Wednesday, December 31, 2014

Anti-Gay Firefighters Lose; Straight Guys Stoned For Gay Sex; Getting Stuffed

Anti-Gay Firefighters Lose

Before I get into this I'd just like to state that I know many firefighters and cops and this is by no means a reflection on either profession. The reason why I know so many is my younger brother is a NJ State Trooper and most that I know are his friends. I have never once felt or experienced an anti-gay moment with any of them.

With that said, two firefighters from Providence, Rhode Island tried to sue because they claim they were forced to participate in a gay pride event, which they claim is against their religion...Catholicism. The lawsuits were thrown out of court and the most interesting thing is they've been fighting this case since 2001. That's a long time to hold that much hate in your heart.

The court heard that they had been asked to take part in the parade as they worked in an engine company that happened to be nearest the route. 

Their lawyer said that they asked to be reassigned but the request was declined, and that during the event, they experienced sexual harassment from members of the public attending the parade. They said that they also received harassment from co-workers in the period after the parade.

However, lawyers defending the city point out that fire trucks often took part in city parades, and that it was a work assignment like any other – a point agreed with by Justice William Robinson. 

Writing to members of the high court this month, Robinson said, ‘The respondents' appearance in the parade, solely as members of the Providence Fire Department, did not constitute a form of expression on their part. Rather, it was simply the accomplishing of a task assigned to an engine company of the Providence Fire Department.’

You can read the rest here. I find the Catholic part interesting. I went through 12 years of Catholic school. These two should take a closer look at the priests and nuns they've known. 

Straight Guys Stoned For Gay Sex

Here's another one about straight guys and gay guys. This one talks about how straight guys react to gay guys when they are stoned.

This happened on Reddit, on a thread titled with this: “Weed makes me temporary gay. Anyone else?”

Then this guy posted something more descriptive about what he wants in a man that I'm not quoting here, which set off many comments.

Maybe it’s the boundaries of your Ego dissolving when you’ve reached that ‘transcendent’ state, so your guard is down an your ‘true’ self rears it’s head. I’d be curious to how this would work with LSD, I’ve had friends come out or reveal/discover those feelings while tripping.

I know. It sounds really stupid. But there are quite a few and they sound honest enough. Dumb but honest. Most are too graphic to print on the blog, but you can read this yourself, here. 

I think some men are just horny and getting stoned makes them even hornier. I've met a few at weddings...always at weddings...who pulled some interesting things on me.

Getting Stuffed

Contrary to the typical stereotype of gay men starving constantly to maintain a body image...those like me who haven't had ice cream in years...many gay men eat to the point of getting stuffed. They LOVE good food. I have friends who talk about nothing but food, and it's even on social media. So here's a link for anyone interested, to vote on the best places to get stuffed. You can win something.

Show off your culinary expertise by voting for the Foodie Paradise in the 2014 Best of GayCities, and win your chance at a free getaway vacation.

Which international city has the most delectable delights? Is it the Southern cuisine of New Orleans? Or Austin’s awesome grub? Maybe it’s the fusion food of San Francisco? Or the cartes du jour of Paris?

You can get there from here. 

Chase of a Dream PG-Rated Version
 
 







Tuesday, December 30, 2014

Boy Toy Stalking David Geffen; Straight Guy Favorite DILFs; Last Season of Glee

Boy Toy Stalking David Geffen

This information I'm linking to now is from Queerty.com, but there it's linked to TMZ. The music industry's billionaire, David Geffen, is allegedly being stalked by a 20 year old former boyfriend. Get this, the boyfriend's last name is Kuntz. No comment.

20-year-old Jamie Kuntz has been accused of stalking the 71-year-old for the past several months. His behavior has included following, harassing and making a “credible threat” against Geffen sometime between September and November.

In October, Kuntz was arrested for violating the terms of a restraining order. He now faces felony and misdemeanor charges and is expected to appear in court later this week.

Kuntz and Geffen first hooked up when Kuntz was 18. In 2012, the teenager was kicked off his college football team after being spotted making out with the then 69-year-old billionaire in a press box. He told teammates Geffen was his grandfather. (The school maintains that he wasn’t removed from the team for being gay, but because he lied about the kiss.)

Very little surprises me anymore. And I actually do think some of the best relationships, gay or straight, occur when there's an age difference. It could be a ten year age difference, or even a twenty five year age difference. They usually last. But I can tell you one thing for certain about life. When you see an 18 year old making out with a 69 year old there is almost always a sizable amount of money lurking around in the background. Goodness and love have nothing to do with it.

You can read more about Geffen and the boy toy here.

Straight Guy Favorite DILFs

For those who don't know I'd better get this out in the beginning. DILF means "Dads I'd like to fuck." It's not always meant to be literal, at least not in this context. It's more sarcastic in nature.

Gay men and women aren’t the only ones who have a special place in their hearts for DILFs, according to the latest Buzzfeed video examining the same-sex attractions of male hettys.

Consider the pursuit of human knowledge one step furthered.

Aside from the fact that they use dumb words like "hetty" in this article, it's not completely horrible. Of course Grandpa Geffen's name is not on the list, but most of the guys who are listed with photos are not bad at all.

The thing that always amazes me is that straight guys would be interested in other men at all. But one thing doesn't amaze me. Gay men can't stop reading about it.


You can check them out here.

Last Season of Glee

If you haven't had enough of Glee yet, you're in for a treat. There's still one more season of schmaltz and happy crying left. And now there's a gay singing quarterback...because it's not enough pressure to be a gay quarterback in high school.  

When casting for the role, the character was described this way: 'He's post-Glee gay — no one messes with him about his sexuality because he will kick their asses if they do.' 

Williams was a finalist on Canadian Idol in 2008 and has many onscreen acting credits including How to Build a Better Boy, Pete's Christmas, Saving Hope and Headcase. 

Now, to be perfectly honest I actually think this might work out well. I know it's pure cheese and I'm not even sure I'll watch, but I do think it's interesting to give younger people the image of a gay guy who will kick ass if anyone screws around with him. Just the other day on Twitter I politely let a straight guy know that not all gay men dress and act flamboyantly. Some gay men would be more than happy to kick his ass when he least expects it. And that's the dead honest truth of the matter. You just don't hear from us often enough. 

My only concern is that PC bleeding heart liberal Ryan Murphy will ruin this somehow. I hope he really makes this kid a badass hero who does kick ass and fuck all the PC convention. Gay kids need some of that, too. 

You can read the rest here. 


Chase of a Dream PG-Rated Version
 
 

Monday, December 29, 2014

Brokeback Mountain Author Pissed Off; Bubble Butts; Don Lemon Worst Journalist List 2014

Brokeback Mountain Author Pissed Off

The author of Brokeback Mountain, Annie Proulx, is making a few strong statements about how her short story was received and how it's been interpreted in various ways over the years. The story, which became a huge bestseller and a ground-breaking feature film that many claim spawned the m/m romance genre, has never been without controversy. And that controversy has not always come in the form of traditional homophobia. I remember back when it was released and I was interviewing and reviewing gay male bloggers for bestgayblogs.com many gay men weren't thrilled with the story or the film.They found fundamental flaws in the storyline, but I'm not getting into that right now. I thought it was a nice story, in a general sense.

In any event, this is what Proulx said, in part:

So many people have completely misunderstood the story. I think it’s important to leave spaces in a story for readers to fill in from their own experience, but unfortunately the audience that Brokeback reached most strongly have powerful fantasy lives. And one of the reasons we keep the gates locked here is that a lot of men have decided that the story should have had a happy ending. They can’t bear the way it ends — they just can’t stand it. So they rewrite the story, including all kinds of boyfriends and new lovers and so forth after Jack is killed. And it just drives me wild.

I really don't know what she's talking about when she says "men" are doing this. But I may have missed that. My only comment is that after writing and getting published for many years in the concentrated genre of gay fiction I've found more than a few things interesting in the past ten years, since BM became so popular. One of them is that I still can't get over how many people coming from a place of privilege can't wait to tell gay writers how to do "it." Another thing is how little they really know about gay men.

But I really don't want to get off track here. I've done parodies of mainstream classic stories with gay characters, like An Officer and His Gentleman and Pretty Man. But frankly, the one story I always thought was off limits as a parody in this case was Brokeback Mountain. I wouldn't parody a gay story...unless I were to do it with straight characters.  And I think I know exactly what Proulx is talking about this time. I just wish she'd been more specific in her rant. 

You can read the rest here.  

I highly suggest reading the rest of this in full. I really don't have any strong comments on this one. I actually find it interesting when readers take my books and stories and reinterpret them in various ways. I don't mind it in the least.

Bubble Butts

This is all about the sexy photo column at Queerty.com. I've been following it all year and I love some of the things they've done...especially about breaking body image stereotypes. I follow a pop star on social media and he posts some of the hottest photos online. But most are photo shopped. When he posts a real photo of himself, even though I think it's hotter than the photo shopped pics, you'd be amazed at how many will criticize him. He's absolutely adorable, yet they can't wait to point out his flaws.   

This year, Queerty launched a new photos column, Homo Erotica, that highlighted various sexual styles and looks while celebrating sexy men of all sorts. Over the past 12 months, we’ve covered foot fetishes to armpit fetishes, hairy older hunks to twinks, with a few bubble butts and beer bellies thrown in for good measure. It’s been an interesting year, and we’re looking forward to bringing you even more homo horseplay in 2015.

You can check out the pics here. I think the cute guy with the belly is adorable.

Don Lemon Worst Journalist List 2014

I think most readers know I usually support everything LGBT. But I don't think it's wise to blindly support anyone just because he or she is LGBT, especially when an openly gay journalist like Don Lemon makes ridiculous comments about women and rape. Sexual orientation doesn't give anyone a free pass to be arrogant or obnoxious. Dumb I can overlook. But I find it hard to believe anyone can reach the point of CNN anchor and be stupid. 

The worst journalist list was created by Columbia Journalism Review and those on the list are considered to have made the most "cringe-worthy" remarks during the year. 

David Uberti, the Review's fellow wrote in a post why Lemon deserves to be ranked along with other missteps in journalism this year. 

'As one of the most recognizable anchors on CNN, Don Lemon has helped lead the cable network's coverage of the biggest stories of the year. Live television is exceedingly difficult to produce, of course, but Lemon’s gaffes this year offer a case study in how to choose words wisely — or not.'

 Uberti highlighted several controversial comments made by Lemon including telling an alleged rape victim of Bill Cosby, 'You know, there are ways not to perform oral sex if you don't want to do it... Meaning the use of teeth, right?' 

The anchor also pondered whether Malaysia Airlines Flight 370 was swallowed by a black hole.

You can read the rest here. It gives us all hope for the future journalists coming our way. At least they nailed this one. It's also one reason why I refuse to even watch CNN anymore.


Chase of a Dream PG-Rated Version
 
 








Sunday, December 28, 2014

Gay Boyfriend "Twins"; "Fag" Cousin; Anal Cancer

Gay Boyfriend "Twins"

This one made me smile. Through the years Tony and I have known several gay couples who fall into this category: gay boyfriend twins. It's not about incest. These guys aren't related to each other. They are boyfriends who try hard to look like each other. The first year we were together Tony made a point of telling me he didn't want us to ever look like "one of the Bobsie Twins." At the time we knew a gay couple who wore the same outfits (always tight black shirts), the same shoes (black boots), and even wore their hair the same (too short, dyed black, and spiked)...like identical twins...and even though it's not something that would have occurred to me I completely agreed with Tony on that matter.

This article explains it in more detail with photos:

We’ve all seen it happen. Two people start dating, and over the course of the relationship, they start to morph into mirror images of each other. It can be funny, sad, hot — it all depends, really.

But did you know there’s a blog that chronicles this phenomenon? The aptly named BoyfriendTwin Tumbler is just chock full of wonders.

You can read more here. The comments get a little snarky, too. This one seems to have hit a nerve.


Side note: most of the gay couples we've known over the years do NOT do this. They don't dress like twins, and make a point of it. The ones who do dress like twins are usually the ones you run from at parties.

"Fag" Cousin

This guy's cousin came out to him on social media...my nephew did the same with me on Facebook. This guy claims he wasn't shocked...I was stunned. I really didn't have a clue. But then I didn't know my one brother was gay until I ran into him in a disco in New York.

In any event, it's an interesting story about how their relationship as gay cousins devolved over time. From the way it sounds the younger cousin who came out on social media felt as if the older cousin was trying to mold him into being the gay man everyone expects...the typical South Beach gay man. It didn't work because the younger cousin wasn't into any of that, and the two cousins wound up drifting apart for obvious reasons.

When I moved to New York my relationship with Juan took a turn for the worst. My other cousin, Raul, came to visit. I hadn’t spoken to Juan in a few months and asked how he was doing.

“Dude,” Raul told me. “You know he doesn’t like you. He was talking mad shit about you the other day and I swear to God I wanted to punch him.”

I was floored. “What do you mean? What did he say?”

“He said: ‘There are two types of gay men in this world. Ones like me and fags like Paul.’”

It's interesting to me because my one gay brother has always been a circuit queen. I'd rather eat dirt than follow a bunch of dizzy queens in skinny jeans to Spain looking for the disco ball. I'd rather go skiing in Vermont than clubbing in South Beach. We are complete opposites in many respects, and I think too much alike in others. It's taken years for our relationship to reach a point of ease...the best word I can think of because we never argue...so just because two family members are gay doesn't mean it makes anything easier. My relationship with my straight brother is much easier, and we tend to agree more on everything (the other gay brother is awkward with him, too). It's interesting. 


Anal Cancer 

There's a campaign moving forward about the growing awareness of anal cancer among gay men. It's called "Behind Closed Drawers." 

“A growing number of physicians and health activists recommend that all men who have sex with men, especially those who are HIV-positive, be tested every one-to-three years depending on their immunological well-being and CD4 count,” organizers said in a statement. “They suggest that HIV negative individuals be tested every three years. This work is important, because most people know little about anal cancer, have never been tested for it, and don’t know that screening tests exist.”

You can read the rest here. They're asking for help and there's information there on how to do it. I don't know much about this type of cancer so I can't comment. 

I think this comment from the thread about HPV is interesting.

The key thing that is not made clear from this article and much of the coverage you see around is that the vast majority of Anal cancer is caused by HPV infection (Human Papilloma Virus) – so it is a sexually transmitted disease. It is the exact same virus which causes the majority of Cervical Cancers in women. Anal Cancer is just as nasty and aggressive as Cervical Cancer, and if you have a screening programme available to you, you should take it up because getting to it early makes a huge difference.

And there is a myth that if you don’t have genital warts, you don’t have HPV – you can be infected with HPV and never know it. 

You can also be vaccinated against HPV. In the USA, all gay and bisexual men up to the age of 26 can be offered HPV vaccination (and all other men up to the age of 21). In the UK there is currently no vaccination of men but you can request it. The message is clear: if you’re gay or bisexual, take part in screening and get vaccinated if possible.

I like to make a point of letting readers know this book was released in two versions, one with strong sex scenes, one without. This is the PG rated version and runs about 52,000 words. It's .99.

Chase of a Dream PG-Rated Version



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5.0 out of 5 stars A very very good read & very romantic, September 21, 2012
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This book was a great read and I like the austhor's writing style. I couldn't put the kindle down once I began the read.Most reads coming available are so like each other once you read one other authors seem to copy situations and language from each other. Ryan Field should use this novel as his best, hope he continues to produce such good reading.


Saturday, December 27, 2014

Gay Panic Defense; "Faggots" Written on Door; Having Sex With Straight Guys

Gay Panic Defense

Openly gay New Jersey assemblyman, Tim Eustace, introduced an interesting bill that will prevent criminals from using what's being referred to as "gay panic defense." I never knew this even existed.

'I want to make sure that we’re paying attention to things before they happen,' Eustace said, as reported by New Jersey.com. 

According to state law, a charge of murder can be reduced to manslaughter if the crime 'is committed in the heat of passion resulting from a reasonable provocation.' 

Eustace's bill states provocation is not reasonable if based on the 'discovery of, knowledge about, or potential disclosure of the homicide victim’s actual or perceived gender identity or expression.' 

I guess this means, as the law stands now, if you claim you were shocked into committing a crime because you found out someone was gay or transsexual you have a better chance of getting reduced charges.

Lambda Legal, a national LGBT organization, notes while the term 'gay panic' is not an official defense, it does 'allow a defendant to enlist the judge and the jury’s support (or, at least, empathy) for the defendant’s anti-gay or anti-trans bias, by asking the justice system to excuse the killing as an “understandable” response to finding out that the victim was LGBT.'

Check it out here. 

"Faggots" Written on Door

This next link reminded me of something that happened to my family when I was growing up. My younger straight brother once asked a girl of African American descent to the prom. He'd been dating her for a while. The morning after the prom my family woke to find the "N" word written all over the garage doors. It was really the first time I'd ever experienced that brand of racial discrimination. This happened in New Jersey, too. I never forgot how it felt...and I still don't even know the full extent of that kind of discrimination. 

Prior to that, I did know gay discrimination and I wasn't even out of the closet yet. This is the kind of thing I'm talking about. A gay couple found the word "Faggots" written on their front door beneath their Christmas wreath this year. This is how they handled it:

‘To the individual who scrawled the word ‘’faggots’’ into our door: We regret to inform you that you completely failed to use glitter paint and/or sequins, your work looked rushed, and your handwriting was positively atrocious. 

 ‘It is for these reasons that we had to remove your work from our door with sandpaper. 

‘Fabulously yours, the Gays in Apt. 611.’

I have to admit it's so much classier than what I would have done at this point in my life...found the bastards and kicked the living shit out of them. But then all gay people are different and I don't recommend my way at all. 

You can read the rest here. 

Having Sex With Straight Guys

I have to admit that I have had sex with straight guys and never thought it would be newsworthy. One hot Marine I once knew was definitely fiction-worthy, but I really never thought much about it...and, it's not that much different than sex with gay guys.  At least not in my experience.

But this is interesting, a commentary piece by someone named Topher Gen, whoever he is:

I’ll be honest here; I’ve been a guys ‘test dummy’ more than a couple of times in the past. The reason I refer to it so crudely and cheaply is because after these affairs were conducted, that’s how I was made to feel. That’s how the straight party felt about it: It was cheap, maybe even dirty. 

That response is, while not universal, fairly common. So this topic will likely conjure up some uncomfortable feelings with some people. But we should address it all the same. Why does society give a ‘curious’ guy such a beating should they experiment with another man? 

I’ve seen it happen: Rumors fly and the heterosexual, who perhaps is teetering on the edge bisexuality, is branded a ‘poof’ and ridiculed which makes them ashamed of their feelings.

I'll be honest here, too. I never felt as though I was anyone's "test dummy." I knew what I was doing each step I did it. And the straight guys I was with didn't treat me any differently after sex than they did prior to it. If anything I used to feel guilty because they would thank me and I thought I should have been thanking them. If you know what you're doing, straight men are even more thankful than gay men. And they want to see you again...even if that's not part of your plan. Straight men can be very pushy sometimes, but also far less complicated to deal with. There's no over-analyzing with straight men. 

In any event, maybe good old Topher Gen might be over-analyzing this a little too much. Sometimes a shtup is just shtup. But it is interesting anyway and the comment thread produced some excellent discussion. I can only speak from my own experiences.

However, just don't let their girlfriends catch you with them. That can get ugly...makes you run naked fast.

Here's the rest. It's a long one.    


Chase of a Christmas Dream


 
 


Friday, December 26, 2014

Robbie Rogers Gay Masculinity; Twinks, Daddies, Jocks; Transgender Fairy Dolls

Robbie Rogers Gay Maculinity

It was hard to title this part of the post. I thought about using "Gay Stereotypes" and a variety of other interesting words often used with respect to gay men. I've often talked about how we usually see only one type of gay man portrayed in the mainstream, when the truth is that there are all kinds of gay men and if people really knew this there might not be any stereotypes at all.

But as it stands this is still a discreet topic and many gay men haven't even come out at all. Many don't come out because of stereotypes. It's not a simple topic. The other day I posted on FB about Michael Sam mentioning there are other gay pro football players and one gay guy commented that Sam shouldn't have said that. The guy who commented thought it might start a "witch hunt." That floored me a little because even gay people don't always see the importance of coming out...as difficult as it is to do for all of us. 

In any event, Robbie Rogers is a gay athlete and they're doing a sitcom about his life. ABC is doing this, which doesn't give us much hope that it will be either accurate or funny...because it's network TV. But the main point right now is that Robbie Rogers has asked to have a masculine actor play him in the sitcom, and if this is done right it sounds as though it could be something different for a change...something with which other gay men can identify.

 We want to teach people through laughter and play with stereotypes.

“It’s gotta be someone funny, someone who doesn’t care and someone very masculine; someone you wanna grab a beer with. In a perfect world – he obviously wouldn’t do this and I don’t think I’m anything like him – but someone like Chris Pratt. You know, someone hilarious, good looking but not super fit, you know what I mean? So it looks like he doesn’t go to the gym kind of thing…”

Now you would think that was an innocent comment from Rogers. However, if you move down to the comment thread and see some of the vicious comments left by disgruntled people you would think Rogers killed a kitten. It's also two-sided and it sparked an interesting discussion.

You can read the rest here.

Twinks, Daddies, Jocks

Here's a link to an article about the various definitions often used to portray small groups of gay men. It's interesting because it shows how the gay community can often be so diversified...and it's hard to argue with any of them, except that they only define small groups. I don't fit into any of the categories and no one I know does.

Here are two I didn't even know existed:

Pocket Gay
Petite and small in stature, a pocket gay is a travel-sized homosexual who stands under 5’7, even in shoes, and is often highly sought after the moment he steps into a gay bar.


Short guy
Petite and small in stature, a short guy stands under 5’7, even in shoes, and is overlooked or assumed to be gay when he steps into a straight bar.

I probably could have lived a full and happy life never knowing these labels exist, however, I'm just passing the information on with this one. It's just one of those topics where you're not sure whether to laugh or kick something.


You can read the rest here. 

I'd like to know one thing: what about the gay men who own homes, pay taxes, vote, are active members of their communities, and have families? Guess what, they even go to church. You know, the majority of gay men out there in the world today. Your cousin, your neighbor, and even your facebook friend. Never see a name for them anywhere in these trashy clickbait articles.

Transgender Fairy Dolls

I'm not talking about a category or a stereotype this time. There's a new toy doll out on the market that's "shocking" parents because it's a transgender fairy doll. But even that information is sketchy because it could have been a mistake. And I don't really know enough about transgender people to comment honestly about this, but I would think this might be insulting on a certain level. I could be wrong about that. I really don't know.

News about the doll broke after a mother claimed her three-year-old daughter discovered the penis under the doll’s skirt. She posted a picture of it on her Facebook account. The story quickly went viral, causing a stir across the country, before eventually turning into a worldwide pandemic among concerned parents.

The toy was made in China. It is unknown whether the penis was intentional on the part of the manufacturers or if was a factory defect, though we’re going to take a wild guess and say it wasn’t intentional.

I will say this. The transgender people I know don't identify with fairy dolls. They identify with a specific gender, period. Unfortunately, as it stands the comments aren't too helpful with this one. I was hoping to learn more, but didn't.

You can read the rest here, with a photo of the doll. 


Chase of a Christmas Dream









Thursday, December 25, 2014

Christmas Past by Ryan Field

Christmas Past by Ryan Field



Below is a post I wrote for Queertown Abbey's 12 Days of Christmas event this December. When they asked me to write it and I noticed they wanted specific traditions and recipes, I wasn't sure what to do. I guess in a general sense Tony and I spend Christmas in certain ways, but we've never had any set traditions that went from year to year. I love restaurants and great food, but I'd rather skip a meal than cook one, so traditional recipes were out of the question. Why make pizza at home when the pros do it so much better?

I tried to focus in a more general sense, which covered many years in only a few paragraphs.

In any event, wishing everyone a great Christmas and safe travels if you're on the road!! I'll resume normal gay news blogging on Friday.


The night we met the entire east coast in the US was dealing with record cold temperatures and snow that had frozen over to ice in many places. We actually met in a gay bar in New Jersey that's not around anymore, on a Saturday night. And there's a reason for this. If it had not been for the cold and ice we probably never would have met at all. We only went there was because we didn't want to drive into the city on Saturday night in that weather.

After we met that night, we started "seeing" each other on a regular weekly basis all through that Christmas season. I would drive to meet Tony on Friday nights, and he would meet me on Saturday nights. We did this for two reasons, and I'm mentioning this to show what the times were like. One, we were both fresh out of college and still living at home, and the distance between us was about an hour. Second, in 1992 it wasn't common for two gay men to "date." Although neither one of us ever denied we were gay to family, we didn't talk about it either. And getting picked up for a date by a guy just wasn't done in our worlds.

During that time, Tony was in the process of purchasing his first home and he was going to settlement the week before Christmas. This bothered me a little because I wasn't part of that and I felt as if I were intruding in a way. In fact, at the time I thought things might not work out because of this. I'd always pictured meeting someone and buying a home together. But life, as we all learn eventually, is never as we plan it and I wound up loving the town house he bought and I eventually moved in later that year. There wasn't a move-in day. It happened slowly over the course of that year. Since that time we have purchased other homes together.  

But as I look back now, I think those years, in that town house, were some of the best we've ever had. We were too young to even know what we were doing and we learned as we went along. The first Christmas in the town house we purchased the biggest tree on the lot and spent hours decorating it and I still didn't think we had enough ornaments. So each year after that, even to this day, I wind up buying at least a dozen or more new ornaments. Although I've never actually counted them, it's reached a point where there are so many ornaments to put on the tree it takes a full afternoon to put it up. (And hours to take it down.)

It's hard to pinpoint a specific tradition or "thing" we do for Christmas...other than this massive overly decorated Christmas Tree. Each year since 1992 it's always been a little different. Up until we moved to our present home we had huge Christmas parties every year, with forty or more people. One year we hired a male stripper to help serve and he turned out to be the best help we ever had. He really did work. When we moved to our current home, which is in a more rural part of town, we stopped having large Christmas parties because our driveway only holds about twenty cars. There's no parking on the street because it's so rural. So we figured that in order to avoid insulting people we couldn't invite for lack of parking space we just wouldn't have huge parties anymore. And that's been fine.

The point is that it's always different in that sense. I wish I could say we have a specific tradition but we really don't. Last Christmas we spent a good deal of the time in the hospital with my mom and that came along without warning. The year before, we both had the flu and didn't do much of anything. If there is any specific tradition I suppose it's Christmas Eve. We started having a small dinner for just us and two very good friends we've known for years. They were an older couple I met when I owned my art gallery and we all hit it off immediately. At the time we met, they were already together about forty years. We spent many Christmas Eves with them, until one of them passed away about five years ago. So now we spend it with the survivor...just the three of us. It's something I think we all look forward to each year and it's something I also know I'll miss one day.

As for favorite recipes. Each year that's different, too. And I think that's part of what I've always enjoyed the most about the Christmas season. It's never exactly the same, but it's always spent at home and it's never been uneventful. The one huge change is that we're both "out" with our families and we do spend time with them at Christmas. And, of course, now that we're legally married it does make a difference. Neither of us thought it would. But it does. It makes us equals with every other straight family member and that's important. Far more important than most people actually realize.

Check out the rest of the Queertown Abbey event here.  


Wednesday, December 24, 2014

Gay Gang Rape; Gay Sword Attack; Family-Friendly Pink Flamingos John Waters

Gay Gang Rape

Some stories are harder to post about than others, and this is one of them. A young guy from Quetzaltenango, Guatemala was disowned by his family for being gay. They threw him out with nothing. He left home and got a job working in a clothing store. What happened after that leaves me cold.

Earlier this year, local gang members began extorting him for money. The men repeatedly called him a “faggot piece of shit” and a “whore.” One day in March, they ganged up and forced him to perform oral sex on them.

The incident, which marked the third time he had been sexually assaulted, left Amezquita-Guzman traumatized. He decided to flee Guatemala shortly afterwards, traveling up through Mexico and finally crossing the Rio Grande into Texas.

He fled to the US seeking asylum and it only gets worse.

Agents with Immigration and Customs Enforcement detained Amezquita-Guzman in May. He was sent to a privately-run detention facility operated by Corrections Corporation of America in the state of Georgia where he filed a claim seeking asylum.

“He could have been released on bond, and he wasn’t,” Amezquita-Guzman’s lawyer, Patrick Valdez, tells the Blade. “My client’s not a danger. He doesn’t have a record in his country or in this country. His record is impeccable. And he had a legitimate asylum application and he had to litigate his case in custody the whole time. That was unfortunate.”

After fighting for one year, he was finally granted asylum. The rest is here. 

Gay Sword Attack

This allegedly happened between two middle aged straight men. The grown straight men were watching "a game" and one said the other had "homosexual tendencies," which started a shitstorm that led the one accused to get a sword and start flinging it around at the accuser.

Voices were raised. Punches were thrown. The two men wrestled their way into the kitchen, before a third man finally broke up the fight and told them to “take it outside.”

The fired up 44-year-old went outside and waited. When Cowboy finally emerged from the building, he was wielding a two-foot sword, which he began wildly swinging in the air. He struck the man once in the head and twice in the left arm before the injured man said he was calling the cops, upon which Cowboy dropped the sword and ran away.

All that, because one didn't want to be accused of being gay. That's the shame we all have to worry about the most. There's nothing wrong with being gay...even if you're not gay. You don't need to defend yourselves with swords.  The rest is here. 

Family-Friendly Pink Flamingos John Waters

I like some of John Waters' work, but not crazy about it all. I recently tried watching a documentary about Divine and I got so bored I couldn't stand it a minute longer. Even the documentary couldn't make Divine look good, which I doubt Divine would have minded in the least. However, from a writer's POV I do find this interesting and I do think Waters is a genius of sorts for what he does. I can appreciate certain forms of art, but I wouldn't hang it all in my home. 

In any event, Waters is going to recreate a kid, family-friendly version of his 70's cult film, Pink Flamingos. I don't think this is a hoax.

“I’ve always said that if you took out the sex and the violence, that it is a children’s story because it’s the battle of the gross-out, and that’s what most kids’ books are now,” John Waters recently told the NYT about his upcoming plans to turn his 1972 cult classic Pink Flamingos into a family-friendly story.

“Kiddie Flamingos” will feature an all-kid cast, who will “wear candy-colored wigs, cat-eye glasses and at least one pencil-thin mustache (drawn on, of course)” while they are filmed doing a table read of the new script.

The reason I find it so interesting is because I did the same thing with Chase of a Dream when I released it in two different versions, one with sex and one without any sex scenes at all. In the future I'll be experimenting more with that, plus rewriting a great deal of back listed books, in order to do almost the same thing. Just not for kids. Maybe Walters is trying to break into a more mainstream market?

You can read more about Waters here. I'll be looking out for this one. I've seen a lot of mixed commentary about it, but I think it's a fascinating idea.  And good for him for competing with the all the cultural appropriation happening these days. He must be watching all that closely, too. CA is when people coming from a place of privilege try to dominate a minority by taking on their characteristics and creativity.


Chase of a Christmas Dream


 
 

Tuesday, December 23, 2014

Thank You Tuc Watkins; Straight Guys Kissing; Washington Florist Gay Hate

Thank You Tuc Watkins

Update Below

Remember yesterday's post, where I linked to a piece about Jesse Ferguson of Modern Family responding to a negative comment made by another actor, Tuc Watkins? Evidently, Watkins isn't letting Ferguson get the last word. This time Watkins offered a brilliant apology, plus an explanation that I found excellent.

Dear Jesse,
I’m glad to see that a FB post can stoke a fire that burns in the LGBT community, and supporters of our community.

Many doors have opened in gay people’s fight for equality. Civil rights, marriage rights, and depictions of us individually and collectively on television. Great strides have taken us from tolerance into acceptance and towards true equality.
Stereotypes still exist. They probably always will. And while the truth is usually somewhere in the middle, stereotypes polarize us. No news there. But while an explanation of a stereotype can make good, logical sense, it still leaves the stereotype intact.
I’m glad to have played gay characters, but at the same time have been frustrated by the stereotypes I feel I’ve been party to in playing those roles. I’ve begged wardrobe designers so I wouldn’t have to wear paisley shirts, directors to reconsider a “snap” at the end of a scene, and writers to remove ‘Hey, gurl!’ from dialogue.
I did it because when I was growing up, trying to figure out where I fit it in, I couldn’t seem to locate a role model. The stereotypes I saw made me think, ‘Well, I don’t identify with that so I must not be gay.’
I can appreciate that one man’s roadblock may be another man’s role model. I feel like my growth was stunted, but understand that another person’s may have been bolstered. I believe that, as a community we want to make the path easier for those who come after us. I want that. I’m certain you do to.
Some audience members can laugh through a character, but it can also distance others. We each come to the fight with our own baggage…as well as our own weaponry. ‘Revolutionary times call for revolutionary means.’ My comments were extreme, and my use of the word ‘blackface’ inexcusable. I regret creating dissension among the ranks, especially when we’re all in this fight together.
I see your point. I hope you’ll consider mine.
Sincerely,
Tuc”


I think that was well done, and now I know who Tuc Watkins is...very attractive and smart. I don't think either of them are wrong, but I do understand Watkins' POV better than Ferguson's simply because I can identify better. But, the bigger picture here is that at least we're seeing this dialogue happening now. I've been waiting all my life to see this. I used to wonder, aren't there any other gay people out there with whom I can identify?And I know I'm not the only one who feels that way.

Thank you Tuc Watkins for getting this out there.

You can check out the link here where there's a photo of Watkins.

Update: I think it's interesting to note that since Tuc Watkins made his statement I've watched his facebook page and it seems as though other gay men sent him friend requests. It's the first thing I did when I read what he had to say. Maybe it's coincidence, maybe not. But it is interesting. This is from Watkins timeline: "How does a person accept 11365 friend requests with one click?"

Straight Guys Kissing Men

This is pure clickbait, but I think interesting.

They’ve imagined what if would be like if straight people had to come out, pried self-professed straight guy to dish on hot male celebrities, and even convinced straight besties to look at each other naked for the first time. You know, for science.

But that was all just a warmup for this — straight guys kissing men for the first time
You can check out the rest here. Some of the comments are interesting, too. One doesn't understand why Buzz Feed is so interested in this or why it's of significance to gay men. I do. Gay men find it fascinating, and for many it's even a sexual turn on. No one else is willing to admit that aloud. 
Here's one comment I love: 
These are friends. Not strangers. It’s within the context of their social relationship. Given the situation in a public environment and strangers, not even the gays would want to kiss a total stranger.
Actually, it's the other way around for me. I'm not into kissing friends in an intimate way like that. I think it's a little creepy. I have, however, kissed total strangers and loved it...depends on what the guy looks like. I guess to each his own.
Washington Florist Gay Hate
There's a woman florist in Washington D.C. who won't greet gay wedding guests in spite of the fact that no one really asked her in the first place. It's really a confusing article with mixed messages...but I get it.
She's had a couple of gay men for customers for years and when they asked her to do the flowers for their wedding she refused based on her religious convictions. So the gay customers are suing her.
Before filing a suit against her, state attorney general Bob Ferguson gave her the opportunity to reconsider her stance, but she stood her ground, citing artistic freedom. (If you’re scratching your head on that one, her claim was that making floral arrangements “is a creative process [that] takes artistic talent” and that “all artists consider what they do to be an expression.”)

Now, nearly two years later, Stutzman is back in court. On Friday, attorneys for both the state and the couple asked a judge to find her guilty of discrimination without going through with a trial, arguing that all parties agree on the relevant points of the case.

The strange part about all this is that the gay guys who have been her customers for years liked her, they interacted with her, and thought of her as a friend...until the marriage issue came up.


You can read the rest here. Frankly, I just think people like this are insecure, and very poor businesspeople. No one's challenging her right to believe whatever she wants to believe. They're just asking her to treat people with respect and dignity. But the hate goes so deeply it's hard to rationalize.



Chase of a Christmas Dream


 

Monday, December 22, 2014

TLC TV Gay Mormon Men; Cheap Undies Christmas Underwear Party; Jesse Tyler Ferguson On Gayface

TLC TV Gay Mormon Men

Evidently, gay Mormon men don't consider themselves gay because they're married to women...or have girlfriends. There's a new TLC TV show airing on the topic. Once again, reality TV; it is what it is.

I'm not going to try to figure this one out. Here's an excerpt:

This January, The Learning Channel is set to air My Husband Is Not Gay," a show that features openly gay Mormon men who date and marry women. Apply palm directly to forehead. The show features three men who are supposedly happily married to women despite being gay and one single gay dude, looking for a nice woman to settle down with. 


The very existence of this series indicates the need to address the general bigotry surrounding a man understanding his sexuality as a hindrance, something to "overcome" with faith in god, and forcing himself into a relationship with a woman to whom he's fundamentally not a attracted. The fact that (as Towleroad points out) the Mormon Church just reiterated its opposition to same-sex marriage in April, stating that succumbing to homosexuality is a sin, makes this even more disturbing.

Of course I agree with the last paragraph. It is bigotry and homophobic. And what this does to women is as bad as what it does to gay men. However, again, it's also reality TV and I have never once heard of reality TV that wasn't staged for exploitation and sensationalism. In other words: think James "Flacco" on social media.

Just to be clear. I do know and understand there are gay men married to women and they have good marriages. This show doesn't seem to be about that. This is something different altogether, which, unfortunately, also diminished yet another segment. 

Cheap Undies Christmas Underwear Party

There's a company that sells cheap underwear...www.cheapundies.com. I think I've posted about them here before. I'm one of their best customers. I really do love them and I truly have made several purchases there this past year. Now they have a video out that's a Christmas underwear party. 

Colby Melvin kicks off the CheapUndies holiday video by explaining that instead of sending out Christmas cards, he decided to invite some friends over to make a “holiday card, come to life.” In underwear, obviously.

It quickly becomes a showcase of Colby’s friends performing a variety of acts. Also in their underwear, obviously.

There's a video you can check out here. As I said, I love the undies...and they are cheap. You'll love the video...make you happy :)

Jesse Tyler Ferguson On Gayface

I don't even know how many times I've posted about sitcom Modern Family, how I don't watch it, and why I don't watch it for specific reasons. I'm not going to link to that, but if you do a search on the blog you'll find a few posts.  One of the actors who plays a gay character, and who is gay in real life, reacted to a comment another actor recently made on Facebook:

Modern Family star Jesse Tyler Ferguson responding to out actor Tuc Watkins‘ Facebook post in which he said “I have a hard time laughing at the gay guys. In fact, I kinda cringe. It feels a little bit like the gay equivalent of ‘blackface.’”

I don't even know who Tuc Watkins is. Ferguson responded this way to the facebook post:

Sorry you feel that way Tuc. I know lots of guys who are just like Cam and lots of guys who are just like Mitch. We can’t be expected to represent every gay person. We can only represent these two people. Also, Mitch is basically a version of me…so I never know how to take it when people say that he is stereotypical. And in defense of Cam, I still can’t figure out how a clown & football coach who also happens to be gay is a stereotype. When all is said and done, it’s a family sitcom. I feel our writers do a fantastic job of servicing 11 characters each week in just 22 minutes. I am incredibly proud to play Mitch and I have a lot of pride in our show. As a closeted kid of the ’80s I would have loved to have had a show like Modern Family to watch with my parents. It would have meant a lot to me to see who I secretly was reflected on television. TV has come a long way and it continues to forge new ground. I am thrilled with the work that you did on Desperate Housewives. It opened the door for shows like ours and hopefully we can hold that door open for many more shows to follow us. At the end of the day we can’t please everyone..and we shouldn’t try to. Kinda just like life, right? Take care. Jesse Tyler Ferguson.”

There are a few things I can't dispute. Ferguson is right. He can't represent every gay man on the planet, and I want to make it clear I actually do support the show...as a comedy/parody of sorts. I don't watch it, but I'm glad it's on TV. In the same respect, I was also a kid growing up in the 80's and watching two gay men like the two on Modern Family would have been my worst nightmare, and would have kept me in the closet even longer. I can't identify with either of them at all. And there's nothing wrong with that. Not every straight person can identify with every straight character on TV. However, let's balance things out a little for the gay men who don't feel represented by the gay characters we see on Modern Family. That's when things to become stereotypical.

But, again, Modern Family is comedy. Not meant to be taken seriously...I hope. We seem to be losing our sense of humor more and more these days.

Here's the link. 


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Sunday, December 21, 2014

Gay Pride Attack Austin; Cher Crap; Gays in Cuba and Obama

Gay Pride Attack Austin

An Army vet, Lambert Borgardt, received a 10 year probation sentence plus two hours of community service for his brutal attack on two gay men at Austin Pride in 2012. Borgardt left one of the gay men beaten to the point where he lost five teeth, and the other was left beaten to the point of a fractured nose.

According to this source, this is why the attack on the gay men took place:

The duo was waiting for their pizza at a food truck after attending gay pride festivities when Borgadt, an army veteran, reportedly thought Soret was checking him out. Borgardt became enraged and punched both men in the face. 

The rest is here. A grand jury decided not to press hate crime charges. There's not much more to share...other than the Army vet sounds filled with remorse at this point.

Cher Crap

I'll admit I'm not the die-hard fan of Cher that other gay men seem to be. I just don't get it. I never did. I think she's okay but wouldn't stand in any long lines to see her. But I'll keep this objective as much as I can.

Cher is hawking merchandise now on her web site, which includes all things Cher from sweatshirts to mugs. For $55 you can get an ugly holiday Cher sweatshirt...well, because it's Cher.

Let’s face it, our lady Cher will do anything for a buck. Over the years she’s hawked perfume, Lori Davis Hair products, Aquasentials skin care products, Equal Zero-Calorie Sweetener, exercise videos and, oh yeah, movies and albums, too. Her latest business endeavor: holiday-themed merchandise, including t-shirts, sweatshirts, ornaments, and coffee mugs, all featuring the dance diva and available for sale on her website.

Check out the rest here. 

Speak for yourself. She's not my lady :) 

Gays in Cuba and Obama

I normally wouldn't mention anything about Cuba here, but this time it includes a gay angle I think is important in a general sense. Cuba doesn't have the best record on human rights or gay rights. There are no pride events, and nothing even remotely considered an LGBT movement. Past treatment of people with HIV and AIDS is dismal at best. The question of whether or not the Obama administration is going to address the LGBT issue in it's talks with Cuba still remains to be seen. So far, like with all other hot topic issues, the Obama administration always remains cautious.

Now that the U.S. is talking to Cuba, will the Obama Administration be willing to raise these issues as part of the conversation? The Administration had a few moment of forcefulness at the height of the Olympic Games homophobia. But when the spotlight faded, so did the rhetoric.

The U.S. and Cuba have a lot of things to discuss, and in all fairness, LGBT issues aren’t going to be at the top of the list. But the question will be, where are they on the list? Or are they on the list at all? It’s worth keeping on eye on the developing relationship to see just how much the Administration thinks our community in Cuba really matters.

You know, I don't buy into that anymore..."In all fairness LGBT issues aren't going to be at the top of the list." It's like, be good gay people, wait your turn because you're not as important as everyone else. This is from a gay publication? It should read more like "In all REALITY LGBT issues are at the bottom of the barrel and of little concern to anyone at this point." Because that's really what it comes down to and I'm tired of making excuses for LGBT issues NOT being at the top of the list.

Let's hope I'm wrong and the issue is discussed. You can read the rest here.

 
Chase of a Christmas Dream
 

 


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Saturday, December 20, 2014

"James Flacco" and Sony; Warwick Rowers Full Frontal Nudity; One Direction Man Crushes

"James Flacco" and Sony

I'm not a fan of James Franco (and the way he gay baits), Seth Rogen, or "The Interview." And it bothers me immensely that we're even discussing this important matter of censorship and terrorism with such a ridiculous film and such arrogant privileged people. But it is what it is. And just because it's a hideous film doesn't mean anyone has the right to censor it.

At least the President showed us he's not as familiar with James Franco as others are...by referring to him as James Flacco. I think that was my finest Obama moment. The thought that he may even have done it on purpose makes it more amusing. I might start referring to good old Flacco that way myself from now on. This way we all know who he is and we don't have to actually say it aloud.

In any event, all that's pointless compared to some of the things President Obama said earlier today. One of which is something I've been saying over and over again on the blog for years now. I hope it happens.

He did express hope that "the wild west" of Internet hacking would be brought under control by a uniform set of international laws and rules.

The president also referred to an FBI announcement just hours before he took the podium.

I'm tired of all things wild west about the internet, from the hacking to the gaming to the free range attitude where you can say whatever you want, to whomever you want, with any name you choose, and get away with it without dealing with any consequences at all. It's time for a change.

Side note: I find those who are against any international set of laws and rules are those who have profited from the wild west days the most. You know who I'm talking about, especially with books. 

You can read the rest here.

Warwick Rowers Full Frontal Nudity

Evidently, in promoting their new calendar the Warwick Rowers have a video out with full frontal uncircumcised nudity.I haven't posted much about the nude calendar events this holiday season because frankly I'm sick of them all. But this does sound interesting.

Christmas has come a week early in the form of British beefcake foreskin.
 
Our favorite naked athletes, the Warwick Rowers, have released a new video chronicling the creation of their 2015 calendar, and it’s chock full of pale-skinned peen.

Watch as a drone camera creepily captures the good-sported beauties as they frolic through the woods in what can only be described as a pipe dream.

You can read more here, and here's a direct link to the video. The money does go to a good cause and you can learn more about them at the latter link. It's the one redeeming feature about all these nude calendars.

 One Direction Man Crushes

Not the most important news of the world right now, but still kind of interesting. It kind of puts the gay for you theory into perspective.

We’ve heard who straight guys would go gay for, and it’s pretty much what you’d expect, but what about the ambiguously straight pop nuggets of the world? Surely they must have man crushes of their own.

The man-boys of One Direction have put our curiosity to rest by dishing on their same-sex admirations. Here’s what they had to say:

I actually to get it. I have a straight crush on Jennifer Aniston. It's not impossible and I think there's another level of awareness none of us have really bothered to tap into...pardon the pun. And, to be clear, this has nothing at all to do with conversion therapy.

You can read the rest here. 


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Friday, December 19, 2014

Racism on The View; Rimming Safety Tips; Virgin Robbie Rogers

Racism on The View

I've seen this topic come up before on Twitter several times in the past few weeks and I think it's worth posting about. (It's not the exact definition of cultural appropriation, but I think it's a sneaky passive aggressive form of cultural appropriation, like when someone not part of a minority tries to take on the elements of a particular minority.) In this case, Rosie O'Donnell was trying to tell Whoopi Goldberg what racism is and how she understands it as well as Whoopi.

Of course that's not possible to know unless you're African American. If you come from a place of privilege and dominance you can't take on the feelings of a minority that way. Rosie O'Donnell might be gay and she might know what gaycism is...I know what gaycism is...but she, nor I, know what racism is because we're not African American. I've seen what can only be termed as cries of distress on Twitter from other African Americans who find it insulting and racist when white people claim to know and understand how African Americans feel. It's something that really bothers me.

In any event, Whoopi put Rosie in her place:

Nicole: "Do you all think we live in a racist country?"
Rosie: "Without a doubt!"
Whoopi: "Is it just ridiculousness or is it racism?!"
Rosie O: "It's racist and it's stupid!'
Rosie P: 'It's both!'
Rosie O: "It's two things at once!
Whoopi: "I just see it as stupid!"


And it continued:

Rosie O: "I am a gay American who has been called a [bleeped word] and I know what hatred and homophobia looks like!"
Whoopi: "It's not the same!"
Rosie: "I have a black kid I raised Whoopi! I have a kid in my house!"
Whoopi: "That is not the same!"
Rosie: "You don't have to be black to know what racism is!"
Whoopi: "Yes you do!"
Rosie: "No you don't!"
Whoopi: "Yes you do baby!"
Rosie: "No you do not!"


Sorry Rosie, I'm with Whoopi on this one. It's not the same. And Rosie would be the first one to stand and shout foul if someone tried to use that kind of subtle cultural appropriation on her as a gay woman.

You can read the rest here.

And here's an excellent piece on cultural appropriation I think is worth reading just so you know what it is. Here's an excerpt. It's not directly related to Rosie and Whoopi, but there's a lot of it going on these days everywhere you look.

Why Cultural Appropriation Is a Problem
Cultural appropriation remains a concern for a variety of reasons. For one, this sort of “borrowing” is exploitative because it robs minority groups of the credit they deserve. Art forms, music forms, etc., that originated with minority groups come to be associated with members of the dominant group. As a result the dominant group is deemed innovative and edgy, while the disadvantaged groups they “borrow” from continue to face negative stereotypes that imply they’re lacking in intelligence, creativity and more. In addition, when members of a dominant group appropriate the cultures of others, they often reinforce stereotypes about minority groups.

Rimming Safety Tips

Every once in a while the topic of rimming comes up again and it's always so surprising that so many know so little about it...from a clinical POV. So here's a link that talks about safety tips I think are important. And, it's short and sweet with links to other excellent articles. Unfortunately, when you search for rimming you find mostly porn...which doesn't help at all in real life. I'm going to work on that more in the future. Maybe one long post on the topic from a more clinical POV.


Rimming, or oral stimulation of the anus, but there are a few precautions you should take before the fun begins. Did you know since the mouth comes into contact with the anus during rimming, it's possible to contract or spread parasites and STDs like
hepatitis , some forms of which aren't curable?


Here's the link.

Virgin Robbie Rogers

Robbie Rogers isn't a virgin anymore, but he was at one time. And this article has a few direct quotes from him on the topic. He talks about losing his virginity to a woman first, and then to a man. And for those of you who don't think there's a difference, like Rosie O'Donnell with racism, you're wrong. There's a huge difference.

“My first time with a guy was actually not until I was 25, after I came out,” 27-year-old Rogers explains.

He describes the experience as “super awkward,” but leaves it at that. No sordid details, unfortunately. Though we’re sure it couldn’t have been any worse than what these guys went through.

“I mean, can you imagine dating and hooking up with a guy after 25 years?” Rogers asks. “I’m sure that he was like: What is going on?!”

It's typical poorly written magazine tripe...he explains, he asks, he quips, etc... But I think it's interesting to note that even Robbie Rogers waited until he was 25 to have his first gay experience. Most of us did wait until our twenties. I was a lot younger, admittedly, but most gay guys seem to be about 25...or older. So if you're pushing 30 and still a virgin you're not doing anything wrong. It'll happen eventually.  

The rest is here.  


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Thursday, December 18, 2014

Russell Tovey: Rimming on "Looking"; Dick Necklace Outrage; 10 Year Old Looking for Boys

Russell Tovey: Rimming on "Looking"

In this article out "Looking" actor, Russell Tovey, discusses his sex scenes with Jonathan Groff, and a cake that says, "Birthdays are like rim jobs you gotta get involved open up and get ready for another great year." I guess commas don't count in cake.

Tovey said this about the sex scenes:

"As the season goes on you'll see where that comes from," Tovey quips. "We were on a night shoot during our lunch and that cake turned up and I was over the moon. My mom and dad were like, 'Oh, I love the cake. Not sure about the rim job. Yeah, not sure of the words -- but the cake looks lovely!'"

As for the attention his well-sculpted derrière has gotten on social media, Tovey notes, "In the future, I imagine myself looking back and going, 'God, I had a nice ass. Glad I got that out.' If it's there now, I'm getting it out because it's not always gonna look like that ... I've grown it myself, and I also have my parents to thank for it being well-received."

He's right, you know. It won't stay that way forever. Smart man to realize that at 33 years old. After 40 the real struggle begins. I was born in 1970. You find yourself running longer each morning and jogging faster up more hills :)


You can read the rest here, where there's another link to a full interview with Tovey.

Dick Necklace Outrage

Just when you think it can't get weirder, you see an article where there's controversy over a freaking penis necklace.

Tom Ford designed a $790 penis necklace in gold or silver that loosely resembles a cross. Frankly, I wouldn't wear a dick necklace, nor would I pay $790 for anything dick related. THAT should be free. I probably wouldn't have designed anything that declasse either. Shoot me; I'm more conservative about things like jewelry and good taste. I won't wear Crocs either. In the same respect, I don't think it's the end of the world. Crocs never hurt anyone and they've been around for years now.

Here's what's being said:

"A designer gets a little too cute with my religion at Christmastime, and uses sexual imagery to make a quick buck off of it," he said. "Sounds like someone who is not exactly Catholic-friendly, and has some sexual hang-ups as well. It doesn’t take a Ph.D. in Profiling to guess just who might be behind this sick gambit."

Gay Star News reported that others took to Twitter to criticize Ford over the phallic pendant.
The 53-year-old fashion star debuted the necklace at his spring-summer 2015 show in London over the summer. At the time, Esquire noted the possibility that the penis cross may be an allusion to the phallus-shaped fascinus charms worn by ancient Romans.


It could have been designed much differently. It is in poor taste, both actually and theoretically. In fact, it's painfully ugly. The testicles look a bit deformed...if that's what they are...maybe they're acorns. It's hard to tell whether they were going for realism or that, you know, "artistic" quality that so often fails. Think Yoko Ono. You can see a photo at the site to which I'm linking.

Here you go. Dick jewelry at it's worst.  

Side note for single people: I don't think I'd go out with anyone that wore a gold dick around his neck either. But that's just my opinion.

10 Year Old Looking for Boys

Here's an article written by a really cool mom who seems to be doing all the right things. It's about her 10 year old son taking Zumba, which is usually (but not always) for girls, and how she reacted to comments like, "I'll bet your son loves that. He's the only boy and has his pick of the girls." You know, funny ha-ha straight humor that always makes us cringe.

As it turns out, her son isn't interested in his "pick" of the girls. Her son is more interested in boys.

Yeah, I do know that that's kind of ridiculous. In the past couple of years, we've dealt with our fair share of shock-and-awe reactions to our son's orientation. We've also dealt with the "Is this still happening?" reaction as the years have gone by. But it never stops bothering me when people automatically assume he's straight. I got so annoyed that I just started correcting people.

"No," I'd say, "he's not interested in girls like that. He's gay. He says girls are for friends."

Then the response came, and almost always the same response: "Really? How can he know that? He's so young."

These people failed to see the contradiction in their words. They'd just implied that my son had picked his after-school club so that he could get some fourth-grade-style action from the girls, but then they said he's too young to know he likes boys. They assumed that he would be after girls, which means they assumed that he already knew he was straight, yet the idea that he might already know he is gay came as such a shock.

There's so much simple common sense in that statement it's hard to believe society has been brainwashed to believe otherwise. I knew at 3 years old. I don't know when my brother first realized. I never asked him that question. We didn't find out about each other until we were in our 20's and ran into each other in a gay bar. But I do remember this conversation well with a relative at a wedding once.

Relative to my brother: Well, I guess the next family gathering where we'll see each other will be YOUR wedding.

My brother: Or YOUR funeral.

You can read the rest here. It's a great article for all parents to read just so we never have to hear the stupid question, "How can he know that?" again.

 
Chase of a Christmas Dream