About a year or so ago I posted about a young bisexual guy who was born with two penises. It's a condition known as diphallia. He made his disclosure on Reddit with the name "Doubledickdude" and since then he's been writing a book. It's a memoir titled, Double Header: My Life With Two Penises, I've been following him in Twitter since last summer and I recently read a tweet about an interview he did with Rolling Stone.
I found the most interesting part of the interview to be where he discusses bisexuality. Finally, someone else with a voice is coming out and hitting the topic head on, so to speak.
Why did you decide to write a book?
There are still a few questions that come through that weren't asked before, and I realized that there are still people who are genuinely curious. From girls who want to know how to handle their boyfriend being uncircumcised to guys wanting to know if they're gay or bisexual because my equipment turned them on. Really, it just stuns me almost a year later that people are still reaching out to me. So I thought I should put a book together and use that to answer questions; but also give voice to people who might feel lost in the cracks. Even today bisexual people like myself are given more grief than you'd realize. We're still "confused" or "cowards," "too afraid to admit we're gay." Which is a load of crap.
You can read the rest of the interview here. From my own personal experience with him on Twitter I can't tell you how nice he's always been. In fact, he's one of the most gracious people on Twitter I know in my circles. Always positive, always upbeat, and always takes his criticism with ease.
I haven't read the book yet, but I plan to. The link to Amazon is above. Take note that it's #1 on Amazon in several LGBT categories alone...and I doubt that's because lesbians are buying it.
Chubby Chaser "Fat Sex"
I normally wouldn't title a post that way because I think there are better words for overweight people. In fact, I don't like doing it. But the fact remains that there is a term in the gay community known as "chubby-chasing." Depending on who you talk to, it may or may not be a pejorative term. It's when guys who are the standard weights find guys who are overweight highly attractive in an erotic way.
Here's an article about a muscle guy who prefers, as they call it, "fat sex."
“‘Chubby chasing’ is as good as it gets,” muscle man Dan Oliverio explains in a new interview with the Huffington Post. “That contrast of body types in bed can be totally hot.”
At 6 feet and 225 pounds and with the ability to bench press 350, Oliverio is a fitness nut who could have his pick of men.
His preference? Chubby guys. In fact, the chubbier the better.
The article goes on with quotes I couldn't publish here and keep it PG rated at the same time. I highly suggest reading it in full because it's about as graphic and honest as it gets with this topic. Here's the link.
There's also a photo of Oliverio and his boyfriend.
Tuc Watkins on Gay Hollywood Stereotypes
The main problem with this entire topic is that Hollywood knows how to make a lot of money with gay stereotypes, straight people find these stereotypes amusing, and there are far too many gay men willing to do anything to make a fast buck in Hollywood. Don't even doubt for a moment this isn't about money. No gay man I ever knew refused playing the clown and court jester for a chance to make millions and get his name in lights. I've even seen it in publishing. I actually write about it in an upcoming release titled, "Meadows Aren't Forever."
With that said, Tuc Watkins, an actor I posted about earlier this month who made strong comments about stereotypes on Modern Family is speaking up again on the topic. This time he's asking Hollywood to stop with the gay stereotypes. This comes after his comment about Modern Family and a huge show of support from many, many gay men. I saw it myself. The comments and friend requests on Facebook from gay men supporting him were unreal. I don't think I've seen a reaction like that anywhere else, and I think it's because so many gay men are afraid of speaking up on the topic. This is one area where we are still facing the worst discrimination there is. And I'm not even getting into the cultural appropriation issues here.
Here's part of his most recent quote:
On December 19 I cried, ‘Blackface!’ I did it in a fit of exasperation over a stereotype that shook me when I was a kid that I saw alive and well today.
Stereotypes create judgements. When those judgements lead to bullying…or worse…we’ve got a problem. I don’t hear a lot of bullying around the ‘cranky old man,’ ‘neurotic wife,’ or ‘bumbling husband’ demographic.
What’s happening over at Modern Family is not blackface. Blackface is hateful. However, I do believe a stereotype is being perpetuated that can be harmful.
I do agree that Modern Family isn't blackface...not in the standard tradition. However, he's a little off base there. There is plenty of gayface being perpetuated these days and no one seems to think there's anything wrong with that. And, most of all, when the original blackface was considered "appropriate" it wasn't done with hate either. Everyone thought it was entertaining and at the time no one thought they were insulting black people. That realization didn't come about until years after blackface became racially insulting.
In any event, I completely agree with Watkins and so do many other gay men online, and in my own personal circles. This is just the beginning of more to come on this topic. You can read the rest of what he said here.
New Adult Love Story
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