If you talk to any gay man and mention straight guys flirting with gay guys the gay man won't look back at you in shock. And that's because it happens all the time. But more important, in this case there's really no set rule or stereotype to follow either and in many cases the flirting sometimes leads to more...but not always.
This particular blog post I'm linking to now discusses the attraction gay men have for straight men in a more streetwise way that I don't see very often. And while I don't agree with everything in the post personally, I don't think anything the author wrote could be disputed either. In other words, we often get the wrong impression from the mainstream media about gay men...and, unfortunately, we often get the wrong impression about gay men from other ambitious gay men who are only interested in promoting themselves and promoting the worst gay male stereotypes.
In any event, this is an interesting blog post that talks about things gay men usually talk about when they are alone. How do I know this? Because I'm gay.
Mind you, when gay guys enter a round of flirting with someone new, we are keen to look for signs of gayness/queerness. The “gay” voice, a rainbow thing, a leftover stamp from a gay club in town. Sure, the whole practice is rooted in stereotypes, but it’s the only way. My guy had clean nails, kooky glasses, fun shoes and overall he looked sort of kooky so I told myself, “Okay this guy is gay for sure.”
And then he did the thing that makes gay guys all over the world sad and cringe:
“My wife and I…”
UGH. Penis fail. I don’t even remember what he said after those four words because I stopped listening. He realized I’m flirting with him or he’s flirting with me or we’re both flirting with each other all along so he pulls out his “straight card” to throw some cold water on the fire.
You can read more here. I don't want to comment any further because it would wind up sounding like a review of the post and I don't want to do that. It's honest; it's good; check it out.
Ryan Field Allromanceebooks
Here's another round of e-books that just went up on Allromanceebooks.com. All are .99 e-books, they are either short stories or novellas, and if anyone has an questions about them feel free to e-mail me here: email@example.com.
That Cowboy in the Window (this is a gender bending story; please read the blurb in full)
Strawberries and Cream at the Plaza (this is a love story with a lot of romance and *less* sexy scenes)
Something for Saint Jude (this is a sexy gay story with love, romance, and a little twist)
Skater Boy (this book was once banned because of the title...I assure you there are no underage characters, it's not a barely legal story, there is nothing that goes against any standard guidelines for basic erotic romance, and one of the characters is actually older than most characters I create...it's really more about the gay skater boy fantasy, and the word boy is only an expression, not something literal)
FREE Excerpt Cherry Soda Cowboy
This free excerpt comes from Cherry Soda Cowboy, an indie story I released this year. You can read the beginning here, and then you'll have to click the link to my other blog to read the adult content. As a side note, the theme of this story is in keeping with the theme of this post: gay guys flirting with straight guys. It's also set in the future, which I don't do very often.
I only do that when I run in the morning. And that’s because this place is frequented often by guys wearing jeans and T-shirts, driving those huge, electric extended cab pick-up trucks on their way to construction jobs. Most wear cowboy hats and boots. Sometimes I run into the married men in dark suits that smell like after shave, driving four door mini sedans on their way to office jobs in the city come, too. In this case, men of all ages and from all walks of life stop to use the rest rooms and see what’s happening on the down low. And it’s amazing to watch them in action sometimes; especially when you grasp the magnitude of how much is still done on the down low. Even after all these years, with gay marriage legal now and gay men filtered throughout the mainstream, we still feel the urge to cruise. You can often feel the shame and excitement at the same time.