Tuesday, April 22, 2014

Mean Girls Gay; US Anti-Sodomy Laws

Mean Girls Gay

The actor who played a gay part in the classic Mean Girls film, Daniel Franzese,  recently came out in real life. Mean Girls is having a tenth anniversary this year and he wrote an open letter to his character. I kind of like that. Not the mean girls. The movie was great, but mean girls suck. I like that he came out in his own way, on his own terms, and in a way in which he felt comfortable.

He wrote in a letter published by IndieWire: 'You were proud of who you were; I was an insecure actor. You became an iconic character that people looked up to; I wished I’d had you as a role model when I was younger. I might've been easier to be gay growing up.'

That's powerful. Most gay men can identify with that. I recently was informed by a middle aged gay man still in the closet (married with kids) that he can't e-mail me for a while because he's afraid someone might find out he's gay through e-mails. The paranoia and denial always sets in sooner or later. He contacted me as a reader about two years ago and ever since then we've shared harmless e-mails about life, family, gardening, weather, and all kinds of things. I get e-mails from a lot of closeted gay men who aren't sure what to do, but I don't always get friendly with them. I'll miss this guy's e-mails. But I can't push him to come out and I can't fault him for not coming out. The best I can do is offer support.

You can read more here.

US Anti-Sodomy Laws

I would think most people are like me and they didn't know this. It's been 10 years since SCOTUS ruled that anti-sodomy laws are unconstitutional, and yet 12 states still have them. I sincerely hope this does NOT portend the future of gay marriage in some states. Tony and I have talked about it at length and if PA doesn't legalize gay marriage within the next year or two we're listing the house and moving one mile away to New Jersey where it is legal.

Of 14 states that had anti-sodomy laws, only Montana and Virginia have repealed theirs since the Supreme Court ruling, said Sarah Warbelow, legal director for the Human Rights Campaign, a national gay rights organization.

Warbelow says that in addition to Louisiana, anti-sodomy laws remain on the books in Alabama, Florida, Idaho, Kansas, Michigan, Mississippi, North Carolina, Oklahoma, South Carolina, Texas and Utah.

I hope all my gay friends down in gay mecca Wilton Manors have heard about this. I would hate to think anyone I know is breaking the law :)

On a more serious note, the article discusses sodomy and homophobia in a few sections. But I can't help wondering about all those straight couples who use the back door, too. Seriously.

You can read more here.

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