Monday, July 24, 2017

Straight Man Sexually Assaulted By Older Gay Man; Sam Stanley and a Man 34 Years His Senior; How Newspapers Reported Partial Decriminalization of Gay Sex In 1967

Straight Man Sexually Assaulted By Older Gay Man

This isn't something we like to hear about, but it happens sometimes.

Five years ago, Byers, who identifies as straight, stopped by a friend’s house for a visit. The friend was an older gay man who he viewed as a father figure. Up until then, 20-year-old Byers and the 60-year-old man enjoyed a plutonic friendship, and he would often turn to him for advice and guidance.

During this particular visit, however, things felt different. As soon as he arrived, the man gave Byers a glass of Bacardi 151 and sat down beside him. They got to chatting. But soon, he started inching his way closer to Byers. 

You can read all about what happened here. Some of the comments are peculiar, though.

Sam Stanley and a Man 34 Years His Senior

I'm always surprised at how so many people find these stories unusual. All of my adult life I have seen older gay men with younger gay men and their relationships have lasted for the long term. In fact, one couple we know where the age difference was about 20 years got legally married the same time we did. And, unfortunately, the younger one just passed away this Christmas after a cancer diagnosis. But they had over 30 wonderful years together and no one even paid attention to the age difference.

Queerty had a chance to chat with the May/December love birds, who currently run a luxury B&B in Sicily called Casa Piccolo Paradiso, about their relationship, the challenges of being in an intergenerational relationship, people’s response to their surprise engagement announcement, and their future wedding plans.

Here's the full interview.

How Newspapers Reported Partial Decriminalization of Gay Sex In 1967

I think this is timely, given the state our media is in these days.

In the 9 July 1967 weekend edition after the law was first voted on in the House of Commons the News of the World wrote:

‘This week we take our stand against one of the most pernicious measures ever put before Parliament, the Sexual Offences Bill to legalize homosexual acts between consenting male adults in private.’

Here's the rest.

Kendle's Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

 Not All Gay Books Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Sunday, July 23, 2017

Sexy Gay Nintendo Bears; DILFs of Disneyland; How Lesbians Helped Fight AIDS

Sexy Gay Nintendo Bears

If you're into bears...

Yes, the searingly unfunny repartee writes itself when it comes to the work of Argentinean artist Leonardo Gutierrez. He’s obsessed with Nintendo’s Super Smash Bros and compulsively turns out pieces that turn Mario, Luigi, Pikachu and Kirby into brawny, big-bellied bears. 

Here's the rest. The photos are not too bad.

DILFs of Disneyland

I'm actually a fan of anything Instagram. And I follow all kinds of things. I'll have to check this one out myself.

Need proof? After nine months of darkness — that’s a decade in dog years! — the DILFs of Disneyland Instagram account is back in action.

Promising the “hottest dads at Disneyland & California Adventure,” the account will make you say “aww” nearly as many times as it makes you say “aww damn.”

There's more here. 

How Lesbians Helped Fight AIDS

On a much more serious note, this is something that never seems to get as much attention as it should. Now there's a new book out titled, The Pox Lover, that goes into detail about what it was like to be an activist in the early days of AIDS.

“In my own circle in New York City, lesbians were very involved in AIDS activism and ACT UP,” d’Adesky says. “That was also true wherever I traveled.” Just don’t try to relegate their involvement to the friendly lesbian nurse stationed in the intensive care unit. “We were not simply caretakers. That’s a complete erasure of our contributions. We were equal with the gay men who were moderating the conversation.” 

You can check this one out here. I think it looks like a fascinating book. I don't remember much myself about that time because I was too young, but I'd like to know more about what it was like back then.

Kendle's Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

 Not All Gay Books Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Saturday, July 22, 2017

Queen Elizabeth's Favorite Gay Anthem; Can You Guess the Sexual Orientation Of A Stranger? School Tried To Ban Kid's Queer Art

Queen Elizabeth's Favorite Gay Anthem

I don't think I'll ever forget the first time I was in a crowded gay nightclub and the ABBA song, Dancing Queen, started to play. I had to hold on to the bar. The entire room went berserk. Everyone ran to the dance floor and threw their arms in the air. Shirts came off; lights began to flicker. I'd never seen anything like it before. And it's still that way, to this day, each time I'm in a gay nightclub and Dancing Queen starts playing.

Evidently, Queen Elizabeth knows what I'm talking about.

It’s being widely reported that at a dinner party recently, “Dancing Queen” came on after the speeches had been made.

Queen Elizabeth then loudly sated: “I always try to dance when this song comes on, because I am the Queen, and I like to dance.”

Here's the rest.  

Can You Guess the Sexual Orientation Of A Stranger?

Frankly, I don't really care about the sexual orientation of a stranger.

But it seems some people do, so there's this:

That was the challenge presented to a roomful of strangers in a video that’s quickly gone viral, in which participants were asked to wager where each of their peers falls on the sexuality spectrum.

Produced by Watchcut Video, the short film finds all five participants scrambling to assign labels to one another based on their appearance and the answers they offer to a series of rapidfire questions.

You can check this out here. I still don't get why it's so important to know the sexual orientation of a stranger.

School Tried to Ban Kid's Queer Art

It always amazes me when I think about all the wrong things I learned in high school about publishing and writing...all wrong. It wasn't until I was college that I started to understand how the art of publishing and creative writing actually works. In fact, the amateur level of knowledge I still see in high schools these days when it comes to anything in the arts makes me cringe. So if there's anyone out there who is in high school and you're experiencing anything like this, please know that it does get better once you get out of high school.

“After starting my concentration, the school vice principal came to me after my art teacher informed the administration about my ‘potentially sensitive’ concentration subject,” Jasper told Pride. “He said that although he had ‘no problem’ with the LGBTQ theme, there is a ‘time and a place’ for ‘these things’ and that it did not belong in public schools.”

You can check this one out here. In spite of what the vice principal said, the kid went on to be selected in a prestigious college art exhibit. You can also see a few examples of his work. It's really very good and way too sophisticated for that high school vice principal. And I don't think this is just about queer art either. I think many talented kids across the board experience this kind of frustration in schools all over the US.

Kendle's Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

 Not All Gay Books Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Friday, July 21, 2017

Should You Shave Your Man Bush? John Barrowman In a TARDIS Dress; Is Coming Out At Work Good or Bad For Your Career?

Should You Shave Your Man Bush?

I think this one all depends on the individual. I either run or hike six mornings a week all year long, plus I work out with weights, and I prefer to manscape my entire body. However, not everyone does.

Do you shave or wax your private areas? How much do you know about your ‘bush’?

In this new YouTube video, the guys from AsapSCIENCE will answer some of the most intimate questions you have about your body hair — specifically, your pubes.

Going back in time, we the human race used to carry thick body hair all over, and only lost them after the last ice age some 70,000 to 120,000 years ago. 

John Barrowman In A TARDIS Dress

It's all about the message with this one, not the dress.

John Barrowman has used a Q&A session at the San Diego Comic Con to defend BBC producers casting a female Doctor Who.

True to his flamboyant nature, he spun onto the stage screaming, ‘I am the transgender Tardis’

You can check that out here. I don't follow Doctor Who, but I love Barrowman, and I like what he had to say. There's a photo, too.

Is Coming Out At Work Good Or Bad For Your Career?

I don't know the answer to this one. However, I do think it's interesting that this web site pubbed two articles about being openly gay at work, with two different messages.

The first piece titled, "Being Authentic Has Transformed My Career. It can do the same for you," sounds great at a glance. But then right below that I saw a second piece that's titled, "1 In 3 LGBTs Harassed or Bullied At Work."

The first one says this: 

Being part of Deloitte’s LGBTI network has been one of the most rewarding aspects of my career so far.

It has enabled me to be involved in something that I care deeply about, grow my network and develop my professional skills.

The second one says this:

One in three LGBT people are harassed or bullied at work.

And only half are out at work, says a new study by the Trades Union Conference (TUC) released today.

With over 5,000 respondents the TUC says this makes the report one of the most comprehensive studies of what it’s like to be LGBT at work in the UK.

I should also mention the first article that makes everything sound so rosy is sponsored. The second one is a real study.

You can check them both out at the links above. I think it all depends on where you work and what you do. The first article screams of elitism, and the second one sounds like reality.

 Kendle's Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

 Not All Gay Books Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Thursday, July 20, 2017

Woman Impersonated A Man To Have Sex; Overweight Bankrupt Gambler Transforms His Body;More On Ben Affleck's Comments About Playing A Gay Character

Woman Impersonated A Man To Have Sex

The original story to all this dates back to 2015, but I don't remember it at all. Evidently, a woman named Gayle Newland pretended to be a man and tricked her female friend into having sex with her...and, Newland will serve six and a half years in prison for it.

Newland created a fake online profile for a man she named Kye Fortune, a male persona she created when she was 13 years old. She hid behind the Kye Fortune identity while she communicated with girls in online chat rooms and eventually created profiles for Fortune on MySpace and Facebook.

The victim, whose name has been withheld for legal reasons, testified that she struck up an online relationship with Fortune on Facebook unaware that she was being catfished. 

Here's the rest. It gets even more peculiar.

Overweight Bankrupt Gambler Transforms His Body

I love stories like this. It shows strength of character and tenacity.

Fisher was “broke, big, and isolated,” he tells the New York Post. “People dream of what I had accomplished, and I lost control.”

That’s when one of his gambler friends made an outrageously cinematic proposition: He was bet $500,000 that he couldn’t lose all the excess weight and cut his body fat to 10% in six months. (Um, who the hell are these people?) 

More here. There are photos and the results are truly amazing.

More On Ben Affleck's Comments About Playing A Gay Character

I'm not going to comment on this one again. Everyone else seems to be doing such a good job at it. And from what I know to be true, Ben Affleck may or may not have even made these comments. So far, this is all hearsay. 

 Westworld actress Evan Rachel Wood is mightily unimpressed by Ben Affleck’s recently revealed claim that kissing a man was his “greatest acting challenge.”

Wood, who’s been openly bisexual since 2011, suggested the Gone Girl star should “try getting raped in a scene,” tweeting, “Grow up, Ben.”

Kevin Smith, who directed Affleck in Chasing Amy, recently claimed the actor said: “A man kissing another man is the greatest acting challenge an actor can ever face.”

You can read more here. She's not backing down on this one, and she's been facing her own backlash over it.

Kendle's Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

 Not All Gay Books Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Wednesday, July 19, 2017

Theresa May Has "Evolved" On Gay Marriage; Gay For Pay Solo Porn Ruined His Life; Kevin Smith Apologizes to Ben Affleck

Theresa May Has "Evolved" On Gay Marriage

This is always a tough one for me. When Hillary Clinton said she "evolved" on gay marriage I cringed a little. And now Theresa May is basically saying the same thing, and I'm cringing again. It's not that I don't understand people changing and evolving. It happens to me, too. However, I want an apology along with these, "I've evolved," statements. I think it's only fair to apologize to the large group of people to whom you've been doing the unthinkable injustice all these years by NOT supporting gay marriage.

In any event, I won't be holding my breath for any apologies any time soon. We all know it doesn't work that way.

UK Prime Minister Theresa May has defied her allies in the DUP by saying she supports marriage equality in Northern Ireland.

Conservative leader May had to do a deal with the Democratic Unionist Party after failing to win an outright majority in June’s UK election. But the DUP opposes abortion and LGBTI equality and has blocked attempts to allow same-sex marriage in Northern Ireland.

Here's the rest. I'm also not too thrilled with the way they lump abortion in with gay marriage. Gay marriage is a celebration and a beginning, not a termination.

Gay For Pay Solo Porn Ruined His Life

This is kind of sad because Michael Hoffman obviously didn't know what he was doing...and he still doesn't know what he's doing. Instead of owning his past, he's knocking it and putting himself down for doing what millions of other guys do on a daily basis nowadays. The only difference between him and these other guys is that he did it in public.

But it turns out that while he claimed he made over $10,000 with those videos, his future has not turned out quite as positive as he’d hoped.

‘My decision four years ago to start making videos has really fucked me up,’ he said on Twitter.

‘I lose girl after girl, can’t land a relationship, can’t land a job.

There's more here. I don't think his life is ruined or that he should feel shame. I just think he needs to look in a different direction and move forward in that direction.

Kevin Smith Apologizes to Ben Affleck

Here's a follow up to the story I linked to yesterday about a few comments Ben Affleck allegedly made when he was younger and just starting out. Evidently, Kevin Smith, the guy who claims Affleck made these comments, has received a good deal of backlash since the story broke.

Director Kevin Smith is doing damage control.

The Dogma director posted a video to Facebook trying to explain comments he made over the weekend. He also apologized to actors Ben Affleck and Evan Rachel Wood for the misunderstanding he inadvertently caused.

‘I feel fucking so stupid,’ Smith said in the video. ‘This is the problem with having a big fat mouth like mine, but honestly, I didn’t think I was doing anything bad.’

You can read the rest here. I was sarcastic in my post, but I don't think anyone holds anything against Ben Affleck for things he said in the 90s...or rather, if he said them. I know I don't. In that respect I think we've all evolved since included.

And I give Smith all the credit in the world for apologizing. We never got that from ANY politician.

Kendle's Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

 Not All Gay Books Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Tuesday, July 18, 2017

Ben Affleck Felt Like A Serious Actor After Kissing A Dude, And I Felt the Same Way After Kissing A Straight Guy; Steamy Gay "Riverdale" Scene; Classic Gay Movie "Shelter" On Here TV

Ben Affleck Felt Like A Serious Actor After Kissing A Dude, And I Felt the Same Way After Kissing A Straight Guy 

I've never seen this movie...Chasing Amy. But it does make sense to me that heterosexual Ben Affleck would feel like a "serious actor" after kissing a guy for the first time. I felt like a "serious gay" after I kissed my first straight dude who actually looked a lot like Ben Affleck. It's plausible.

According to Smith, Affleck said, ‘A man kissing another man is the greatest acting challenge an actor can ever face.’ Upon completion of the kissing scene, Smith recounted that Affleck stated, ‘Now, I’m a serious actor.’

Once again, I have to agree with good old Ben. Kissing a straight guy was one of the greatest challenges I ever faced, too. It took some talent. And, when it was over, I said to myself, "I am a serious gay."

Here's the rest. You have to love the way Hollywood still treats gay men. But you also have to remember this was the 1990s and there wasn't much gay content anywhere. As they say in the article, lesbians were just happy to see themselves in ANY movie at all. Obviously, we still have a long way to go.

Steamy Gay Riverdale Scene

Tony and I have an agreement. I won't make him watch anything on TV that he hates, and he won't make me watch those boring science channel, "How It's Made." It works out just fine, especially because we only watch about 2 hours of TV a day, and I don't care how hammers are made.

With that said, I've never seen Riverdale. And that's only because Tony can't even stand watching the first 15 minutes. But this does look interesting, to me.

There is no excerpt with this one. It's just a link to the video.

Classic Gay Movie "Shelter" On Here TV

I've actually never seen Shelter, the movie, either. I've heard about it. I've read about it. I've read discussion groups where it was the main topic. But somehow I've managed to miss it. Well, this might change soon...

Shelter is one of those movies you can watch dozens of times and never get tired of. It stars Trevor Wright (The Social Network) and Brad Rowe (National Treasure: Book of Secrets) as Zach and Shaun, two friends who reunite after childhood and find comfort in surfing and eachother. As their bond blossoms, their friendship grows into a summer romance that changes their lives forever. 

Here's the rest.  The things I've heard about Shelter have only been excellent. In fact, many consider it a gay classic. I've even seen people argue about how much they love Shelter. So this is exciting, and I'll be posting more about it in the future.

Kendle's Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

 Not All Gay Books Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field