Sunday, September 24, 2017

Russians Go To Norway For Pride Parade; Comedian Lavell Crawford Says LGBT People Are Effing Weird; Instagram Studs Share Best Muscle Tips

Russians Go To Norway For Pride Parade

I hope I'm not offending anyone by saying, "Russians," instead of, "Russian People." You see, last week a transgender person left a comment on one of my posts and she told me that I had offended her because I had used the word, "transgenders," instead of, "transgender people." As always, my post was something that supports people who are transgender. So now I'm starting to wonder what's safe to write. But this article I'm linking to used the word, "Russians," in their title, so I think I'm safe and I don't think I'm offending any Russians...or Russian People, if you will. I just wanted to clarify in case anyone else gets offended, which seems to be happening more and more these days.

In any event, here's something a lot more serious to worry about. In order to celebrate Pride, Russian LGBT people have to cross the border to feel safe. I know things aren't perfect in the US, especially right now, but at least we don't have to leave the country to experience Pride events.

She was one of about 50 people from Russia, Belarus and Kazhakstan who joined the first ever pride parade in Kirkenes, Norway’s border town to Russia in the north. Valentina is psychologist and was the leader of “The house of Equality” project at Maximum, the group for support of LGBT community in Murmansk. Maximum was an NGO that closed down after being listed as “foreign agent” a few years ago.

There's more here. There are a few photos and it looks like a very nice, positive event.

Comedian Lavell Crawford Says LGBT People Are Effing Weird

I don't totally get this one. This guy's dad is openly gay.

“No matter how much they’re getting accepted, it’s still f*cking weird,” he remarked. “Now they’re trying to get their own bathrooms and sh*t [even though] it’s still not the norm.”

Check out the rest here. He actually admits that after his dad came out he was worried he might turn gay, too.

Instagram Studs Share Best Muscle Tips

I don't know about anyone else, but last week I had to stop following six different guys on Instagram because I got so tired of their endless half naked selfies in bathrooms, gyms, and wherever else it's legal to take off their pants. That's all I was seeing. You can ruin a good thing.

In any event, there's this...

To help find out how some of our favorite Instagram studs maintain their muscular physiques, we asked them to share their best fitness tips. If you’re tired of hitting the gym and not seeing the results you want, check out the advice below.

You can read this one here.  Some of the advice isn't bad, especially if you're having issues. I've learned more from things like this about working out than I ever learned from personal trainers.


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Saturday, September 23, 2017

This Is Not Tom of Finland; LGBT People Tortured In Azerbaijan; Can You Guess the Prostitute?

This Is Not Tom of Finland

I swore to myself that I was not going to link to anything that contains the phrase, "can you even?"  However, this is worth it. It's really good.

It looks just like a Tom of Finland illustration, but it's not.

It’s time for your game of dress-me-up to reach hitherto unthinkable levels of cool.
Mega-talented New York-based artist Michael Mejia is a bona fide body-paint wizard, as you can see from the clip below:
LGBT People Tortured In Azerbaijan
This one makes me sick to my stomach. Evidently, they can just do whatever they want and get away with it. 
Eyewitness reports claim authorities detain LGBTI people, beat, verbally abuse and force medical examinations on transgender people. Some reports even suggest authorities are shaving the hair of transgender women.
Can You Guess the Prostitute?
Here's a link to a video where people try to figure who is a prostitute. It's really not all that simple to do. 
This supposition was recently put to the test in the following video, which gathers random people together to observe a room full of strangers, and suss out whether any of them might do sexy things for only occasionally sexy amounts of cash.

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Friday, September 22, 2017

Gay Men Going To the Far Right In Germany; Gay Men Afraid To Hold Hands In Public; Louise L. Hay, Gay Men, AIDS, and "Kitsch Spirituality"

Gay Men Going To the Far Right In Germany

Here's a piece about something that's been going on in Germany that rarely makes headlines in the US, not even in LGBT presses.

It's about two gay men who suffered a violent attack that has changed everything about them...right down to their core beliefs.

Police identified the attackers as two locally known Muslim extremists. They were never arrested and later fled to Syria. After demanding answers from local prosecutors and the mayor's office and not getting a response, Karsten turned to Germany's far right party, the Alternative for Germany (AfD).
"I don't like everything they say," Karsten says, "but this is too dangerous for gay people to live openly here, if we get attacked like that. We need a party that's talking openly about this."
Gay Men Afraid To Hold Hands In Public
This is happening in the UK, but I think it could probably happen anywhere. There was a survey taken and more than half the gay men in Britain feel unsafe holding hands in public. And it gets into other hate crimes with other groups that fall under the LGBTQ+ umbrella. 
Stonewall said the UK had much to do before all LGBT people "can feel safe, included and free to be themselves".
While hate crime was more effectively recorded than in the past, the charity said there had undoubtedly been "a genuine increase" in incidents since its last major survey in 2013.
Louise L. Hay, Gay Men, AIDS, and "Kitsch Spirituality"
This is actually a difficult one for me because I did follow a lot of the principles and techniques of Louise Hay, and I never knew any of this.  But I followed Hay in a very general sense, and at the time I was very, very young and I wasn't as heavily invested as some people were. 
Evidently, now that she's dead people are speaking up about Hay and how she affected a generation of men. 
Many AIDS survivors and caregivers have testified to the tragic personal cost of Hay’s philosophy, and what some have called her brutal dismissal of actual people with AIDS, including the poor and people of color, as well as her willingness to profit personally through the pain of the sick, the psychically unsettled, and the terminally ill. Activist and filmmaker Peter Fitzgerald saw Hay in action with his desperately ill comrades. After her death he said,  “I understand that she providedd hope at very dark times to a great many people, I also know all too well that her clay feet were deeply mired in the guilt of being an AIDS profiteer, a disloyal friend and purveyor of false hope. Namaste, bitch.”
It's a long piece, that you can find here at this link. They refer to Hays and what she taught as "kitsch spirituality." I really don't know enough about it to make any specific comments.   
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Celebrating Gay Culture and Gay Stereotypes: Unabated by Ryan Field

Celebrating Gay Culture and Gay Stereotypes: Unabated by Ryan Field 

I happen to believe in keeping it real, and if I veer into gay stereotypes that actually do, in fact, represent part of my own gay culture as I've always known it, I'm not going to deny it. I'm also not going to white-wash my own history or culture for anyone. I'm going to celebrate it, and I'm going to celebrate the fact that gay culture is so highly diverse. 

The wonderful truth is that there are gay stereotypes that are part of gay culture. And when I write fiction I'm drawing from all of my own personal experiences as a gay man. I'm not getting it from a gay friend or relative. And I have the slaps on my face to prove it.

With that said, this book, Unabated, is actually a story-line that's loosely based on a gay couple I once knew who took a 3rd person into their relationship. That's part of gay culture, too. It's a big part of gay culture for some gay men.

Whether you like that or not is up to you, but it is what it is.

Danny and Vince have an almost perfect gay marriage in New York, and then they move to a small gay enclave in the suburbs of Pennsylvania where they discover something interesting: most of the older gay couples have open marriages. Danny and Vince are still in their twenties, and everything about their lives is new and exciting. So when they leave New York to be closer to Vince's job as a TV weather person in Pennsylvania, they discover they're interested in exploring the possibilities of an open gay marriage, too. 
In the midst of all this "adulting," from being first time homeowners to buying a new car, the changes Danny and Vince experience in the small town of Penn's Grant lead them to new sexual and emotional experiences they never had in New York. They not only meet gay couples who have been together for decades, but a few who have been leading double lives and hiding deep dark secrets that have ruled their lives. Thanks to his new open gay marriage, Danny discovers a few secrets about his own strong desires for men he never knew existed. 

Will their open gay marriage ruin them both forever, or will it wind up bringing them closer together? And will the move to Penn's Grant turn them into the small town gay couple they never wanted to become in the first place?



Unabated by [Field, Ryan]

Thursday, September 21, 2017

Married Gay Couple Owns Fake Alt-Right News Site; Guy Who Looks Exactly Like Michael Jackson; Human Ken Doll On Changing His Looks

Married Gay Couple Owns Fake Alt-Right News Site

I know absolutely nothing about this one, so I'm only linking. Unless the serious news comes from a reputable source like the BBC or Reuters, I don't pay attention to it. Evidently, I'm in the minority.

Now they’re creating “news” out of whole cloth via their alt-right fake news site Your News Wire.

Their site has become the go-to rightwing conspiracy theory site and according to the Hollywood Reporter, they’re starting to rival Breitbart. Andrew Breitbart, the founder of the notorious so-called alt-right website now run by former Trump advisor Steve Bannon, was also gay.
You can check the rest out here. It goes into a lot more detail. I've seen their cheesy web site, Your News Wire, and it has seen me. LMAO!

Guy Who Looks Exactly Like Michael Jackson

Normally I wouldn't post about something like this. But it's so true, and so uncanny, I couldn't resist.

Twitter user Lourdes shared a photo of a man in a car, writing, “Y’all my man is so cute, look at the selfie he just sent me.”
The photo was retweeted 2,400 times, was liked nearly 9,000 times, and received 3,000 comments from people who just couldn’t even with how much this mystery man looks like Michael Jackson.
Here's the link. He really does look exactly like Michael Jackson. 
Human Ken Doll On Changing His Looks
I see a lot of people moan and groan whenever they see anything on social media about the human Ken doll guy. But like him or not, as far as I know, he's not sitting at home in a stained easy chair, eating pizza and donuts, judging other people. 
Here's what he might do in the future...
“One day when I’m older I may have a sex change and became a Barbie. I will do what Caitlyn Jenner did. When I reach my late 50s, I would rather be a sexy old lady than a saggy old man.”
You can check the rest out here, with photos...and of course there are comments. 
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Wednesday, September 20, 2017

Intern For President Kennedy Speaks Out Now; Will Young On Strictly Come Dancing's Same Sex Partner Rule; Another Twitter Attack On Melania Trump

Intern For President Kennedy Speaks Out Now

I don't think this piece of news is going to come as a shock to anyone, but I find it interesting because the Kennedy administration, and everything connected to it, is still being portrayed as this perfect, storybook romance by the media (and of course Hollywood). It's even worse now because there are several generations who don't even know the truth. Which I'm sure is how it was all planned: rewrite history, again.

In any event, here's another story about President Kennedy and a young woman who worked as his intern.

She was a wide-eyed White House intern just four days into the job when she found herself standing alone next to the most powerful man in the world — in the most intimate room within 1600 Pennsylvania Ave

The rest is here. It's one of those annoying sites with ads, but it's still an interesting story. And I'll bet anything there are still people who will read this story and they will still shame the woman, not Kennedy.

Will Young On Strictly Come Dancing's Same Sex Partner Rule

I didn't know this, but evidently there's a rule on Strictly Come Dancing that suggests openly gay contestants should dance with same sex partners. I actually get into this topic in my most recent novel, Said With Care, and in this case I can't disagree with Young. I do think we should see more same sex couples dancing together, openly, but I don't think it should be forced on anyone. I don't want anyone telling me which gender I should dance with.

And I think actually I would find it more insulting if someone was like, ‘You’ve got to dance with a man because you’re gay.’ It’s the same as acting. It’s like, no, I don’t.’”

Here's the rest. I can't blame the guy for being honest.

Another Twitter Attack On Melania Trump

I don't like to be mean when it comes to things like this, but I find a lot of what's happening these days disingenuous at best. And the truth is that Melania Trump is married to one of the most controversial Presidents in modern history, and she's the person who is the most closely associated with him. When she speaks, she's naturally going to be scrutinized. It stands to reason.

Every FLOTUS before Melania got this treatment, and they had to deal with it, too. Some of the things I saw written about Michele Obama were despicable. And no one got it worse than Hillary Clinton when she was First Lady, at least as far as I can remember. The poor woman was a punching bag for the mainstream media in the 90s.

As you may recall, online bullying is, er, um, was supposed to be Melania’s cause as First Lady. At least, that’s what she said back in January shortly after the inauguration. The plan seemed to have ended before she moved into White House in June, but perhaps she’s revisiting it now? Who the hell knows?

You can check this out here, with screen shots of the vituperative tweets.

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Tuesday, September 19, 2017

"Laughs, Luck and Lucy" by Jess Oppenheimer; Mario Lopez Assaulted In Locker Room; "13 Reasons Why:" Actor Brandon Flynn Comes Out

Laughs, Luck and Lucy by Jess Oppenheimer


This is the first book I've ever read that went into more detail about the success of the TV show, I Love Lucy. I'd always been under the impression that Desi Arnaz did it all behind the scenes and Lucille Ball was the performing genius. And then I read this book by Jess Oppenheimer, and I found a much greater insight.

Oppenheimer was the head writer, and producer, of I Love Lucy, and without him I'm not sure it would have been the success it became. He's received very little credit for this, and for what little credit he did get he had to fight Desi Arnaz (and Arnaz's ego) to the finish. It was written in Oppenheimer's contract that he would be the producer, and he would get credit for this. He gives examples of this in the book,with photos of the actual contract. But according to Oppenheimer, when Lucille Ball decided to boost Desi's fragile ego, she asked Oppenheimer if he'd let Desi be the Executive Producer. Of course Oppenheimer had worked hard on this show and he wasn't an idiot. No spoilers.

This truly is the untold story of what happened behind the scenes of I Love Lucy, and Oppenheimer tells his version in a clever, delightful way. It's not trashy or dishy. He was grateful and thrilled to be a part of it all. And he never once diminishes or takes credit away from Lucille Ball or Desi Arnaz. He praises Ball and Arnaz throughout the book, while at the same time letting us all know that he did his part to make this series one of the most brilliant works in TV history. You'll learn a lot of technical secrets, and a few behind the scenes secrets as well.

Overall, you won't be disappointed, and I think that's mainly because Oppenheimer was a true writer who knew how to tell a damn good story.

Side note: I don't give stars or grades to other authors here on this blog. A review is a review. We're not not children anymore and this isn't a report card.

You can check out the Amazon page, here. 

Mario Lopez Assaulted In Locker Room

This story is kind of sketchy, so it's hard to comment. Besides, half the people reading this won't even know who he is.

Mario Lopez was reportedly assaulted by an uppity gym bunny while going about his rigorous exercise regimen on Friday at Planet Hollywood Spa by Mandara in Las Vegas.
No word on what exactly angered this gym bunny, but it was serious enough that he smashed Lopez’s smartphone.
The rest is here, with some good pics and a few snarky comments.

13 Reasons Why: Actor Brandon Flynn Comes Out

I've been saying all along that we'll be hearing more and more coming out stories. I think it's reached a point where it's not shocking anymore, and people don't even care. Which is a good thing for all of us. But what's really fantastic and different about this coming out story is that Flynn is making his own plea for legalized marriage in Australia. I liked him before, but I like him a lot more now.

You may recognize actor Brandon Flynn from Netflix’s recent hit 13 Reasons Why, in which he plays the roguish Justin Foley.
The actor just came out in a heartfelt Instagram post, which does double duty as a plea for marriage equality in Australia.
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