I think the thing that has always bothered me most about gay culture is the thin, perfect stereotype gay men have been promoting for themselves all of my lifetime. They used to parody this well on Will and Grace the TV show. And it's not just gay culture anymore. It's everywhere.
It's why I've been on every diet there ever was, it's why I spent two full years eating nothing but Atkins food, it's why I still "feel" fat even though I range between 32 and 30 waist size, and it's why I haven't actually had ice cream or cake in about two years. It's partly why I still run 4-5 miles every single morning in all kinds of weather. You reach a point where it becomes a way of life and body image is a huge part of that life. That kind of mentality goes deep into the subconscious. And even if you know better it's hard to stop worrying about body image. It comes to define you. And nothing rings truer than this article to which I'm linking now.
A gay guy named Stavros Louca is now talking about his experience as a 420 pound gay man, and very candidly.
“When I attend gay bars, clubs, and cruising areas, people are picking on me because of my obesity,” he said.
As a result, Louca has never had a “one-to-one relationship” with a gay man.
“When I have dated, it’s been with bisexual guys,” he revealed. “I’m looking for a one-to-one relationship with a gay guy now. That’s always been my dream.”
This year, however, he decided to enter the Mr. Gay UK competition and the reception was interesting.
But much to his surprise, the crowd was very supportive, cheering him on throughout the evening.
Louca noted that it was very hard to believe at first, but the icing on the cake came at the end of the night when he was awarded the top prize.
Unfortunately, that support didn't go very far. Someone else won and his name wasn't even mentioned...as if he'd never existed at all. They took him out of the competition because the underwear didn't fit. I'm not sure what kind of underwear it was. That's not mentioned.
You can read the rest here. It may be extreme, but I don't think I know a gay man alive who hasn't worried about his weight at least once. Not surprisingly, some of the comments are not very sympathetic. They seem to miss the point. Yes, I maintain my weight and body for health reasons, too. But this one goes much deeper than most people seem to realize. Once in a while I'd like a little cake with my diet coke...guilt-free.
Meet Your Hot Daddy
This is another article that has always been important to gay men: age. This one talks about meeting a "hot" daddy. But if you ever watch most "daddy" porn you'll see that what they consider daddy material is usually a guy in his early thirties. Anything over 36 is beyond the limits.
This one is a little different. They really are middle aged guys who are very attractive.
In a press release, CEO Carl Sandler says he views Daddyhunt “as part of larger trend in gay culture celebrating age, experience and knowledge.”
Emphases on the word experience. The app’s tag lines is “Experience Matters”, and we couldn’t agree more. That’s part of why we admire older guys so much: They know how to treat a man.
“When gay dating apps began replacing bars as the main point of interaction, our community lost some important things–social interaction, casual conversation, the ability to flirt over common interests,” Sandler, who recently turned forty, notes. “I realized that many people yearn for something more than a string of ‘hey’ pings from thumbnail torsos. The Daddyhunt app is a way to bring a sense of shared experience back to gay culture.”
Hell, I was born in 1970 and I think it's wonderful to see something like this happening. Just watch out for those young rent boys, daddies. They may be after more than your experience. It's been known to happen.
You can read the rest here.
Robbie Rogers Greg Berlanti Split
I haven't got the foggiest clue in hell as to who these two queens are, but some of you might know them.
There’s some good news for single men, but sad news for one of the most photogenic gay couples on the pop culture front. Soccer star Robbie Rogers and TV producer Greg Berlanti are back on the market. The two have reportedly split after approximately 18 months as a couple, reports Perez Hilton. No reason has yet been announced for the breakup, but Hilton’s source confirms the decision to go separate ways was mutual and the men remain on friendly terms.
Unless the police are called, the odds are I won't be following up with this one. Gay people can be boring, too.
You can read the rest here.
Dallas Grindr Scammer
The only reason we're hearing about this guy is because it's been reported. Many like this go without being reported because the victims want to avoid public scandal.
This one talks about the alleged Grindr scammer, Michael Bellah.
“We chatted for a while and eventually we met and had dinner,” he told the Dallas Voice.
When dinnertime rolled around, Bellah was late. Really late. He didn’t arrive until 10:30 p.m., claiming he had a flat tire. The two men went out to dinner anyway.
During the meal, Bellah lamented to Blake that he needed $100 to pay back the tire store manager by the next day. But not just that. He also said he was stressed out because he owed his ex-wife money for school supplies, and he was strapped for cash because the payroll department at his company was “messed up.”
Needless to say, “I paid for dinner,” Blake said.
Despite everything, Blake told the Dallas Voice that he and Bellah still hit it off, in part because Bellah claimed that he, too, had served in the Air Force.
“Being a divorced gay dad that lost everything when I came out, I knew what it was like to struggle to make ends meet,” Blake said. “I felt sorry for him, and gave him a check for $250 as a loan.”
First, who goes out to dinner with a total stranger who doesn't show up until 10:30? I wouldn't even answer the door and I don't care if it's Trevor Donovan in a loin cloth dangling the keys to a brand new Porsche Panamera. Second, who gives money to a total stranger without knowing a single thing about him? Seriously.
Evidently, quite a few. It only gets worse from there with a friend getting involved, having another one of those questionable Facebook fundraisers for Bellah, and getting allegedly scammed all over again. One more reason to be wary of Facebook and many of its dubious users.
Don't give money out to strangers, especially a trick you met on Grindr. It's not a good thing. There are plenty of reputable charities out there that really need the money for good honest causes.
The rest is here.
Chase of a Christmas Dream