Most Powerful Man In New York's Gay Nightlife Faces Sexual Misconduct Allegations, Ryan Field Books

 Most Powerful Man In New York's Gay Nightlife Faces Sexual Misconduct Allegations

In my lifetime, I have seen and heard many stories like this before. But this one allegedly spans over a period of years. And it seems as if all the alleged victims wanted something in return, which they admit. This isn't a case of meeting someone in a gay bar and being sexually assaulted at random. 

With that said, a lot of young gay men who are not out of the closet yet will tend to keep things like this quiet for fear of being discovered. It's their worst fear. 

In 2017, Stephen Carlstrom, then 21 and working as a model while in college, said that Cohen, who was 40 at the time, promised him a lucrative gig attending parties and then pressured him to perform oral sex. The job opportunity never transpired, Carlstrom said. 

Here's more. I don't know the full extent of this situation, but no one ever pressured me into having oral sex to get something in return. It simply wouldn't have happened with me.  But I hate to speculate. And Choen is denying all allegations. 

There's a pretty powerful video and a few photos at the link. 

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"Who to Follow," or, "Whom to Follow," On Twitter's Bad Grammar, Ryan Field Books

"Who to Follow," or, "Whom to Follow," On Twitter's Bad Grammar

Here's and article that talks about something I see on Twitter all the time. In the sidebar on Twitter they write, "Who to follow." Now, I always thought it should be "Whom to Follow." And for many it really should be, "Whom to Follow." But there's a distinction made now all the time about common usage. And to be honest, I can't be a hypocrite about this because I've always been a fan of common usage. Common usage is a good example of the way language evolves over time. I just prefer "Whom" in this particular case and I think Twitter should fix it. 

Twitter has a feature called Who to follow that suggests other users you might be interested in. I haven’t paid it much attention, but I’m interested in the fact that the phrase is censured by people who think it should be Whom to follow. There’s even a Chrome extension that “corrects” it.

In any event, there's more here.  I will say this, too. On social media in general I do give free passes all the time with regard to grammar. Posting something on Facebook or Twitter shouldn't be like taking an English Exam. However, we should all be trying to work on some things. Knowing when to use "whom" certainly can't hurt us. 

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Historical Julius's Gay Bar May Shutter Because of COVID, Ryan Field Books

Historical Julius's Gay Bar May Shutter Because of COVID

Here's a story about another gay bar that could potentially be a casualty of COVID.  I know that most gay venues...including bars and restaurants...have been closing over the last decade for fairly solid reasons. There doesn't seem to be a need for them anymore. I'm not getting into that now. But people don't realize that there are still gay bars that have been hanging on in certain places, and now thanks to COVID they may have to shut down, too. 

Now its owner is determined to make sure that legacy — and the bar itself— isn’t a casualty of the pandemic, which has devastated New York City nightlife.

Here's more. I hope he figures out a way to stay in business. I know we'll never have as many gay bars as we did at one time, but I do believe there's still room for a few. Especially in places like New York City.

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Gay Priests Break Their Silence, Ryan Field Books

Gay Priests Break Their Silence 

One thing you rarely ever hear about are gay priests who are out of the closet. But even that seems to be changing. And it’s about time. 

Father Greiten "came out" to his congregation in this Milwaukee suburb about three years ago, at age 51, when he announced, "I am a gay priest, and a celibate priest." 

Here’s more.  Straight priests are celibate too. I think this might be a good example of what I often say about gay being more than just sex or sexuality. I know most of you don’t fully understand that yet. But being gay is not just about sex.

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Throwing Eggs At Gays In Wilton Manors; Gay Pornster Bruno Bernal and the N Word; Is Aging Harder For LGBT People?

Throwing Eggs At Gays In Wilton Manors

Here's more on the egg throwing incident in Wilton Manors, FL. There's a very large gay population there. 

He said that, shortly before midnight, a car appeared in front of them on Wilton Drive at Northeast 7th Avenue.

“Suddenly we heard somebody scream, ‘Do you want to be gay?’ And got hit from behind with an egg,” Carter explained CBS Miami.

Here's more.  It's been a while since I've heard about anything like this happening. 

Gay Pornster Bruno Bernal and the N Word

I'll never understand why some people have to do these things. 

Gay adult film performer Bruno Bernal has doubled down on his use of the word after being widely criticized this week, suggesting those offended by his language should “grow a thicker skin and be less sensitive.”

Here's the rest. It goes into a lot more detail. But his employers, Men.com, released a statement where they make it clear they'll no longer be working with him. 

Is Aging Harder For LGBT People?

I think for some of us aging is harder. I follow the Keto diet routinely. I work out more often and I'll pretty much do anything to fight the aging process. And I know I'm not alone in feeling this way. 

There's a survey at the link below designed for LGBT who are aging. 

Whatever age you are, we want to know how you feel. We’re hoping to create a picture of what our community feels about ageing. If you’re a teen, a senior, or anywhere in between, we want to hear your voice.

Gay Star News is working with organisations and individuals dedicated to helping improve the future of older LGBTI people. We will be sharing the results with them, and publishing them, to ensure the information you share influences the right people.

Here's the link. On the plus side of all this vanity, there are a lot of health benefits that go along with the fear of aging. And you do feel better, physically.

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Russell Tovey's Sexy Feet; Married Gay Couple Have Sex With A Woman; Straight Guys Who Love To Be Bottoms

Russell Tovey's Sexy Feet

This is actually a link to one of those multiple news items that cover several different stories at once, but one is a photo of Russell Tovey giving a foot massage to another guy.

Russell Tovey didn’t mind the feet

Here's the rest.  Those of you who are into men's feet will like it, and those of you who pretend that you aren't into men's feet will like it even more. You have to scroll down.

Married Gay Couple Have Sex With a Woman

I have to admit this is something I have never seen happen in my entire gay life. And I can promise you that if I went up and down my friend list in real life and asked every gay couple I know if they would do this, they would either scream or laugh in my face.

But I suppose anything is possible...

Chris and Matt had been together for eight years when they decided to it was time spice things up. So they did what any monogamous gay couple does… they invited a woman named Cait into their bedroom. Now, they’re a bisexual thruple and, they say, they couldn’t be happier!

You can check this out here. There are 44 comments from readers as of right now and you don't want to miss a single one.


Straight Guys Who Love To Be Bottoms

Well, this story I do get. In fact, I've seen this several times in my own real life with straight guys.

More and more straight men are into bottoming, at least according to one prominent sexpert.

It’s a phenomenon known as pegging and it’s the idea of a woman performing anal sex on a man, usually with a dildo or strap-on.

Here's the rest. I don't understand what's so shocking about this one. If done correctly, any man, gay or straight, can enjoy bottoming.

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What Is Chemsex (PNP)? Can You Get Raped At A Chemsex Party? Chemsex Parties; "Chemsex" Documentary NetFlix

What Is Chemsex (PNP)?

I guess I'm kind of hooked on this topic right now. And there's actually a decent amount of information out there about it. I really don't know anything about it. I rarely ever do any drugs, not even prescription. For the past few years it's been called, "an up and coming topic of interest." From what I gather, it's a big part of gay culture these days. Some are even claiming that when they go to these parties and they get wasted on whatever drug it is that they are taking, they've been gang raped.

On Wiki they also refer to Chemsex as PNP or PnP, which means Party and Play.

The term PnP is commonly used by gay men and other men who have sex with men (MSM) in North America, while chemsex is more associated with the gay scene in Britain and continental Europe.

The drug of choice is typically methamphetamine, known as tina or T, but other drugs are also used, such as mephedrone, GHB, and GBL.

There's more here. 

Can You Get Raped At A Chemsex Party?

If you go to a Tupperware party in your new shirt from Saks and your Bonobos pants, and you get raped or gang banged, you have every right to press charges and nail the criminals who did that to you. You've been violated. You've been assaulted. You've been scarred for life. The theme of the party was Tupperware, and all you wanted to do was socialize with other people who were interested in buying Tupperware.

However, if you willingly go to a chemsex party, and you remove all your clothes and take drugs in someone's basement knowing that the theme of this party is sex and drugs, the odds of you having sex are pretty strong. Otherwise why would you even be there? I know I wouldn't go to a chemsex party hoping to find good Tupperware canisters. It's all about sex and drugs. It's a chemsex party and everyone there is thinking about sex and drugs. So this is where the lines of consent come into play. 

This is an interesting article that discusses why men who get raped at chemsex parties avoid reporting it to the police. It's a difficult topic with gray areas, and it's not the same as other sexual assault cases. I'm not saying it's right. There's nothing right about rape. I'm only stating that it's different in this case. 

Research also suggests that chemsex environments are blurring the lines of consent. Morris said: ‘Initially, I recognised that [the gay men appearing in the system] didn’t fit the typical profile of your generic person that commits a sexual offense.

‘It appears they didn’t target or groom their victim. In other words, it was situational: “We were all off our face together” or “someone did this to me last week so I can do this to them now.” There was no thinking or recognition that what they were doing was a sexual offense.’

Here's the rest.  It goes into more detail. Evidently, some of these chemsex parties are streamed online, and viewers request certain sex acts. 

There are comments, too. 

Chemsex Parties

Here's a piece that dates back a few years, but it talks about what really happens at Chemsex parties. 

“This is a very deliberate act,” Bourne explained. “It’s not that you’ve gone out on a Friday night, you’ve taken some drugs, you’ve picked up a guy, you’ve gone home and had sex with him and you happen to still be high... What we’re talking about here is guys deliberately using these drugs to help facilitate sexual contact with another man, and often lots of men within group sex environments.”

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Chemsex Documentary NetFlix

Here's a link to IMDb about a documentary titled, Chemsex. I haven't seen it yet, but I will look for it. I guess I have to do a search on NetFlix for this one to show up. 

In hidden basements, bedrooms and bars across London, "Chemsex" is a documentary that exposes frankly and intimately a dark side to modern gay life. Traversing an underworld of intravenous drug use and weekend-long sex parties, "Chemsex" tells the story of several men struggling to make it out of 'the scene' alive - and one health worker who has made it his mission to save them. While society looks the other way, this powerful and unflinching film uncovers a group of men battling with HIV, drug addiction and finding acceptance in a changing world.

You can check that out here.  If you do a simple search you'll come up with a lot of information, including a link to a You Tube trailer. There are a few reviews out there, too, but I'm not linking to them because I think this is such a subjective topic I'd rather not listen to anyone else's review. I'd rather form my own opinions. 

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Jonathan Groff and Russell Tovey On Coming Out

Here's a piece about Jonathan Groff and Russell Tovey talking about how their careers improved after they came out as gay.

So, in a time when homophobia in the entertainment industry may not be so overt but still commonplace, Jonathan Groff and Russell Tovey should consider themselves #blessed. The stars of HBO’s Looking: The Movie, which premieres on Saturday, told Queerty that they have not had any personal experiences with homophobia in Hollywood (at least that they’re aware of). In fact, Groff and Tovey both agreed that their careers only got brighter after coming out, even if they have not ascended to the Hollywood A-list as of yet. A sentiment that has been echoed by Quinto. It’s ironic then that the actors in Looking, one of the bluest shows (both literally and figuratively), are the ones comforting us – that being a famous gay man is not always so tragic.

There's more here.  I still think a lot of actors remain in the closet for valid, solid reasons. It's the same for gay men in almost every single profession out there. I'm not advocating that by any means, but I don't judge it either.


Gay Tops and Bottoms, Again

The queer presses never seem to get enough of this topic. Here's another one of those stories about gay tops and bottoms that most definitely will not change your life, however, it's interesting in a general, glib IDGF kind of way.  


“In my experience the ratio is about 2:1 with bottoms in the lead,” one person says.

How exactly does he know this?

“Go look at sex ads in various cities,” he explains. “I know in most of the CA Bay Area, you’ll actually find a ratio more like 3:1. Up where I live now it’s closer to 4:1.”

Four bottoms for every one top? Sounds exhausting.


The odd thing is that there is a little truth to all of this. You can check it out here. 


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Here's another excerpt from Valley of the Dudes. I had to censor this one a little for google blogger, but the uncensored book is up for sale at all the links below. It's been re-released as a gay parody this year by Riverdale Avenue Books to coincide with the 50th Anniversary of Valley of the Dolls. I've posted a lot about it in the past week, from the press release to the new introduction I added to the book, which you can check out here. 


 

On Saturday night, Rush and Lance went to the talent show in the local high school gymnasium. Rush hesitated about going, but he’d promised his aunt he’d do her this favor before she’d left for Florida. The talent show was being held to raise money for college scholarships, and the knitting circle his mother and aunt belonged to was sponsoring the event. There was a bake sale afterward, which meant Rush had to bring two cakes: one on behalf of his aunt, and one on behalf of his late mother. And his aunt had left explicit instructions on the kinds of cakes she wanted him to bring: two white coconut layer cakes. She told him, with a stern voice, people depended on those cakes.

Rush felt awkward about asking Lance to go to a small town talent show. Lance was a well known entertainment attorney and talent agent all over the world. So Rush figured he’d make the cakes, deliver them on behalf of his mother and his aunt, and then he and Lance would spend a quiet evening together roasting chestnuts in front of the fire.

 But when Lance saw him making the cakes, he sat down at the kitchen table and asked, “What are you doing? I had no idea you knew how to cook.”

Rush measured out two cups of sugar and poured them into a bowl with room temperature butter. He thought Lance was still up in his bed napping. After they’d had sex that morning, they’d both gone back to bed. Rush smiled and said, “I don’t really know how to cook. I know how to bake. There’s a difference.”

 Lance folded his arms across his chest and said, “I didn’t know there was a difference.” 

“There’s a huge difference,” Rush said, switching on the mixing machine. “Some people can do both, but mostly you’re either a great baker or a great cook. I’m neither, but I know how to bake. “

Lance noticed four layer cake pans on the counter. “Why are you baking all this right now?”

Rush smiled and told him about the talent show and the bake sale. He assured Lance he wasn’t going to ask him to go. He’d just drop the cakes off, make an appearance for the sake of his aunt, and then come right back home.

Lance rubbed his jaw and frowned. “Are you embarrassed to be seen with me?”

Rush dropped a wooden spoon and said, “Of course not. I’m proud to be seen with you. I just didn’t think you’d be interested in going to a small town talent show. You’re a huge agent from New York. I don’t want to bore you to death with something like this.”

“There’s something about me you don’t know,” Lance said. “First, I’m not a snob. I’d love to go. Second, I’m also an amateur musician and singer. I’ve written a few of my own songs, and trust me, I am an amateur. So I won’t be judging anyone else.”

Rush smiled and shook his head. He had no idea Lance was a musician. Evidently, there was a lot about Lance Sharp he still didn’t know. “Well then, we’ll go. I’m sure the women in the knitting circle will love you.”

*****

At 7:00, they arrived at the high school gymnasium with two fresh coconut layer cakes on cardboard rounds covered with pink cellophane. Though Rush hadn’t baked anything in a long time, he was proud of what he’d accomplished that afternoon. The cakes looked very professional.

They set the cakes down on a folding table covered with a pink paper tablecloth and Rush introduced Lance to the women in the knitting circle. Lance smiled and flirted with them, while they blushed and batted their eyelids. And the talent show wasn’t half bad either. It turned out to be a karaoke show, and some of the local singers had decent voices. One older guy sang a great version of Fly Me to the Moon. At the end of the show, when the announcer asked if anyone else would like to perform a karaoke song, Lance stood up and raised his hand. They were sitting in the back row. As Lance stepped out of the aisle and crossed toward the stage, Rush pressed his palm to his throat and stared in amazement. He watched Lance choose a specific song. And when the music began to play and Lance started singing a slow, romantic version of his song, Rush sat back in his seat and smiled. Lance had a deep, smooth voice. His pitch was excellent and he didn’t miss a lyric or a note. By the time he was finished singing, the entire room was standing and applauding him.

On the way home, the weather changed. The wind had increased and the heavy old car rocked back and forth. But Rush was a good driver and he knew the roads well. He laughed and said, “I had no idea you were that good. You could have been a performer instead of an entertainment attorney.” And he wasn’t just saying this because Lance was his lover and he wanted to boost his ego. He meant every word.

Lance shrugged. “I’m okay,” he said. “But I don’t have what it takes to make million dollar records. I know who I am. I’m much better at what I do. But I do enjoy writing music. One of these days I just might try to get one of my own songs published. I’d love to see Cody record it, too.”

Rush nodded. He watched a heavy branch snap from a tree and fly across the road. He was about to say something about Cody and Roy, but he gripped the wheel, hit the breaks and the car swerved to the right. Before he came to a full stop, there was a thump on the front bumper.

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