The other night at a Christmas party I was listening to a conversation about how gay couples spend their anniversaries. The guy I went to the party with is single and straight (most of the time) and he was just as interested as I was.
There must have been at least four gay couples talking about this, and all have been together for at least twenty-five years. Or course I've heard about this before, but my straight friend seemed a little shocked. It never occurred to him there were so many different ways to celebrate the anniversary of a long term relationship. In his world, it's usually the day a couple is married. I know there are exceptions in straight relationships, too. But for the most part, it's the legal wedding date.
Here were a few examples:
Celebrate on the day they met for the first time.
Celebrate on the day they had sex for the first time.
Celebrate on the day they made an official commitment to each other for the first time.
Celebrate on the day they moved in with each other for the first time.
Celebrate on the day they shared their first date.
And, one couple decided to celebrate on the date they bought their first house together.
And each couple at this party did something different. They also said they didn't need an actual wedding date to celebrate, but they said they wished they'd been given the choice like everyone else.