Sunday, April 23, 2017

French Gay Men Voting for Marine Le Pen; Same Sex Couples With Risky Futures; Polar Bear Dies Of Broken Heart After Losing Same Sex Partner

French Gay Men Voting for Marine Le Pen

I know nothing at all about French politics, but I thought this was interesting...and now I know a little more about French politics.

It's an article that discusses why some French gay men are supporting conservative candidate, Marine Le Pen, and it gives some background info.

When BBC Newsbeat interviewed gay men in the gay district of Paris, Le Marais, the results were telling.

One interviewee, Cedric said: ‘There are priorities in France other than homosexuality.

‘I myself am in a same-sex couple… But for me, there are more pressing issues like the economy, the national debt and unemployment,’ he explained.

It seems he’s not alone.

Gay Star News spoke to Alexandre Curioz, a gay man living in Le Marais: ‘The far-right is gaining voters everywhere.’

You can check the rest out here, and I highly suggest you do. It's one of those articles that I think might be predicting a trend for the future. Or maybe not. It's too soon to tell.

Same Sex Couples With Risky Futures

Speaking of the future, here's a more practical piece about how some same sex couples are taking risks with their futures and not planning ahead. Tony and I actually have two friends...a same sex couple who've been together for 25 years...and they still haven't legally married. They own property together, and mix finances. And in spite of how we've urged them to get married legally, they refuse to listen. Legalized marriage doesn't solve all the issues, but it makes things a lot better for older couples.

This is geared toward UK gay couples, but in general I think the article could be applied to US couples in the sense that you have to plan ahead.

But there are also issues you are more likely to face if you are in a gay or lesbian couple.
  • LGBTI retirement can cost more than for straight people and yet we are often less prepared for it.
  • Because fewer same-sex couples are married, fewer are protected legally. In a worse case, you may lose your home when you lose your partner because of this.
  • Inheritance tax in the UK could be a big issue and even if you are in a formal partnership, you may need extra planning to avoid a nasty shock.
Here's the rest. Inheritance tax in the US is just as bad for couples who are not legally married. I've seen older gay men lose their homes because of it.

Be prudent with your future.

Polar Bear Dies of Broken Heart After Losing Same Sex Partner

I don't know much about Polar Bears either, but this story made me think twice.

A polar bear has ‘died from a broken heart’ in San Diego’s SeaWorld Wild Arctic exhibit, claims People for the Ethical Treatment of Animals.

Szenja, 21, and Snowflake, 22 have been inseparable and living in the same enclosure for the past 20 years.

The two female polar bears were separated so that Snowflake could mate with male polar bears.

You can read more here. I'm not sure what to make of these stories. I've heard people say that when they have two dogs and one dies the other is heartbroken. Of course I believe them. However, I've had two dogs and when one died the other was thrilled to get all the attention herself. She never missed the dog that died, and she slid into being an only child dog without any issues whatsoever. In fact, she seemed happier to be alone. So I think this one falls into the category of it depends.

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Saturday, April 22, 2017

Leave Richard Simmons Alone; Coming Out At 53; Two College Swimmers Coming Out

Leave Richard Simmons Alone

This is so many kinds of wrong. Richard Simmons returned from a short stay in a hospital and the press surrounded him until he was forced to walk into his own home with his head covered.

That's wrong. Give the man some privacy. He just got out of the hospital.

With photographers waiting outside his home Thursday, Simmons returned, but kept a blanket over his head to shield himself from the cameras. In addition, police officers were present to keep the crowd at bay.

I just wish he'd flipped them the bird.

You can read the rest here.

Coming Out At 53

You know how I'm always talking about how we have no idea how many gay men are out there? Well here's more proof. Those of you who think you know it all about gay men, this is another example of how diverse gay men can be. And this story isn't even that unusual. Right now, as I post this, there are many more gay men who still haven't come out of the closet and you don't even know they are gay.

“He came out after being married and also having two children, although a lot younger than me, he’s 36. He was the first person I came out to. We haven’t had an affair or any such [thing], but he knows how I feel about him.

“After a while of chatting to him about how I felt and the fact that now I must talk to my wife and be truly open as to how I feel, I finally did it, talked to me wife, children and close family and friends.” 

You can read the rest here. It's a great story and it talks about reactions. Trust me on this, only another gay man will ever know what this is like. You can't even begin to imagine.

Two College Swimmers Coming Out

Here's another coming out story. It's about how two college swimmers helped each other come out.

Axel Reed and Josh Velasquez have a lot in common. They’re both 21. They both grew up in conservative households in Southern California. They both swim on their college swim teams. Oh, and they’re both gay. 

You can check that out here.

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Friday, April 21, 2017

"13 Reasons Why" Backlash; Lesbian Rocker Leaves Social Media Because of Bullies; LGBT Activist Police Officer Killed In Paris Attack

"13 Reasons Why" Backlash

When I first posted about the Netflix series, 13 Reasons Why, I only mentioned the inconsistencies I noticed in character development. I also wrote that post from a non-heteronormative POV, while concentrating on the gay content. But since then I've finished watching the series and my first two thoughts were not things I had to think about too long. And no one else influenced my opinions. One, if I had a young adult in high school I wouldn't let them watch it. Two, the characters and the dialogue didn't resonate with respect to the way RL young adults react and process. These weren't my only opinions, but right now I'm only linking to other people who've gone into more detail about all this.

Here's one reaction from a high school student, Jaclyn Grimm, from a high school web site.

In 13 Reasons Why, I don’t see a daring and powerful teen drama. It’s just a tired attempt at discussing a difficult topic. It’s clear the creators see suicide only for its shock value, and I worry for the teens like me who will watch the show.

You can read the rest here. There are more reactions on this web site. And if you do a simple search for backlash 13 Reasons Why, you'll find a lot more. Here's one where they banned the show.

Lesbian Rocker Leaves Social Media Because of Bullies

Speaking of sensitive topics, this one shows what can happen daily on social media these days. Twitter is probably one of the most dangerous places.

For Christian rock musician Vicky Beeching, antigay harassment is nothing new. She’s experienced it off and on since coming out publicly in 2014. But a recent viral meme featuring Beeching’s face has the artist and advocate taking a break from social media.

Here's the rest. I wish she'd stick around, but I also understand there's only so much a person can take. Evidently, she reached that point and I can't blame her. I have zero tolerance on Twitter now. My tweets are not up for discussion. If you question me once in an aggressive way, you get blocked. Plain and simple.

LGBT Activist Police Officer Killed In Paris Attack

One of the police officers killed in the recent Paris attack was not only openly gay, but also an activist.

“He was a simple man who loved his job, and he was really committed to the L.G.B.T. cause,” said Mikaël Bucheron, president of Flag, a French association for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender police officers. “He joined the association a few years ago, and he protested with us when there was the homosexual propaganda ban at the Sochi Olympic Games,” Mr. Bucheron said.

Here's the rest. You can check out his photos, too. The comment thread is all over the place.

May he RIP.

  

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Thursday, April 20, 2017

Release Day: In Their Prime by Ryan Field; Hunky Jesus In San Francisco; RuPaul On the Purpose of Drag

Release Day: In Their Prime by Ryan Field

Here's my newest release, In Their Prime. This is a gay romance that covers the lives of two young men who meet and fall in love in graduate school. The story follows them from their early 20s right up to their late 30s. It's not an erotic romance, but it is a romance. I would consider it PG-rated, without any explicit sex scenes at all. I just didn't think this book called for sex scenes. In this case, I think explicit sex scenes would have made the book too long and drawn out. As it stands, it's a 90,000 word full length novel, and I had to cut it down from 150,000 words.

So here's the blurb, and I've posted the cover and the links below. I'll post more links as they go live.

In Their Prime, a 90,000 word gay romance novel, follows the lives and loves of two talented gay men who meet at the storied Iowa Writers' Workshop in their early 20's. They start out as accidental roommates and passionate lovers, and move through the beginning of their lives as haplessly as everyone else. Ethan is the ambitious, aggressive writer whose only goal is to write trashy fiction that he can sell to the masses, while Travis spends his time working on gay literary novels that give him prestige, but little money and fame. And when both men clash, the heartache is almost too much to handle. 

Over the course of two decades they both choose different paths, but their bond is never broken. It takes years to realize what they've won and lost, and they finally reach a point where they both have to face reality in ways neither of them expected. As some of their brightest dreams are realized, and some are painfully lost, will they ever find a way to come together? Or will they continue to ignore the only thing that's kept them going all this time?

In Their Prime by Ryan Field

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Hunky Jesus In San Francisco

I hope no one is offended by this. I think it's meant to be taken lightly. But if you are offended, join the crowd. Everyone seems to be getting offended about something these days. So you're not alone. I don't take things like this seriously, and I'm not by any means an atheist. I like to think Jesus has a sense of humor, too. And if he doesn't, we're probably all in a lot of trouble. 

With that said...

For the 38th year in a row, the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence preached to a crowd of more than a thousand people on Easter Sunday in Golden Gate Park. This year’s celebration included plenty of hotties and holy water, plus sexy male bunnies, colorful Easter ladies, and a not-so-PG exorcism on a Donald Trump doppelgänger.


RuPaul On the Purpose of Drag

Speaking of taking things lightly, it looks as if RuPaul nailed this one. It's about as plain and simple as it can get. 

 “Drag has always served a purpose. The purpose is to remind people to not take themselves too seriously. We mock identity. A lot of people get angry… Identity is not to be taken seriously. We show people we’re shape shifters. We are God in drag. That’s our role — is to remind people of that.”

Again, pay attention to this, because if you're taking yourself too seriously you might want to rethink that for your own sake. 





Wednesday, April 19, 2017

Ricky Martin In His Underpants; Olivia de Havilland Comments On Feud; LA Pride Trump Haters Scare Advertisers Away

Ricky Martin In His Underpants

Ricky Martin recently did a parody of the infamous Tom Cruise Risky Business underwear scene, and he didn't do a bad job at all.

On Spike’s Thursday night episode of Lip Sync Battle, you can watch Ricky Martin, dressed in an overly floppy dress shirt and a pair of boxer-briefs, channel Tom Cruise channeling Bob Seger, and then, presumably, change the channel.

You can see that here. Of course, as far as I'm concerned, no one will ever top Tom Cruise in that scene, but Martin was well rehearsed.

Olivia de Havilland Comments On Feud 

For those who might not know, there's a series out right now on TV's FX channel called Feud that's all about the bitter relationship between Bette Davis and Joan Crawford. Olivia de Havilland who is 100 years old now was there, and she's still around to talk about it. However, when she was asked to comment about the feud between Crawford and Davis, she shut them down fast. And she did it with style.

“I have received your email with its two questions,” De Havilland replied. “I would like to reply first to the second of these, which inquires of me the accuracy of a current television series entitled Feud, which concerns Bette Davis and Joan Crawford and their supposed animosity toward each other. Having not seen the show, I cannot make a valid comment about it. However, in principle, I am opposed to any representation of personages who are no longer alive to judge the accuracy of any incident depicted as involving themselves.”

De Havilland added, “As to the 1963 Oscar ceremony, which took place over half a century ago, I regret to say that I have no memory of it whatsoever and therefore cannot vouch for its accuracy.” 

You can read the rest here. Frankly, that's always been my opinion about these types of films. And unless either Davis or Crawford return from the grave to comment in person, I'm just going to think of Feud as yet another Ryan Murphy camp film with an embellished story line. It's good camp. But camp is camp.

LA Pride Trump Haters Scare Advertisers Away

Full disclosure: even though I have been openly gay most of my life, and I've worked as a gay writer and blogger to help advance gay rights for a long time, I have never been to a Pride event and I have no idea what they are like. So if you're straight and you're just as curious as I am about all this, you're not alone. Millions of gay men just like me who work and pay taxes and contribute to their communities have never been to Pride events either. I only mention this because I don't think enough people know this fact. And I think it's time they do know. If for no other reason than to show how diverse the gay community really is.

With that said, this article discusses how more than a few advertisers have backed away from LA Pride, allegedly, because of the hate for Donald Trump.

In March, local LGBTQ activists succeeded in making official changes to this year’s L.A. Pride lineup. Instead of a celebratory parade — the norm at major Pride festivals — there will be a march against the Trump administration’s threats to LGBTQ rights, to immigrants, to people of color, to the environment — you name it.

That tension — plus the absence of gogo boys and general gaiety — is enough for advertisers to flee, reports FourTwoNine

You can read more here. Even though I've never been to a Pride event, I've always been led to believe that one of its main goals is to celebrate gay culture, and all of the more positive aspects of the gay community. But more than that, it's supposed to be fun. I hope they aren't ruining that with all this hate for Trump. I really don't know, and it should be interesting to see how this all turns out a few years from now. All I do know is that as a gay man who will not be silenced, I don't identify with the people I'm seeing in the photo with this article, and, I never will.


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Tuesday, April 18, 2017

Trans Girl's Penis Breaks and She Sues; The Buried Penis Syndrome; More On Buried Penis Syndrome

Trans Girl's Penis Breaks and She Sues

This one is really out there. A transgender hooker was hired by some guy's wife. The wife hired this hooker for her husband's 60th birthday celebration. Because who doesn't do that?

Unfortunately, the 60 year old guy had a heart attack while having sex with the trans hooker, and the trans hooker's penis got stuck inside him and it broke. You can figure that one out in detail.

She said she called Miguel’s wife, Sylvia, who called the police and the ambulance. Jennifer was left mortified when “all the units in Miami” burst into the room, saying she only just managed to cover up with a sheet.

She said doctors managed to prise the pair apart but added “my penis was fractured.”

She had come on to the show to sue Sylvia for $US20,000 ($26,000).

There's more here. I can't even begin to speculate on this one.

The Buried Penis Syndrome

This one is from an interesting web site I've never seen before. It's about guys who have this unusual issue with their penises.

"While not harmful, a 'buried penis' can be uncomfortable. As you have noted, the appearance of a buried penis can look like a turtle hiding its head in the buried shaft skin. One can be born with this condition with detachment of skin from the underlying penile shaft. Gaining weight will make it worse. Certain positions such as leaning over during biking can further bury the penis. One surgery, known among urologists as a 'wacker tacker,' can fix this condition. However, if it is just a buried penis, it is perfectly fine to live the rest of your life this way without surgery. But if it bothers you, go see your local urologist." 

You can read more here.

More On Buried Penis Syndrome

Of course I had to google Buried Penis Syndrome. I didn't know it existed. And I actually found a lot of information with just a simple search. This one is from WebMD.

A “hidden” or “buried” penis refers to a penile shaft that is buried below the surface of the penile skin and also to a partially or totally obscured penis. There are numerous causes of a hidden or a buried penis including congenital, obesity, aging with an overlying fold of abdominal fat and skin, a shortage of penile skin from chronic inflammation, or an overly aggressive circumcision.

Here's the rest. There is a procedure that can correct this in most cases.

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Monday, April 17, 2017

Gay Men and Their Sugar Daddies App; A Texas Town's Creepy Hazing Scandal;

Gay Men and Their Sugar Daddies App

I have seen younger gay men with older gay men all my life. The situation is almost always the same. The older guy has money and he's not opposed to "keeping" the younger one. I also know there are a lot of extenuating circumstances in these relationships, and in many cases these relationships work out well because there's an understanding with both partners. The wealthy older one often nurtures the younger one, and offers the younger one opportunities he never would have had with a guy his own age. And most of these couples genuinely care for each other. The ones I've known go the distance. Although money is a factor, it's not always only about money.

And it's also another way to show that ageism isn't always a "thing" in gay culture.

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You can check this out here. Of course with all hook up apps there are drawbacks like catfishing. And the few comments are really negative about the entire concept, which leads me to believe some of the comments were left by a older gay guys who don't have any money. The one thing you rarely see is a poor older gay man with a hot younger guy. But I can tell you for certain, in general, finding a gay couple with a huge age difference is not hard to do.

A Texas Town's Creepy Hazing Scandal

We hear about these jock hazing scandals in schools all the time, but this one is really creepy. Cross your legs creepy.

According to the complaint filed by Texas Ranger Joel Kite, the three and an unnamed juvenile attacked a 15-year-old in February at a home near La Vernia, sodomizing him with a flashlight. The youth cried out and struggled, but he was overpowered and couldn’t stop the assault, the complaint alleges.

And it only devolves from there. You can read the rest here.



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