This article to which I'm linking talks about the way some gay men tend to exaggerate when it comes to penis size. And, how studies have shown penis size has a direct correlation to capitalism and money. It also discusses Grindr and how it's hard to depend on anything at a glance, so to speak. But most of all, it talks about the unrealistic expectations most gay men have when it comes to penis politics.
Instead of holding out for an unrealistic fantasy, Justin Huang believes gay men should start embracing each other for exactly who they are. “Gay men need to stop expecting each other to be porn stars,” Huang said. “If you dump a guy just because of his penis size, you are an asshole. So if you love your man, tell him that you like his penis. After all, when you’re dating a guy, you’re dating two people: You’re dating him and you’re dating his penis. We need to start valuing and appreciating both of them.”
What Huang says makes perfect sense, and for the most part I think this is something gay men learn as they grow and mature. In other words, after you've gone through enough bad partners because of your unrealistic expectations (and judgments) there comes a time in life when you start to realize you have to stop thinking that way. It happens to most of us under the age of thirty. My grandmother, in her blunt way, used to have an old saying about this: if you want to live happily ever after you'd better lower your God damn standards or you're going to wind up old and alone.
You can read more about penis politics here.
1-800-Flowers, Rush Limbaugh
I guess you can't be too careful about anything these days. Last week I ordered a flower arrangement for Valentine's Day from 1-800-Flowers.com to be delivered to my mom from Tony and me. I've used them before, most recently in December for two gay friends...a couple who've been together for over thirty years...who got married in New Jersey. When my mom got the arrangement she sent me an e-photo and I posted that on Facebook with a comment about 1-800-Flower.com. One of my FB friends saw it an commented that 1-800-Flowers is a major advertiser for none other than anti-gay Rush Limbaugh.
I did a simple search and found this:
On the eve of Valentine's Day, this is to remind consumers, that after spotlighting these three Limbaugh sponsors last week, they have all chosen to ignore the thousands of requests to move their ads from just one show. They have opted to support his racism, sexism, bigotry, gay-hating and smut for the chance to make a few more dollars. In the end, they lose.
One of the three sponsors is 1-800-Flowers.
Then I found this:
Many of you may be contemplating ordering flowers for Valentine’s Day, and I
wanted to remind you that when you place an order with 1800Flowers you are
helping to support Rush Limbaugh.
Help spread the word and buy your flowers elsewhere.
I only wish I'd known before I placed the order. There are plenty of supportive florists right here in Bucks County, PA I would have used had I known 1-800-Flowers supports anti-gay pundits. And while I have no issue with Limbaugh or 1-800-Flowers exercising their right to free speech, I personally will never support 1-800-Flowers again in response to their free speech. I think I have a right to free speech, too, last I heard.
I'm not a huge fan of boycotts. I'm not sure they work and they aren't always productive. However, in this case, knowing how Rush Limbaugh takes advantage of his platform to sensationalize and spread hate for money (because he knows he can), it would be counter-productive to support any business affiliated with the likes of Rush Limbaugh. And for the record, I'm not a huge fan of any pundits or circus clowns. I'm not even fond of Rachel Maddow. They will do anything for money, and unlike prostitution what they do is legal.
Stay away from 1-800-Flowers and pundits making millions of dollars at our expense.
Huge Tech Firms Ruling Us
This next article talks about how large tech companies like Apple, Amazon, and Google are continuously branching out into new fields and slowly taking control of everything in sight. It's reaching a point where it's getting harder for smaller companies to compete.
Increasingly, American technology is dominated by a handful of companies allied to a small but powerful group of investors and serial entrepreneurs. These firms and individuals certainly compete but largely only with other members of their elite club. And while top executives and investors move from one firm to another, the big companies have constrained competition for those below the executive tier with gentleman’s agreements not to recruit each other’s top employees.
This is a long and in-depth article that covers a lot of ground, from the way Amazon is getting into space travel, to the way our geographical power centers like NY and LA have shifted to places like Silicon Valley, to how journalism and news is changing almost daily.
While there is no way to stop this kind of progress, I don't always understand why consumers are so faithful to some of these companies. It's just as easy to order from a smaller online business as it is from a mega tech firm. Maybe it's time for a consumer watch for all purchases online, where there are guides and examples to show consumers they are NOT at the mercy of these big companies and the more they fuel them the harder it's going to be for smaller online retailers.
You can rad more here.