Monday, October 20, 2014

Twisty the Clown on American Horror Story; A Mom's Letter of Gay Remorse; Neil Patrick Harris on Being Gay

Twisty the Clown on American Horror Story

Even I have to admit that Ryan Murphy outdid himself this year with the theme of American Horror Story: Freak Show. The freak show appeal not only captures the end of an era in the US, but also proves the subject still has the ability to capture the overactive imaginations of people today. And one of the most interesting characters is the clown, and that's hard to top because all of the characters lend something fascinating to the show whether it comes in the form of high camp or it's deeply emotional.

In any event, John Carroll Lynch plays Twisty the Clown on AHSFS and he gave an interview recently to help explain what's happening.

Ryan Murphy had said that some of the crew had to leave the set at times because you were so scary.
There were many evenings where I was standing kind of apart from them -- as you see in the first two episodes; Twisty lives a solitary life. There were times I’d be sitting on the set and I would creep people out. In the first episode, where all of the people in the Freak Show are dismantling the body of the detective, I was standing apart as I was in the shot. Afterward I walked by and everyone was like, “Man, you’re really freaky over there.” I love that fact that people are dismantling a body on one side of the screen and then [people tell me] “I’m scared of you.” [Laughs.]


Do you think it’s mostly your costume that’s so freaky, or are you in full character the whole time on set?
I think a lot of it has to do with people’s general fear of clowns and fear of people in masks. But I also think it’s this kind of kooky discomfort around this person where you don’t know what his agenda is.


You can check out the rest of the interview here. Frankly, and this is no reflection on the show because I'm loving it, I don't get the fear of clown thing. Clowns never bothered me, not Twisty or any other clown. I love them. I'd be more frightened of a fictional character named Twisty the Vagina. But this clown is scaring the hell out of everyone else.

A Gay Mom's Letter of Remorse

There was an article recently about a mom's experience when she learned her son was gay. In short, the family of the gay son decided to make him choose between Jesus and being gay. It's a very hard story to read, because the more the gay son tried to change the worse his life became and he ultimately died. After the story was published the mom received tons of letters slamming her and criticizing what she did, and with good reason. Now the mom has published an open letter to the people who've been criticizing her.

From the original article that sparked all the negative reactions:

Now, when I think back on the fear that governed all my reactions during those first six years after Ryan told us he was gay, I cringe as I realize how foolish I was. I was afraid of all the wrong things. And I grieve, not only for my oldest son, whom I will miss every day for the rest of my life, but for the mistakes I made. I grieve for what could have been, had we been walking by faith instead of by fear. Now, whenever Rob and I join our gay friends for an evening, I think about how much I would love to be visiting with Ryan and his partner over dinner. But instead, we visit Ryan's gravestone.

This is from the latest open letter she wrote to explain how she really feels:

Our much-loved eldest son and dear friend Ryan is dead -- a fact that I daily try to get my brain wrapped around -- and if you have ever had a child and lost them, you know that the pain of losing a child never leaves you. Never. We will live with intense sorrow over his death until our own deaths, and right now that sounds like a very, very long time. 

When we weep and mourn, we don't question God or wonder why He allowed our son to die. We don't have questions for God that complicate our grief; we only have questions and accusations of ourselves. The tapestry of our grief is woven through with threads of remorse, regret and self-reproach.

It's a sad story that's repeated all the time...even to a certain extent in my own life. I never met Tony's mom. She passed in 2002 before I had the chance and we were already together for ten years. At the time, my family didn't know Tony either. In my case it was kind of a don't as don't tell thing. However, I made a point to change that the same year Tony's mom passed. And we got together with my mom and dad for dinner about a month later. This past summer, twelve years later, my mom spent six weeks with us recuperating from cancer surgery and Tony helped take care of her as if she as his own mother. It was six wonderful weeks of quality time I wouldn't exchange for anything in the world. We've had many dinners together.

Neil Patrick Harris on Being Gay

Neil Patrick Harris has a new autobiography out and there have been a few things mentioned in the press about the content. For one thing, he first knew he was gay when he developed a crush on a trumpet player in middle school in l986. For another, he mentions a kissing incident with Burt Reynolds.

'As a joke at the end of one take, Burt leans over and kisses you square on the mouth,' he writes.
'The crew thinks this is very funny, but it makes you uncomfortable. Uncomfortable and, it will ultimately turn out, gay. Burt Reynolds' kiss makes you gay.'
- See more at: http://www.gaystarnews.com/article/neil-patrick-harris-when-burt-reynolds-kissed-me-i-knew-i-was-gay151014#sthash.A9tvfUy0.dpuf
But while appearing on BL Stryker did something happen that changed everything. 

'As a joke at the end of one take, Burt leans over and kisses you square on the mouth,' he writes. 

'The crew thinks this is very funny, but it makes you uncomfortable. Uncomfortable and, it will ultimately turn out, gay. Burt Reynolds' kiss makes you gay.' 


For those who have never seen this, here's a photo of Burt Reynolds, nude.

Now, if that sexy, fuzzy image of Burt Reynolds is not every little gay boy's dream come true I don't know what else is.

You can read more about Harris here, and I'm starting to think the book looks interesting. The problem these days is that it's a book I would have lunged at five or ten years ago just out of pop culture curiosity, but I have so much reading right now and so many other choices I'm not even sure I have time. Plus, the kindle version is 10.99, which means sorry Randon House but not until you drop that price a little.

But if you are curious about coming out, and you don't have anyone to talk to, I think this would be a great book to read in digital form on your phone, in private. Even if they are raking you over the proverbial coals a little with the ridiculous price of the e-book. Books like this usually help make the coming out experience easier when you see that you're not the only one.





Too Hard to Handle






by Ryan Field

Sunday, October 19, 2014

Ryan Kwanten Full Frontal Nudity; Gay Hook Up Apps; Boner in Subway Doors; Gay Superhero Movie

Ryan Kwanten Full Frontal Nudity

While doing a search to check out another post on male full frontal nudity in films I came across this new link to an interview True Blood star, Ryan Kwanten, did where he talks about doing full frontal.

There's nothing to quote, but the video is interesting because it's a novelty to listen to Kwanten speak with his native Australian accent which is so different from his accent on True Blood.

You can check that out here. There's no actual full frontal nudity, but the topic is addressed well by Kwanten.

Gay Hook Up Apps

I've posted before about how I don't think certain gay hook up apps are the safest places in the world. In many cases, I worry that younger gay men can be too trusting, especially if they are from safe rural areas and they are traveling to cities like Philadelphia where they aren't used to the more realistic aspects of a dangerous, crime-ridden city. I think those are valid concerns. In a very different respect, this next article talks about whether or not hook up apps are harmful to gay culture in a more socialized way. The article discusses a commentary written by some PC know-it-all named Freeman who got published in Time because he thinks hook up apps are ruining gay culture. It's really something I'm getting tired of listening to.

Freeman claims hookup apps like OkCupid, Tinder and Grindr are destroying gay culture by perpetuating the stereotype that gay men are all a bunch of whores. He also believes the apps encourage “shame-based” relationships. (Of course, it’s only “shame-based” if one thinks being gay is shameful, which Freeman seems to believe, or at least he insinuates it subconsciously.)

“Gay men want those perfect relationships that we see in romantic-comedies, instead of the ultimate fear of our generation: being alone,” Freeman generalizes. “But there is nowhere that is not sex-based to connect.”

The article I'm linking to here questions Freeman's concerns and makes a few valid points, and I agree with the article. I think Freeman and everyone else at Time should get a life. I got a gift subscript to Time last year and I'm still getting it and I still have to throw it away every single week. They should be more worried about how they're hurting the environment if they really want to get PC. 

Boner in Subway Doors

Now here's something I find funny and interesting. It's not major news, it won't change the world, but once in a while it's okay to laugh...at least I hope that's still okay with the PC police. 

We’ve all been there. It’s five o’clock, the subways are packed with rush hour commuters, you just eye-fucked a stranger across the platform and it’s left you hot and bothered.

You can check the rest out here. I sure do hope that gay culture won't be destroyed with something like this. You never know. Someone better call Time Magazine and warn them.

Gay Superhero Movie

I've written erotic books with gay superheros and they're meant to be taken as satire and not all that seriously. And there are erotic anthologies out by many LGBT publishers with gay superhero content. There are even a few gay superheros in comic books. But we have yet to see a gay superhero in the movies.

This is slowly starting to happen in comic books, so it’s only a matter of time before we see it happen onscreen, too. In the last few years, queer superheroes have made huge inroads in the Marvel and DC universes. Marvel’s first openly gay superhero, Northstar, recently got married, adding to the growing ranks of LGBT couples in the comic world.


In other instances, such as that of DC’s Batwoman, previously established straight characters have actually been reshaped as gay (this is only logical, assuming comic book writers have been paying attention to the Internet’s penchant for queer fandom). What makes this all the more appropriate, not to mention hilarious in Batwoman’s case, is that she was originally introduced to counter the homoerotic tension between Batman and Robin.

You can read the rest here. I'm not all too familiar with comics or superheros, but I think it would be interesting to see a gay superhero in the movies. In fact, that might be why I was never interested in that sort of thing before. It always seemed so heteronormative I never bothered.

In any event, here's my story about Captain Velvet, a gay superhero with a few very special talents. It's not actually a romance, but the ending is about as happy as endings can get.  

Gay Super Hero Story

Captain Velvet's Velvet Box


by Ryan Field








Saturday, October 18, 2014

UK HIV Pill; Jan Brewer Troubled by Gay Marriage; Hate Bakery Gets Help

UK HIV Pill

In what's being called the most exciting development in HIV prevention, there's a new pill being offered to the UK that's designed to prevent HIV. The drug has already been in the US and I've posted about it on the blog before several times. It's not all that new.

A landmark trial in England is to be dramatically sped up after it was found taking a single dose of pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP), the drug Truvada, provided unprecedented levels of protection.

 Researchers prescribed the drug to 407 men across the country, and describe it as a big success. A further 138 men waiting to start the couse will now be offered the drug immediately.

You can read the rest here. I'll post more about this in the future. It's not without controversy. I would highly suggest reading the comment thread that goes with this article, too. They make valid, honest points that shouldn't be ignored.

Quote from one of my previous posts, link above:

Unfortunately, I discovered that taking Truvada gave me too many new things to feel. Whatever short-term side effects I could get, I did. Less than a week out, I started to feel a deep sense of fatigue every day around 6 p.m. It was something I could power through and eventually shake, but it made me feel like dropping to the floor and passing out instead of going to the gym or attending movie screenings. I had perpetual muscle soreness, especially in my legs, as if I had squatted way more than I should have the day before. My skin got worse. I developed a disgusting, raised rash on my torso that my dermatologist told me was the result of a nickel allergy (I had been wearing the culprit belt for years). I was gassy.

Jan Brewer Troubled by Gay Marriage

All politics aside, I find Jan Brewer a highly annoying human being just by looking at her. I guess no one's perfect, and I admit it's my flaw. In any event, she's the governor of Arizona and she's not thrilled that gay marriage has come to her state.

'It is not only disappointing, but also deeply troubling, that unelected federal judges can dictate the laws of individual states, create rights based on their personal policy preferences and supplant the will of the people in an area traditionally left to the states for more than two hundred years,' Brewer stated.

I find it deeply troubling that she doesn't understand how these things work. I find it deeply troubling that she doesn't realize the right for women to vote took the same path as gay marriage and if it had been left up to the voters in more conservative places she might not even be governor because she's a woman. And I find it highly troubling she thinks that someone with religious beliefs has a right to vote on my life, my civil rights, and my well being based on what's dictated by their religion that may or may not be one big spectacular fairy tale.

You can read the rest here. I guess we know which side of history she's going down on.

One comment said this:

 What's deeply troubling is that politicians such as her WITH an agenda always say it's the court that issues the order that has the agenda, when in fact the court is simply following the constitution. They become "activist judges" at that point. There's so many people out there like Brewer that it's amazing the world can actually function in the face of all of the crap they have flying around.

Hate Bakery Gets Help

We're living in interesting times because so many are getting financial help for things that may or may not deserve help. Sometimes my jaw literally drops when I see how much money people are willing to hand over to those who may or may not deserve it. In this case it's interesting because a gay activist is looking to help the anti-gay owners of a bakery that refused to make cakes for gay weddings.

He wrote, 'The Kleins say the $150,000 fee will bankrupt her family. I'm raising money to help offset that cost. I'll send whatever we raise along to the Klein family with a message of love and peace. I don't want them to suffer. But I am also pleading with them and other Christians to stop using the name of Jesus to explain to the LGBT community why we don't deserve access to the civil rights afforded to heterosexuals through the legal institution of marriage.' 

Citing his Christian faith, Aaron Klein, said at the time, 'I didn’t want to be a part of her marriage, which I think is wrong.'

This has obvious received criticism from the LGBTI community and there hasn't been much money raised. I get the idea; I'm not sure it's plausible.

You can read the rest here. I guess sometimes some people have to learn the hard way. But I do think it's interesting that gay Christians are speaking up. Christianity, whether you believe in it or not, is NOT exclusive to straight people.

Too Hard to Handle


by Ryan Field
 
 

'It is not only disappointing, but also deeply troubling, that unelected federal judges can dictate the laws of individual states, create rights based on their personal policy preferences and supplant the will of the people in an area traditionally left to the states for more than two hundred years,' Brewer stated. - See more at: http://www.gaystarnews.com/article/arizona-governor-jan-brewer-finds-it-deeply-troubling-gay-marriage-has-come-her-state181014#sthash.G0XBstWc.dpuf



A landmark trial in England is to be dramatically sped up after it was found taking a single dose of pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP), the drug Truvada, provided unprecedented levels of protection.
Researchers prescribed the drug to 407 men across the country, and describe it as a big success. A further 138 men waiting to start the couse will now be offered the drug immediately.
- See more at: http://www.gaystarnews.com/article/uk-be-offered-pill-reduces-hiv-risk-90171014#sthash.2V6cmJpJ.dpuf

Friday, October 17, 2014

Anderson Cooper's Father; Joan Rivers' Death; Gay Lover Thrown From Window

Anderson Cooper's Father

We all know that Anderson Cooper's mother is Gloria Vanderbilt, but not much has ever been written about his father, Wyatt Cooper. I've seen photos and read a few things about him because I've read a few biographies about Vanderbilt. But nothing in-depth. I was curious. I went to Fairleigh Dickinson University, at the Florham Park campus, which during the gilded age had been the Florence Vanderbilt Twombly estate. There was an elderly woman in one of my classes, and this woman's mother allegedly once worked on the estate, and the woman played with Gloria as a child.The name, Florham Park, is a combination of Florence Vanderbilt Twombly and Hamilton Mcknown Twombly.

In any event, Anderson Cooper is doing a special, Roots: Our Journey Home, where he had a chance to look into his ancestry on his father's side, along with other CNN anchors. He claims he never felt very close to the Vanderbilt side of the family and wanted to know more about his father. 

Cooper traveled to where his father was born and raised, in Mississippi, visiting old cemeteries, discovering stories of his ancestors whom had fought in the Civil War. But it was at his dad's high school in New Orleans, where he made an exciting discovery: A school employee handed Cooper a folder containing his father's report card from 1944.

You can read more here. The show airs on Monday, at 9:00, ET.

Joan Rivers' Death

I've been following this story because I find the medical details so amazing. My own mom had the same procedure Rivers had several times this year and during one of them last July she had a heart attack. Thankfully, my mom was in Sloan Kettering in New York, only blocks away from where Rivers had her procedure done in a clinic instead of a hospital, and my mom was much luckier than Rivers because my mom was in a large hospital that was prepared for anything. We took her to Sloan because it was the best there was and we didn't want to take any chances or assume anything. 

Joan Rivers died from a lack of oxygen to her brain during a medical procedure last month to deal with changes to her voice as well as problems with acid reflex.
A report released today by the New York City Office of Chief Medical Examiner revealed that the 81-year-old entertainer sedated with Propofol during the procedure and determined what happened to be a 'therapeutic complication.'
- See more at: http://www.gaystarnews.com/article/joan-rivers-died-after-predictable-complication-lack-oxygen-brain-while-sedated-propofol1610#sthash.XXIrfF2h.dpuf
In any event, the New York medical examiner ruled that Rivers' death was a result of "therapeutic complications." In other words, during any "simple procedure" anything can happen, especially with an older patient.


"The classification of a death as a therapeutic complication means that the death resulted from a predictable complication of medical therapy," the report said.

Rivers, 81, died September 4, a week after an appointment at Manhattan's Yorkville Endoscopy clinic.

The medical examiner's investigation ruled that the cause of death was "anoxic encephalopathy due to hypoxic arrest," a medical description of brain damage caused by a lack of oxygen.

You can read the rest here. The article, from CNN, goes into a lot more detail about why this happened. Rivers' daughter, Melissa Rivers, also released a brief statement. 

Gay Lover Thrown From Window

This story involves a 60 year old married Indian man, and a 20 year old gay lover. The married 60 year old threw the gay 20 year old lover out a third story window, and the 20 year old died. All this allegedly happened during a lovers quarrel. With a 40 year age difference I'm not surprised...that they were quarreling. 

Police had been nearby at the time of the incident and heard a scream and the sound of the body hitting the ground and spotted a broken window on the third floor of a building above where the man had fallen from. 

The still unidentified 20-year-old was naked and when police entered the building they discovered V. Narsingh Rao, 60, in an office belonging to his lawyer.

You can read the rest here. The interesting thing about this is that they are charging Rao with murder, and, anti-sodomy thanks to an old anti-gay law that's been around for a long time in India.
Police had been nearby at the time of the incident and heard a scream and the sound of the body hitting the ground and spotted a broken window on the third floor of a building above where the man had fallen from.
The still unidentified 20-year-old was naked and when police entered the building they discovered V. Narsingh Rao, 60, in an office belonging to his lawyer.
- See more at: http://www.gaystarnews.com/article/man-throws-gay-lover-his-death-through-3rd-story-window-hyderabad-india151014#sthash.enOEL7O1.dpuf

Cowboy Mike and Buddy Boy


by Ryan Field
.99 Gay E-book





Thursday, October 16, 2014

Will Gay Bathhouses Return? The I'm Gay Text; No to Gay Play in High School

Will Gay Bathhouses Return?

This article talks about the history of bathhouses, how they reached peak in the 1970's, and how they started closing down during the 90's due to health concerns about HIV. I've never been to one, but I do recall the headlines in local gay publications in the 90's when they started shutting down. Frankly, from a cultural POV, I've always found them interesting.

But will bathhouses make a comeback? This guy thinks they will.

It was a social place then. That’s what I believe our function is even today. Yeah, there was sex, of course, but the clubs we were building had swimming pools, gyms—they had a lot to offer. We have people who have been going to one of our clubs for 20 years, 30 years. It’s part of their social thing. There are plenty of people I know just by there being there so much. It’s part of their routine.

I actually agree to a certain extent that bathhouses are social places, especially for closeted gay men who are married and have kids. But I'm not sure I agree with the way they play down the sex. Let me put it this way. Would anyone bother going to a bathhouse for all that social fun if sex were prohibited? Trust me, no gay man ever went to a bathhouse to swap recipes and decorating tips. Not that there's anything wrong with that. But let's be real.

I don't think they'll ever make a huge comeback, not with the way gay men are assimilating into mainstream heteronormative society with such excitement. The other reason bathhouses were so popular was that they catered to a closeted crowd of a different generation and I don't think younger gay men are willing to put themselves in that position again...the position of hiding and being on the fringes of society.

You can read the rest here. 

The I'm Gay Text

This is interesting because I talk about passive aggressive homophobia here on the blog a lot lately...because I see so much of it happening and most gay people don't even realize it's happening. In some cases this kind of homophobia can be as simple as a straight guy saying, "I'm not gay, just so you know, but it's okay to be gay. I don't have a problem with that." That statement implies there's something wrong with being gay, and I'm not willing to deal with that anymore. Or, even closer to home, when straight people tell gay men how to write gay books. And they do...and they shoot us for mentioning it aloud. 

This next article talks about a teen who had his phone stolen and the four asswipes who stole it texted his mom from his phone with, "I'm gay, you know that." The four asswipes obviously thought this was funny and they knew it would instill shame...because you know how horrible it is to be gay. And after he was roughed up and he returned home, his mom's reaction was even more interesting:

When the 16-year-old returned home, his mother was waiting for him, her eyes filled with concern. When the teen asked what was wrong, she held up her cellphone to display the text message she had just received from him.

The victim isn't even gay. I can only imagine the conversation he had with his mom after that text. In the comment section no one even mentions this is the worst kind of homophobia out there and it's never addressed. To make this clear to all moms and teens: if someone sends a text stating someone is gay there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. Go back to life and enjoy it.

You can read the rest here. 

No to Gay Play in High School

In North Carolina the principal of a high school cancelled the rehearsals and production of a play with two gay characters because of too much alleged inappropriate content. It's a play that's been done in high schools already all over the US for many years. But the principal claims this:

“As principal of Maiden High School, I have an obligation to ensure that all material, including drama performances is appropriate and educationally sound for students of all ages,” he said.

The theater department is protesting the decision on multiple grounds.

The rest is here. 

The play, Almost, Maine, isn't actually considered LGBT themed, at least not from what I can gather (I'm not familiar with it). It just has two gay characters. And, it's been one of the most produced plays in high schools for almost ten years. I found this at Wiki...

The New York Times review of the play in 2006 was mixed: "A comedy comprising almost a dozen two-character vignettes exploring the sudden thunderclap of love and the scorched earth that sometimes follows, John Cariani's play will evoke either awww's or ick's, depending on your affection for its whimsical approach to the joys and perils of romance."







Chase of a Lifetime


By Ryan Field



.99 Gay E-book


Wednesday, October 15, 2014

The Little Prick; His Meat in Her Mouth; Mass Gay Kiss-In; Ring My Bells

The Little Prick

This is interesting because it's LGBT related, it's pop culture related, it's artistic, and it's sort of historical. A 24 year old artist has combined several mediums to gain one grand artistic result.

With the use of intricate, colorful embroidery and images of hot male icons from retro zines of the last century he's taken the ordinary and turned it into something extraordinary. I love it.

In this link, he granted an interview about what he does and what he's trying to achieve. There are images of his work you really should check out. It's not like anything you've seen before.

How did you get started doing embroidery? What does that medium represent or symbolize for you?

I learned to embroider while taking a general textiles class in college. The time spent on it was minimal but I became completely obsessed with the medium -- its intricacy, delicacy, beauty. Historically, embroidery has represented class, taste, worldly exposure and identity of its owner or commissioner. As I taught myself how to embroider over the years (on paper instead of fabric) the less obvious violent and physical nature of the process became very clear to me. Not only was the thread decorating a substrate with every stitch, its instrument was also puncturing and affecting the surface, creating holes in the paper and the image mounted to it. This physicality directed my focus toward the degenerative nature of continually re-forming identity. Its decorative function informed the expansive side of this process.


His Meat in Her Mouth

I don't post much about feminism or women's rights here on the blog because I don't feel it's the right thing for me to do. I follow everything that's happening, but as a gay man I can't understand how women feel, think, or even assume. And even though so many people who aren't gay do this with gay men (they call us queer and don't even realize how that word makes many of us feel...it's like the word "bitch"...gay misogyny), I don't want to be guilty of that same crime. So I remain silent.

But just yesterday I was having a discussion with a straight male friend about the possible misogyny in the new film Girl Gone, starring Ben Affleck, Mr. Straight White Liberal Male. I haven't seen the film and neither did my friend, but we were discussing how various reviewers were dealing with misogyny and rape culture...and whether they should be topics of discussion with a film at all. I won't go into detail about that now but let's just say I disagreed with my straight white male friend because I see so much misogyny on a weekly basis it's often worse than the passive aggressive homophobia I see (when they call me queer). And this next article to which I'm linking is really a perfect example.

To celebrate the Kansas City Royals' playoff success, the Westport Flea Market Bar & Grill had rolled back its prices to 1985, the last time the Royals won the World Series.

So KCTV reporter Courtenay DeHoff was on the scene, asking owner Joe Zwillenberg if she could try a burger. To which he responded, "Courtenay, I would love to see my meat in your mouth."
Outlets went after the owner with relish.

The rest is here. Imagine if a woman had said this to a man.

Mass Gay Kiss-In

I have a love/hate relationship with stories like this. I hate that they happen, but I love the outcry of support. In a supermarket in the UK two gay women were thrown out for kissing in the store. According to this source, it wasn't even a hot kiss...just a peck and a security guard kicked them both out.

And this is what happened next:

Angry shoppers are taking a stand after a UK supermarket told a lesbian couple to stop kissing on Coming Out Day. 

In response, they will be holding a mass kiss-in in the very same branch of Sainsbury's where a chaste kiss was branded 'inappropriate' by a security guard.

You can read it all here. The women were stunned and could not believe this had happened. The store did apologize and it offered a donation to the charity of their choice, but evidently that's not going to be enough.

I might have thought this was extreme five or six years ago. But now I'm starting to think it's necessary so nothing like that ever happens again (so they stop calling me queer). Now if we can only figure out a way to go after them with passive aggressive homophobia we'd be on a real mission. Intellectually, we (most of us who can think) know what happened to these women was wrong, but with passive aggressive homophobia we don't always pick it up the way we should...like when straight guys praise the gays but make it clear they aren't gay themselves because, you know, that would be weird.

Cover Reveal For Newest Book

I don't have links yet, but here's the newest cover for my next book. It's a short story, it's .99, it's only being released in digital format through Ryan Field Press, and it's a gay story about gay men in a gay situation. I'll post more as I get the information from my tech guy. It's not an actual romance like many of my other books and I like to make that distinction. But it is uplifting, highly erotic, and it does have a happy ending.



Chase of a Lifetime






By Ryan Field



.99 Gay E-book

In response, they will be holding a mass kiss-in in the very same branch of Sainsbury's where a chaste kiss was branded 'inappropriate' by a security guard. - See more at: http://www.gaystarnews.com/article/uk-supermarket-threw-out-lesbian-couple-kissing-will-now-be-venue-mass-gay-kiss141014#sthash.hsj4A8vb.dpuf

Tuesday, October 14, 2014

Gay Men and Big Feet; Hot Colorado Firefighters; Clinton Papers on DADT; Four Feet Under With My Buddies by Ryan Field

Gay Men and Big Feet

This isn't an official clinical study but it's interesting all the same. Allegedly, gay men with big feet are more likely to cheat on their lovers, partners, or husbands than those with dainty feet. Over 31,000 participated and those with size ten or larger are 3 times more likely to cheat than those with size seven, eight, or nine.


18 percent of dudes have size seven feet. Of that 18 percent, just 4 percent reported that they would cheat on their partner. By contrast, 22 percent with size 11 shoes and 16 percent with sizes 12 to 13 shoes said that they would consider being unfaithful.

According to David Perrett, a specialist in psychology and neuroscience at the University of St. Andrews, “Body proportions are related and big shoes will likely mean a bigger, taller body. Body stature will relate to personality. Size will enable individuals to dominate in social situations. Dominance itself may open opportunities for affairs.”

You can read the rest here. However, the foot size of a man doesn't dictate penis size. Hand size might be slightly different, so they say.  If you're into feet, and I know many of you are, secretly, check out the foot photo with the link. And, check out my .99 e-book below that has a foot fetish theme. I don't normally focus on specific kinks this way, but I had a few requests for this one.

Hot Colorado Firefighters

It's that time of year again. Calender season. Where it's become a ritual for all men with even a hint of a good body to take off their clothes and pose for calendars. I'm sure there will be many more to come. But they do serve a purpose. They're almost always for a worthy charity.

You don’t have to be shy with us, we know at one point in your life you bought a calendar full of gorgeous half-naked men. The demigods served as daily inspiration every time you woke up. This year, we want you to wake up every morning under the protection of the men who make up Colorado’s finest Firefighters. Colorado-based underwear brand Baskit teams up with the hunks to make one scorching calendar every year. Not only do you get daily eye candy, but the proceeds from the calendars go to the Children’s Hospital of Colorado.

You can read more here, with photo samples.

Clinton Papers on DADT

Papers from the Clinton administration were recently made public and the topic of DADT is supposedly riddled with homophobia.

These are the most offensive:

“Homo[sexuality] is a problem for us,” Powell said, according to the notes taken at the meeting. He also recited all the same bogus fears that led to DADT, including the old predator canard; the notes say Powell was “concerned about forced association and immaturity of 18-year-old.”

The most offensive remarks came from Marine Commandant Carl Mundy, who 16 years later was still urging the president (now Obama) not to repeal DADT.  According to the notes, Mundy said that the statement “I’m gay” was the “same as I’m KKK, Nazi, rapist.” Coming out “fractures teamwork” and tells the world “I commit [an] act Amer[ica] doesn’t accept.”

Then democratic President Clinton wasn't without his homophobic statements. I remember arguing this point with several people back then. They didn't believe me.

“People I would like to keep [in the military] wouldn’t show up at a Queer Nation parade,” the president said, referring to the activist group.

I remember those days well, waiting to hear what would happen. The odd thing is that even though times were different to a certain extent, it was a lot better at that time than it was ten years prior to that, and I find these comments amazing from Clinton...even for that time period. Most liberal democrats at the time had already moved beyond that point.


You can read more here. The person who came out the best in the papers who supported gays was Vice President Al Gore.

Four Feet Under with My Buddies

by Ryan Field

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