Sunday, June 1, 2014

Teenage Sex Predator; Coming Out to Wife and Kids; Reassignment Surgery Medicare

Teenage Sex Predator

I'm not even sure where to begin with this article to which I'm linking because I don't think I've read anything like it before. It's written by a guy who initiated sex and admittedly manipulated situations to have sex with men twice his age when he was around 14 and 15 years old. The best I can say is that it's not the typical sex predator account, and it is by no means the standard abused victim POV we hear often about sex between 30 year olds and 15 year olds. It has to be read in full to understand.

My strategy for getting laid worked with some regularity, and it never occurred to me that there might be something inappropriate or perverse or even criminal about it -- at least, it never occurred to me.

People tell me that the criminal ramifications most certainly occur to them. They say I was molested or abused, and that it was the very definition of the word "statutory." They say I was dealing with adults who had the capacity to know better. And, most bruising to my ego, they tell me that my seductive charms were irrelevant, and that perhaps it was the adults who were doing the manipulating.

He holds nothing against the older men in his past, which is interesting because he's not the first gay man I've heard this from.

You can read the entire piece here. 

Surprisingly, the comment thread isn't as full as I would expect it to be, at least not right now. And I was hoping it would be so I could see how other people reacted to this.


Reassignment Surgery Medicare

I think this is huge for transgender people. An appellate review board concluded in a 28 page report that gender reassignment surgery should be covered by Medicare and the old ban will be lifted. Years ago reassignment surgery was considered unsafe and experimental, but now docs are prescribing it as an actual treatment.

“We have no difficulty concluding that the new evidence, which includes medical studies published in the more than 32 years since issuance of the 1981 report underlying the NCD, outweighs the NCD record and demonstrates that transsexual surgery is safe and effective and not experimental,” the report says. “Thus, as we discuss below, the grounds for the NCD’s exclusion of coverage are not reasonable, and the NCD is invalid.”

You can read more here. The article goes into more detail about how this all came into place.

Coming Out to Wife and Kids

I find articles like this worthy of mentioning because I get so many e-mails from closeted men who are married to women and have kids. It's not an unusual occurrence. In fact, I personally know at least five gay men in my own circles who were once married with kids. One in particular told his wife years ago and he has not let him see their child since that day.

This is a first hand account of one gay man's experience about coming out to his wife and kids.

How do I look? This was the about the fifth time I asked my wife that question. It was a Sunday morning about five years ago. I kept trying to grab her attention as she folded laundry and watched T.V. Parading around in nothing but my boxer-briefs I kept jumping in front of her. Look at me! What do you think? "Stop it, get out of the way!", she snapped back. "You look good." She was annoyed. Just okay? "For the hundredth time, you look great!" "Your arms look good and your ass looks great!" "Now stop it!"

This particular article is not without emotion. It wasn't easy for this guy to do, but at least his circumstances were a little different than other men I hear from. In many cases it would rock their worlds to come out. And I mean every single physical and psychological and social aspect of their lives and all they've ever known.

I just hope articles like this one help in some ways. As I've said before I have yet to meet anyone who ever regretted coming out, no matter how old they were or how painful it was at the time. I think the one thing to keep in mind is that you didn't do anything wrong and you have nothing about which to be ashamed. And if anyone tries to tell you otherwise they're the ones who are wrong.

More here.









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