Wednesday, October 5, 2011
Body Images, Women, and It's Nice to be Naughty, by R. Field
When I wrote the short e-book, IT'S NICE TO BE NAUGHTY, and had it published under the pen name "R. Field," my main concern was how so many people these days, gay or straight, seem so concerned over body images. I wanted to create an erotic story about a full figured woman who meets and falls in love with a handsome young man who happens to love her partly because of her full figure. I didn't want this to be the main focus of the story. But I was tired of reading about perfect people that send us all the wrong signals when it comes to body image. I used the pen name because I was crossing genres. But I'm sorry I did. If I could go back I'd just use my own name.
What sparked this post was something I saw on facebook. It's been shared so many times I'm not sure who wrote it. But I've copied and pasted it verbatim below.
A while back, at the entrance of a gym, there was a picture of a very thin and beautiful woman. The caption was "This summer, do you want to be a mermaid or a whale?"
The story goes, a woman (of clothing size unknown) answered the following way:
"Dear people, whales are always surrounded by friends (dolphins, seals, curious humans), they are sexually active and raise their children with great tenderness.
They entertain like crazy with dolphins and eat lots of prawns. They swim all day and travel to fantastic places like Patagonia, the Barents Sea or the coral reefs of Polynesia.
They sing incredibly well and sometimes even are on cds. They are impressive and dearly loved animals, which everyone defend and admires.
Mermaids do not exist.
But if they existed, they would line up to see a psychologist because of a problem of split personality: woman or fish?
They would have no sex life and could not bear children.
Yes, they would be lovely, but lonely and sad.
And, who wants a girl that smells like fish by his side?
Without a doubt, I'd rather be a whale.
At a time when the media tells us that only thin is beautiful, I prefer to eat ice cream with my kids, to have dinner with my husband, to eat and drink and have fun with my friends.
We women, we gain weight because we accumulate so much wisdom and knowledge that there isn't enough space in our heads, and it spreads all over our bodies.
We are not fat, we are greatly cultivated.
Every time I see my curves in the mirror, I tell myself: "How amazing am I ?! "
(The girl on the picture is French model Tara Lynn)