Friday, May 26, 2017

The Magical Fairytale Bromance Photos Of Trudeau and Macron; Hot Naked Male Model Demonstrates His Ball Sack Dryer; Blind Gay Guys Reveal How They Knew They Were Gay

The Magical Fairytale Bromance Photos Of Trudeau and Macron

The two leaders met for what seems to be one of the most well-planned photo ops of the year, and the bromance crowd is eating it up like candy.

We feel a bromance coming on.

39-year-old French President Emmanuel Macron and 46-year-old Canadian Prime Minister Justin Trudeau met in Taormina, Sicily, at the G7 summit yesterday and it was absolutely magical.

The two men, who are currently competing for the unofficial title of Sexiest World Leader, leisurely strolled through colorful Sicilian gardens whilst chatting about important world matters and looking incredibly hot. 

You can check out the photos here. I don't know anything about either of them. I just find the whole fascination with "bromance" fascinating. I also wonder if they would be objectifying two women leaders this way. Because it's okay to do it to men now.

Hot Naked Male Model Demonstrates His Ball Sack Blow Dryer

Here's something new in the tech world for guys who aren't satisfied just towel drying their nuts. It's actually some kind of device that blow dries a guy's ball sack until it's silky smooth dry.

Wonderful things they can do nowadays.

The latest episode of Conan introduces us to the latest in cutting-edge technology: The indispensable “Dyson Ballblade.” 

You can check this out here, and there's a demonstration video, too. I'm not sure about the name, though... "The Ballblade."

Blind Gay Guys Reveal How They Knew They Were Gay

I never thought about this much, and I think that's because it never occurred to me that people might assume that being gay is a visual thing. Pay attention. Being gay includes all the senses, including that 6th sense we rarely ever hear discussed.

Reddit user RedzandBluez explains, “When I was 11 or 12, I didn’t really understand the difference between boys and girls. To me, they were the same except that men turned me on and women didn’t.”
“I did not know about body parts (breasts, vagina, penis, etc.) and yet, I was attracted to my same sex. Because of my unique situation, I can tell you that being gay is not a choice.”

He adds: “When I meet someone, what I go by is their voice, their smell, their kindness, and their willingness to help me when needed.” 

You can read more about this here. I kind of feel sorry for blind gay people now. I think it's a shame this even has to be discussed, especially after reading the comments. No one ever asked a straight blind person how they knew they were far as I know.

Kendle's Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

Not All Gay Books Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Thursday, May 25, 2017

ABC "Dirty Dancing" Remake Reviews; John Barrowman Written Out of "Arrow;" Trans Author Thinks Being A Gay Man Is A"Consolation Prize Because They Couldn't Be Women"

ABC Dirty Dancing Remake Reviews

When I wrote my gay parody novel, Dancing Dirty, back in 2009, the one thing I never wanted to do was try to compete with the original. It was a parody...with too much gay sex...and an erotic gay romance that has a happy ending. I even set my version in the 1970s with campy disco clothes and music for a specific reason. I wanted it to be a fun story, with a lot of camp and kitsch, the same way SNL parodies similar situations every single Saturday night.

I'm afraid I can't say the same about the Dirty Dancing remake that was on TV the other night. Evidently, from the reviews I've been reading, I'm not the only one. Twitter went berserk with baby in the corner tweets. This is from Rolling Stone.

So how do you re-create that magic? The short answer is: You don't. The long, much more painful answer is: You wait 30 years, you throw together a three-hour-long remake, and you put it on ABC – and then after even a cursory check of Twitter, you realize that you should not have even attempted it. This is one Baby that should have stayed in the corner.

You can read the rest here.  I should also add that I don't think the remake was a reflection on the actors. They were fine.

John Barrowman Written Out of Arrow

I've posted a lot about John Barrowman here on the blog over the last few years, and he's one of those people I wish I would run into by accident at Ralf's when I'm out in our rental condo in Palm Springs. And trust me I have never been starstruck. But I love everything he does, and I love the way he handles himself on social media. He treats his fans with more respect and dignity than any other celebrity out there. I've never seen him insult his fan base with political rants. In fact, I've never seen him do anything where he didn't put his entire heart into it. So this is discouraging news.

John Barrowman took to Instagram late Thursday (24 May) to talk to fans about his deliciously evil character of Malcolm Merlyn being killed off of Arrow.

‘By now you know that Malcolm Merlyn is no more,’ he began.

‘I know they’ve done it off-camera but I’m here to tell you I won’t be coming back next season. I want you to know how wonderful it has been for the last five years to be part of the Arrow universe and all the shows connected to it.’ 

You can read the rest here. I've checked out his Facebook video announcement and his fans are not happy about this. There are over 1,000 comments of support...including me.

Trans Author Thinks Being A Gay Man Is A "Consolation Prize Because They Couldn't Be Women" 

I can't help thinking this is one of those publicity stunts unheard of authors often use when they want to get attention for a book. I've seen it happen too many times. But I could be wrong. That's been known to happen, too.

‘When I realized I fancied guys I thought, “Oh, I know what that is, there’s a word for when a boy fancies other boys. I must be a gay guy”,’ she said.

She now sees her life as a gay man as a ‘personal misdiagnosis’ and says, ‘I think that there are a lot of gay men in the world who had the same personal misdiagnosis, because we didn’t have the information that we have now.

‘I think there are a lot of gay men out there who are gay men as a consolation prize because they couldn’t be women. That was certainly true of me.’

You can read the rest of this here. There has been backlash. It's not something I would ever say about Trans people...or anyone.

Kendle's Fire

A PG Rated Gay Romance 

Not All Gay Books Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Wednesday, May 24, 2017

Memorial Day Weekend New Release: Kendle's Fire; Straight Guy's "Sense 8" Homophobic Rant; Taiwan Legalizes Gay Marriage; Hot, Shirtless Naval Academy Plebes

Memorial Day Weekend New Release: Kendle's Fire

Here's my latest release, Kendle's Fire, that can be found in most places where e-books are sold, and you can get it in paperback on Amazon. It's not an erotic romance, but it is a sexy pg-rated romance, and I get into a few issues dealing with masculinity and how men are expected to act and behave at all times. That's actually a huge part of the storyline, and for the main character, Kendle, it's a huge part of his life.

Even though Kendle is an openly gay ex-Marine, he's been questioning his masculinity all of his life. He's always been what people expect a man to be, in spite of the fact that he's never been completely comfortable living up to these expectations.

He also has a few secrets. The kind of secrets a man can only talk about with the most intimate people in his life. One of those people is his best friend and part time lover, Dale. And their relationship is not without a few unusual quirks and ironies either, especially when it comes to the way Kendle explains his relationship with Dale to his own parents. 

After a string of bad career decisions and awkward mistakes, it's not until Kendle meets a young guy named Walter that his life begins to come together. It's a journey filled with as much joy as heartbreak, with a few bittersweet twists in between. As Kendle opens himself up to new possibilities, he finds himself in the midst of life altering changes that leave him devastated. And there's a point where he's not sure he can get through any of it.

Here's the Amazon link And  huge thanks to my cover artist who nailed it this time.

Straight Guy's "Sense 8" Homophobic Rant

I've posted about gay content in "Sense 8" before, and about the male full frontal nudity. I'm still watching it and I haven't finished season 2. I like the show because of the music, content, and the characters. They lose me sometimes with the story, but I always catch up at one point or another. And it really is the first TV show I can remember where a real trans person play a trans character. It also gets into closeted actors who are terrified to come out. There's really nothing bad I can say about it.

With that said, a straight guy doesn't seem to agree with me.

No, in real life not almost every single person is either a tra*ny, gay or the like. In fact I haven’t even met a single gay person in my life because guess what, they are actually quite rare.

I am currently watching season 2 and it feels like the entire show is revolving around the sexuality of lito at this point. It starts getting annoying quite frankly, which is a shame because the concept of the show is interesting.

No I am not homophobic by the way, but the sheer volume of content related to one sexual preference or another is getting very boring.

That's a very typical comment coming from someone who has always had the privilege of being able to identify with heteronormative characters on TV shows. If you're gay, you don't get that privilege very often.

You can read the rest here.

Taiwan Legalizes Gay Marriage

If you don't know about this, please check it out. Just because gay marriage is now legal in the US doesn't mean LGBT people in other countries are getting the same equal rights.

Taiwan will become the first place in Asia to legalize same-sex unions.

The highest court ruled laws that prevent same-sex couples from marrying are unconstitutional and a direct violation to a person’s right to equality.

Here's the link. You can also read some of the tweets people wrote.

Hot, Shirtless Naval Academy Plebes

If you can't take at least a moment to stop and smell the flowers, at least take a moment to admire these shirtless, oiled Naval Academy Plebes. I don't think you'll be disappointed, it's SFW, and it's all in good fun. The plebes look as if they're having a blast.

Hundreds of hot, sweaty Naval Academy plebes lathered in oil worked together to scale a 21-foot obelisk yesterday.

The annual tradition happens in mid-May at the United States Naval Academy. Freshman students can’t begin their summer until they’ve taken off their shirts, climbed the slicked down edifice whilst being sprayed by a giant hose, and replaced the underclassman’s “dixie cup” hat at the top of the monument. 

You can read more here, and you'll want to spend a few minutes checking out the photos. All innuendo aside, it really is some fantastic photography.

Not All Gay Books Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Tuesday, May 23, 2017

Dude With HUGE Penis Is Not Guilty; Miracle Penis Transplant Operation; The World's Largest Penis, Again

Dude With HUGE Penis Is Not Guilty

Not too long ago I posted about a guy in Florida who claimed that his extra huge penis killed his girlfriend by accident during oral sex, as his defense in court.

And it worked. He was recently found not guilty of second degree murder. Keep in mind this was a jury trial, not a bench trial.

Richard Patterson, 65, of Margate, was acquitted of killing 60-year-old girlfriend Francisca Marquinez in 2015 after a week-long trial, according to the Sun Sentinel.

During the trial, his lawyers initially argued that Marquinez died accidentally while performing oral sex on him at her apartment.

To bolster their defense, Patterson’s lawyers filed a motion to show his penis to the jury.

There are more details here. 

Miracle Penis Transplant Operation

It's really amazing what they can do now.

Surgeon Professor Andre van der Merwe said the patient — only the third person to have the op — is doing “remarkably well”.

But the South African urologist added: “He is black and the donor was white, that’s the only issue. We have very few donors.

“The colour discrepancy will be corrected with medical tattooing.”

There's not much you can say about this. I think it's amazing. You can check it out in full here.

The World's Largest Penis, Again

This guy just keeps making the news. Evidently, he knows what he's doing, too. He's happy with his penis, and he knows it's made him famous.

A Mexican man with an alleged 18.9 inch penis has shunned advice from medical experts who urge him to seek a reduction in his penis size.

Doctors claimed Roberto Esquivel Cabrera, 54, of Saltillo, Mexico has been stretching his penis with weights since his teenage years, according to Daily Mail.

They added that his actual size is six inches and the rest is just foreskin.

Here's the rest. 

Not All Gay Novels Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Monday, May 22, 2017

The Celebrities Forever In the Closet; GoFundMe and Homophobic Sports Star Rant; Cher At the Billboard Awards

The Celebrities Forever In the Closet

I've always believed that no one should ever force anyone into coming out. Although I think it's painfully sad that anyone would remain in the closet nowadays, I also understand that for some it's just not that simple.

With that said, here's something from reddit about a pop culture star who has been told not to come out as gay for practical purposes. It's the same thing Hollywood has been telling people for years.

It’s totally changed my perspective. I used to wonder where all the gay celebrities were, and why everyone was “no label” these days. Now I know they are hiding in plain sight.

Of course a lot of them are actually in that grey area. And I will take their word for it. It’s a real orientation, and doesn’t mean you’re closeted or confused. But it’s sad how many gay people are forced to do it too. It will never be cool to be gay, because you lose your appeal to the majority of people. And show biz depends on appealing to people. No matter how accepting society becomes, the media will be full of closeted people.

I think the comment about "labels" is spot on. I've heard it more times than I care to count.

Here's how someone working in Hollywood replied.

I work in the tv/film industry (not as an actor), so I understand what you’re saying. The industry is full of out LGBT – behind the scenes. Everyone is super welcoming in LA, NYC, etc. But public figures have to appeal to middle America to have a career. It’s not how it should be, everyone should of course be able to be who they are without judgement. But we know that’s not how the world works. That’s one of the reasons I’m in this industry – I want to make changes from the inside. Good luck! 

Now that's pretty sad, especially when you think about the blatant hypocrisy in Hollywood where they will praise and exploit the token gays, but tell the rest to remain closeted. I wonder how these people can live such lies on a daily basis.

You can read more here.

GoFundMe and Homophobic Sports Star Rant

A wealthy sports star went on a homophobic rant and his fans are raising money for him on a crowdfunding site to pay his fines. I find this interesting because Stephen Colbert can make all the homophobic comments he wants to make and nothing at all happens to him. His ratings go up. If you use this Stephen Colbert logic (and I don't), this sports star didn't say anything wrong.

Here's what the page says...

Ryan Getzlaf was unfairly given the maximum fine by the sinister NHL for accurately calling a ref a rooster vacuum. Now if everyone donates just $1 we can raise enough money to send a message to the NHL that no more will this kind of snowflake over reaction to words stand. If we are able to raise enough money it can go to the ducks captain to give to a local charity of his choice. Let’s make 10k go somewhere it’s going to do some good (instead of the players association fund). At any rate I ask all ducks fans and all Bettman haters to unite and undue this terrible injustice! Ducks fly together! 

You can check that out here.

Cher At the Billboard Awards

I caught the tweets about this one late Sunday night and I have to admit I'm amazed at Cher. She owns this one, and it's well deserved.

Of course, the crowd went wild. Not just for the performances, but for how incredible she looked. 

During her speech, Cher implied yoga was her trick to keeping her body so amazing, telling the audience:

“I can do a five-minute plank, okay? Just saying.”

The woman looks amazing for someone who proudly just turned 71 years old.

You can check out photos here. And please take note you natural people who love all this awful gray hair. You don't see Cher letting HER roots go gray.

Not All Gay Novels Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Sunday, May 21, 2017

Golden Girls Edition Clue; A Sweet Gay Pride Proposal; Gay Reality TV Is Still Devolving

Golden Girls Edition Clue

It's amazing how sometimes one TV show...or book, or movie...can resonate so well years after it was created. It doesn't happen often either. But The Golden Girls continues to entertain several generations over 30 years after it first aired.

Mrs. White, kindly collect the flames on the side of your face and breathless, heaving breaths and take a hike.

The Golden Girls edition of Clue is coming, and it’s the only board game we’ll ever need from here on out. 

You can read more about it here.

A Sweet Gay Pride Proposal

I actually like to see these things make news...because I think it's still so new and amazing that gay men can actually do this in public, legally. It's not something I ever take for granted. It wasn't that long ago that almost every single politician on the planet refused to come out in favor of legalized same sex marriage, and I'm not going to forget that any time soon. You can't even call out one politician in particular. Almost all took the safe road and said they wanted the states to decide...until SCOTUS ruled and then they all started to "evolve."

If love is the universal language of love, and Pride is the universal language of fabulous, then what we have here is one seriously fabulous display of love.

We’ll keep it brief and direct you to the blow video shared by Ubicate Chile on Facebook.

It’s a Pride wedding proposal for the ages, and our hearts are all a-flutter (you may need to click the speaker icon to turn on sound):

Here's the rest, with a video. I'm also amazed at how negative the comments are. Evidently, they don't remember.

Gay Reality TV Is Still Devolving

What can you say? It's reality TV. Evidently, people are still watching things like this. And as long as they continue to watch there will be TV shows like this. I'm not judging it. That's just a fact. Personally, I just finished watching Anne With an E, on Netflix. I highly recommend it.

The cable network E! continues its barrage of reality television, this time with their skin-driven What Happens at the Abbey. Set at the West Hollywood landmark, the series centers on proprietor David Cooley and his battalion of vapid, pretty and often surgically enhanced staffers. 

They get naked, and have sex. I obviously don't think there's anything wrong with that, but at least have a storyline. Something with a little substance. If you take the sex out of this show, will there still be a show? That's the true test with anything creative that has a lot of sex in it. Maybe they did give it a storyline. I don't know for sure.

This article has put together a few quotes from the series to show you what it's about. Here's one that I found amusing... from one of those "fashionista" people.

“I actually believe in my heart that I will start the fanny pack up again, just like I started the man bun!”–Daniel, self-proclaimed fashionista and model

Here are the rest. And you know, you could check out Anne With an E on Netflix.

Not All Gay Novels Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Saturday, May 20, 2017

PC Gone Wrong: Students APOLOGIZE For Playing "Walk On the Wild Side" - Which Ass Is Cuter? Marcon Ass Or Trudeau Ass; A Real Transphobic Joke?

PC Gone Wrong: Students APOLOGIZE For Playing "Walk On the Wild Side"

A group of students in Canada recently apologized for playing the infamous, classic song, Walk On the Wild Side, because they thought they were being transphobic. They are now claiming the song is filled with "hurtful transphobic lyrics." 

It’s come to our attention that the playlist we had on during bus pass distribution on Thursday contained a song with transphobic lyrics (Lou Reed, Take a Walk on the Wild Side). The playlist was compiled by one of the Executives with the intent of feeling like a road trip from the 70s and 80s. The song was included solely on those terms and made in ignorance as the person making the list did not know or understand the lyrics.

We now know the lyrics to this song are hurtful to our friends in the trans community and we’d like to unreservedly apologize for this error in judgement. 

The article moves forward and shows some of these so-called "hurtful" lyrics. And then it states that this song actually helped transgender visibility back in the day.

But the group of PC students in Canada don't want to hear anything about THAT. Those poor little offended darlings believe it's "hurtful."

There's a lot more you can check out here...with comments at the end.

Which Ass Is Cuter? Marcon Ass or Trudeau Ass

There's not much to say about this one. It is what it is. One thing is for sure, you have to wonder what these publications are thinking sometimes. In one breath they are slamming people for not being PC enough (see below), and in the next they are objectifying men in the most awful ways. It's interesting. Can you imagine how it would look if someone did this with two women politicians? It might break the Internet.

Do they even know what they are doing, and how wrong it is?

46-year-old Canadian Prime Minister Justin Trudeau may be everyone’s favorite man crush, admired the world over for his thick, wavy hair, liberal politics, and boyish charm. But he may have just gotten a competitor.

Last Sunday, 39-year-old Emmanuel Macron was sworn in as President of France, officially making him youngest French head of state since Napoleon. Like Trudeau, he’s also cute and liberal with an adorable smile and striking jawline. 

You can check this one out here. You know, this is one of those times when I actually feel sorry for politicians.

A Real Transphobic Joke?

The PC police is out in full force and they're not taking this one lightly, and, they're letting this guy have it. They're calling him names.

Bryce Powers from the upcoming season of The Bachelorette is more than just a pretty face. He’s also kind of a dirtbag.

This week, the bios for the season 13 contestants were released and–oh, guess what?–one of the guys has already cracked a transphobic “joke.”

When asked what his what his biggest dating fear was, Bryce replied: “The chick is actually a dude.”

You can check that out here. This time there's an interesting discussion on the comment thread, with several opinions.

Not All Gay Novels Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Friday, May 19, 2017

Gay Pornster's Didgeridoo Dildo Dilemma; "The Conceptual Penis" Hoax; Man With A Micro-Penis Gives Tips

Gay Pornster's Didgeridoo Dildo Dilemma

I had no idea what a didgeridoo was until I read this one. But I looked it up and found out it's a large Australian musical instrument made out of hollow branches. In order to get the full impact of this part of the post, here's what a didgeridoo looks like. The photo is scaled down in size, and it's in the public domain and is free to share.

In any event, there's a gay pornster who's been using a didgeridoo as a dildo and some people are livid. They're claiming that the porn studio is being culturally offensive.

A gay porn studio is being called disrespectful after using a didgeridoo as a dildo in a new scene.

Entitled ‘Didgeridoo Me’ (because of course it is), the scene sees two roommates with one having recently gotten back from Australia.

While they do not go into detail of the frustrations of getting it through customs, his playing wakes his roommate up.

You can read all about it here. Supposedly, it's one of the oldest instruments in the world. And I will go over to you tube to check out what they sound like. I'm curious now.

The comment section is fascinating. You don't want to miss this.

"The Conceptual Penis" Hoax

I've never been a huge fan of "vacuous" culture studies in education. I took a few courses in college to fulfill my requirements as an English major and I thought I would lose my mind with boredom. And that's mainly because the people who teach these things are so full of themselves you can't even present an argument without being shot down in the first few sentences.  They. Know. It. All.

Now we have another hoax: a piece on the “conceptual penis” published in the journal Cogent Social Sciences, self described as “a multidisciplinary open access journal offering high quality peer review across the social sciences: from law to sociology, politics to geography, and sport to communication studies. Connect your research with a global audience for maximum readership and impact.”

You can check this out here. It goes on to explain the hoax in full, but it reminds me of when these academic types who are so full of themselves review simple romance books and bring gender studies into each review...and gender politics. Dear God, gender politics.

In any event, this hoax was clever.

Man With A Micro-Penis Gives Tips

Obviously, not big tips. 

A man with a micro-penis is adamant that losing weight can stop the male genitalia from being "buried" and looking even smaller.

Ant Smith bravely appeared on live television to raise awareness for men who are not well endowed and to give advice on how to prevent their manhood from looking even more petite.

Here's the rest.

Not All Gay Novels Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Thursday, May 18, 2017

"Escaping Dad" with Trevor Donovan, Lifetime TV; New Jersey Gay Couple Claim Harassment; Are Men With Beards Sexier?

Escaping Dad with Trevor Donovan, Lifetime TV

This Sunday, May 21, at 8pm eastern Lifetime TV will air a new movie titled, Escaping Dad, with Trevor Donovan who played a memorable gay character on Beverly Hills 90210. Donovan is not gay in RL, but the character he played was so well-received and it resonated with so many fans he has a huge following on social media. Since 90210 he's been a working actor and he's appeared in several well noted films, including one titled Love Finds You In Charm that many claim is on its way to becoming a classic in its genre.

Escaping Dad appears to be a classic trope with a few different twists. And sometimes they make for the best entertainment.

Suburban mom Erin has a seemingly idyllic life--married to the wealthy and high-powered District Attorney Darren with two kids, teen daughter Amy and young son Charlie. But Erin has been hiding a secret... her marriage to Darren is far from perfect; he is manipulative, controlling, and worse, emotionally and physically abusive. After one terrifying evening, Erin realizes that this cannot go on and she must protect to her children, so she takes Amy and Charlie and goes on the run to seek shelter with her best friend in California.

There's more here. There's a link to a preview at the site. If you follow Donovan on Facebook or Twitter (@TrevDon) I think he's posted a few clips of his own.

New Jersey Gay Couple Claim Harassment

I don't know what to make of this one. There are quite a few gaps that need to be filled in before I could even think about commenting. For example, how does one cite a hit-and-run driver if the driver ran away? Maybe I missed something? I really don't know. Tony's mom was involved in a serious hit-and-run accident about 15 years ago and they never caught the driver who hit her, and no one was ever cited. And why didn't these two guys set up cameras outside after the second hit-and-run to keep an eye on their cars? I have cameras all over my house...most people do these days. It's a relatively inexpensive security measure. 

Scott Halliwell and Anthony Pennant say it started in 2013.  Three hit-and-run collisions in which their cars parked along narrow, Paris Ave in Brooklawn were struck and the driver sped off, according to the couple.

"No, nobody was ever cited in the last accident we had to sign complaints ourselves," Halliwell said.
They claim in 2014 there were two more smash-ups with their parked cars and no citations by Brooklawn police.  

"I feel like it's happening because we are a gay interracial couple in this town and we're being targeted," Halliwell explained.

There's a lot more here, with an interview showing the couple. I hope there's a follow up on this one, because now I'm curious.

Are Men With Beards Sexier?

I have to admit bias here. All I have to do is see a beard and I lose my voice. And, the scruffier the better.

Consider, if you will, the beard. 

Beards have been on the minds and faces of a group of scientists lately, who are trying to definitively figure out whether men with beards are just damn sexier than those without. 

You can check this one out here. There's a good photo, too. 

Not All Gay Novels Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Wednesday, May 17, 2017

Sense 8 Gay Beach Scene; Caitlyn Jenner's Memoir Sales; DJ Lorant On Gay Pride and Going "Commando"

Sense 8 Gay Beach Scene

When I post about TV shows this way, it's either because I've watched them, I like something about one of the players, or because I think there's something significant about them with respect to the LGBT community.

And Sense 8 is one of those TV shows that has all three of those qualities.

There's no excerpt for this one. It's a link to a video with a gay love scene on the beach.

You can check that out here. It is SFW.

Caitlyn Jenner's Memoir Sales

The shade being thrown at Caitlyn Jenner is still going strong, in full force. And most of the time it seems to be coming from within the LGBT community.

Is that a lot? Overall, yes. But break down that total number, and we find the real story: 11,193 copies sold in week one, and less than half that number sold in its second week in print. That, insiders say, is a sign of trouble ahead for a bestseller. But it’s all relative.

Here's the rest. In the comments with this one I think you can find almost every single pejorative and slam a trans person can get...unfortunately.

Oh, and if you do a search for Jenner's memoir on Amazon, you'll see that the reviews vary, but most are good. And the book seems to be doing quite well. I have it in digital and I haven't started it yet.

DJ Lorant On Gay Pride and Going "Commando"

Here's an interview with someone I never heard of named Lorant Duzgun about his experiences with gay pride. He's a DJ and this is gay pride season.

What’s your ideal Pride outfit?

When I was first started going to clubs, I used to have a T-shirt that said “Pride” on it in Chinese. I used to think it was the coolest thing. My favorite Pride outfit now is going commando. The last Sunday of June is usually very hot. 

You can read the rest of this here. And, there's a photo of Lorant.

Not All Gay Novels Have Sex

In Their Prime by Ryan Field


Tuesday, May 16, 2017

High School Boy In Drag; "It Gets Better" and Bullying Not Working?; 5 Minute Will and Grace Trailer

High School Boy In Drag

Here's the story of a guy in high school who wanted to perform a drag number for the school. At first he was turned down, but he continued to pursue it. It's a real life story about his passion, and what he loves. And he wasn't going to let anyone change his mind.

The young man’s performance of Gloria Gaynor’s “I Will Survive” on his last day of high school has wasted no time in going viral, and rightly so. 

16-year-old Philipp Penning originally wanted to perform as Edna in Charlton School’s production of Hairspray. 

You can read the rest here. I know a guy who has always been open and out with his family about being gay, however, to this day he's never once told them he does drag shows. There's still a stigma there.

"Its Gets Better" and Bullying Not Working?

A few years ago a lot of famous names jumped onto the "It Gets Better" bandwagon and their videos went viral. It reminds me of recent episode of Veep where sleazy politician, Selina Meyer, tells a talk show host she's working for AIDS...because Selina knows AIDS will get her more praise and attention from the public, which is exactly what Selina needs.

In any event, now there's a study out that questions whether or not "It Gets Better" is actually something that works...or even helps. It worked for the high profile names that made the videos, but does it work for the stressed out kids who suffer the bullies?

We’re sure Dan Savage and Terry Miller had only the best intentions when they launched the It Gets Better project back in 2010. And they certainly had a lot of support, with everyone from Ellen Degeneres to Hillary Clinton to President Obama jumping on board to promote the anti-bullying catchphrase. But new research finds the project might actually be doing more harm than good.

 ...a study from the University of Arizona suggests simply wishing for a brighter future where people are nicer and homophobia no longer exists may not actually be an effective tool for young people who are struggling. 

You can check that out here. It brings up a few interesting points, especially when it talks about coping strategies.

5 Minute Will and Grace Trailer

I don't think you can go anywhere online these days and not see something about this Will and Grace revival. This seems to be the year where Hollywood pulls out all the oldies, with the American Idol thing, and even Roseanne. I actually have a feeling there will be more. Hollywood will do that when there's nothing left to try.

But right now the focus is on Will and Grace.

Here’s yet more evidence that Will & Grace will be steamrolling back into our lives this fall. 

NBC just released a five-minute trailer that finds the gang in fine form — being alternately catty, neurotic, oddly staid, and winsomely flamboyant. 

You can check out the trailer here. For me, it felt a lot more like 5 hours than 5 minutes. The comments so far seem divided about whether or not this is a good thing. Will and Grace was good TV produced for the mainstream about gay men. Even though there were stereotypes, the stereotypes were accurate. I see nothing wrong with stereotypes if they fit in with the story. I've done it myself, and I make no apologies for it. Unlike HBO's, Looking, a well written TV show where the story focused on real gay men and targeted a certain gay male audience, Will and Grace has its mainstream audience and it will most likely always remain more popular with the general public than excellent TV shows like Looking.

I also think it's a good example of how "It Gets Better" fails in some ways. It doesn't always get better for some gay people, especially not with some TV, not by any means. You just learn how to cope with it differently, is all.

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Monday, May 15, 2017

Chef Kills and Cooks His Trans Wife; Most Explicit Gay Sex Scene Ever On TV; Jim Parsons Marries Todd Spiewak

Chef Kills and Cooks His Trans Wife

This is one of those things that really freaks me out. So I'm not commenting or going into detail. I'm only linking because it's news.

An Australian man killed and cooked his trans wife before killing himself.

Marcus Volke, a 27-year-old chef from Brisbane, told workman Brad Coyne to ‘mind the smell’ when he called him to his flat, an inquest heard.

He had been called to Volke’s flat after an electrical fault in 2014.

The pot in which Volke was cooking the remains of his wife Mayang Prasetyo spilled onto the oven and cut its power.

Here's the rest.  Just awful.

Most Explicit Gay Sex Scene Ever On TV

I don't know if there is male full frontal nudity with this one, but now I'm curious.

American Gods has released its third episode today, and with it one of the most explicit gay sex scenes ever shown on television.

The Starz fantasy series sees depressed salesman Salim (Omid Abtahi) finds himself in a cab driven by a jinn – who you might call a genie, an ancient Arab god. Mousa Kraish plays the centuries-old taxi driver and the two connect.

There's more here. I think this is a show on Starz and Amazon. I haven't seen it or even heard anything about it up until now but I will check it out. The only problem with making statements about this being the most explicit sex scene ever on TV is that if it's not, I'm going to hold it against them and won't continue watching.

Jim Parsons Marries Todd Spiewak

This isn't as uncommon as people would imagine. I know more than a few established gay couples who've been together for years and they still haven't been legally married. It's a very personal thing just like it is for straight couples.

No one can say Jim Parsons and Todd Spiewak rushed into things.

After 14 years together, the couple finally tied the knot over the weekend.The ceremony took place in the Rainbow Room in New York City, according to The Hollywood Reporter.

When the couple marked 14 years together last November Parsons took to Instagram and wrote: ‘I met this guy (the one with the mic) 14 years ago today and it was the best thing that ever happened to me, no contest.’ 

Here's the rest. Parsons finds it interesting that no one ever asked him if he was gay prior to coming out officially in 2012. I like Jim Parsons, so let's not say anything.

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Sunday, May 14, 2017

The "Sassy" The Real O'Neals Cancelled; London's Secret Gay Past; Sex With Men Helps Him Have Sex With Women

The "Sassy" The Real O'Neals Cancelled

I don't know what it is about the word "sassy" that irritates me sometimes, but it may have something to do with the fact that it's a word often used to describe something by people who aren't very clever...when there are no other words left. Kind of like "peppy." And, oddly enough, one of my all time favorite books was titled, Cold Sassy Tree, by Olive Ann Burns. Cold Sassy Tree is one of the most wonderful books ever published. If you haven't read it, you're missing a fantastic reading experience. And I think the word sassy works perfectly with that book because there's nothing contrived or fake about it. In the right context, sometimes there is no better word.

In any event, I digress. Here's more about the world of peppy, "sassy sitcoms" from good old Hollywood.

Bad news in the world of sassy sitcoms: The Real O’Neals has been cancelled by ABC after two seasons.

Despite its loyal fanbase, the show ranked as the station’s least watched comedy last season. Until next time, Noah Galvin.

There's more here. It's actually a link that talks about a lot of other TV shows, including these new Will and Grace episodes everyone's talking about. I don't have watch any of it so I can't comment.

London's Secret Gay Past

If you've ever wondered about gay culture and gay history (I have) prior to the late 1960s, here's something you might enjoy.

Obviously, gay people have existed since the beginning of time. But little is known about just what it was like to be homosexual 100 or 300 or 500 or 1000+ years ago. Until now.

 Peter Ackroyd’s latest book Queer City: Gay London from the Romans to the Present Day offers up some surprising revelations about London’s secret gay past dating all the way back to the Roman age. 

Check it out here. The comments are mixed. But don't take them all seriously. One person commented that the author is straight, which isn't true. I've found that the best way to decide between what's fake news and what's real is to distinguish the difference between a journalist and an idiot.

In all fairness, here's a link to wiki about the author.

I think I may have to get this book myself. When I'm writing fiction, I prefer to read non-fiction.

Sex With Men Helps Him Have Sex With Women

Here's one from the bisexual camp. I love hearing from them because we so rarely do.

Lewis Oakley is a proud bisexual man and he’s not apologizing for it.

“I’m not gay, I’m not straight, I’m a bisexual man,” he writes in a new column for Esquire. “I’ve had sex with men, women and long lasting relationships with both. Personally, I have no preference.”

For Oakley, sex, in general, is “amazing,” regardless of who it’s with. Though he admits he gets his best sex tips from other men. 

Here's the rest. There are comments, and they are all over the place. I don't think anything can spark a heated conversation with a group of allegedly tolerant gay men better than someone stating they are bisexual and they like women, too. It's interesting to see those tolerant gay claws come out (smile).

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Saturday, May 13, 2017

Trans Sex Workers Raped; James Woods' Butt Plug Tweet To Anderson Cooper; Prince William Wins Straight Ally Award With An Excellent Speech

Trans Sex Workers Raped

A London man received a 14 year jail sentence for rape, and why he chose these women as his victims is scary.

This quote is from Detective Inspector Susan Jordan...

‘He targeted his victims and thought that because of the nature of their work, his offending would go unreported. I would like to stress that the Met is committed to seeking justice for all victims of sexual offences.

You can check this out here. Unfortunately, there may be other victims who haven't come forward yet.

James Woods' Butt Plug Tweet To Anderson Cooper

I think this is a good example of how the double standard works in the media nowadays. The other day Stephen Colbert made insulting homophobic comments and all the media did was give him praise and support. And now we have James Woods making homophobic tweets about Anderson Cooper, and he's getting slammed.

Woods, a two-time Oscar nominee, took to Twitter today to give his own theory as to why the CNN anchor rolled his eyes this week during a contentious interview with White House spokesperson Kellyanne Conway.

Woods wrote of the openly gay Cooper’s expression: ‘As his butt plug dislodges during a newscast… #andersoncoopereyeroll.’

I'm not fond of homophobic comments from anyone, about anything. And frankly I think Woods' comment is as bad as what Colbert said. However, the double standard continues in the media, and I think this is a perfect example of it.

You can read the rest here.

Prince William Wins Straight Ally Award With An Excellent Speech

Unlike Debra Messing at the GLAAD Awards who wants to make America gay again, Prince William nailed it spot on when he won a British LGBT award for being a Celebrity Straight Ally. As usual, Prince William's eloquent acceptance speech not only makes a difference, it hits on the highly significant topic of bullying.

Here's part of what he said...

‘I’d like to say a huge thank you to everyone at the LGBT Awards for this incredible award. It’s a real honor to be recognized in this way,’ he says.

‘In recent years I’ve become passionate about what we can do to protect people from bullying, particularly online.

‘Through this work, I have encountered a number of tragic stories about LGBT young people who have sadly felt unable to cope with the abuse and discrimination they face in their lives. But this work has also led me to a number of inspiring people who are helping others to stand up to bullying, wherever it occurs.

‘It is 2017 and no-one should be bullied for their sexuality, or any other reason.

You can read it all here.

Now that's how you accept an award. Pay attention, Debra Messing...and most of Hollywood.  Gay men are not your pet poodles anymore.

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Friday, May 12, 2017

Caitlyn Jenner As President; Hot Felon Jeremy Meeks Gets Even More Attention; Joe Jonas and Nicki Minaj In Sassy-Sexy Video

Caitlyn Jenner As President

It's hard to know where to begin with this. It's kind of confusing because it's coming from an LGBT news web site, and it's throwing shade at someone who is openly transgender and might think about running for President. Now, to be totally realistic, I don't think America is ready for an openly gay person as President, let alone a transgender. There's still so much silent passive aggressive discrimination against all of us. 

So why would a gay news publication knock down an openly transgender person who clearly gets knocked enough by everyone else, including her own community? Do they think Caitlyn might be harmful to the LGBT community? Did she kill a kitten? Last time I checked I didn't see any other openly transgender people with the kind of profile and background that Caitlyn has, so it's not as if there's another trans person running against her.  

I'm honestly not sure I get that kind of logic...if you can call it logic. It's hard to find any tolerance or diversity here. When trans people talk about their discrimination I'm starting to understand that a lot better. 

Did you catch that, folks? Caitlyn Jenner is “looking into” running for office. That sounds frighteningly similar to when Donald Trump said he was “seriously considering” a run for president back in 2014.

Thankfully, Jenner suggested that if she does run, it would probably be for Congress, not the White House. Of course, plans can always change. 

Here's the rest. You never have to wonder why. If you really want to see some transphobic comments, go to the very end and read what people left.

Hot Felon Jeremy Meeks Gets Even More Attention

I didn't think this post would start out as a "things I don't get" post, but when I saw this one I couldn't resist. And, frankly, I REALLY don't get this. This guy...Jeremy a convicted felon and people are still drooling over him.

Now pay attention, closely. They're throwing shade at Caitlyn Jenner, but they are fawning over a convicted felon.

If you saw him in a lineup, you’d say, “Officer, that’s him — the man who stole my heart.” And the precinct would collectively roll their eyes and wish you hadn’t come.

I don't think I would say that, but I can't speak for everyone else.

You can read the rest here. Meeks is now a professional model and he signed with an agency. And in case you're wondering why he's a convicted felon, he was arrested in what they call a gang sweep. He's been dubbed "one of the most violent criminals in the Stockton area" by police.

And if you think this is confusing, just check out how people commented.

Again, you never have to wonder why.

Joe Jonas and Nicki Minaj In Sassy-Sexy Video

Now correct me if I'm wrong, but as a gay man what am I supposed to find sexy about Joe Jonas and Nicki Minaj kissing? It's about a straight man and a straight woman. I might find it romantic, even touching, but sexy? And yet I'm linking to a gay news press with this one, too.

Joe Jonas and Nicki Minaj get entirely sassy-sexy with one another in the new vid for DNCE’s “Kissing Strangers” video.

Maybe because they get "sassy sexy" it makes a difference? Maybe because everyone knows "sassy-sexy" with a straight couple is hotter to gay men than just plan old sexy?

Again, I'm a little confused.

In any event, here's the rest. And you can find out, in case you've always wondered, just what sassy-sexy really means.

One person left a comment, and he/she made me feel so much better. At least I'm not the only one who's confused.

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Thursday, May 11, 2017

Colton Haynes Talks About Anxiety; Lesbian Couple Are Prom King and Queen; Modern Family Renewed For 9th and 10th Season

Colton Haynes Talks About Anxiety

With all the frustrating news these days about politics, and people either shouting pejoratives or spinning things in all kinds of directions, it's nice to read something like this for a change. Colton Haynes never seems to disappoint, and he always keeps things positive. I think that's one of the reasons why he's so well loved and so successful in everything he does.

‘Some advice I would give to myself when I was younger – especially about anxiety – would be that it’s okay to be anxious. Also a really good way to help yourself get over anxiety is to tell yourself that you’re excited  instead of that you’re anxious. Because if you’re excited it’s almost the same feeling but obviously without the panic part.’

There's more here. It's well worth the effort to click this link.

Lesbian Couple Are Prom King and Queen

Here's something I never thought I'd see in my lifetime, and I think it shows how fast things have been changing.

Two teen girls recently made local history after becoming the first same-sex couple to be crowned prom king and queen at their school.

Students at Leon High School in Tallahassee, Florida, crowned lesbian teens Brie Grimes, 17, and Lindsey Creel, 18, at their dance last month. 

You can check this one out here, where there is a photo.

Modern Family Renewed For 9th and 10th Seasons

For those of you who love Modern Family and gay couple, Mitch and Cam, here's some good news.

The adventures of Modern Family’s Mitch and Cam will continue.

It was announced Wednesday (10 May) that the ensemble comedy featuring the gay couple and their family has been renewed by ABC for two more seasons.

The show is currently in season eight. 

Here's the rest. Modern Family may not be part of gay culture, but it is part of gay history. And that's something positive.

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Wednesday, May 10, 2017

Man Claims She Choked To Death Giving Him Oral Sex; He Made Her Listen to Loud Gay Sex; Going Shirtless Always Works

Man Claims She Choked To Death Giving Him Oral Sex

This one is really out there. I would imagine there are scientific ways to determine this one.

A Florida man charged with murder in the asphyxiation death of his 60-year-old girlfriend is mounting an unusual defense that hinges entirely on his purportedly outsized male anatomy, which he now wants entered into evidence.

Richard Henry Patterson, 65, of Margate, was arrested in November 2015 on a charge of second-degree murder for allegedly choking to death 60-year-old Francisca Marguinez - a claim he never denied.

Here's more. He claims it happened another way.

He Made Her Listen To Loud Gay Sex

This one resonated with me because I've seen things like this happen. I knew a Philadelphia Main Line attorney once who did things like this, and more. There was one New Year's Eve party at his home where I looked at Tony and said I was never going back there again. And I didn't.

“What Ms. Gagnon did not know, and could not possibly anticipate, is that the price she was asked to pay in exchange for this experience would require her to partake in the sexual predilections and illegal activity of her boss,” the lawsuit states.

It then alleges Seligman, whose clients include James Franco and Kirstin Dunst, forced Gagnon to work from his apartment one time so he could have his doctor come over and give him Botox injections. During the appointment, Seligman purportedly told the doctor, “I want your d— in my face” and “Oooooh you’re so sexy.” 

There's more here. The allegations only devolve from here. I'm not going to judge this one because good jobs are hard to get.

Going Shirtless Always Works

I'm not judging this one either. I've used plenty of shirtless models on book covers for obvious reasons. I don't always do that, but people like to objectify good looking men who aren't wearing shirts. It's become so common in our culture we don't even think twice about it anymore.

One Direction’s Liam Payne is finally poised to release some solo material, following in the footsteps of every other member of the band.

He just posted a teaser of his upcoming single/video to Instagram — and when we say teaser, we mean it’s like 3 seconds of footage (albeit shirtless). 

You can check that out here. I also think photo shop has a great deal to do with the popularity of shirtless men.

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Tuesday, May 9, 2017

40 Gay Men Saved In Chechnya; Facebook Blocks Thai Users From Content; Trevor Noah and Insensitive Tweets About Gays

40 Gay Men Saved In Chechnya

There's a brave Russian LGBT network that worked hard to save 40 gay men from what's been happening in Chechnya with gay concentration camps. They can't be praised enough for this.

After launching the helpline, the woman said many of the men have been afraid to call.
“Since the very beginning, the first people who contacted us … were terribly scared, they were not even sure if we [could] be trusted [or] if we were going to kill them,” she said.

The woman added that the Russian government is not giving them any support and is ignoring them as they are an LGBT organisation. 

There's more here. I'd like to know where the outrage is for this. It wasn't even trending on Twitter.

Facebook Blocks Thai Users From Content

According to this article, Facebook censorship is in the news again. It's not the first time Facebook has done something like this and I doubt it will be the last.

Facebook users in Thailand are currently blocked from seeing a video featuring the country’s king floating through a German mall wearing a crop top and hanging with one of his mistresses.

Vice reports the video was banned because Thailand’s government finds it insulting to the king. 

Here's the rest. Facebook has admitted doing this, but you can see the video on Twitter. If you ever wonder why a lot of people like me prefer Twitter over Facebook, this is one of the reasons.

Trevor Noah and Insensitive Tweets About Gays

Long before this particular incident happened, I blocked Trevor Noah from my Twitter feed because I didn't think his jokes were clever or funny. At the time, I didn't even know who he was, and frankly I still don't really care. But this made the news and I'm linking because it shows some of the hypocrisy we are dealing with these days.

This is what Noah said, in his own defense.

“I know, like many people, I haven’t always been the most open-minded…growing up in a country where I was told gay people weren’t people,” he admitted, obliquely referencing controversial tweets that came to light in 2015. “Everyone can change if you just listen. It’s scary, but it’s not as scary as the journey most of the people in this room have gone through.”  

You can read more here and check out his insulting tweet. Even that apology is not very clever. It reminds of the way a certain politician who shall remain nameless claimed they had "evolved," on the gay marriage issue instead of apologizing for being wrong. I'm tired of hearing evolved. I'm tired of excuses. Tell us you're sorry, that you were a douche, that you were wrong, and then we can forgive you. But leave the excuses at home.

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Monday, May 8, 2017

Richard Simmons Sues Former Assistant For Blackmail; Naked Men and World Naked Gardening Day; Jared Leto Allegedly Kisses Male Actor Without Consent

Richard Simmons Sues Former Assistant For Blackmail

This is one of those unusual cases that you can't help wondering about. I also feel bad for people like Simmons who have to deal with assistants and questionable manager types. You see that sort of thing happening all the time, and you always wonder why the celebrity allowed this to happen in the first place. I'm not blaming Simmons. It's not his fault. I think it must be difficult to step back and be objective. I've also seen other instances where celebrities trust their assistants and managers, and these employees are not always working in their best interests. Some are hurting the celebrity's career more than helping them. And there's nothing anyone can say or do about it. Sadly, in most cases they are train wrecks waiting to happen.

The lawsuit further details a conversation between Simmons and Oliveira on June 10, 2016, where Oliveira allegedly "recanted his fabricated story regarding Mr. Simmons's gender transition" in an email.

"[Oliveira] then implicitly demanded money from Mr. Simmons within 10 days and stated that if Mr. Simmons paid him, he would be prepared to 'go on record to discredit the story and defend Richard Simmons,' " the lawsuit states.

The court filing includes articles published in the National Enquirer and Radar that claimed Simmons disappeared to undergo a gender reassignment surgery, and is now living as a woman.

You can check this out here. It gets into more allegations.

Naked Men and World Naked Gardening Day Again

It's that time of year again, and who isn't at least a little curious about seeing a naked man with a shovel or watering can in his hand.

In case you didn't know...

World Naked Gardening Day was established in 2005 to promote both gardening and body acceptance. If you missed it, be sure to pencil it into next year’s calendar. World Naked Gardening Day is held on the first Saturday of May. 

You can check out some photos here. They're actually very good, and totally SFW.

Jared Leto Allegedly Kisses Male Actor Without Consent

This is interesting because it involves alleged consent. And I think that's the key word here...consent. Alleged is there just in case the facts are wrong. When you're linking, you never know these days.

In any event, I wouldn't want anyone coming up to me and kissing me on the mouth without giving them consent. It's not about gay, straight, or otherwise.

“I do this scene with Jared Leto and he’s supposed to be intimidating me. He comes in, he’s the Joker, and he starts squeezing my t*ts. He’s like [panting and moaning] ‘You’re a big guy’.

“This is while we’re filming. Then he f**king grabs me and kisses me. On the mouth, full kisses me.

You can read it in full here. It's from an interview with Howard Stern and actor, Ike Barinholtz.

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Sunday, May 7, 2017

Debra Messing Wants to Make America Gay Again; Two Gay Men From New Hope, PA Traveling Across America With A White Poodle

Debra Messing Wants to Make America Gay Again

Please keep in mind that just because I post things like this, I'm not necessarily thrilled about them. As far as I know, and I am an openly gay man last time I checked, no one has taken anything away from me yet. I still have my gay card.

I also like to think that Debra Messing's heart is in the right place, but she's missing a few pieces to the proverbial puzzle about gay men and how diverse they are. You can't blame her for that. Evidently, no one told her.

With that said...

Debra Messing has a message for America and she’s not afraid to shout it out loud and proud.

When the Will & Grace actress accepted her GLAAD Excellence in Media award, she said: ‘It’s time to make America gay again!’

You can read the rest here. There are no comments. I guess Messing wants the world to go back to the 90s when she was making tons of money and gaining tons of fame while promoting every gay stereotype there is. Or maybe not. I really don't know. It's hard to tell what someone means when they are coming from such a huge place of privilege.

Frankly, I'd like to make people like Debra Messing think twice before they speak. Or at least speak to a variety of gay men before they speak. But what do I know?

Oh wait, here's what I know...

Two Gay Men From New Hope, PA Traveling Across America With a White Poodle

Tony and I recently purchased a rental property in Palm Springs, CA, which meant we had to go out there and do some really serious We didn't have much time, we wanted to get the place ready to rent quickly, so we did many of the renovations ourselves. We also travel with our dog, a little white rescue poodle, because we don't believe in boarding or pet sitters, and the best way for us to do that was to drive cross country from New Hope to Palm Springs. It was also the most convenient and economical way to go. It's about a 40 hour drive, roughly 3,000 miles.

The comment by Debra Messing sparked this part of today's post. I've been planning to write something about our trip to Palm Springs, but I've been really lazy about it. This is my own first hand experience as a gay man. I'm not getting paid by anyone to write this, I'm not getting any awards or praise from any activist organizations, and I have no reason to lie.

Even though we've both traveled the US, and Tony traveled (everywhere) regularly on business, we never actually took a road trip across America. I don't count driving up to Vermont or Provincetown because it's a day trip from New Hope and we don't stop for the night anywhere. Basically, we're used to New York or Philadelphia. New Hope is a suburb of both cities and that's our home turf. Our entire lives revolve around east coast liberal cities where most people don't care if you're gay, and to be honest we weren't sure what to expect while we were driving through some of the more conservative states in America.

In order to take the most direct route from Philadelphia to Palm Springs, we drove out to Ohio on the Pennsylvania Turnpike, and dropped down to the old Route 66 once we hit Indiana. It was the most direct route to Palm Springs and we wanted to get there and get to work. Keep in mind that Palm Springs is one of the gayest places on earth...even gayer than New Hope. So when I say we were apprehensive about traveling through so many conservative states I'm not joking around.

However, here's one of the main reasons I didn't post anything about the trip sooner.

Our first stop for the night was Indiana, Mike Pence territory. When we went to sign in at the front desk of the hotel we'd booked, the guy at the desk was gay, he welcomed us to Indiana, and treated us as if we were any of his other regular hotel guests. Nothing out of the ordinary happened there. And I found the nicest little restaurant not far from the hotel...owned by a gay couple.

Our second stop was Tulsa. I'd heard a few things about Tulsa and frankly I was worried. Two gay men traveling cross country with a white poodle isn't exactly inconspicuous. However, when we checked into the hotel in Tulsa, they couldn't have treated us better if we'd been in Provincetown. In fact, there's so much attitude from the gay people who work in Provincetown I felt much more relaxed in Tulsa. Nothing out of the ordinary happened.

Our third stop was Albuquerque. It's a wonderful city and I think I could live there if I had to. I fell in love with it the minute we got inside the city limits. And again, nothing out of the ordinary happened there either. Nothing to report.

We could have driven straight through to Palm Springs from Albuquerque, but we wanted to arrive in Palm Springs early in the day on March 1, so we stopped one more time in Kingman, Arizona just to kill time. It's a small town, but absolutely wonderful. The people, the little restaurants, and even the local drug store. Again, nothing out of the ordinary happened. We were treated just like everyone else and no discrimination whatsoever.

We stopped several times over the course of the road trip just like everyone else in America. I found the best fudge ever in "Ozarkland." I had to get a few of those touristy "Route 66" items they sell in all the gift shops. We also stopped for food, snacks, gas, and at rest areas, and nothing out of the ordinary happened. Of course we weren't wearing signs on our backs that said we were gay, but we both wore our wedding bands and made no attempt to hide the fact that we are gay.

So the main reason I didn't post anything sooner about this cross country road trip is because...nothing out of the ordinary happened. As a writer I feel a little guilty now posting this because it's so boring. Of course Tony thought I was driving too fast and he gripped the handle over his head and screamed a few times...but nothing out of the ordinary happened.

I do know there's still a lot of discrimination out there, and I do know first hand the world for gay people can be difficult at best sometimes, but I also know that two gay men with a white poodle can take a cross country road trip through America and not experience any discrimination whatsoever. So I'm not sure what Debra Messing is talking about when she says she wants to make America gay again, but I do know that I personally experienced a good deal of America this year and I met some of the most wonderful people ever in some of the least likely places.

And, the road trip back to New Hope from Palm Springs was just as enjoyable. We stayed in basically the same cities, but in different hotels, and never once felt as if we were being discriminated against. We met other gay people all over America. I almost wish I had a deep, emotional discrimination story to share with you, but unfortunately, I don't. Next time we drive out, and we will, if there is a discrimination story I'll be more than happy to share it. Maybe Debra Messing will come along for the ride and learn a few things. She's more than welcome, as long as she's not a backseat driver. (Smile)

The photo above is the place where we stayed in Kingman, Arizona. A small town, but the nicest people ever. And, please excuse the casual way this post is written. I wrote it quickly and did my best.

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