Tuesday, January 17, 2017

Chelsea Manning Pardon; Young Catholic Priest's Grindr Addiction; Video About Circuit Queens

Chelsea Manning Pardon

For as long as I can remember, when Presidents leave office they pardon people, and this topic has been making news all week with President Obama.

Various outlets are reporting that Chelsea Manning’s sentence has just been commuted by President Obama.

The former Army intelligence officer was incarcerated in 2010 after stealing roughly 700,000 military dossiers and diplomatic cables and turning them over to Wikileaks.

The rest is here. There is a quote from Manning, and it sounds honest, and she's had a rough time dealing with her gender dysphoria while incarcerated.

Young Catholic Priest's Grindr Addiction

Even though it won't come as a shock to anyone that priests can be gay, this kind of news continues to happen in the church. But this story does have a twist.

A young priest in training hooked up with an older guy on Grindr...

It’s unclear whether the men were planning on having sexual relations, or just staying up late giggling and talking about boys, but at some point in the evening the man says he awoke to find Byrne performing unwanted sex acts on him. Afterwards, the victim contacted Archbishop Diarmuid Martin about Byrne.


“I believe this young man is not suitable for priesthood,” he tells the paper, adding that he worries the young cleric, who recently took a vow of celibacy, “may do this (sexual assault) again in the future.”

You can read the rest here. To be honest, after finding out that I was close friends with two very high powered bishops in the Catholic church after years of listening to them lie about who they were, nothing shocks me anymore. I'm going to have to rewrite that story because I can't find where I placed it on the blog. I'd link to it if I could. It's a true story of how I was duped by two Catholic bishops pretending to be an older gay couple who were living double lives right here in New Hope. In fact, they duped the entire community, and got away with it.

Video About Circuit Queens

This is kind of a nasty video and not something I would ever take seriously. In fact, I thought it would never end. It's some guy I never heard of joking around about circuit queens not eating and having good bodies. And it's confusing to me because I always thought the term circuit queen was a reference to older guys. I did a search and didn't come up with much else. In fact, and older post of mine about circuit queens showed up on google.

In any event, they are referring to "circuit queens" in the video.

The epic four-and-a-half minute faux-torch song — complete with heavily AutoTuned lead vocals, increasingly filthy lyrics, and plaintive piano arpeggios calling to mind baleful performance artists stridently waving streamers — is an instant classic to our ears, and the video more than does it justice.

I'm not a circuit queen and I haven't had bread (or carbs) in years. I work out every morning. I'm not trying to prove anything to anyone. And I don't take tons of selfies because I'm a writer, not a celebrity. I just like being in shape and feeling good. If someone doesn't care about those things, that's fine, too. Good for them. I couldn't care less. But I'm not going to judge or shame them or make unfunny jokes about them either.

You can check this one out here. The comments vary. I'm just not a big fan of looks shaming anyone.

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Monday, January 16, 2017

The Danger of Gonorrhea In Sweden; Orlando Shooter's Wife Arrested; San Francisco and Gay Bathhouses

The Danger of Gonorrhea In Sweden

I'm only linking and not commenting, because I know nothing about this topic, and I hope I never do...

Once again, the number of reported gonorrhea infections in Sweden has increased, just as experts maintain that a strain could soon become incurable.

Despite various safe sex campaigns (and Swedish doctors hammering home how prevalent infections have become), statistics from Sweden’s Public Heath Agency demonstrate that by November 2016, 1,625 cases were reported — up from 1,535 the prior year.

You can read more about this here.

Orlando Shooter's Wife Arrested

The questionable wife of the despicable Orlando shooter who killed 49 innocent people at a gay club last year has been arrested. I'm linking to the NYT with this one because it seems to be the most objective.

Noor Salman, whose husband, Omar Mateen, killed 49 people and wounded dozens in an Orlando nightclub that was popular with gays, was also charged with aiding and abetting by providing material support, the officials said.

She was taken into custody by F.B.I. agents at her home outside of San Francisco, where she had been living with her young son. Prosecutors had been weighing charges against her for months in the aftermath of the attack by her husband on June 12, 2016.

I believe we'll hear more about this in days to come. You can read the entire article here

San Francisco and Gay Bathhouses

I've never been to a gay bathhouse and it's something I've always wondered about.

This article talks about the complications business owners face in San Francisco with regard to bathhouses.

Under the permit, however, they would have to comply with the minimum standards — monitors and all — that is, unless the health department revises these standards. The department just released this handy-dandy FAQ about bathhouses, sex clubs and other commercial sex venues in anticipation of a public forum. How frequent any of these questions were asked, however, is up for debate, but we’ll open this up to our own public forum.

You can read more here. The comments are fascinating, and there's a screen shot from San Francisco's Population Health Division that goes into more detail. It's interesting, especially this one...

Is there a difference between a Sex Club and a Bathhouse?

Yes. Sex Clubs operate under a business permit issued by the SF Office of Treasurer and Tax Collector. It is important forthe public to have a clear understanding that from a legal designation, the City and County does not equate the termbathhouse with a commercial sex venue. In San Francisco, there is no such thing as a permit for a sex club or commercialsex venue.

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Sunday, January 15, 2017

FREE Excerpt: Gay Slut Shaming In Imperfect; Gay Man Who Gave Blood Had No Sex For One Year; Record Number of LGBT People This Year;

Record Number of LGBT People This Year

I've been predicting this was going to happen the entire time I've been blogging.

Study reveals there are now over 10 million Americans who identify as LGBT.
According to a poll done by Gallup the percentage of Americans who identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender has increased from 3.5% in 2012 to 4.1% in 2016.

Gallup released the results and said: ‘These figures, drawn from the largest representative sample of LGBT Americans collected in the U.S., imply that more than an estimated 10 million adults now identify as LGBT in the U.S. today, approximately 1.75 million more compared with 2012.’

And, I predict the numbers will continue to increase. There are still many who have not been heard...yet. I know several of them personally.

You can read more here.

Gay Man Who Gave Blood Had No Sex For One Year

It's hard to imagine that this kind of thing is still happening to gay men and that these laws are still being enforced.

21-year-old Jay Franzone abstained from sex for a year to able to donate blood.

Franzone was finally able to donate blood this week after not having sex of any kind with another man for a year.

‘IT shouldn’t be a big deal that I gave blood this week, but it is. To do it, I had to give up all forms of sex for a year. The reason: I’m gay,’ he wrote in a New York Times article.

There's more here. He talks about how his straight friends can have all the sex they want, and still donate blood without anyone questioning them. It's also mentioned that HIV testing has improved significantly since these laws were enforced.


FREE Excerpt: Gay Slut Shaming In Imperfect

With these new adult gay romance novels I've been releasing lately, I've been focusing on incorporating a few small things into the story lines that we often overlook. In the book, Imperfect, I thought it was important to include some of the slut shaming that often occurs within the gay community, through the main character, Rider Evans. Of course that's not what the entire book is about...it's a romance. However, it is a huge part of the story, from a gay POV.

Here's a short Excerpt. It's from a scene where the main characters meet up again after a lengthy separation, because they're forced to work together professionally. I can't give out more because I don't want to add spoilers. However, this is just one scene of a few where they talk about this kind of slut shaming.

Rider walked over to his desk and said, "You really are looking well, Drew." His honey colored hair was shorter on the sides and longer on the top, his chest muscles rounded through the white V-neck shirt he was wearing, and he had just enough of a tan to give his skin a soft glow. It appeared as if he was beginning to grow a beard, which gave him a rugged appeal that sent a ridiculous thrill up Rider's leg.
Drew shrugged as if he didn't care and said, "You look the same as always."
"Thank you," Rider said. "You always knew how to pay the best compliments." He'd been trying not to be sarcastic, but that one was too easy to pass. In the short time they were together as a couple if Drew even noticed how Rider looked it was a novelty.
"And you were always so needy," Drew said.

"Now that's not true and you know it," Rider said. He didn't want to start an argument. He'd only been there a few minutes. However, he wasn't going to let Drew get away with that superior tone, especially now that they would be working together on a regular basis.

Drew stood up and turned to glance out the window. His faded jeans were as tight at his shirt and they hugged his slim hips so perfectly Rider felt like walking over and grabbing him.
"You always did need extra attention," Drew said. "If everyone in the room wasn't falling all over you, you worked them even harder until they did."
"Maybe that's because I never got any attention from you," Rider said. He didn't feel like explaining it to Drew, but he had changed in that respect. The older he got the less he seemed to care about what people thought.
"Well, you made up for it. I'll never forget just how much attention you were getting from the pizza delivery guy and the plumber on that afternoon."
"Why do you have to bring that up again?" Rider asked. "That's ancient history."
Drew turned and laughed in his face. "You're right. You can't help it if you have needs. The kind of needs that could never be satisfied by one man alone. It's just part of your nature."
"Don't slut shame me," Rider said.
"It's not slut shaming when you're talking about your own lover, the person you thought you were in a monogamous relationship with. That's called honesty, and it's something with which you've never been completely familiar."
He had a point and Rider knew it. When he'd seduced the plumber and the pizza guy in his underwear that afternoon he knew he was wrong, and yet he still couldn't keep from doing it. "I'm sorry. I was an idiot."
Drew walked to the other end of the window and glanced out to the parking lot. "It's all good now," he said. "There's no need to apologize. We're both adults and enough time has passed since all that happened. In a way, you actually helped me grow up and face the world as it is." He turned and looked him in the eye. "If anything, I should be thanking you for teaching me a good lesson in life. If it looks too good to be true, it probably is."
He sounded so friendly and calm Rider didn't want to ruin the moment by continuing this conversation. He had a feeling that if he said the wrong thing…which he tended to do…the conversation might devolve into a loud shouting match.
He walked over to the window where Drew was standing and extended his right hand. "Let's start fresh, right now. We're going to be working together, we both want this web site to be successful, and I think we're going to work well together. Let's shake on it, and I'll take you out to dinner tonight to talk everything over."
For a moment, Drew hesitated. When he did finally reach for Rider's hand he shook it and said, "That sounds like a good idea, a business dinner."
"Don't I at least get a hug?" Rider asked.
Drew stepped back and smiled. "Don't push your luck, pal."
Rider smiled and lifted his palms. "Okay."
"Now I have to get back to work, and you need to get set up in your office," Drew said. "If you need anything ask Dequinn. He's kind of like the receptionist, the office manager, and the one who does all the tech work around here. Sandler, who is also on staff, does some tech work, but it's mostly Dequinn."
As Rider turned to leave, he said, "Sounds good. I'll make a reservation somewhere and meet you here in your office at the end of the day."
When Rider reached the door, Drew said, "One more thing. You don't have to dress that way for work."
Rider stopped at the door and turned around. "What's wrong with the way I'm dressed?" He thought he looked great.
Drew looked him up and down and smiled. "It's just that we're more casual here on a daily basis, and you look as if you're going to the first holy communion of the child of a hipster couple. But you always were very trendy."
"Well I'm glad I left my lumberjack beard and fake man bun at home," Rider said. "I'll remember that." No one could throw shade better than Drew, but no one could reply faster than Rider.
"I'm sure you will," Drew said, and then he sat down behind his desk, went back to his keyboard, and dismissed Rider as if he'd already left the room.

When Rider was out in the reception area again, he noticed a nice looking young guy sitting at the main desk. Even though he was seated, he appeared to be taller than most men. He was dressed casually in a white button down shirt and tan jeans, and his short dark hair had a little extra style to it that was hard to explain. At a glance, he reminded Rider of a news anchor on one of the large cable news stations, but he had an edge that resembled a well-known openly gay rap singer. Rider figured this was Dequinn, so he headed over to introduce himself, wondering whether or not this unusual working arrangement with Drew would ever settle into something comfortable.

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Saturday, January 14, 2017

More Gay Icons; Ryan Murphy's Gay Icons; Beyonce Should Donate Money From Coachella To LGBT Causes

More Gay Icons

I'll never get this gay icon thing for anything, so I've given up trying. I like them all, and I respect them all, but I wouldn't stand in a long line for any of them.

The fact remains that a lot of gay people do have icons, and here's one of them in 2017.

Carol Channing - Bob the Drag queen breathed new life into this lady’s legacy when he impersonated her on Drag Race — but let’s be honest, she didn’t need any help. Her legacy is lively enough as it is. As Dolly Levi, she’s a constant reminder that you can bounce back from tragedy. And in Skiddoo, she’s a reminder that you shouldn’t take every role you’re offered.

You can check out the rest of the gay icons here. If you check out the comments, you'll see that not everyone who is gay agrees.

I do think I understand *why* some gay men have these icons. Growing up in a heteronormative world wasn't easy for any of us, and I think some gay men identify with these icons in ways that go much deeper than entertainment. That's something I do understand. I felt that way with Anne Rice novels.

Ryan Murphy's Gay Icons

Here's another one about gay icons, and this one is all about Ryan Murphy.

Ryan Murphy’s latest anthology series finally has a premiere date. The highly anticipated Feud: Bette and Joan, about the legendary beef between Hollywood—and more importantly gay—icons Bette Davis and Joan Crawford joins FX’s Sunday night lineup on March 5.

Here's the rest.

I'll give this one a shot. I'm not much for the gay icon angle, but I do enjoy history of film movies. And the camp factor alone in Whatever Happened to Baby Jane is worth checking out.

Beyonce Should Donate Money From Coachella To LGBT Causes

Now here's something I totally agree with.

Last week I posted about the owner of Coachella allegedly making donations to anti-gay causes. I also posted about his apology a few days later. He claims he didn't even know what causes he was supporting, and he's broken ties with them all since he found out. I thought he sounded sincere. Evidently, his apology and his efforts to prove he's not anti-gay wasn't enough for some people, and I don't think it ever will be enough...for some people.

So what can be done about all this? Aside from just not going, you can also sign a petition asking performers to donate their proceeds to queer causes to counteract Phil Anschutz’s agenda. It’s directed at performers like Beyonce, Kendrick Lamar and Radiohead, and recommends donations to The Trevor Project, Trans Lifeline and the Human Rights Campaign.

I'm not a huge fan of boycotts of any kind because they usually wind up hurting so many people who had nothing to do with the original issue that caused the shitstorm. There are a lot of innocent people who depend on Coachella for a living and they've never done anything wrong or anti-gay. Why would anyone want to hurt them?

So this idea that Beyonce and her grand fellow celebrities should donate their proceeds sounds like an excellent compromise. I love it. Go ahead, Beyonce, give your money to LGBT causes.  

You can read the rest here.

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Friday, January 13, 2017

The Blog For Gay Bathhouse News; George Michael Mural In Sydney; Tom Goss Showering With Men Almost Made Him Asexual

The Blog For Gay Bathhouse News

The other day I saw a tweet where someone compared a politician to Hitler because that particular politician was complaining about the press for sharing fake news. The tweet made it sound as though that was the only kind of censorship or media control in Nazi Germany, without mentioning the fact that the worst kind of media control back then was the propaganda promoted by Hitler through the press. You can read more about this here. I'm not going into detail about it. I'm just using it as an example.

Unfortunately, I often see the same brand of media manipulation happening all over the Internet nowadays, and it happens often in mainstream news. It's not as bad as what happened in Nazi Germany, and yet it's still a form of propaganda that's designed to camouflage the truth. There's only one kind of gay person they allow us to see, and only one kind of gay life they want you to know about. And that's because it suits their agendas. However, they rarely ever post about the real aspects of gay culture, like the bathhouse blog I'm linking to right now.

I've been following this blog for about ten years and it's still moving forward. It talks about the kind of gay news so many gay men have always been familiar with. Here's something from one of their most recent posts about a gay clergyman who allegedly has an addiction to gay saunas...

Sex addicted clergyman has been fired from his position after his wife exposed his double life of hookers, orgies and gay bathhouse visits.

Following the wife’s whistle-blowing over his secret life, a disciplinary hearing ruled her husband would be banned from ministry for life over his conduct.

You can check that out here, along with the rest of the blog. It's well written, simple to navigate, and still remains relevant to this day. And I can promise you that you won't see them talking about this on CNN.

George Michael Mural In Sydney

Here's something else the PC news media would never report (or explain) to the mainstream about gay culture. It's kind of an artistic religious parody (St. George) much the same way I've parodied straight movies with erotic gay romance books, and the image is holding a joint in one hand and poppers in the other.

Sydney-based street artist Scott Marsh just put the last finishing touches on a splashy 20′ mural immortalizing pop icon George Michael, which you’ll find on the corner of Bray and Flora in St. Peters.

Important detail: Since patron saints tend to cradle some sort of magical talisman, Marsh thought it wise to paint a joint and big bottle of amyl into Michael’s paws.

You can check that out here, where there are a few comments already. And for those of you who only see what they let you know about George Takei, Neil Patrick Harris, and Ellen, amyl nitrate has always been a part of gay culture. You don't have to like it. You just have to know about it.

Tom Goss Showering With Men Almost Made Him Asexual

I think they're exaggerating the true meaning of asexual here again, but I get the point they're trying to make and I don't think that's being exaggerated. Most gay men like Tom Goss are just as confused.

The Son of A Preacher Man singer recently told The Fight magazine that for a long time he thought he was asexual and was actually considering becoming a priest.

But being around a group of young, musclebound college wrestlers pumped full of testosterone didn’t have any affect on Goss.

“These were 18–22 year old men, beautiful and with bodies to die for, I didn’t find them attractive either,” he said. “As a result I just assumed I was asexual.”

I think many gay men can identify with that. You can read the article in full here. It goes on to mention that Goss did, in fact, enter a Catholic seminary. And there's a video of his music.



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Thursday, January 12, 2017

Cody Alan Comes Out As Gay; SNL's Alec Baldwin and Anti-Gay Slurs; Leah McSweeney and Alleged Homophobia

Cody Alan Comes Out As Gay

I've been saying all along we're going to be seeing a lot more of this.

To country music fans, Cody Alan has always been a ball of sunshine. But for years, the seemingly happy-go-lucky CMT and iHeartRadio host suffered an identity crisis, holding onto a secret he’s finally ready to share — that he’s gay.

“Though my TV or my radio persona was always that of a happy guy, there was this underlying ache inside of me for years, so I decided either I was gonna do something about it, or I was gonna live with this layer of misery underneath that happy face on the TV,” Alan, 44, tells PEOPLE exclusively.

You can read more about it here. 

I love the way people in the media refer to being gay as an "identity crisis." He knew who he was all along. He just didn't tell YOU until he was ready to come out.

And he's not going to be the last one to come out as gay either.

SNL's Alec Baldwin and the Anti-Gay Slurs

Suddenly, Alec Baldwin is the darling of the press because of his parody of Donald Trump on Saturday Night Live. It's a good parody and I'm not questioning that. Evidently, no one else is either. I'm just wondering why everyone forgot all about this...

Alec Baldwin’s new weekly MSNBC talk show was suspended for two episodes after the actor was videotaped using an anti-gay epithet against a photographer during a New York street encounter.

The cable channel didn’t specify the reason it yanked Friday night’s Up Late with Alec Baldwin from its schedule this week and next, but the decision came the day after the Thursday run-in. 

If you google Alec Baldwin and Anti-Gay Slurs, you'll come up with more information than you need to read. I'm also wondering if Baldwin would have gotten a free pass on this one if his slurs had been directed at any other minority. No one else ever has. This kind of thing has ruined careers, for obvious reasons. But if you shout out a repulsive anti-gay slur, that seems to be forgivable.

It's interesting. That's all.

Here's the link.

Leah McSweeney and Alleged Homophobia

In short, Leah McSweeney is some kind of designer I never heard of who got into some kind of flamewar with an openly gay comedian from Saturday Night Live named Michael Che. She's making one claim, he's making another, and there are screen shots of tweets of the shitstorm so you can figure out how you want to be outraged this time.

She said this, in part...

“I met a comedian. I’ve dealt with a few comedians. They are the worst,” McSweeney said. “Michael Che is so arrogant and so rude and disrespectful that I cannot even believe that someone … You’re like a D-list celebrity to me! Whatever!”

But here's the twist...

But a series of text exchanges between the two, published by Page Six, don’t appear to support McSweeney’s allegations in the least. If anything, they expose the socially awkward, not to mention racist and slightly homophobic, strategies she employs when trying to seduce guys on dating apps.

You can read the rest here. 

I do find it ironic that Saturday Night Live came up again with the topic of homophobia...in general. I've linked to SNL more than once over the years. It wasn't too long ago when I was posting about the SNL 40th reunion and how a gay cast member was left out completely. And from what I've read there has never been a long list of openly gay cast members on SNL.

It's just an observation.



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Wednesday, January 11, 2017

Meryl Streep, People With Disabilities, and Hollywoodfail; Vivica A. Fox Apologizes; Andrew Garfield and Stephen Colbert Make Out On TV

Meryl Streep, People With Disabilities, and Hollywoodfail

I think most people know what happened with Meryl Streep at the Golden Globe Awards. That was political, but this post isn't about politics. This is about calling out people coming from places of privilege. It's also about letting others know that this issue with disabled people goes a lot deeper than what the media reports on the surface. It happens time and again, with disabled people. It happens in Hollywood with minorities, too, and I've posted about how often this happens with gay characters more times than I can count.

Someone decided to finally speak up about it, and to defend people with disabilities who never get any representation...

What’s most disheartening, Keplinger notes, is that when people with disabilities are depicted on the big screen, they tend to be played by actors who are able-bodied in real life.
“’We would never do this,’ I’m sure many were thinking. ‘We would never mock someone with a disability,’” Keplinger said. “But how many of the actors in that room have been paid millions of dollars to play someone with a physical disability? There is a difference between playing a part and mocking someone, absolutely, but can Hollywood really pat itself on the back when disabled actors are still so rarely cast ― even to play people like themselves?”
You can read more about this here. It's a long piece, but it gets right to the proverbial heart of the matter. I think I like this line the most because it can be applied to anything.

“Imagine what it would feel like to be a woman and for the only women you ever saw in films to be played by men



Vivica A. Fox Apologizes

It's only fair to post about this. Besides, you don't see too many apologies coming from anyone these days.

Fox was called out everywhere for comments she made about not wanting gay men at her male stripper shows. This was her reply...

“My intention was not to offend anyone and I’m woman enough to apologize if you felt that way,” she continued. “My show has already been taped and I was just doing something for the ladies but all are welcome to enjoy Vivica’s Black Magic Show! It’s HAWT…I’m all about LOVE not HATE dawling! Have a blessed day.”

Here's where I found this. I'm probably not going to watch her show, but I think she sounds sincere.

Andrew Garfield and Stephen Colbert Make Out On TV

This one seems to be getting mixed responses. From what I've read, people reacted the same way years ago whenever a white person kissed a non-white person on TV.

Apparently straight guys have figured out what straight girls have known for years: making out with someone of the same sex is a great way to get attention.

On last night’s The Late Show, Andrew Garfield — no relation to the cat — was pressed on his lip-lock with Ryan Reynolds at the Golden Globes. “You kind of stole focus,” Colbert said. “What was the story there?”

There's more here, with a video of the actual kissing. The comments are mixed.

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