Friday, September 18, 2015

Openly Gay Service Secretary; Selling Sperm For iPhones; Straight Guys Making Out to Spite Kim Davis

Openly Gay Service Secretary

The historic significance of this is that Eric Fanning will be the first openly gay person nominated for civilian secretary of military service.

For over 25 years, Fanning has specialized on defense and national security issues in a career that spans over 25 years in Congress and the Pentagon. If confirmed by the Senate, he’d be working alongside Gen. Mark Milley — who became the Army’s top general last month — assuming responsibility for what The Washington Post calls “the Pentagon’s largest and most troubled service.”

You can read more here. 

I hope Tom Hardy reads this. 

Selling Sperm For iPhones

In China, men are willing to sell their organs for tech devices. In an attempt to stop this practice there's a hospital that is now saying they will give these poor souls the iPhone 6s for their sperm. I can't even imagine.

Renji Hospital in China is encouraging men to donate sperm and use the money to pay for a new iPhone 6s using the tagline, “No need to sell your kidneys, you can easily have a 6s.”

There's more here. 


No comment.

Straight Guys Making Out to Spite Kim Davis

I'm glad so many in the straight community are speaking up about this whole Kim Davis thing now. And they are doing it in interesting ways. There's a hashtag, #kissesforhim, where straight guys are making out and posting photos to social media. This is the message:

 “Dear Kim Davis, We want to let you know that  no matter what you do, love will always win,” the guys said. “What we want you to do is you’re watching this video is grab your closest friend, give him a kiss, take a photo or video, and upload it using #KissesForKim, to let Kim know that she cannot win… and that we also love her and think she’s beautiful.”

You can check out the rest here, with a video and photos of straight men kissing. The comments vary...of course.


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E-books vs Print Books; Gay Sex and the Disabled; More Tom Hardy and Sex Question

E-books vs Print Books

I must have been sleeping, because today I just found out that Anne Tyler released a new novel. She writes one about every two years and I've read every book she's ever written several times.

Fifteen years ago when I found out Tyler released a new book I did one of two things. I either went to the library, put the book on reserve, and then waited several weeks for my turn. Or, I drove to a brick and mortal bookshop and bought the book and paid full price for a hard cover copy. That was the best you could do. I was never big on borrowing or lending print books from friends. You never see them again once you lend them out.

Sometimes, if I was lucky, a new Anne Tyler book was part of the Doubleday book of the month club, which meant I could order it at a discounted price.

When I found out today Anne Tyler had released a new book, here's what I did.

I went to Amazon.

I found the new book in Kindle.

I clicked "order now."

And the e-book was on my e-reader, iPad, PC, and iPhone within seconds. I can now take the book anywhere and read it at any time.

I didn't pay $22.00. I paid $12.99.

So those of you who haven't even tried an e-book, I hope you do know that you don't need a kindle or any dedicated e-reading device. You can get a free app and have the e-book downloaded right to your PC or laptop. If you want to experiment first, there are plenty of free or .99 e-books from which to choose.

It's that simple. If you can do Facebook you can read an e-book.

For me, speed, cost, and convenience are the main differences between e-books and print books. I get that book the moment I decide I want it, and usually for much less, and I take my library with me wherever I go.

If I want to smell a print book, I still have plenty left in my old library that I can take down and sniff.

Gay Sex and the Disabled

A cute guy named Ryan O’Connell recently wrote an essay titled, I Wouldn’t Fuck Me: My Life as a Gay and Disabled Man, that talks about being gay and living with cerebral palsy.

Of course, I didn’t strike out all the time. I had my fair share of drunken hook-ups and dated a few guys here and there, but I always stopped things before they got too serious. I stayed celibate partially because no one great wanted to fuck me, but also because I suffered from serious intimacy issues. It was a vicious cycle. I craved physical affection, but the second a guy touched me, I freaked out and felt unworthy.The gay disabled guy does NOT get to have amazing sex, I’d think. The gay disabled guy does NOT get to have a relationship.

It's a well executed essay, though harsh at times, and because I'm not disabled and I can't understand what it's like to be gay and disabled I'm not going to comment. That would be me "mansplaining."


You can find this here, along with comments. 

There is one comment written by someone else who is disabled that is interesting, though.

More Tom Hardy and Sex Question

So far this is the third, and I hope last, time I'm posting about the gay reporter who asked Tom Hardy a question about sexuality and Hardy shot the reporter down in a very aggressive way.

This time Hardy released his own statement about why he answered the question the way he did. It' a long rant, it's nothing profound, and I'm only posting part of it. I'll post a link below where you can read it in full. 

 I don’t want to discuss my private life with you. I don’t know you! Why would I share that with a billion people? Also, if you felt it was so important for people to feel confident to talk about their sexuality, why would you put somebody on the spot in a room full of people and decide that was the time for them to open up about their sexual ambiguity? There’s also nothing ambiguous about my sexuality, anyway. I know who I am. But what does that have to do with you? And why am I a part of something now that, however legitimate, I haven’t offered my services for?

Oh, poor Tom Hardy. I'm not sure what kind of "services" he's talking about. That one stumped me.


You can check that out here and see the comments. The comments are actually mixed on this one and I'm not surprised. I've known gay men who have been together as a couple for 40 years who introduce themselves in public as father and son...because they don't want anyone to know about their sexuality. It's their private lives. Shame. And they aren't even famous.

It's really nothing new.

One person said this, and other people attacked him for it.

So in other words, he considers being gay a dirty shameful thing that needs to be hidden.

I have no deep thoughts about Tom Hardy because I'm not even sure who he is.




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Thursday, September 17, 2015

Elton John and Putin; Between the Covers; Gay Waiter To Burn In Hell; Tom Hardy's Ambiguous Sexuality, Again

Elton John and Putin

When I saw this I have to admit that even I was shocked. So shocked I didn't believe it. And I'm glad I didn't believe it.

Evidently, Elton John thought Putin was reaching out to him, then this happened:

Vladimir “Vovan” Krasnov and Alexei “Lexus” Stolyarov told Russian daily Komsomolskaya Pravda on Wednesday that they had fooled Elton John by calling him on Tuesday and pretending they were Peskov and Putin. The two men, known for prank-calling Russian and Ukrainian celebrities for television shows, said the audio of the call would be broadcast on a prime-time show later Wednesday.

You can read the rest here.

In case you want to read even more, here's a link to the NYT with a similar piece.

Mr. Putin’s press secretary, Dmitri S. Peskov, said late on Tuesday that Mr. Putin had never spoken to Mr. John. “This does not correspond to reality. There was no conversation,” Mr. Peskov told journalists.

This hoax would have been a lot funnier if they'd pulled it on Madonna.

Between the Covers

Between the Covers is an author, publisher, and reader event held in NY every month, where people who write, read, and publish erotica gather to listen to authors read and they socialize. I haven't been to one...yet...however, it looks like fun. If you live in the NYC area and your write erotica, you might want to check it out.

From my inbox:


New York, New York (September 15, 2015) – Riverdale Avenue Books, the innovative hybrid publisher will host British erotica maven Lucy Felthouse at a special Between the Covers on Thursday, September 17th at 8:00 pm at the upper level of the People Lounge.
 
Felthouse writes erotica and erotic romance and has over 100 publications to her name. These include several editions of Best Bondage Erotica, Best Women’s Erotica 2013 and Best Erotic Romance 2014.  She has edited and co-edited a number of anthologies, and owns Erotica For All, is book editor for Cliterati, and is one eighth of The Brit Babes.
She will be joined by erotica legend Laura Antoniou, author of the classic Marketplace series, as well as the hilarious Killer Wore Leather murder mystery, and too many fabulous short stories to even begin to list.

Also reading will be DL King, an erotic anthologist of renown, who has edited and published many of Lucy Felthouse’s short stories.  She will be reading from her latest work in progress.
Lambda award-wining author Debra Hyde will be reading from her just published lesbian homage to Sherlock Holmes, The Tattered Heiress.

Mara White joins us with selections from her latest steamy work, Maldeamours.  White is a contemporary romance and erotica writer who laces forbidden love stories with hard issues, such as race, gender and inequality. She holds an Ivy League degree but has also worked in more strip clubs than even she can remember. She is not a former Mexican telenovela star contrary to what the tabloids might say, but she is a former ballerina and will always remain one in her heart. She lives in NYC with her husband and two children and yes, when she’s not writing you can find her on the playground.

Between the Covers features our signature “dirty word” raffle with a chance to win signed books and fabulous smutty prizes.

Riverdale Avenue Books is the only publisher with a monthly reading series.
“Authors of erotica and erotic romance don’t often get the chance to read at the local bookstore or library, so we are pleased to offer an opportunity for them to mingle with their fans, “ said Lori Perkins, Publisher of Riverdale Avenue Books and an a erotica author herself. “And since Fifty Shades of Grey has sold 300 million copies world-wide, we know there are a lot of fans out there.”
 The People Lounge is located on 163 Allen St.

About Riverdale Avenue Books
Riverdale Avenue Books publishes e-books, print, and audio books under eight imprints: Pop, a pop culture imprint; Riverdale/Magnus the award-winning imprint of LGBT titles; HSF, a horror, science fiction and fantasy line; Truth, an erotic memoir line; Desire, an erotica and erotic romance imprint; Dagger, a mystery thriller imprint; and Sports and Gaming featuring sports and gaming titles.  Started in 2011 by industry veteran Lori Perkins, Riverdale is a full service publisher, with a foreign rights and film agency department. Visit us at www.RiverdaleAveBooks.com.


Gay Waiter To Burn In Hell

A gay waiter who seems like a really nice guy thought he was serving a quiet middle aged couple. As it turns out, they left him a vicious message after they left that's as homophobic and hateful as it gets.

And before we all laugh at the giant mixup that Mr. and Mrs. Straight always seem to wind up in (those scamps), the pamphlet titled What you miss by being a Christian with the eye-popping (and soul-damning) headline “HELL!” made their intention crystal clear.

You can check out a photo of the pamphlet they left here.  

Tom Hardy's Ambiguous Sexuality, Again

Here's a follow up on the post I did about Tom Hardy and the journalist from a gay web site that asked about Hardy's sexual orientation.

The web site is defending the question:
 
Though actor Tom Hardy bristled at Daily Xtra’s questions about sexuality during a press conference at the Toronto International Film Festival (TIFF) on Sept 13, 2015, touching off a media firestorm — other actors have embraced our questions at TIFF, and even welcomed the opportunity to shine a spotlight on sexuality and gender identity.

As Canada’s gay and lesbian news source, we feel it’s our responsibility to examine sexuality and the ways in which it’s portrayed on screen, especially once it’s in the public eye.”

In my own lame attempt to think logically, because as gay people we've been fighting for equality and pride all our lives, I don't think there should be any shame or stigma attached to being gay, being asked if you're gay, or openly admitting you're gay...or not gay.

If Hardy didn't want to answer the question, there are ways that Hardy could have handled the situation with a little diplomacy. 

Here's the source.  


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Wednesday, September 16, 2015

63% Say Kim Davis Should Issue Licenses; Jeremy Irvine's Gay Sex Scenes; Matt Damon Mansplaining

63% Say Kim Davis Should Issue Licenses

In September of 2013 I posted about a county clerk here in south eastern Pennsylvania who believed in same sex marriage and he started handing out marriage licenses even though it wasn't legal. Ultimately, he was ordered by the courts to stop issuing them because it was against the law, and he followed the law in spite of his own personal beliefs. He stopped issuing marriage licenses to same sex couples and he continued to do his job.

I could give many other examples like the one above. My main point is that people who support same sex marriage have been following the law and going against their own personal beliefs for more years than Kim Davis can even count.

Evidently, most people agree in a random poll that she should either be forced to follow the law and issue same sex marriage licenses, or step down from office.

Regardless of her religious objections, a majority of Americans believe Rowan County Clerk Kim Davis should be required to issue marriage licenses to same-sex couples.

Davis spent several days in a Kentucky jail for defying a federal judge’s order that she allow licenses to be issued. After returning to work this week, Davis allowed her deputies to issue licenses but had her name removed from them.

Of the random 1,003 adults surveyed nationwide in a Washington Post-ABC News poll,  63% believe she should be required, 33% said she should not be and 4% had no opinion.

You can check out the rest here. 

I think polls like this are important because they're random...not just LGBT people. Because who (without getting political or religious) in America doesn't have to follow the law? And what makes Kim Davis so special?

Who knows what's next with this one. It seems to change daily. 

Jeremy Irvine's Gay Sex Scenes

Jeremy Irvine is the young straight actor playing gay in the upcoming film about the Stonewall riots that has received a great deal of backlash. Some accuse the film of whitewashing history, the same way Hollywood tends to whitewash everything to market films like this for mainstream audiences who know nothing about gay culture. I don't know much about Stonewall so I can't comment. I do, however, believe that whenever you're dramatizing anything it's never going to be exactly the way it happened. And it shouldn't be. That's why it's called dramatization.

‘It was my first gay sex scene in a film, and hey, to be honest, if you’re gonna do it, Jonathan Rhys Myers is not a bad choice,’ Irvine tells PrideSource.

The 25-year-old actor had done only one other sex scene on film before and it was with a female.

‘I’m pretty green to all that,’ he says. ‘And Jonathan obviously did The Tudors, and so he said, “Just relax. I used to do, like, 10 of these a day.” So he was very cool. He took my hand. Took me through it.’

You can read the rest here. When I do get the time I'm going to do a longer post on the Stonewall riots because I don't know much about it and I'd like to know more about all this controversy.

Matt Damon Mansplaining

For those who might not know, I've written about mansplaining and straightsplaining in previous posts. I don't like to focus on these things often anymore because they're always so vituperative in nature...they bring out the worst in people.

In any event, Damon did something like this, and this time it was with a black woman filmmaker.

Damon interrupted her and said that the less diverse potential teams brought up the same issue, and Brown tried to pick up her point again -- "Not necessarily true" -- but Damon continued to talk over her and say that the diverse team may not end up making the film with the sensitivity Brown expects.

The filmmaker, Effie Davis, tweeted this:

Brown responded to the controversy on Twitter and retweeted a GIF of herself that was captioned, "When you realize even the most liberal white dudes in Hollywood will mansplain representation to you."


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Tuesday, September 15, 2015

Lorraine Devon Wilke Tells Us How Much To Publish; Global Gay Rights; Kim Davis Back At Work; Tom Hardy Aggressively Dodges Sexuality Question

Lorraine Devon Wilke Tells Us How Much To Publish

I normally don't go near things like this, however, because so many newer writers get so much bad advice I wanted to post something short. And readers are a part of this, too, and they usually don't get all the information they should have.

A writer I don't know, Lorraine Devon Wilke, wrote a piece for Huff Po telling authors....actually, self-pubbed authors...they shouldn't publish more than four books a year. The first red flag for me is that she most likely wrote this post for Huff Po, for free, without any compensation...no money, not even twenty five bucks and a pat on the back. I don't know that for certain. Maybe she's on staff and they did pay her. However, my bet is she wrote it for free in an attempt to get publicity. And I have posted several times about how I feel about writing for big publications like Huff Po and not getting compensated. It's just shabby of Huff Po, or any *huge* publication, to treat writers this way, and I feel sorry for any writers who fall for this gimmick.

With that said, I think that if Ms. Wilke had written this piece with regard to her writing and how many books she feels comfortable publishing each year, I would not find a single issue. And that's because I've been in publishing for over twenty years, both trad pubbed and indie pubbed, and I've worked for and written for more magazines than I remember. I have never once seen a writer who falls into a set mold. In other words, all writers work differently and at different paces. And there's absolutely nothing that's ever going to change about that. No one can pigeonhole the creative process.

Unless they're four gorgeously written, painstakingly molded, amazingly rendered and undeniably memorable books. If you can pull off four of those a year, more power to you. But most can't. I'd go so far as to say no one can, the qualifier being good books.

After reading that, my first thought was should we tell her? Last I heard it's not really possible to distinguish good books or good writing because that's so subjective. That's why books like "The Help" are rejected numerous times before they get picked up. Subjective. You can spot bad writing at a glance, however, good writing is a completely different issue.

Then, after she refers to some indie writers hacks, she talks more about "good" books, as if she's become the expert of all books ever written that are "good."

As you move down, Ms. Wilke gives out more advice about how terrible it is to write  and publish too many books a year. I'll admit that there's a great deal of exaggeration in the example she gives about publishing in volume, however, it's not totally false either. The plain fact is that unless you're in the ranks of Jonathan Franzen, volume does, indeed, make a big difference, especially with search engines. The more books you are able to publish each year the better your chances are. It's called competition. In fact, publishing is changing so much, and so fast, there's an author who actually publishes his first drafts, unedited, and his readers LOVE him. They can't get enough of him. I wouldn't do that, but I'm not going to judge him or his readers.

In between all this advice from Ms. Wilke, there's a lot of nonsense about "fine-tuning one's craft," and her book being a "work of art." In other words, water is wet and fire his hot. 

I could continue, with examples, but I don't want to waste your time. My main point in linking to this post is that she's not totally wrong and she plays it safe for the most part, but it's not the kind of advice I would give to new authors, trad pubbed or indie pubbed. You can't tell a writer how to write. It won't end well. So once again, take this advice and all future advice like this with that proverbial grain of salt. Actually, don't even take my advice. What works for me might not work for you.

Oh, and one more thing no one ever mentions. Not to sound like Donald Trump calling bullshit on other politicians, but Ms. Wilke did do something very clever and seductive with this post. What did she do? She got attention and free publicity, which isn't easy to get. I'm posting about her right now and I don't even like Huff Po's content in general and I rarely ever link to it. So in a way I'm helping endorse her book. But I know I'm doing that. And it might be a "good" book for all I know.

You can read it all in full here. The comments are amusing.  

Global Gay Rights

I know a lot of these things don't have anything to do with a lot of people who read this blog, but I do have a lot of LGBT social media readers who message me from time to time about books, gay rights, and other things directly related to the LGBT community, on a global scale. I send them arcs when they can't buy my books, and I listen. I think it's important to address these issues globally as well as nationally.

Here's an article about where gay rights are internationally.

We have a US president who supports gay marriage, and now a pope who, if not exactly signing up to equality for all, is at least starting to talk in language less inflammatory than his predecessor. "If someone is gay and he searches for the Lord and has goodwill, who am I to judge?" he told an assembled group of journalists on the papal plane back from his tour of Brazil. Then he went on to criticise the gay "lobby" and said he wasn't going to break with the catechism that said "homosexual acts are intrinsically disordered". Still, for a brief moment it looked like a minor breakthrough.

You can read more here. Of course they fail to mention that it wasn't until recently we had a US President who supports gay marriage. I often fail to see how they forget these things so quickly. Up until very recently our President was on record stating it's up to the states to make their own decisions, which was the same stand both Clintons took. But I think that just proves how hard we've had it, and how much harder gays in other countries still have it.

Kim Davis Back At Work

I'm going to try to sum this up fast.

Kim Davis went back to work today.

She claims that she has an impossible choice...following her conscience in her quest to discriminate against same sex marriage, or not.

She agreed to this "emergency stopgap." Her clerk issued marriage licenses to gays without her name or endorsement.

She hid in her office while they worked all this out and Deputy Clerk, Brian Mason, worked on giving a marriage license to the one gay couple who showed up.

When he finally finished the license, he handed it to the couple and shook their hands. The document, a template issued by the state and filled out by each clerk, had been altered. Where the name of the clerk and the county is typically entered, it said instead "pursuant to federal court order."

You can read the rest here. 

Unfortunately, we still don't know if the licenses are valid without Davis' consent. I've read varying opinions on this and I'm going by what I just read in that article.

Tom Hardy Dodges Sexuality Question

I'm not always sure where I stand on this topic. I've mentioned up front that Tony, my husband, worked in corporate America for a long time and no one ever knew he was gay. He couldn't take that risk. And each time someone made reference to his sexuality he responded much the same way Tom Hardy just responded to a reporter who tried to bait him. It's an offensive, not defensive, approach, calculated and planned, to intimidate the person questioning.

It's a difficult issue because it involves someone's livelihood and how they make their living. Tony was worried he'd lose his job if they found out he was gay. He had a great job; we have a mortgage. In Tony's case he eventually came out and stopped caring when he wound up dealing with life threatening pneumonia in 2007. When you're that close to death, being authentic counts more than ever. If he's had any regrets about coming out to work or to his family he's never mentioned them to me. And, while he was in the closet with work and family I never put any demands on him. I knew he had to be ready to come out, on his own terms. It wasn't up to me, not even his partner. We didn't discuss it and I never held it against him.

So in many ways, even though I respect everyone's right to privacy, they way Tom Hardy answered this reporter may have been clever, and he may have come off looking like a cool dude, but he's also supporting the age old passive aggressive shame that has always come along with being openly gay...or admitting, in public, to being openly LGBT. The shame is still there. Why else would he get that angry about the question? He just didn't want to be questioned about it. And in Hardy's defense, if my own husband still felt the need to keep his sexuality a secret in his professional life I would probably still support him. I wouldn't like it, but I'd understand it.

When the reporter started asking questions about Hardy's sexuality, this is how he replied:

“I don’t find it difficult for celebrities to talk about their sexuality,” Hardy answers Coleman before asking, “Um, are you asking me about my sexuality?”


“Um…sure,” says Coleman.

Hardy responds, “Why?” to which Coleman comes back with an inspiring “Um.”

“Thank you,” Hardy says, moving on to the next question.

I think the reporter was being kind and I would have done the same thing if I'd been in his place. He must have realized he wasn't going to get anywhere and Hardy would continue to aggressively shoot him down.

You can see the video here, and read more. 

And Hardy comes off as the hero...and no one even questions it, not even the gay people who left comments. It's just a good thing that people like Tom Hardy don't really make that much of a difference in the world or the LGBT community with regard to equality and discrimination. If they did, we'd all be in a shitload of trouble.


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Monday, September 14, 2015

PrEP and Gay Sex Shaming; LGBT Protections In Thailand; Loving #Masc4Masc Guys

PrEP and Gay Sex Shaming
 
If you don't know by now what PrEP is you can check that out with a very simple search. The Op-Ed piece I'm linking to now by Michael Lucas isn't about PrEP, not totally. It's about the backlash that PrEP has been receiving since the onset.

According to Lucas, in addition to the fact that PrEP works, there's a list of some of the biggest misconceptions about PrEP.

3. “It encourages men to have more sex without condoms.” PrEP is the most highly-effective tool we now have to help sexually active people avoid contracting HIV. The corollary of the bareback argument is “Only gay men with high risk behavior need to take PrEP.” That is a shameful contention that creates an unnecessary stigma. All you need is to have had one instance in your entire life of not using a condom, with a partner you don’t know and trust 100%, to find value in taking PrEP. Each individual now can decide if PrEP fits his or her life, and if their risk for HIV is high enough to merit taking a pill every day.

My problem with the whole thing is that we only hear two sides of the story...that PrEP is the best thing ever or that it's the worst. And speaking from personal experience, I think there's a lot of gray area with this one. I think it's more about making a lifestyle choice. Being gay isn't a choice, but how you live your life is.

You can read the rest here. The comments, as you would expect, are highly mixed with this one. I'm glad someone is speaking up about it now that there are a few results to show. PrEP is still experimental from what I've read, and no one knows what the long term side effects might be (liver damage, etc...) but at least it's giving some gay men who choose to live a more sexually active lifestyle with multiple partners a choice. There's nothing shameful about that. But it is a choice, so let's not play games.

LGBT Protections In Thailand

Thailand is now leading Asia and the world in LGBT protection rights, including transgender issues.

The 2015 Gender Equality Act, which was passed in parliament in March, makes discrimination against people based on gender identity or sexual orientation punishable by up to six months in prison and a fine of 20,000 baht (roughly $550). An early draft included exemptions in education and religion, but they were removed before the bill's approval, making way for all-encompassing law that has now taken effect.

You can read more here.  

Now if we could only get Russia to allow gays to walk the streets freely.

Loving #Masc4Masc Guys 

Here's another Op-Ed piece, and this one is about the attraction to masculine men, or specific attractions. I'm a little on the fence about this one because it categorizes a little too much. On the one hand, it gets into how diverse the gay male community really is. On the other, it mentions things like gender politics. I've seen arguments about gender politics in m/mromance and frankly I don't always buy into them. I think they're exaggerated and they don't represent most gay relationships. And I'm speaking as a gay man in a relationship/marriage of over twenty years.

In any event, it's an interesting piece to read just because you get to see what's going on out there if you're not part of the hook-up world these days. It's really not that much harder than it was in the 90's, except for the fact that everyone's doing it online these days instead of in a bar.

I, for one, will admit that I love self-identified masculine guys. I really do. I love them for the same reason I love gay and bisexual men who refuse to date Latinos or other ethnic men who have sex with men. If you give me a legitimate reason to never want to date you right from the start, you save me from wasting minutes analyzing your entire profile (because, let’s be honest, who has the time to read through all of your favorite books), from engaging in a dead-end pursuit, and from ultimately meeting someone else who thoroughly enjoys everything I have to offer. You do just as much for me as I do for you, masculine boys, and in a world where dating is so exhausting, I’d much rather save my energy by not navigating the gym for your approval.

I actually got into this in the last Rainbow Detectives book. Blair and Proctor wind up doing a three-way with a dude who isn't honest up front about himself...what he likes in bed. And they don't find out what he's really like until they're in bed with him. Proctor's not thrilled about that, and he's tired of guys who don't tell the truth up front. I know it's fiction, but it happens in real life, too.


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Saturday, September 12, 2015

Republican Fake Gay Sex Story; Kim Davis Files Appeal, Again; UK Angers Trans Activists

Republican Fake Gay Sex Story

In an unusual twist, a Republican who claimed to be having sex with a rent boy but was really allegedly having an affair with some woman, recently resigned from office. The woman was also a conservative lawmaker. She was expelled, but he wasn't, and he resigned anyway.

‘I felt is was the appropriate thing to do. I put everybody through a whole bunch, my family, constituents and the people in this room,’ Courser told the Detroit Free Press. ‘You go 14-15 hours later, they would have been doing a third vote. I felt they were just going to go until they got their answer.

‘It’s an unfortunate chapter where we’re at, but it’s time to turn a page and go in a different direction and obviously heal, in my own house and in this body as well,’ he also said. ‘It’s been hell.’

You can read the rest here.

I don't even know where to begin to comment on this one. 

Kim Davis, Again

Yes, I'm getting sick and tired of hearing about Kim Davis, however, she just filed yet another appeal and as long as she's not going to let this whole thing go away I don't see how any LGBT person in the US can ignore it as if it's not happening.

According to MSNBC, the legal team for the Rowan County clerk filed papers with the Sixth Circuit US Court of Appeals. The Liberty Counsel lawyers maintain because the gay couples who sued received certificates when Davis was in jail, the office should not be required to process licenses for other LGBTI couples.

‘I hate to use a religious metaphor, given the circumstances,’  Sam Marcosson, a constitutional law professor at the University of Louisville, said to MSNBC, ‘but this strikes me as a Hail Mary pass.’

You can read more here. I'm still not sure why there haven't been measures taken to remove her from office. If this were anyone else, and under any other circumstance, would she have gotten this far?

And here's the latest update:

 The New Civil Rights Movement reports that a federal judge hastily slapped down Rowan County clerk Kim Davis’ latest motion for an emergency request on Friday, using states’ rights as his rationale.

 Davis asked U.S. District Judge David Bunning to provide an “accommodation:” she wants her name removed from all marriage forms so that it doesn’t look like she personally sanctions same-sex marriages. 
 

You can read more about that here. 


 UK Angers Trans Activists

Admittedly, I'm not all that familiar with things like this so I'm treading with care. Evidently, trans activists are upset in the UK because the government is dismissing a review on the law for gender recognition...what gender you are legally defined as in the UK.


It's interesting...

A petition, launched in July 2015 by York student Ashley Reed, complains trans people must pay to obtain official recognition of their gender through the Gender Recognition Panel.

It condemns this process as ‘humiliating, outdated and unnecessary’.

Instead it asks that the UK join a growing list of countries, including Ireland, Italy and Argentina, in allowing ‘trans people to self-define their gender’.

The rest is here. I absolutely agree with the trans people who want to self-define. 


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