Monday, July 25, 2016

DNC Homophobic E-mail Leaks "No Homo"; Gay Men and Open Relationships; When Your Sex Tape Is Leaked Online

DNC Homophobic E-mail Leaks "No Homo"

I'm not sure what to make of this...I'm talking about the tone of the article, not the actual leaks. I expect to see leaks like this. But the article sounds way to willing to laugh it all off, and I'm not quire sure I'm ready to do that yet. I think what people do online and what they put in private e-mails usually tells you who that person really is.

Now if a group of straight men outside the DNC did this I'm not so sure the oh so willing to forgive queer presses would be laughing it all off.

It's a little hard to parse, but one e-mail reads...

I love you too. No homo.


Homo is a derogatory term. That's a given. It's a slur. It's right up there with fag. And then there's this...

Doug Hathaway is definitely gay. He swims for the gay and lesbian team in DC.

Again, it's hard to parse without seeing everything. But the tone of this article itself, not the e-mails, makes us all sound as if we're blithering idiots.

You can check this out here.

Just to show you that I'm not the only one who questioned these e-mails I'm linking to another article below.

And one wondered about the use of the term “homo.” Isn’t it considered derogatory? What if someone in the Republican National Committee had used it? How about someone else?

I think we deserve better, at least the same PC treatment other minorities get. Especially from the DNC.
Gay Men and Open Relationships
I wrote extensively about this in my most recent indie novel, Unabated. I think more gay men have open relationships than are willing to admit. And I don't see anything wrong with it...for the right people. It's not for everyone. 
While critics of open relationships remain cooped up in their studies, droning on about how humans will never be able to differentiate between love and sex, plenty of same-sex couples are demonstrating how open relationships can indeed be highly successful, perhaps even allowing each party to become closer to one another, more communicative, and more satisfied with their love-lives in general, especially when compared to their so-called “more faithful” peers.
It's very interesting. You can read more here
When Your Sex Tape Is Leaked Online
E-mails from the DNC aren't the only things being leaked lately.
You can try to reach out to the tube site that posted the vid, but a simple search reveals people have already downloaded and uploaded it to other sites. The scene is only seven minutes, but it’s fifteen minutes of fame you never volunteered for. You’re officially and unwittingly an Internet thing…

This is more of less what happened to Lokies Khan, a gay man from Singapore who discusses what it’s like having a video released online that shows you having sex.

Frankly, I think when you do a sex video you run the risk of this happening. There are still millions of people out there who have never done a sex video, and never will. They don't have to worry about their sex video being leaked.

The moral to this one is think very carefully before you make a sex video. What goes online stays online forever. 

Here's the rest. 

 Valley of the Dudes


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Sunday, July 24, 2016

Give Your Penis A Lift: Colorful Artsy Condoms; Kurt Russell: A Planet With A Penis; Nutella Filled Penis Cakes

Give Your Penis A Lift: Colorful Artsy Condoms

This might be good for those of you who are always saying you don't like condoms.

You want to use protection, but, more important, you want to express yourself. Your passions, your fears, your most secret desires, your favorite color. You want to penetrate your lover with some serious pizzazz. You want a condom that says, “Hey, baby, this is me.” 

Here's the rest, and there are photos of the condoms. I actually think they look like fun.

Kurt Russell: A Planet With A Penis

This is making news thanks to Comic-Con. If you were wondering whatever happened to Kurt Russell, he's playing a planet with a penis in Guardians of the Galaxy Vol. 2.

That’s fun and all, but then the studio debuted a clip from the upcoming movie—which it has yet to put online—that reportedly both confirmed and confounded something we already knew about the film. Yes, Kurt Russell will be playing Star-Lord’s dad in Guardians Vol. 2. That was a given. Here’s the weird part. He’ll also be playing this guy: 

There's more here.  I don't follow this stuff, so I can't explain it in detail. But I'm sure a lot of you know what they're talking about.

Nutella Filled Penis Cakes

I do follow stuff like this, and I happen to love Nutella, so this caught my eye immediately. In fact, Nutella is the one food I never seem to get tired of.

Overflowing with gag-inducing goodness, the cakes are well endowed with Nutella filling and eerily resemble the actual shape (or one of the many diverse shapes) of a human penis. In a further attempt to fool customers into thinking they’re consuming the real thing rather than an elaborate phallic joke, the cakes are also topped with a slightly translucent condensed milk icing. No one is safe from the feeling of returning to junior high only to enroll in the Pen15 club while eating these.

You can check this out here, with photos. They actually serve them on a stick so you won't get your hands all sticky.

 Valley of the Dudes


Saturday, July 23, 2016

Free Gay Excerpt: Valley of the Dudes by Ryan Field; Jonathan Groff and Russell Tovey On Coming Out; Gay Tops and Bottoms, Again

Jonathan Groff and Russell Tovey On Coming Out

Here's a piece about Jonathan Groff and Russell Tovey talking about how their careers improved after they came out as gay.

So, in a time when homophobia in the entertainment industry may not be so overt but still commonplace, Jonathan Groff and Russell Tovey should consider themselves #blessed. The stars of HBO’s Looking: The Movie, which premieres on Saturday, told Queerty that they have not had any personal experiences with homophobia in Hollywood (at least that they’re aware of). In fact, Groff and Tovey both agreed that their careers only got brighter after coming out, even if they have not ascended to the Hollywood A-list as of yet. A sentiment that has been echoed by Quinto. It’s ironic then that the actors in Looking, one of the bluest shows (both literally and figuratively), are the ones comforting us – that being a famous gay man is not always so tragic.

There's more here.  I still think a lot of actors remain in the closet for valid, solid reasons. It's the same for gay men in almost every single profession out there. I'm not advocating that by any means, but I don't judge it either.

Gay Tops and Bottoms, Again

The queer presses never seem to get enough of this topic. Here's another one of those stories about gay tops and bottoms that most definitely will not change your life, however, it's interesting in a general, glib IDGF kind of way.  

“In my experience the ratio is about 2:1 with bottoms in the lead,” one person says.

How exactly does he know this?

“Go look at sex ads in various cities,” he explains. “I know in most of the CA Bay Area, you’ll actually find a ratio more like 3:1. Up where I live now it’s closer to 4:1.”

Four bottoms for every one top? Sounds exhausting.

The odd thing is that there is a little truth to all of this. You can check it out here

Free Gay Excerpt Valley of the Dudes by Ryan Field

Here's another excerpt from Valley of the Dudes. I had to censor this one a little for google blogger, but the uncensored book is up for sale at all the links below. It's been re-released as a gay parody this year by Riverdale Avenue Books to coincide with the 50th Anniversary of Valley of the Dolls. I've posted a lot about it in the past week, from the press release to the new introduction I added to the book, which you can check out here. 


On Saturday night, Rush and Lance went to the talent show in the local high school gymnasium. Rush hesitated about going, but he’d promised his aunt he’d do her this favor before she’d left for Florida. The talent show was being held to raise money for college scholarships, and the knitting circle his mother and aunt belonged to was sponsoring the event. There was a bake sale afterward, which meant Rush had to bring two cakes: one on behalf of his aunt, and one on behalf of his late mother. And his aunt had left explicit instructions on the kinds of cakes she wanted him to bring: two white coconut layer cakes. She told him, with a stern voice, people depended on those cakes.

Rush felt awkward about asking Lance to go to a small town talent show. Lance was a well known entertainment attorney and talent agent all over the world. So Rush figured he’d make the cakes, deliver them on behalf of his mother and his aunt, and then he and Lance would spend a quiet evening together roasting chestnuts in front of the fire.

 But when Lance saw him making the cakes, he sat down at the kitchen table and asked, “What are you doing? I had no idea you knew how to cook.”

Rush measured out two cups of sugar and poured them into a bowl with room temperature butter. He thought Lance was still up in his bed napping. After they’d had sex that morning, they’d both gone back to bed. Rush smiled and said, “I don’t really know how to cook. I know how to bake. There’s a difference.”

 Lance folded his arms across his chest and said, “I didn’t know there was a difference.” 

“There’s a huge difference,” Rush said, switching on the mixing machine. “Some people can do both, but mostly you’re either a great baker or a great cook. I’m neither, but I know how to bake. “

Lance noticed four layer cake pans on the counter. “Why are you baking all this right now?”

Rush smiled and told him about the talent show and the bake sale. He assured Lance he wasn’t going to ask him to go. He’d just drop the cakes off, make an appearance for the sake of his aunt, and then come right back home.

Lance rubbed his jaw and frowned. “Are you embarrassed to be seen with me?”

Rush dropped a wooden spoon and said, “Of course not. I’m proud to be seen with you. I just didn’t think you’d be interested in going to a small town talent show. You’re a huge agent from New York. I don’t want to bore you to death with something like this.”

“There’s something about me you don’t know,” Lance said. “First, I’m not a snob. I’d love to go. Second, I’m also an amateur musician and singer. I’ve written a few of my own songs, and trust me, I am an amateur. So I won’t be judging anyone else.”

Rush smiled and shook his head. He had no idea Lance was a musician. Evidently, there was a lot about Lance Sharp he still didn’t know. “Well then, we’ll go. I’m sure the women in the knitting circle will love you.”


At 7:00, they arrived at the high school gymnasium with two fresh coconut layer cakes on cardboard rounds covered with pink cellophane. Though Rush hadn’t baked anything in a long time, he was proud of what he’d accomplished that afternoon. The cakes looked very professional.

They set the cakes down on a folding table covered with a pink paper tablecloth and Rush introduced Lance to the women in the knitting circle. Lance smiled and flirted with them, while they blushed and batted their eyelids. And the talent show wasn’t half bad either. It turned out to be a karaoke show, and some of the local singers had decent voices. One older guy sang a great version of Fly Me to the Moon. At the end of the show, when the announcer asked if anyone else would like to perform a karaoke song, Lance stood up and raised his hand. They were sitting in the back row. As Lance stepped out of the aisle and crossed toward the stage, Rush pressed his palm to his throat and stared in amazement. He watched Lance choose a specific song. And when the music began to play and Lance started singing a slow, romantic version of his song, Rush sat back in his seat and smiled. Lance had a deep, smooth voice. His pitch was excellent and he didn’t miss a lyric or a note. By the time he was finished singing, the entire room was standing and applauding him.

On the way home, the weather changed. The wind had increased and the heavy old car rocked back and forth. But Rush was a good driver and he knew the roads well. He laughed and said, “I had no idea you were that good. You could have been a performer instead of an entertainment attorney.” And he wasn’t just saying this because Lance was his lover and he wanted to boost his ego. He meant every word.

Lance shrugged. “I’m okay,” he said. “But I don’t have what it takes to make million dollar records. I know who I am. I’m much better at what I do. But I do enjoy writing music. One of these days I just might try to get one of my own songs published. I’d love to see Cody record it, too.”

Rush nodded. He watched a heavy branch snap from a tree and fly across the road. He was about to say something about Cody and Roy, but he gripped the wheel, hit the breaks and the car swerved to the right. Before he came to a full stop, there was a thump on the front bumper.

Friday, July 22, 2016

Colton Haynes In Scream Queens 2; The Cast of Looking On LGBT Representation; Donald Trump On LGBT Promises; Peter Thiel Makes LGBT History At Republican Convention

Colton Haynes In Scream Queens 2

I saw this trending in a few places on social media on Friday, and I figured I'd share for those who might be interested in it. In truth, I haven't been watching Scream Queens, but I will check it out now that Colton Haynes is part of the cast.

According to Entertainment Weekly, Haynes will be playing a “mysterious role” in the series, which moves the action from college to a hospital of abject terror owned by the superiorly-named Cathy Munsch (played by Jamie Lee Curtis.)

You can check that out here.  

The Cast of Looking On LGBT Representation

Here's what the cast of Looking thinks about LGBT Representation...

Queerty was on the Looking movie red carpet in San Francisco for the premiere to talk with all of your favorite cast members. In the exclusive clip above, Russell Tovey and the rest of the cast share their thoughts on the importance of LGBT representation in television and film.

There's a video here. One comment from a cast member rings true: we need more diverse representation. I try to do this in all of my books and I get a lot of positive feedback from people who notice it. 

Donald Trump On LGBT Promises

I'm remaining objective with this one, as I always do with politics. And once again, it's partly because I don't want to insult the many LGBT people...and straight people I know...who do support Trump. Of course the article to which I'm linking isn't objective, but you rarely see anything that is good objective journalism in the queer presses. They can't help themselves.

Or so he claims.

“As your President, I will do everything in my power to protect our LGBTQ citizens from the violence and oppression of a hateful foreign ideology,” Trump said.

Actually, I watched the entire convention, and I will watch the entire Democratic convention, too. Donald Trump said a few more positive things about the LGBT community, and so did a few of the other speakers, one of whom I'm posting about right below this. In fact, I was shocked at how the people on the floor applauded the LGBT community, with genuine respect. And I saw this myself. It's not hearsay.

Peter Thiel Makes LGBT History At Republican Convention

Of course you didn't see this news trending anywhere in the queer presses. So much for objectivity and gay history. But I saw the same thing happen when Fred Karger made gay history by running for President in the last election. He's an openly gay man and the queer presses went blank on him.

Peter Thiel encouraged the GOP to not get distracted by culture wars on stage Thursday night, saluting Donald Trump for not focusing on such things as he made history.

The tech billionaire declared to the Republican National Convention that he is "proud to be gay," becoming the first speaker in the party's history to do so from the stage of the Republican National Convention.

"Every American has a unique identity. I am proud to be gay," he said to applause, including from the Trump family. "I am proud to be a Republican, but most of all I am proud to be an American."

You can check this out here. I think it's important to present both sides of any story, and Peter Thiel did, indeed, make gay history whether queer presses want to acknowledge it or not. At least other news outlets did recognize it.

Valley of the Dudes


Thursday, July 21, 2016

London Gay Bar The Black Cap; Jonathan Groff and the Dick Waiver; John Barrowman Talks About Dating Girls

London Gay Bar The Black Cap

Here's another sad story of a gay bar in London shuttering its doors for good.

London’s LGBTI bar The Black Cap won a major victory as the plan to turn into a mainstream bar/restaurant has failed.

Campaigners have been hoping to reclaim one of London’s oldest LGBTI spaces and have repeatedly protested outside to stop the conversion of the venue by property developers. 

As I've posted previously when other bars in the UK and in the US have closed, it seems to be a sign of the times. And it makes sense. They all blame it on the Internet, but I think it's more than that. Most gay men are assimilating and there's nothing wrong with that. As more gay men come out, get married, and start raising families they are less inclined to dress up in drag and protest in front of a bar. In the same respect, we do want to hold on to some gay culture, at least something. I'm just not sure how that's going to happen.

There's more here

Jonathan Groff and the Dick Waiver

Here's why Jonathan Groff signed a "dick waiver" to do Looking.

Jonathan Groff stepped back into the shoes of gay video game developer Patrick Murray for Looking: The Movie with full confidence in director Andrew Haigh.

Even before signing on to do the first of two seasons of the HBO drama, Groff had been familiar with Haigh’s acclaimed film Weekend and was struck by the gay drama’s sex scenes.

‘Seeing Weekend, honestly, was the first time I saw sex on screen, gay or straight, where I was like, This feels like real sex,’ the actor tells

‘When Andrew was on as the director I was all, Yes, I’ll sign that nudity waiver, that the dick waver, whatever. He’s a genius at capturing those moments.

You'll really want to finish this article. They actually mention the one sex taboo we never see anywhere on TV or in films. I put this taboo sex in my books all the time, but I rarely see it in other books. And it all has to do with the intimacy of sex. I see women talking about how they prefer intimacy over sex in gay romance all the time, without even realizing how dead wrong they are. Intimacy and sex for gay men go hand in hand, pardon the bad pun.

Here's the rest.

John Barrowman Talks About Dating Girls

I think we've all been here. I even went to my prom with a girl. It wasn't so bad either. I had a good time in spite of the fact that I would have preferred going with one of the guys on the football team. But up until recently, you didn't even think about doing THAT.

But school dances were a bit of a problem.

‘I used to dread school dances because on the way home you were expected to make out with a girl, give them a pet, and I really didn’t want to do it,’ he says. ‘But outside of that I was happy to go out with girls and they liked me. They had this good-looking guy on their arm and he was no threat at all – I just told them their shoes looked fabulous and their dress was great.’

I'd like to see Barrowman in high heels. 

You can read more here.

Valley of the Dudes


Wednesday, July 20, 2016

A Mean, Vicious Political Season; Looking Movie and Sex Appeal; Russell Tovey Lifts His Shirt

A Mean, Vicious Political Season

When I post things like this I'm not preaching and I'm not telling anyone what to do. You don't even have to listen to me. I'm only making a few suggestions and pointing out a few things that I've noticed on social media about this particular political season. If nothing else, the general election of 2016 is turning out to be one of the most contentious elections I've ever seen in my lifetime. Nothing really is sacred any longer.

With that said, I'm not the most political person in the world. I'm not going to post mean comments about either candidate. I will usually offer my opinion on anything LGBT related, or if it's about civil rights, but in a more general sense I try to remain objective when it comes to politics. 

And that's because I write fiction, mostly erotic gay romance, though not always. It's not that I don't have an opinion, but I'm not a political pundit, tool, or expert. There are enough people out there already who are way too willing to manipulate your thoughts and fill you with their hate speech. That's what they do for a living. That's what they are supposed to do. And if you're an author writing fiction do you really want to be one of them and not get paid for it?

I follow a few celebrities on social media and the most professional don't ever mention politics. They don't post hate speech about either candidate. They smile, they promote themselves and their projects, and they take their fans away from politics. They make people feel better about themselves, not worse. On the other hand, I've also seen a few celebrities who post some of the most hateful speech on the Internet...about politics and the candidates who are running for President this time. And it's not doing a thing to help them on social media...or anywhere. The plain truth is, according to the political polls, the US is divided almost in half this political season, which means that those people who post vicious hate speech about either candidate will run the risk of losing half their fan base. Once you lose them, the odds are you'll never get them back. I've seen that happen, too.

So if you're an author who isn't writing about politics and you're vocal about politics, maybe you should rethink that. It's only a suggestion. Look at it this way. You work hard at what you do. You invest time and money doing what you do. Your main objective is to entertain and educate people with your books and stories. Is posting hate speech about any political candidate worth hurting your career? I'm not talking about a thoughtful political comment that has insight. I don't think that can hurt anyone. I'm talking about the vicious, mean hate speech that's going around on the Internet. The kind of tweets and status updates that shame someone's looks. And I think you know what I'm talking about, too.

Looking Movie and Sex Appeal

I love the HBO TV show, Looking. And I was upset when it was canceled after only two seasons. I thought it really did...for the first time...represent a large segment of gay men who are never represented anywhere in the mainstream.

But I'm glad they decided to do a movie to tie up those proverbial loose ends.

If series creator Michael Lannan and his co-writer Andrew Haigh play their trump cards right, this finale film may be the sexiest gay movie ever made, evidenced by these six scintillating moments from the series itself.

You can check that out here. There are several photos and a trailer.

Russell Tovey Lifts His Shirt

Tovey is one of the actors who made a name for himself through Looking. And rightly so, because most people who loved the show loved his character. He's gone on to do other projects that are excellent.

Fans of Russell Tovey should consult with their doctors before admiring the British actor’s latest Instagram share — there can be dire consequences of gazing upon his flesh.

But assuming you’ve been given a clean bill of health and are willing to throw caution to the wind, Russell has something to show you.

You can see the photo here. If you don't follow him on instagram, you can now.

Valley of the Dudes


Valley of the Dudes by Ryan Field Press Release: Romance Beat

Valley of the Dudes by Ryan Field Press Release: Romance Beat

Here's the press release for Valley of the Dudes from Romance Beat. The Lambda Award they mention in the release was for a book I was part of titled, Best Gay Erotica 2009. It was edited by Richard Labonte, published by Cleis Press, and the title of my story in the book is Down the Basement. You can check that out here, and here's a link to Down the Basement. I indie pubbed that story in 2013.

Riverdale Avenue Books Publishes Valley of the Dudes by Best-selling M/M Author Ryan Field in Homage to 50th Anniversary of Susann’s Classic.

The innovative award-winning hybrid publisher Riverdale Avenue Books has just released Valley of the Dudes by Ryan Field to commemorate the 50th anniversary of the groundbreaking classic, Valley of the Dolls.

Lambda-award-winning author Ryan Field, who has been known for parodying heteronormative romance classics, explained his approach to writing his novel, “I’d always considered Valley of the Dolls a game-changer in publishing, pop culture, and in film. I’ve always believed it was part of the forefront of the sexual revolution, and it broke those proverbial grounds that lead the way for other books like it to enter the mainstream.”

Field added, “I also think it’s a little ironic, if not symbolic, that the 50 year anniversary of Valley of the Dolls coincides so closely with the 50 year anniversary of the Gay Liberation movement. Valley of the Dolls and Gay Liberation were both part of an era that helped define sexuality and equality today.”

Said Riverdale Avenue Books Publisher, Lori Perkins,” It’s amazing how relevant Susann’s classic remains today as we wade through the flood of celebrity worship and scandal that Susann predicted. Ryan’s re-imaging shows just how universal her vision was when it is brought forward 50 years and genders are changed, and it is still a powerful tale of the cost of fame and fortune.”