I've seen gay couples deal with obituaries many different ways in my lifetime. Older gay couples typically mentioned a "husband" as "a lifelong friend," or something along those lines. Something tasteful and safe...something that wouldn't offend people. Up until recently I rarely ever saw "husband" ( or "wife") actually used in obituaries for older gay couples. That's because discretion was always the most important thing to these people. And also because we weren't allow the freedom to do this, legally.
Many never even admitted they were long term relationships, at least not aloud. This topic with regard to gay couples could be a series of posts, however, I'll stick to this one story for now because it's so awful. In this case the newspaper totally removed the husband from the obituary of the other guy's mother.
A PG Rated Gay Romance
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