Tuesday, May 24, 2016

A Penis Grows Longer With Practice; Game of Thrones' Penises; Woman, Gay Club, and Sexism

A Penis Grows Longer With Practice

I'm not sure what to make out of this one, but it's interesting anyway.

In a study published by journal Evolution and conducted by scientists at the University of Exeter, it was found that the male burying beetle will lengthen the size of its penis through above-average mating over the course of a few generations. The female burying beetle, on the other hand, grows claws in its reproductive organs. 

You can check that out here. They do mention there's no proof this works with humans.

Game of Thrones' Penises

Here's an article that talks about Game of Thrones and penises, which is really a novelty in anything mainstream when you think about it.

If you wanted more penises on Game of Thrones, Sunday night's episode gave you a penis alright, with a jarring close-up of a Braavosi actor examining his afflicted genitals — warts and all. Across the internet, the move was celebrated as an end to the show's usual dick-shy ways: "Game of Thrones finally showed a penis," wrote The Telegraph. The series "finally showed its first penis," wrote Marie Claire. "It's about damn time," said Stephen Colbert.

The entire piece is here, in full

Woman, Gay Club, and Sexism

A young woman named Hannah Riley was denied entry to two gay bars, and now she's claiming it was sexism. But you really do have to read all of this one to get the point.

Here's one part of the story:

“We were about halfway to the front,” Riley, a lesbian, tells Buzzfeed in an interview, “and one of the security staff–a woman–said to me, ‘Er, ladies, have you got membership cards?’ And we said, ‘No.’ And she replied, ‘Well, you girls can’t come in then.’

Here's another part of the story:

So Riley and her friends went to another gay club called Heaven. When they got there, she says they faced a similar dilemma. As they approached the female security guard, Riley recalls, “she asked if we had membership cards and we said, ‘No we don’t,’ and she said, ‘Right, you can’t come in.’”

And this...

She continues: “I think the LGBT scene is just for gay men. It’s sad that women are put off going to gay bars. Why put yourself through queuing up if there’s a strong chance you’re not going to get in?”

 You can read the rest here. The comments are a brutal. But I have to say that I live in a town...New Hope, PA...where there have always been gay clubs and gay culture and I have never once seen a woman discriminated against. In fact, I've seen a lot of women frequent the gay bars here...both gay and straight women. It's just normal. I've never seen sexism here. That's my personal, first hand experience. 



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Monday, May 23, 2016

A Fan Tried To Bait Colton Haynes Out of the Closet; Conservative States and Gay Films; Madonna's Prince Tribute and Twitter Shade

A Fan Tried To Bait Colton Haynes Out of the Closet

This is disturbing to me because even though I advocate everyone coming out, I don't believe anyone should ever be forced to come out...or baited. I think it's up to the individual and no one should push them or bait them into coming out.

Evidently, someone tried to bait Stephen Amell (one of Haynes' co-stars) into getting Colton Haynes to come out. Here's what Amell says...

“A fan three or four months ago at a Comic-Con convention basically tried to bait me into outing him.
“I got in touch with [Colton] and was like, ‘Hey, man, this happened [and] I didn’t know what to say. I simply deflected and we moved on.’
“He emailed me back and said, ‘You know, I really appreciate that and I’ve recently made some decisions over the past few months and I’m excited about what’s in the future.’”

You can read more here.

Again, I'm not fond of anyone forcing anyone to come out. It's just too personal. And I'm glad it seems as though Haynes came out in his own way, and in his own time. And I would so love to have someone's "fan" pull something like that on me. It would be the last time they did it.

Conservative States and Gay Films

This is kind of interesting.

According to a recent PornHub survey, in states like Mississippi and North Carolina — both of which recently enacted antigay legislature — rates of porn consumption are curiously high, especially same-sex content. Of the top five gay porn-consuming states in the country, three are in the South, an area not particularly known for its sweeping LGBTQ inclusiveness.

You can check that out here

No comment.

Madonna's Prince Tribute and Twitter Shade

I don't know anything about this one. I didn't even see it on Twitter.

The shade was real on Twitter last night as Madonna attempted to pay tribute to Prince during the Billboard Music Awards.

Evidently they didn't like it.

You can read more about that here, with screen shots of a few tweets.

I didn't see it so I don't know.



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Sunday, May 22, 2016

"Longhorns" Gay Movie Male Full Frontal Nudity; If Harvey Milk Were Around Today; Mr. Gay Great Britain On HIV

"Longhorns" Gay Movie Male Full Frontal Nudity

I recently watched a gay film titled, Longhorns, on Netflix, and there was some male full frontal nudity. And not the kind of stupid male full frontal you see in mainstream films with Ben Affleck. This was the real thing...no jokes, no teasing. 

Here's the IMDb page, which I think is as thorough as it gets

 Back in 1982, a Texas University student who was curious about the male sex fantasies he had been having, decides he needs to hook up with an out gay student on campus.

I'm not reviewing the movie in this post, but here's a good review I found in Variety. And I did like it and I would recommend it. It's really a gay film about gay men...and the challenges they faced back in 1982, and still face now.

And, last but not least, here is a web site with photos of the full frontal nudity in Longhorns I'm talking about. This film has a good storyline and there is full frontal nudity, so it can be done.  I would imagine this last link is NSFW, so you've been warned. But the movie itself is much more than you would imagine it to be. There's even a character who is a woman who loves gay men.

If Harvey Milk Were Around Today

If Harvey Milk would have lived, he would have been 86 years old today. And this article talks about the things that have happened to the gay community since his death.

It’s been an incredible year for LGBTQ rights, both in the US and around the world. Of course, there’s still lots of progress remaining to be made — particularly in the area of trans freedoms — but even just halfway through 2016, there’s a ton to feel great about.

You can check that out here. They list 10 things that would have probably amazed him.

Mr. Gay Great Britain On HIV

Here's a story about how Mr. Gay Great Britain, Sadiq Ali, not taking pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) and then testing positive. According to this report, he claims he didn't take PrEP because he was afraid of the stigma that went along with it, which ultimately caused him to be HIV positive. 

So, Sadiq waited a few more months, had second thoughts, and decided to enroll in the PrEP study after all. Unfortunately, fate had dealt him a crushing blow.

Between the time Sadiq heard about the study and before he actually began taking PrEP, he was infected with HIV. It occurred literally days before he started taking the pill. His first HIV test during the study, in January of 2014, revealed the infection.

You can read more here. There are a lot of gray areas with this one that I can't get into in such a short post. But the comments are definitely worth reading. I wouldn't advise taking each one to heart, but definitely worth reading for the sake of discussion.


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Saturday, May 21, 2016

Photo Shop Makes You Gorgeous; Colton Haynes Lashes Out With the Truth; You Tube Star Bryan Hawn's Booty

Photo Shop Makes You Gorgeous

I follow a few celebrities around on social media and some use photo shop all the time, and some usually don't. One of the reasons why I love John Barrowman so much is because he doesn't use it like many celebrities I see. His photos are real; his videos are real; he's a class act all the way around.

And I really don't think there's anything wrong with a little photo shop sometimes, to cover blemishes and clean a photo up a little. We all want our photos to look as good as possible. In fact, some people should do it sometimes. It's just that when some of these people get into totally changing their bodies it gets a little ridiculous. Who do they think they are fooling?

In any event, here's an article about how everyone can photo shop themselves into the perfect human specimen. I think it brings new meaning to hook up apps...because you never know what you're getting based on photos anymore.

Photoshop can do wonders, and its body altering techniques are known to be widely used in the fashion industry.

This time, BuzzFeed has sent its Try Guys to get a digital makeover, where they each choose a celebrity with the style and body type that they aspire to be and then the computers will do the rest of the magic.

You can check this out here, with examples of how some guys will photo shop themselves into completely different humans. The one guy even photo shopped the package between his legs.

Colton Haynes Lashes Out With the Truth

This is refreshing...for a change. Colton Haynes is starting to speak up about some of the things he's had to deal with in the vicious Hollywood environment very few people talk about openly.

‘For those of you who are new to Hollywood or any business …be careful who you work with,’ he warns.

‘Watch out for liars, brainswashers and manipulators. Those who promise you the world then f*ck you over leaving you blindsided.’

The Arrow star adds: ‘If and when this happens to you, I promise you you will make it out alive. Take it from me, I knew it was happening the entire time and I’m doing so much better in life without that fake influence who projected negativity on me because they were too afraid to own up to their own insecurities.

I see a lot of it on social media...what he's talking about. They are fakes, liars, and all around douches blowing smoke up everyone's ass. I've even seen them switch politics, when  they know it's going to serve them well. They don't care about the issues. They care about the photo op. And frankly, I can tell you from experience book publishing isn't all that different.

You can read the rest here

You Tube Star Bryan Hawn's Booty

I have to admit that I love You Tube Stars and what they represent. They are the new breed of celebrity and they make it all on their own. Think Steve Grand. There's no slick Hollywood type manager wheeling and dealing in the background to get them trumped up PR that makes no sense at all half the time. These You Tube people are working it and they are resonating with the public...while the old time brand of celebrity seems to be vanishing.

Here's a story about Bryan Hawn...a You Tube star:

Bryan Hawn has made a name for himself by having a killer butt.

His YouTube videos – there are more than 250 in all – have parodied hits by Beyonce, Adele, Jennifer Lopez, Miranda Lambert and other artists.

Many have gone viral and all have one thing in common: his amazing booty.

There's more here with a photo of Hawn.

I hope it continues. 



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Friday, May 20, 2016

His Penis Is Too Big; Tips For Guys With Big Penises; Lawsuit Could End San Francisco Gay Pride

His Penis Is Too Big

Here's one of those advice column letters written by a young woman who claims her boyfriend's penis is too big. But it's kind of sad, because she's only 18 years old and she depends on this boyfriend to support her because her own father thinks he's finished. I hate parents who do that. If I had a kid it wouldn't all stop because the kid turned 18. I don't think you can put a time limit on being a parent, especially nowadays.

The boyfriend treats her well, but he's also 39 years old.

He has a very big penis and he is very rough at times. When he took my virginity, I was not able to walk properly for about three days. I had to stay in bed. My mother knew what was going on. I had to tell her the truth, but my father did not know. When my father asked why I was not up and around, my mother told him that I was in pain because I was seeing what girls always see every month.

You can check out the rest here, with the advice reply. 

And there are comments.

I hope when the father gets older she puts him in a nursing home. Karma can be interesting that way.

Tips For Guys With Big Penises

Most people wouldn't think there's a need to know these things. But sometimes you have to learn how to accommodate a large penis. I knew a gay couple who had to focus on this for a while.

Bigger is definitely better, but if you have a painful experience in bed, blame the position and not your man! Yes, trying the right sex positions that give you a perfect angle for penetration is the key for an enjoyable time. So tonight, ditch the conventional missionary and woman-on-top positions and try these amazing sex positions for men with big penis.

You can check this out here. It's NSFW, though. It is a health site, but the content is adult related.

The "Criss Cross" position sounds interesting.

Lawsuit Could End San Francisco Pride

Here's a story about a lawsuit that could put an end to San Francisco Gay Pride as we know it.

There’s a cold, hard truth to San Francisco Pride that at some point during the weekend’s festivities, a senseless act of violence can cast a shadow over the revelry. Now two victims who were injured during a 2013 shooting at the festival have joined a suit to put an end to the upcoming June 2016 gathering.

There's a lot more here, with mention of why Pink Saturday has been canceled for 2016.

Might this be yet another part of gay culture destined to vanish into the heteronormative like so many others? And as we continue to assimilate into the mainstream, are we going to stand by and watch it happen?  Gaining civil rights shouldn't mean we have to completely disregard our own culture, and yet that's always how it seems to happen. Think Modern Family...or the insulting watered-down gay books they seem to love on the DearAuthor book review site that have nothing at all to do with gay culture as most real life gay men know it.



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Thursday, May 19, 2016

Gay Guy Has Sex With 400; The Gay Adult Theater; Prince Harry's Nipple Tweak

Gay Guy Has Sex With 400

A guy named Dylan Jones no one has ever heard of wrote an op-ed piece...because that's what you do now...about all the sex partners he's had, and how he's proud of it, and why he hates slut-shaming. Yes, slut-shaming, again.

Jones estimates his number of paramours falls “somewhere around the four hundred mark. An average of two every week for four years. And that’s not even counting weekends.”

I’m not remotely insecure about it,” he writes. “I have absolutely no shame.”

He goes on to mention how one guy slut-shamed him ...by using a really bad stereotype to define this guy, which I think negates his point because that is a form of looks-shaming. And he claims that he only gets the slut-shaming thing from gay men.

Frankly, I couldn't care less who, or how many, he screws around with. 

You can read the rest here. I'm also not fond of kissing and telling. There's this thing called discretion and good taste. You don't have to tell the world how many men you've been with.

You'll want to check out the comments with this one. 

The Gay Adult Theater

This is something I've never done...gone to a gay adult theater. That's before my time. However, I think it's interesting from a cultural POV. And, this is another part of gay culture I hate to see disappear during a time when almost all of gay culture is vanishing.

This time a gay adult theater in San Fransisco called, The Tea Room Theatre, is closing down. For those who don't know what a "tea room" is in gay culture, you can read more about that here. I know a lot of you don't know what that means because I once mentioned "tea dance" in a forum and most people didn't even know what that was. And "tea dance" and "tea room" are not the same thing. Here's more about tea dance. (I get into a lot of these things in my next book, yet to be titled.)

Blame goes to the usual suspects: the internet, hookup apps, and a more open culture that no longer forces queer people to hide. These days, porn is practically something you can find out in the open — especially in San Francisco.

There was a time when porn theaters like these were one of the primary ways that men hooked up. You’d spend a few bucks to slip into a grubby theater, or loiter in a hallway, or watch a live dancer. If theaters weren’t your thing, you could also poke your head into certain bathrooms; or hide in the bushes down by the ocean. Half a century ago, for a lot of men, there simply weren’t any good clean wholesome ways to meet each other — and for some people, that was just fine.

You can read the rest here. I think it's a huge part of gay culture, and once again, it has nothing at all to do with any other aspect of LBTQ. This was predominantly about gay men, only gay men, and gay culture. 

The comments are interesting because one gay guy who is 30 left a comment that it is so off base about what these theaters were all about, it's as funny as it is sad. He thinks guys went there to watch movies. He wants to see "events" held at gay adult theaters now. He thinks that's what gay adult theaters need: events. 

Bless his little gay soul. Someone should tell him.

Prince Harry's Nipple Tweak 

I think everyone can agree that Prince Harry does a lot for good causes, and he inspires a lot of people all over the world. And, he's great with people.  

While attending a volleyball event at Britain’s Invictus Games, the Paralympic-style games that Harry himself founded in 2014 in which wounded, injured or sick armed services personnel and their associated veterans take part in sports, the young Prince of Wales could just couldn’t resit tweaking the nipple of participant.

You can check that out here,  with a video of the incident. Someone in the comments claims this is pretty normal for straight guys to do.



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Wednesday, May 18, 2016

"Sex Roulette" and HIV Bugchasing Parties; Women Who Love Gay Porn Studio CockyBoys; Gay Anthem Booty Boy

"Sex Roulette" and HIV Bugchasing Parties

I've heard about these HIV...Bugchasing...parties for a while now and I never saw anything that was mainstream enough to post about. In other words, from what I've always gathered these parties are not widespread and you can only find out about them through some kind of underground network of men who are into this sort of thing. But I even hesitate to say that because I really don't know much about them. I've only heard a few things, and I want that to be clear.

In any event, aside from the poor quality of writing in this particular article, here's more about bugchasing parties.

 If a sea of new articles from the likes of Dazed Digital, The Sun, The Daily Mail, and The Mirror are to be believed (and we strongly suspect they aren’t), you’ve just attended your first (or maybe your fifth) “sex roulette” party, a troubling and probably totally pretend new trend that’s a new spin on the idea of “bug chasing” or “gift giving.” Even some gay press reported the story as reputable news.

Even wiki knows about bugchasing:

 Bugchasing is the practice of pursuing sexual activity with HIV-positive individuals in order to contract HIV. Individuals engaged in this activity are referred to as bugchasers. It is a form of self-harm. Bugchasers seek sexual partners who are HIV-positive for the purpose of having unprotected sex and becoming HIV-positive; giftgivers are HIV-positive individuals who comply with the bugchaser's efforts to become infected with HIV.

Evidently, it's all about the thrill of not knowing whether or not they will be infected with HIV. They also call them "Blue" parties because that's the color of the Truvada pill. 

There's a lot more here to learn, but you get the basic point. I don't think it's something anyone can actually figure out. But again, I hesitate to comment because I don't know enough about the topic in the first place. And it's just too sensitive and complicated for one short post like this.

And there is a huge twist to all this. I would be highly remiss if I didn't mention it. Many people believe this is all legend and that it's not true.

 According to snopes...

There is no credible evidence that such an event has ever occurred, much less is "on the rise." The claim of HIV-infecting sex parties sweeping the globe is based on vague statements purportedly made by a single physician in Spain, and none of the published articles carried firsthand reports. The closest was a statement made at one time by a stripper in Serbia who simply claimed such events were happening (not that she had ever attended or witnessed one).

I honestly don't know whether it's true or not. I didn't hear about it from a physician in Spain. I heard about it from a guy in Palm Springs who claims he went to one of these parties himself. 

Women Who Love Gay Porn Studio CockyBoys

It's no surprise to me that some women love gay porn, gay romance, and all kinds of gay erotica. I write gay romance and m/m romance and a good deal of my readers are women. I even edited an anthology titled, "The Women Who Love to Love Gay Romance."  So I found this particular article interesting from writer's POV, too.

Cosmo recently took a deep dive (mildly NSFW) into the very particular community of female fans who are obsessed with the twinky stars of gay porn studio CockyBoys.

“If it wasn’t for our women fans, I don’t think we would have the level of exposure that we’ve had,” former porn performer George Alvin (a.k.a. Max Ryder) tells the mag. So, what makes these nubile young dudes so appealing to 20- and 30-something ladies?

You can check this out here. If you don't know about this, you might want to find out more. I thought is was thorough.

Of course someone in the comments brought up the age old argument I've seen many times before from other gay men. I don't think it's a very strong argument. I've always found that women want the gay content from a gay POV...at least that's what they tell me themselves.

I feel like knowing this diminishes the appeal; gay porn should be enjoyed by gay men without thinking about the women who watch it.

Gay Anthem Booty Boy

Here's another interesting piece about female rapper, Malka Red, creating what is being called another gay anthem...Booty Boy. And she didn't even know she was doing it.

The video, which has been steadily racking up views since it was released earlier this month, centers around the almighty boy booty, and while it takes Malka some time (and ample booty) to get her friend to come around on the topic, gay men certainly don’t need any nudging.

You can read more of this here and watch the video.

Frankly, though, I find very little in this video relating to gay culture and I don't see what the big thing is. You see, if gay men were to tell you the truth you might learn something new about gay culture instead of what you see in videos like this...or what you read about in articles that are not geared toward gay culture.

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