a book I was contracted to write a few years ago for a romance collection that was sold nationwide on The Home Shopping Network. It did well on HSN, however, I haven't spent much time promoting it anywhere.

This year the rights were reverted back to me and I re-released it as an indie book. I like it and I didn't want it to just disappear. It's a sexy book, but it's also PG-rated. It's considered a contemporary romance because the two main characters are hetero, however, there is a very strong gay story line in the subplot. At the time, I did that on purpose and I think most readers liked least from the feedback I've received.

You can check that out here, on Amazon and other places where e-books are sold, where I priced it at $2.99. It's a full length e-book with 60,000 words and I think there are a few copies in print going around somewhere. I also think this book might resonate with women as well as gay men because the main female character is a strong woman with a few fundamental flaws.

Saturday, February 6, 2016

Oscar Pearce Full Frontal Nudity; Model's Long, Huge Penis; Regretting That Penis Tattoo

Oscar Pearce Full Frontal Nudity

Here's a story about Oscar Pearce and male full frontal nudity I thought was post-worthy. The author of the article I'm linking to now seems to agree with the same things I've posted on the topic. Mainly, why is male full frontal nudity always so taboo.

As a heterosexual woman I say it’s about time TV bosses took the balls by the horn and realised that — shock, horror — men get naked, too.

For decades, I’ve had to endure boobs and bush being flashed on screen because it’s “an integral part of the story”.

Yet, somehow, the story never seems that important when it comes to revealing male actors’ parts.

All us ladies get to look at is a few inches of chest hair or a six-pack. Why do directors think we don’t desire to see a real penis?

You can read the rest here, with images.  I think one issue with the entire topic could be that some male actors might not want to reveal what's really going on down there, so to speak. In other words, men are often judged by penis size and if a man doesn't quite measure up it could be damaging. There would be shaming. 

Model's Suspiciously Long Penis

There's a video out with a model named Shaun Ross, and his suspiciously long penis is creating talk on the interwebz. You really have to see this one to believe it...when he comes out of the water!

Ross stars in Braves' new music video "Dust," and if you can't focus on the music, you'd be forgiven. The video captures a naked Ross emerging from the ocean, and the camera lingers on him through the money shot of his dangling dong.

And then you wonder: How could he fit into all those fancy clothes?

TMZ was on top of this one, pardon the bad pun, and you can read the rest here. 

There's a video, too.

Again, you really have to see this one.

Regretting That Penis Tattoo

A guy in Ireland (I think) is now having some serious regrets about having a penis tattooed to his leg so it appears that a penis is falling out of his shorts.

“I regret it now more for my family's sake. Since having the tattoo I can't take my daughter swimming I could end up getting arrested or something, I have upset a lot of people I love. It is the worst thing I have ever done.”

“I have to be careful if I jump out of the van wearing shorts with this tattoo showing, I have to be careful who witnesses it as I could get into a lot of trouble, possibly sacked,” he said.

You can check it out here, with photos of the tattoo. I think he had it removed.

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